(using throwaway due to personal info)
Background info: 17 year old American/Egyptian. 5"9 (175 cm) tall and 60.5 kg. Spent the last four years living in Egypt, currently a Junior in high school.
In the past year, I've discovered /r/theredpill and /r/seduction, and have been improving myself ever since. I started this school year as 55 kg, horrible acne, and worst of all your typical geeky-nerdy beta desperate fuck. After I began improving, I got 2 Egyptian-teeanger versions of a plate, (nudes/making-out). In Egypt, there are still quite a few old-fashioned girls, and I met one that was half British. All is fine and dandy for a few months until one of my plates started to create drama with an old friend that crushed on her because I stopped really communicating with her despite me making it clear to her from the start that we weren't a thing. This drama let to me ultimately losing a bunch of friends, my girlfriend, and 90% of my out-of-school social life.
Since I've been in school for 4 years, the sudden change that I've gone through garnered quite a lot of both negative and positive responses. I tried to use the positive responses to get connections with the popular group so I could follow them to parties and whatnot, but the previous drama fucked my chances with that.
Out of school I do MMA, fencing, gym, and am working on an android app and meditate whenever I can. But I still get bored I play video games with my friends every once in a while, and my grades are pretty decent, but I still don't know what to do. Generally, it's hard for me to connect with most girls (don't exactly know my type yet, only clicked with 3-4 girls), and even harder to fix this because of the separated sexes school that I go to, and the sports and clubs as well. I've tried to cold approach three times exactly. The first time she took my number but I never got texted (it was very early on), the two others had me almost beat up after I said 'Hi' so I've given up on that.
What else can I do? Any ideas where I can meet girls? What do I need to improve on (other than gaining wait, working on that but still would appreciate tips for that as well)?
[deleted] 9y ago
Ok, I'm no "alpha" or some shit, but I am in my 20's, and considering no one else has responded I figure I may as well jump in. I think you're doing well. The boxing and mma is great, hopefully you're getting some confidence. You say you get bored and play video games? Is that taboo around here or something? Go easy on yourself. Yes, ok video games aren't THE BEST activities to attract women but fuck it, we all need down time. Personally, I'd try replacing it with reading. It might be hard at the start but SO MANY girls read, as in, most of them. I've full on hit it off with women just on books alone. In regard to the weight issue, you're lucky you're too skinny rather than too fat. Most fat guys have barely any muscle , despite what they tell themselves, so they need to lose fat and gain muscle. Lucky you only need muscle. How are your finances? I'd consider joining a gym, and doing StrongLifts 5x5. If the gym is too expensive/whatever, there's been amazing results with body weight training, and you should find all the info you need. TLDR : go easy on yourself, lift weights, read books.
justaskingforadvise 9y ago
Thanks for your insight! I already do stronglifts but only get twice a week because I take IB, a really tough highschool system.
I actually love to read fantasy books! I have dabbled in some philosophy and self-improvement books but those aren't nearly as interesting for me.
I forgot to mention this but the guys in my school are pretty hardcore (at least half of them are fit), and that leads me to comparing myself to them way too much...And I think that makes me feel like I'm less?
trprdtor 9y ago
You are still very young and already seem to have a lot good things going for you, if your current logistics won't allow you to meet girls just lift and study hard, get into college and start fresh.
Lift at least 3 times a week, it shouldn't use up more than 6 hours of your time. Drop other activities if you really have to, you want to be the best version possible of yourself going into college.
killer15356 9y ago
Ayyyyy I'm Egyptian too. Message me and I could help you. I know how it feels sometimes to be an outsider.
D_Trius100 9y ago
Eat.Train.Sleep.
You're a skinny fuck. I was the same too don't worry. Start doing research on nutrition, TDEE, learn some basic kinesiology etc, and get on a program. Stronglift 5x5 is thrown around a lot, although I've never personally done it as I do bodyweight training.
What ever you choose, stick to it. Don't be the new guy constantly jumping from program to program because he doesn't see results in 2wks.
Read.
All that extra time on your hands? Read bud. Keep the fiction and stuff out for now and focus more so on self improvement material.
Read books like The Rationale Male, Book of Pook and such.Check this link here > redpillbooks sub reading list for other great material.
I also encourage you to pick through Omlala's posts and GayLubOil's posts as well.
There's a shitload so take your time and go through some attentively.
Hustle
Money. Or something that can potentially bank in the future. For you that may be school - focus on school and get your grades up. I have no idea what career path you're following, but if you can grab some experience in that field early, then great. Maybe like a summer job, internship idk. Or just get a part time job or something. The less you rely on people (your parents), the better.
With just those 3 things along, I'm sure you won't have time to be bored. Oh and there's nothing wrong with relaxing everyone once in a while. If video games does that for you, then so what? Just make sure it's actually relaxation and not be lazy/ procrastinating.
Yes I'm 17 as well. Found TRP last year and damn glad I did.