my LTR of 1 year is almost perfect in every way. she cleans a lot, she cooks for me when im at home or prepares food for work, she motivates me to go outside a lot ( im more an introvert) thus we do a lot of awesome activities which I normally wouldnt do alone. sex is great and she even initiates it a lot more often too.

now the huge problem : she is bulimic since several years because of a PTSD. the only way to remove the flashbacks is to puke. now shes addicted to it. she says it is way better than it was for +1 year. she already was in a clinic and says she doesnt want to be a bulimic anymore. she knows it destroys lives. she havent puked since 8 weeks ( and she had a lot of weekly streaks before too). She promised me it is truth. Also whenever she puked, she would tell me.

But my gut feeling and instict told me that there is something wrong. So I bought a mic and recorded near the toilet everytime I went to work... yesterday I listen to it and notice that she puked every time I went to work (and I just started to mic it since Wednesday).

Since I cant tell her that I eavesdroped her with a microphone I told her that she forgot to clean up some parts and thats why I know she puked yesterday. After a short hard battle she always refused, but in the end she admit that she did it ONLY yesterday. I asked her if she promised me that it wasnt more and she said it dead serious that she didnt. She lied.

The huge problem is I dont want to leave her like nothing because the LTR is really awesome, we help us with everything, every day we enjoy each other a lot and she motivates me to reach my goals in the gym, work and general live. shes a very good support to my live. but the addiction fucks me up somehow. it adds fear and mistrust to the relationship.