I've been unplugged since 2,5 years. I'm nearly 31 and live in Europe.
Since then:
- I gained a lot of discipline
- I read a lot of red pill books. Currently reading 'the subtle art of not giving a fuck' by mark manson
- I used to meditate, but stopped doing it. I gained the ability to control my thoughts at any time. If something occupies my mind, I can easily discard it and just 'be' (haha, this is very ironic).
- I started coaching (specific, selected, not just randoms) people in red pill, proving my red pill knowledge (if you can teach it, ..)
- I started lifting immediately after being unplugged, I'm not ripped, but I'm happy with my gains
- I make 100k+ / year, own a small company, drive a fancy car (convertible)
- People compliment me on my style
- I'm in an LTR with a lot of green flags. She cooks for me, cleans my house, has only a few previous sex partners, wants to be in good graces with my family, ...
- Have plenty of friends that I go on holidays with, meet regularly, ..
Yet still I don't feel like living an awesome life. I feel like life is a big struggle, where you have to constantly fight to do what you must do (lift, learn, improve). I don't enjoy the grind/struggle/pain.
I know emotions are temporary and fleeting. I know, rationally, that my life is very good and I am in the top 10%. But I wonder if I can attain something more than THINKING my life is awesome.
My GF wants to have children. I think children might make me happier, however, I don't want a life of struggle/... for them. Life will be pretty hard for them as well, work every day to attain/keep your value, .. For women it must be very hard to lose value after 30 years.
So my question: Any tips on how to enjoy the grind? Is this what life is? Why would you want this for your children?
oldredder 8y ago
This is what life is.
I don't enjoy the struggle either. So instead I do some of it - for me - and none of the rest. No LTR, no children. Never.
It isn't worth it to me.
Aaren_Augustine 8y ago
You need a life mission. Mine is to be a writer and powerlifter with perhaps helping guys lift as a side hustle. Gets me up at 4:45 in the morning to lift. Keeps me focused.
I felt the same. I now have three kids. They are the greatest choices I have ever made. From a small baby in intensive care to a lanky 6 year old kicking in his Korean martial arts class, the process has been an endless source of pride and satisfaction. But with that comes a metric fuck ton of work, leadership and mentorship.
rp_nc 8y ago
Thanks for the reply. I think my goal can be to become a personal coach in helping men through their red pill journey. I'll work on it.
About children: I am prepared for a ton of work, leadership and mentorship. However, even this might not ensure their happy life. How do you envision your children's future? At 6 years old, I think there's less worrying and everything will be smooth still, what about puberty/..? My brother's child for instance is very small for his age. His life will be worse than mine, as I'm 6'3 (and even I feel like it's a struggle).
What if you have a less appealing daughter? What if your kids aren't as smart? I can imagine your kids can make you very happy, but their status/life/.. going bad might make you very sad as well.
Maybe I'm being too negative here.
Aaren_Augustine 8y ago
That's the great thing about TRP. That's his life. I will mentor him under standards I develop here. So far, I got teachers still baffled at the progress he's made in school. And it's his life. I will continue to develop the appropriate tools so he can succeed in every facet of his life. Still his choice though.
My wife and I make very attractive children. My daughter being one of them. I guide and construct what I see in RPW, RPWives and will continue that for the very same reasons I do for my sons.
None of them are dumb, though one is a bit lazy if I let him be. And it wouldn't matter. Hard work is preferable over intelligence.
I can be too. Until I started really trying to understand Stoicism. Very helpful these days.
BullshittingNonsense 8y ago
Why are people so obsessed about height on here?
[deleted] 8y ago
Hold up, hold up. Your GF wants kids? Not your wife, but girlfriend? And you're even considering it?
rp_nc 8y ago
I mean 'someday' (she's 26, so in a few years). I just included the part as I think agreeing on wanting to have children is important in an LTR.
About wife vs GF: I'm not planning on getting married, although in my country, the divorce laws are different from America's and prenup is the standard.
dRePe_Thill 8y ago
careful with cohabitation laws too
dRePe_Thill 8y ago
"I don't enjoy the grind/struggle/pain."
This is a troubling statement, it to me implies that you will one day revert back to old habits or cease your growth, potentially ruining your LTR.
Any tips on how to enjoy the grind? You are a man, therefore we do not ask why we grind, but give us the strength to grind longer and harder. Would you rather be a women?
Is this what life is? Life is what you make of it.
Why would you want this for your children? To show them the path that few know, we are the fortunate, imagine going through life living in the matrix
Quote for you:
Reality makes lunatics of us all, but only those with the eyes to see and the ego to spare ever embrace it unconditionally.
rp_nc 8y ago
Correct, even though we cannot predict the future. Maybe one day you'll lose the joy of the grind and what happens then? All I can say is that, at the time, I have the discipline to grow, even though I don't enjoy the grind.
To me, this is the same as 'grant me the discipline (strength) to grind, even though I don't like it'.
is that a reason to enjoy life? cause i'm not a woman/poor/low value/..? I do agree that a life as a woman probably is harder.
Ergo my question on guidance as to what to make of it.
Agreed, life is easier for the unplugged. Doesn't necessarily make it a good life though. I've got a copy of 'A guide to the good life' by William B. Irvine lined up next. I'll read that.
dRePe_Thill 8y ago
Sounds like you are depressed tbh, if you feel that you have achieved your goals you may look to set harder ones.