I'd met a woman off Tinder a little while back. Closed the deal the first night we met, and a few times since. She seemed cool with things as they were. Then all the sudden, she was offended and upset I wasn't ready to commit and have LTR with her. This after knowing her for about 3 weeks. So next!
I don't care who you are, if you're looking to move into LTR territory after 2-3 dates, you're crazy, even if you are fucking them. If you're gonna fuck on the first date, you still gotta realize you can't take the sex that seriously or as a sign of bigger emotional investment.
It sucks a little because this chick was really good in bed. I get dominant and assertive, she ate it up and reveled in it, and she was top of the class in terms of BJ skills. However, good sex doesn't make crazy worth putting up with. Been there, done that, not doing it again.
All that said, anyone else on here experience a woman being cool, then all the sudden shifting to LTR pressure like that? I have, and it's getting tiresome.
jasondougies 9y ago
can i ask why you don't want to LTR this girl?
Herdsengineers 9y ago
Because I've only been on 2 dates with her. Too quick to jump in LTR territory whether you're having sex with her or not.
RedSkeller 9y ago
Yeah I've encountered that. Usually it's the psychos, they'll fuck easily and early, have some red flag but act submissive to get the sale. They'll try to close way too early on commitment and it's no coincidence they're single. It's an indication of emotional neediness or that she had a plan for you.
alphabachelor 9y ago
This is right on the money.
I had a gf that fit this behavior like a glove.
Turned out to be a psycho. Booted her ass to the curb when she revealed her true self.
Docbear64 9y ago
Absolutely right . It really is a trap because you hang out with her those first few times, have fun , and naturally wonder how you managed to luck out into finding such a cool girl so soon . Sure enough the press comes on and it's her way of signaling she's done with the honey trap, it's time for you to commit to her .
drbane777 9y ago
This.
mysticmack 9y ago
This happens to me with every fucking girl. they fucking switch without warning and create unnecessary drama.
If she ever goes "can I ask you something?" Out of the blue. Say "NO"
idgaf- 9y ago
All the time since I have a nice house.
Just hold your boundaries and replace as needed.
macandcheesehole 9y ago
Hot tub here. Panty dropper.
Willow-girl 9y ago
It's like an old-fashioned deli counter ... the girl is giving out free samples in hopes that you'll make a purchase. You can decline, which is fine, but she'll probably move on to the next customer. Just like you'll move on to the next girl who is giving out samples!
FrameWalker 9y ago
Just like men fuck up dating so do women. Had that happen many times. Was less of a problem when i was flappy. Just tell her woah thosbisbway too fast im not in a place for an ltr. I loke what we have.
Certifiedfamilylaw 9y ago
This will happen a lot