I will not go into too much details about my history, since I don’t wish to bore anyone who might be reading. Suffice to say, a combination of bad luck and my social incompetence has caused me to become isolated among my peers. As a result, people tend to treat me like I’m invisible. After reading this, I’ve decided to go my own way for a bit, and focus on self-improvement.
Unfortunately, it hasn’t been easy. I am a university student, and have to go on campus frequently to attend classes. And during these classes, I would often be reminded that I’m invisible to my peers. That I’m an outcast. Whenever that happens, I would feel like shit, and lose all motivation for self-improvement. Usually, I do my best to harness my willpower, and push on. Nonetheless, it can be a real struggle. Hence, I’m here for advice..
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Johnny10toes 11y ago
Right on. Your happiness is your own responsibility.
thecake_is_a_lie1 11y ago
Are there foosball or pool tables at your uni?
[deleted] 11y ago
Not to my knowledge. We do have a small bar, and there might be a pool table in there. I've never been in there though, since I dislike drinking.
thecake_is_a_lie1 11y ago
Time to brush up on your pool skills and make new friends.
Johnny10toes 11y ago
English is my first and second language.
[deleted] 11y ago
So you're invisible to them... oh well. Who cares about a hundred or so people. Not everyone is going to like you or even care if you exist. Just do your work in class and when you have time go and meet people.
Join clubs that interest you, do some sports (preferably coed), go online and join some sites. There's so many ways to build friendships that are still within your comfort zone.
Then as time goes on push that zone more and more. Eventually you won't care what people think of you and you will do as you please and speak your mind. At that point they will naturally gravitate towards you due to your laissez faire attitude.
Baby steps my friend. You will fail, we all fail. The goal is to learn from those failures so that you may improve upon them. Think of it like this; you can't just go from the Mark 1 suit to Mark 42. Tony had to test and rebuild over and over to perfect it. Don't give up, you'll be flying high sooner than you think :)
[deleted] 11y ago
Lift
Dress better, creatively, and appropriate to your personality and build.
Get more hobbies, the more shit you're into, the happier you will be and the more you have to talk about.
You're not an outcast. To be an outcast means you've been cast out, which you haven't, you just haven't been making yourself noticed. You have to make people notice you, either directly or indirectly. Why do you think people go through such ridiculous lengths and act like such jackasses? They want to be noticed.
Don't over do it, just cultivate yourself and express yourself more. I've been, and sometimes still find myself in the same boat.