Lady I've been seeing - I'm her Chad right now. She can't get enough.
A few discussions and incidents over the last few weeks - she's got drama. She's trying to not let it usurp her life, but I can tell she can't keep it at bay. Has to do with emotional issues from losing a brother and a child in the past, and then other family drama centering on a sister that is a mess, other BS. It's all come out in the last few weeks.
I'm considering hitting the eject button. She's made a few attempts to line me up as the emotional support, and I'm just not in a place in life to do that.
Also, to me she's a plate, she wants it to be LTR. I can forsee drama in the future as this plays out and she doesn't get what she wants (she's not getting elevated to LTR).
So - what are ways to cool things off? Have her think it's her idea. I know about turning on beta traits - I guess I'm looking for ideas along those lines, that won't backfire and make her think "Oh my Chad is opening up emotionally and it's great!!"
abdada 9y ago
Beta traits, what?
Just break up with her. You want to be a man, act like one.
Herdsengineers 9y ago
I see red flags emerging that she suppressed early on - bunny boiler/gone girl type red flags. The issue is to just breakup with her will end up causing quite an outburst. It's easy to say things like get restraining orders for this stuff, but not so easy in practice, especially when you're a man.
jeezydasnowman 9y ago
You need to hold frame. I wouldn't drop the plate, just never commit.