Was gonna go out with a potential plate I F closed at a party last weekend but she split. When I woke up I knew it was gonna happen, because that's typically what happens because women go stale, so when she pulled the whole 'Aw idk I got called into work sorryyyyyyyyyyyy' excuse I just laughed at it and soft nexted.
I just don't give a shit though. If it did happen and we did fuck again I'd be like 'cool, now what', the fact I'd get to orgasm inside some cunt's mouth isn't really worth the time it would take to get there and back, I'd rather spend that time doing something else. As an extension of this, I haven't even wanted to wank, just isn't something that would make my life better.
What's going on? I still chat up women and I still hook up, I just don't give a shit if they ditch because I know it's a certainty.
welcome_to 9y ago
Now compare this to how a thirsty beta would be chasing after every possible piece of ass like it was his last, and you'll see how much better off you are. Bonus: women are attracted to that.
SarsaparillaCorona 9y ago
Yep, definitely noticed that.
antifragileman 9y ago
How did you get to this point? I am like this with most of life, but not with women and relationships as I fear rejection. I'm pretty much monk mode right now, but I'm interested in how you cultivated this apathy for rejection, or whatever you would call it.
TheStumblingWolf 9y ago
For me it seems the fear of rejection comes from low confidence. When I can't find validation myself I want it from other people and that makes me needy and care too much about the outcome of things.
SarsaparillaCorona 9y ago
Experience mixed with acceptance. When you're new to this there's an imbalance in the normality between doing it and not doing it, not doing it is normal, doing it is abnormal. But over time doing it becomes normal, and not doing it becomes normal, and obviously you want to do it, but it isn't the end of the world if you want to do it but you can't.
But sadly, there wasn't one experience that made it pop, I only just noticed I was like this.
[deleted] 9y ago
Youre edging closer to abundance mentality.
SarsaparillaCorona 9y ago
Is this what it's like? Expecting every arrangement to fail automatically? Even when you don't have any other women on the agenda?
[deleted] 9y ago
Not expecting it to fail. Abundance mentality is not caring if it fails. If it happens, cool. If it doesn't happen, cool. Either way you're good.
If she likes you, cool. If not, cool. There's more girls to replace her. If you don't fuck up in a situation, cool. If you do fuck up, cool. There'smore situations to be in and you can use it all for social practice.
SarsaparillaCorona 9y ago
Yep, that's pretty much where I am.