i'm from europe
Me: let's drink some wine at my place
HB7: I only turned 18 so (shit test)
Me: great, so we can both drink legally. If you don't drink, we can have non-alcoholic wine
HB7: fine by me
Me: So tuesday night at 7 at mines
(She's seen the message, so i panic and say...)
Me: lol forgot to ask, is that ok with you?
HB7: no, not really
then i fucked up by losing frame and suggesting we go to a bar at my uni but she doesnt know where my uni is. Then i fucked up even more and told her she should suggest where to go. She said "ok" (stupid response) and then i told her to say a time, date and place and of course....no reply.
I've deleted her number. But how do I proceed next time when a girl outright says no to my plans. I didn't want to next. I also always try and invite a girl to my place first just to test the waters and it's worked every time but now
lanky32 10y ago
See Me: So tuesday night at 7 at mines
There you wait for her to reply. If she does not reply, you stop.
[deleted] 10y ago
Why would you think it's appropriate to invite a chick to your place to drink wine, thru tinder, without a previous date? Chicks aren't out to get raped by strangers, dude. You're not "losing frame" by inivitjng her to a bar, you just should have done that first.
Ghandiwasadick 10y ago
Don't respond. Abundance mentality means not caring if you miss out on a date. She's just another girl. If you're truly interested, try again in maybe two weeks. But not before then. If she's really interested, your silence will instill dread and she'll try to apologize or set up another date within the next few weeks. Stay strong, don't double text or back peddle. Abundance mentality ia key, my friend.