Hey all, Finally decided to get into this discussion after what took place with one of my girls yesterday. A little background info: This girl and I have a history. We were in a LTR a couple years back and I cheated on her and she found out. I broke it off even though she was willing to forgive me but I felt that I was only going to do it again and it was a sign that I needed to move on from her. I could have cut her out for good but she never really let me. She would hit me up all the time, stayed in close contact with my girl friends that she had gotten close to when we were together, and even showed up at places where she knew I would be to try and get back with me. I resisted for a while, probably 6 months or so, but it's hard to deny sexual chemistry when you have it with someone. Long story short we fell into a plate situation where we would bone but it was known that we were both free to see and pursue other people.

This continues for the last year and a half. I've disclosed the relationships and sexual encounters that I've had because I have enough respect for her and she presses me about it when she thinks something's up (and she's usually right). She recently (within the last 6 months) started telling me about the guys she's seen. Kinda BBux from the sounds of it b/c they took her out and shit but she was fucking them too. Not having any real grounds judge or be angry I shrugged these off easily. I figured, if they're any good then she wouldn't be coming back to me so often. This changed yesterday when she told me that she had fucked this guy black-out drunk when they had gone out to the bar with this mutual friend of theirs about a month ago. First thing I ask is, "well did you at least use a condom?" She can't hide the guilty look on her face. She tried to hamster it away saying that it "just kind of happened" and I tried to hold my ground and not show that it bothered me. On the inside I'm thinking, "So just by virtue of being drunk in the same place as you at the end of the night this dude gets to fuck you bare-back the first time you ever meet?" I at least have had the respect to use protection with other people because she and I never do. I know she's on BC and always has been. It was something that I trusted about her and it added a certain appeal; it made her my main plate. Now I'm going to get tested, I'm fucking furious wanting to find out who this mother-fucker is and make him shit out his teeth, and I'm completely turned off by her. I can't touch her without thinking of how this other faggot was doing the same thing. On top of that I'm mad that I'm even mad about it because it shouldn't phase me and hasn't in the past but the whole raw-dog element of it just fucking makes my blood boil.

This is all very unlike me so I need some advice from some like-minded people. So far, I have held my frame and not let it show that it bothers me. My question is, do I continue to hold frame and play it off like I don't give a shit, or do I put my foot down, take control and call her out to make her feel bad about it? If it were just any old plate I would have no problem walking away but this girl and I have a history and fucking killer sex. Is it time for me to cut this girl out forever now that I see her true colors?

TL;DR- My main plate, with whom I have a long history, fucked another dude raw-dog and now I'm pissed because I thought I was the only one getting that privilege. Do I hold frame and act like I'm above it and don't care, or do I put her in her place by showing that I won't stand for it?