Recently broke up with my gf of 1 & 1/2 years about 2-3 weeks ago on some what mutual terms of things & not feeling the same anymore (more from her side). I accepted the fact, and left that night saying there is no point continuing if she feels that way and I decided to move on. A week later I went on a trip away we had planned together with a "friend" instead because she had said no, and so, I denied telling her who I went with despite her paying her half and asking.
We have had some random exchanges here and there, mainly because of the fact that she is still name shaming me all over social media whenever given the opportunity and I bite because it is just lies. She has got all her friends/family to delete me, and insists on others deleting me, yet all I did was move on as she wanted. She has already done me the favour of blocking me from everything however I still get told and I now hear she's calling me a stalker as I keep finding out.
I know this is child's play and I know the best thing is to just ghost and let her be bitter/immature for whatever reason (she wanted to end things now playing the victim) What even is her behaviour? Such a mindfuck..
Straight back to just grinding the gym, not that i never stopped - 220KG DL - 180KG Squat - 140KG Bench currently.
wheresMYsteakAt 9y ago
Looks like it's time to amp things up. Post MGTOW memes on her wall.
FerociousOreos 9y ago
You ignore it. That shit's beneath you. Anybody tells you about it, laugh it off.
"Poor kid is obviously still heartbroken. But seriously, I wish her the best; we just didn't work out. Shit happens, you know?"
Then you move on. People crave drama. By not giving in, you dismantle it. We all know that guy who shit talks his ex, don't be that dude. Ignore it and everyone will pass her childish antics off as exactly that.
RedSkeller 9y ago
Every woman rationalizes it in their mind to be the victim, you biting on her insults is feeding that version of the story. The only thing appropriate at this juncture is being cordial if you see in public and literally nothing else. You don't owe her anything and any attention she is getting from you (example: pushing your buttons on social media) will continue because you are encouraging her behavior. Cut her clean off and block her - most likely she will come crawling back, but it's not worth the drama.
LordThunderbolt 9y ago
Who cares? Just tell people who keep telling you what she's saying that whatever she says is her problem and that you haven't been in contact with her since X(date). Tell them that she's in your past and that she's irrelevant to you now. Delete all those salty mutual friends who are taking sides, and stop hanging with mutual friends. Move on dude.
walawalawa 9y ago
This is tough. You have a sense that you SHOULD speak up to "defend" youself and that only validates her.
Ignore it and if people ask you about it, shrug and say "Stalker...you know how it goes..."
Honestly speaking, there is so much stuff on social media that people read things that aren't of immediate relevancy to them and move on.
If you escalate it...suddenly it becomes significant and your reaction makes it something.
If her gf's are commenting on it...big deal. One of my ex gf's bad mouthed me to all her friends and it made things difficult for me.
I just pretended i didn't know about it and acted normal around those friends. Eventually they forgot about it.
If the girl starts becoming too much of an angry poster her friends will just ignore it.
[deleted] 9y ago
Sue her libel/slander/defamation & intentional infliction of emotional distress