So I went out to a nightclub a couple of weeks ago and I met this cute chick, long story short, we danced, we made out, took her to a kind of balcony just outside the club and continued making out with her. I talked logistics and said she had a hotel room that wasn't far from the club. So I told her to get out of here. At first we came outside and not even 50 meters she grabs me and tried to pull me back to the club saying "I need to find my friend". At first I was hesitant, saying that her friend was okay, she still refuses to leave. So we go back to the club, find her friend, continued to dance and make out and got her outside again. She gave the same excuse saying that she needs to find her friend. Keeping in mind, her friend already gave the go ahead and she even left with another guy. In the end, I just got impatient and decided to leave, I decided fuck that waste of my time. And so the mother hen of the group just took her home. The next few days, she just texted me saying "thanks for looking after me last night". Should I attempt to see her again or next her?
So trp, I want some advice on how to deal with this kind of situation, from make out to sex
thiasus 10y ago
How did you attempt the transition? telling a girl to get back to her hotel room is telling her "let's go fuck". Being that indirectly direct is only going to work if the transition is short, basically if you are going from living room to bedroom or from one floor to another. If you need several minutes, a car and so on, she's going to cool off and start thinking of all the reasons why she shouldn't do this.
For longer transitions, you need to give her mind plausible deniability, a ready-made excuse for rationalization as to why she's NOT going to with you to fuck.
Midasring 10y ago
You see, at first I thought that was a Last minute resistance kind of thing, but now that you think about it... I dont think I showed any plausible deniability. Any ways to show this?
thiasus 10y ago
You furnish a credible excuse to bounce. "I want to make you X drink", "I want to show you this", "Let's go watch..." and so on. I have a guitar I can kinda play, so I just tell chicks I'm going to teach them how to play it
ItalianoVero 10y ago
Last minute resistance refers literally to the last minute before closing. Like, she has half her clothes off, is on your bed, and hesitates.
slater2j 10y ago
You need a bit more subtlety.
"let's just go for a walk"
"It's a bit chilly, is this your hotel? Let's go warm up a bitc
WhyNotJustEnjoyLife 10y ago
She might of had her period. Don't overthink it.