Lots of these ideas were from Dr. Glover podcasts and No More Mr. Nice Guy.

• Forget being outcome dependent. That'll totally mess with you.
• Forget about evaluating how well you both did afterwards. My experience is sex has ups and downs, and when it is really good you know it. Maybe evaluate how well you met these points instead.
• Not sure how long you consider "pre-mature", but if you can convince yourself that how fast it takes you to ejaculate isn't really a problem it will become less of a problem over time. The fear of having the pre-mature ejaculation problem creates anxiety which makes it worse. It becomes a self-perpetuating downward spiral.
• Ejaculate by jerking off or whatever before having sex. Maybe even an hour or 2 or 3 house before.
• Be physically healthy: Get to healthy body fat, lift heavy weights, increase conditioning, eat lots of veggies and lean protein.
• Be mentally healthy.
• Drink a few shots of whiskey before having sex. Don't drink too much or you won't be able to get it up. Whiskey dick is no joke.
• Supposedly anti-depressants help so you may want to consider discussing this with a doctor.
• Try not looking at porn or limiting porn.
• Try healthy masturbating with no outcome goal.

While having sex...

• Take deep breaths. Three deep breaths when you are getting too excited.
• Practice being self aware while having sex. Think about a second thread running in your consciousness that is able to evaluate and predict what you are doing and going to do. This helps in all communication throughout the day, as well
• If you feel any anxiety coming up, recognize the anxiety, tell yourself that this anxiety does not affect you and then tell yourself, "Is that all you got? Come on, you can do better than that! This little bit of anxiety isn't enough to affect me!"
• Change positions when you are getting too excited (say at 5-6 to begin with, if 10 is point of no return on a scale of 1 to 10)
• Try other methods: stop/start, kissing, admiring the woman's body, talking
• Take charge. Assume the woman is up for anything you'd like until she says otherwise. Then accept and respect her boundaries without being upset...best to show no emotion and just move on to something else.

What doesn't work:

• Thinking about basketball or something non-sexual.
• Most supplements.

1) get laid more. A lot of PE is just deprivation. If you're able to last a lot longer on a second run then this is most or all of your problem.

2) don't tense your glutes. If you're thrusting with your pelvis this will put you on the path to orgasm. If you change your mechanics so that you're moving with different muscles then the experience changes dramatically.

If you're masturbating stop right now STOP. Also PE goes away with experience. Seems like you haven't had a lot of sex yet. Don't think too much about it. After PE , rest, recover and go at it again. Finger bang her while you're recuperating.

Don't be afraid to stop completely to regain yourself, it usually only takes a few seconds and you're good for at least another couple minutes. Try new positions. How premature are we talking?

All good advice, so I will add something no ones said. Alcohol works sometimes. Depending on the person and amount it can delay your orgasm, but if you drink too much, good luck even having sex.

Music.

Also, pull out and eat the girl out for a minute or two if you think you're about to pop.

I think you're on the right track. Tug it until you're about to blow, then stop, wait a few seconds until the sensation goes away, then resume. It'll build stamina. A

Also, do kegels.

Also, when you're bangin' a girl, swith positions often.

It takes time.

KEGELS KEGELS KEGELS

Lord they save me, kegels mean I cum when I choose and not before. I can hold back even the strongest orgasm and delay it.

Things that I'm currently doing to improve my time:

• Masturbating while trying to hold it longer and reminding myself that I shouldn't seek instant gratification. Pretty much what you're doing.

Techniques that I found work at making me last longer:

• Singing the alphabet song in my head
• Breathing in through my nose for around 5-6 seconds while counting those seconds in my head, and then breathing it out slowly. I think that logically thinking diverts the attention from sex and allows you to last longer.

Things that I find alter my sensitivity or libido:

• wearing a condom
• smoking 1 cigarette a day. This actually made me last longer and made me masturbate less often. It cuts your sexual appetite and make you less sex-starved.

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Typically P.E. is 100% mental.

Nerves are the primary cause, so try and build sexual confidence. Honestly, the only way to do that is to have a lot of sex. If the girl you're with mentions it, say its been a while, or you're just nervous about having sex with her for the first (few) time(s). Also, know how to use your hands or mouth to get her off and she'll hardly notice an issue, if at all. Essentially, lie until the problem goes away.