I see a lot of famous/successful guys thanking their wives for their support. But from my experience and trp knowledge girls aren't much better than a maid. Asking your wife for emotion support seems like relationship suicide.
Its possible I'm a bit crazier than most and its just that most girls/people can't handle that but I have plenty of guy friends who can and it helps me deal with my anxiety and stress super well to the point that I excel at whatever I do. But for girls its impossible so far. Any time I open up or reveal any stress they bail.
I haven't dated too many but the few I have it worked fine if I used my friends for support and not them. All my friends are getting serious relationships now and living with their SOs and I'm stuck alone. Which makes me feel like my old strategy won't work forever. And even if it does work I feel like I'll resent my wife for being practically useless to me. I can hire a maid if I want basic chores done.
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sharp7 10y ago
Lol. Welp I think most people in the world would prefer it being populated by my kids than by shit kids.
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TheOrangePlll 10y ago
Nice writeup.
sharp7 10y ago
Basically girls will put up with more shit if I present more value.
If I have too much shit to deal with I better be putting up crazy value too. Also have to wait until the value is demonstrated.
So their is hope of finding a chick that's actually useful and keeping her.
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sharp7 10y ago
Man parents were right should just get wife from asia where they actually teach these things instead of the shit that america spews.
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A woman at my church, who I started to talk with in depth, told me that when I'm ready to get married I should absolutely not marry an American woman. She told me that they are all broken and something is wrong with them. She's in her fifties. She told me to go to the Philippines and find a good God fearing girl who takes marriage seriously. She's also from the Philippines.
sharp7 10y ago
What is it thats broken about them? My theory is that they are too cocky and dont have much to lose. Normally a monkey wouldn't reach for that higher branch out of fear of falling. But in america and most 1st world countries life has become too easy and if you fall you land in a cushy net. So they constantly reach for branches they have little to no chance of getting because why not. No one keeps track of reputation. We move towns and jobs every few years. So many things that make taking social risks fine. Its extreme hypergamy.
Fear of god is really just fear of the world. America women have no fear.
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I would say that they are raised in the cult of self esteem. But that's a good explanation. I doubt I will bother going outside the country to find a wife. I don't want a wife, period.
sharp7 10y ago
I feel like I'm letting down my parents and the countless generations before me by not having kids though. Also I have parental urges. I satisfied them a little by having a cat for a bit but... not enough.
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I've already reproduced my genes. Wanted to be a father but I've already seen the family court circus. Really though being forced to not be a father isn't so bad. After awhile. Having your kids taken away from you really does change your perspective on things.
If you do want kids I'd suggest creating a long term plan to expatriate. Or marry an ugo and cheat on the side.
sharp7 10y ago
Ya I definitely have plans to avoid divorce rape. Also the girl I have in mind would strongly prefer to give me the kids.
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sharp7 10y ago
Ya I don't want to get married just wondering about LTRs in general. The few that I had the girl mostly just felt like a burden. Maybe if I made her do more chores I would feel better about them lol. One big issue is I'm very high achieving and have a lot of ambition since always. This both raises my standards and makes me much more stressed than the avg person as I am always doing very difficult things and pushing myself hard. I sometimes crumble unless I have friends around I trust. It would be nice for that friend to also be my SO but most ppl here are seeming to say that just wont work.
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sharp7 10y ago
Haha funny. I already have a system in place to weed out people. Its nice to hear thats what Im supposed to do.
TRParents 10y ago
Mine is like a Secretary for my mind
sharp7 10y ago
What kind of things do you tell her? Whats the most stressed you've ever been and how did she help?
TRParents 10y ago
We discuss my interior life in pretty basic terms (she's not highly educated) and pretty much anything I need a sounding board for. She only offers suggestions and helps keep me organized.
Without getting into specifics, she's helped me through some difficult situations - I almost lost my mind quite literally.
I do the heavy lifting she makes sure the plates go on the correct place after I'm done
sharp7 10y ago
How did you meet her btw? How did you know she would be a good match?
sharp7 10y ago
Ya this is what I want. I've only met one girl in my entire life who can do it but she's older than me and taken as fuck. Maybe if I wait a few years the girls in my acceptable age range will get less retarded.
TRParents 10y ago
How old are you?
sharp7 10y ago
26
TRParents 10y ago
If anything they get more retarded from that point on if they remain single
sharp7 10y ago
Wut. They don't mature? The fuck?
thatblondeguy_ 10y ago
Politicians and the like do it to appeal to the masses. Regular guys just do it because someone else made that decision for them
sharp7 10y ago
I agree most is bullshit. But Ive seen some I believe though.
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sharp7 10y ago
Ya I always used to take it with a grain of salt. But lately I've seen and heard ppl actually believe when they say it.
BlackHeart89 10y ago
Well, there really is no point of having a "wife" outside of it being some sort of status thing. If you never intend on committing fully, then you will eventually lose the woman.
Women can offer good emotional support, but that depends on how much of it you need. If at the end of the day, you're very sensitive or whatever, then it will be a turn off. Women say they want a sensitive man, but thats bullshit. They don't want another woman. They want a man.
Thats why she's with you. Feel free to be aggravated or pissed, vent a little bit, but always look for a solution to your issues and don't ball up under pressure in front of her. Its not attractive.
Your male friends can give emotional support because they aren't attracted to you. You're just a friend. Is that what you want your woman to be to you? A friend who isn't attracted to you?
sharp7 10y ago
You got it wrong Male friends arent bothered because they dont rely on me. In most relationships the girl relies on the guy so seeing him stressed makes her stressed.
Anyway ya I usually just rant/soundboard usually finding the solution during the rant myself. Its just nice to have someone listen esp if you have some crazy plans and you want confirmation you arent completely nuts.
BlackHeart89 10y ago
Its not always about being stressed and relying on someone. Sometimes its just them simply being annoyed. She isn't stressed. She just finds it unattractive and annoying. Its not like women are always relying on men to pay their living expenses. In some situations yes. But in most when you're merely dating or she's a potential plate or whatever, they aren't stressed. They are annoyed.
I feel you. I think a lot of guys are the same way.
sharp7 10y ago
True. Being annoying sucks. I think that might be a sign that you guys just don't have interest in that topic in common maybe?
cholomite 10y ago
I think being legally married is a bad idea for men, however I have been with the same girl for 10 years and plan on keeping her around as long as she is adding value to my life, so I'm kind of in a marraige type relationship.
That is the "point" I think you're trying to get at, they add value (if you're not a beta bux). You're absolutely correct that you can't share weakness with your woman. Thats what your friends or bartender are for. Any display of weakness to your woman will make her nervous and she will lose respect for you.
My gf adds value to my life. She cooks, cleans, hosts my friends, gives me whatever amount of money I ask for if I need it, holds my weed for me if I get pulled over...many different things, plus the sex which is a given. Can I do all of these things myself? Of course, and probably better than her, but sometimes I don't want to. I like being able to focus completely on my mission and ensuring that I am the best man I can be, at work, at the gym, at the gun range, whatever.... I find comfort and peace knowing that I have someone I (mostly) trust to handle things and help me out along the way. Her primary function is to help me do the best job I can at being the best man I can be. Yes, that's typically normal maid stuff, cooking, cleaning..etc. But whatever I need her to do to make my life easier and progress through life she will do, because she "knows" I'm a strong man who always chooses the best path and knows with 100% confidence that I'm on the right path. In reality I have tons of insecurities, I feel inadequate a lot, I hate my job sometimes, I'm bitter or anxious about my employee review or some guy at the gym gave me a hard time. She's not supposed to help me with those things, those are man things, she helps me with woman things. So when my boss chews my ass out, or when the roided out gym douche owns me in front of everyone, I can find peace knowing that I have a woman who wants me to be the best I can and will be waiting at home in her underwear with a plate of chicken and broccoli for me to eat and when she asks me how my day was I just look at her and say fine then fuck her brains out before we go to bed.
sharp7 10y ago
Hmmm... alright well this confirms my suspicions. If I need help with man things I ask men.
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If you've been living together that long...you might be common law married by now.