Thanks to TRP I have had some wild sexual adventures. I have more opportunities with women. In the past I was very much an LTR guy. Today this idea came to me that I am happiest with women that have long term potential. Its a feeling I have had in the past and somehow managed to forget. I know I won't find a gf if I "want a gf" Trying to focus on one woman at a time is a terrible idea (especially in modern dating.) I guess I am a little confused since TRP is right that an LTR is not a great idea.
What advice does TRP have about wanting a deeper connection with the women? Maybe I can find this with multiple FWB?
MrTyler_Durden 9y ago
It's not that an LTR is a bad idea. It's that an LTR because of a scarcity mentality is a bad idea which is what million of men are doing. They are seeing the red flags but giving up their commitment anyways because they don't carry an abundance mentality. So they end up dating/marrying some girl they know is a hoe or a trainwreck.
Plates are fun.
FWB are even more fun.
quicklogaccount 9y ago
It's ok to want it, but you need to know where does this stems from. It can't be from scarcity.
The catch is, you shouldn't go out there looking for bonding with a girl. You shouldn't be reactive on this front, you shouldn't be a free radical or a usb plug.
Rather, understand that your true need is sex, go, and get sex. Be emotionally stable. If a girl comes along, you'll be able to vet her properly, you'll have understanding of the sacrifices LTRs require instead of only seeing the benefits, and you'll bond if you have to.
Honestly, sometimes this worries me. I'm avoiding interesting chicks until I complete my bucket list but as I postpone and lose the window with the second interesting chick I'm starting to second guess myself.
blackedoutfast 9y ago
keep spinning plates, and whenever one of them seems like she might be a cool chick beyond just sex you can try upgrading her to more of a LTR status.