Aight ill keep this concise.

Saw old acquiantance at bar on a friday, told her to take down my number (my phone was dead). She texted me that sunday. I kept the texting brief and logistical. We met at another bar and talked for about an hour or so. Conversation was good, never really awkward. We talked about sex a little. and i kino'd her one time (gotta do this more often in the future).

We left the bar and it was raining. She had explained to me prior to the meeting that this would be here last night before working all week. In the back of my mind i interpreted this as she wanted to have a 'big night.' As we start driving away she asks me "So what do you wanna do now?" I audaciously say "get a hotel room." She goes "seriously?" and im like "yes."

So we drive all the way to the hotel parking lot and then when we stop she goes "So wait, is this gonna be a hang-and-bang type of scenario?" I feel like i fucked this up and didn't confidently say "yes" but i also didn't act flustered and studder out an answer. She quickly explained "I'm feeling you but i dont do ONS and i don't want you to spend the money on a hotel room to let your hopes up" (fair enough)

Instead, she drives me back to my house. As im about to leave the car, i start kissing her, and move my hand to her inner thigh. I stop momentarily and asked her if she wanted to chill. She decline but then told me the fact that she wasn't wearing panties (WTF!!!). So obviously i start kissing her and finger her for a lil bit.

We were my parking lot in the rain with the lights on in her car and it just seemed like it wasnt going to escalate (maybe im just a dumbass), so i stopped and got out of the car saying "you better hit me up" to which she said yea "i'll text you."

I haven't texted her back yet, and i wanna wait for her text, but i don't wanna wait too long and let things cool off to much

So a few questions

1)Besides increased Kino, what are some good ways to inject escalation into conversation

2) What do you think wearing no panties conveyed?

3) Was the hotel ploy stupid?

4) Should i have just kept fingering her in the car (across the passenger seat) and seen where it ended up? Should i have not pulled back and cut the action short?

5) Should i wait for her to text me back, NEXT her if she doesn't, or should i wait for x amount of time and text her back (i would really like to fuck her).

thanks