I'll try keep this brief: I was txting a co-worker for ~2 weeks whilst she was on vacation in Europe. We rarely spoke at work, but saw each other each morning for ~5 minutes. When she got back, the previous night she did not respond to my txt, nor she did read it. I thought she had gone to bed (it was somewhat late).
I initiated a conversation the next morning, asked about the vacation, pretty casual, she seemed fine. Once she had not txt me back by that afternoon, nor had she even read it (read receipt) I realised it was no accident (should have realised this sooner) -- anyway, couldn't give a fuck about her, she should thank her lucky stars I gave her the time of day. Haven't spoken since. That was ~2 weeks ago. Now, even if she begged to fuck me, I wouldn't touch her. BUT I am curious to why she didn't even open it, the message wasn't out of the ordinary, and she was no doubt interested in me e.g. messaging first, responding in 2 minutes when I would take 3 hours, spending pictures of her bra, etc.
I see it as 1 of 2 reasons:
1) Doesn't want to shit where she eats.
2) Another co-worker, who I previously span, persuaded her against me. We didn't end too well.
I'm tempted to ask her. Curiosity is killing me. Should I ask? If so, how should I go about it? Obviously, still swallowing the red pill and all guidance is appreciated.
scottishredpill 10y ago
Shitting were you eat is never a good idea, I would advice against it. It usually never ends well.
The fuck? You are giving way too much of a fuck. Spin more plates
Don't. Again, you are giving too much of a fuck, this is very beta.
Man up, next them and spin plates
[deleted] 10y ago
What the fuck does it matter? NEXT and move on.
yoyoy3 10y ago
Because I'm about to initiate things with another co-worker, and I want to see if the my ex-spinner co-worker may be a problem.
[deleted] 10y ago
How would she be a problem? Short of shanking you in the office, there shouldn't be a problem.
She's had her chance and she's lost it. NEXT and move on.
browndelicious 10y ago
STOP. The problem is you.
Ask yourself why you need this woman's validation and then give yourself the validation you crave. Don't look for it from a woman. The more you want her validation, the weaker (more beta) you become as a man.
You should be spinning plates. Instead you're obsessing in your head.
Dunyain 10y ago
That's really good advice.
[deleted] 10y ago
Great advice.
[deleted] 10y ago
Can't speak to your situation, but iMessage (and other data-based messaging) can sometimes do weird things.
I was on a company vacation to Vegas. I didn't have data on my cell (I live in Canada, data roaming is approximately the cost of a ferrari per image downloaded), so I was relying on text messaging. A couple people got US data plans, and were texting me while I was in vegas, but the messages never came through. As soon as I landed back home, I received a deluge of texts from the previous couple of nights. I realized that my iPad had been downloading the messages so they never clicked back to SMS; once I landed, it downloaded the backlog to keep them in sync.
Just a technological answer.
[deleted] 10y ago
As you've seen from the rest of the comments, you are acting very needy. Relax man. Move onto the next. If that one stops replying, next. Keep going.
but spin more than one plate at a time!