TLDR: Mutual attraction with 8/10, her relationship is inevitably ending, she was faithful and is very sad. How long do I wait to make a serious move?
I'll keep the story as short as possible
There's a girl I have a lot of contact with that is definitely into me. I don't have oneitis, but she so far seems to be above-average as far as potential LTR goes. Regardless, I wouldn't date her immediately. She is very attractive, takes great care of herself, and is surprisingly fun and funny. She also comes from a lot of money (from another country) and has confidence issues (of course).
Here's the weird situation.
This girl has been dating the same guy for almost 3 years, and she just found out she's moving back to their home country in a couple months, permanently, and she can't come because she has to be in school here for another 3 years. She has already told me she knows it has to be the end of them, but it has yet to be officially ended.
So, when that day comes, when should I make a move? I've been escalating kino daily, to the point where if she was single I'd have kissed her already. She's surprisingly loyal, maybe due to her different culture; I'm pretty sure most girls would have cheated with me by now.
I've been wondering about when to make a move assuming they break up. If she tells me in private, should I immediately kiss her? Should I wait, and ask her out on more of a "date" and then escalate from there? The issue I have is I don't know how long girls tend to be sad about this stuff before they go off chasing other dudes. She was very much down in the dumps today, to a point where I know she wouldn't have wanted a kiss even if she was single.
I've rambled enough, and you guys can ask questions to clarify if you want. I'm a long time lurker but I've never read anything about this or had any problem worth asking about until now.

RedPillJax 10y ago
Why are you orbiting this girl so badly? You've been 'escalating daily,' but haven't even kissed her? You say you don't have oneitis, but this is textbook oneitis.
Why are you devoting this much energy into a girl with a boyfriend who might break up soon, and planning some grand scheme?
Move on, pal. Work on your SMV. Game some new broads. She's an 8/10, not a 12/10.
teearrpeer 10y ago
Like I said, she's abnormally faithful, maybe due to the culture she grew up with.
They will break up as soon as he makes this decision, which according to her is pretty certain.
I can understand saying not to put so much effort or thought into it, but move on? That seems like pretty stupid advice when she didn't even do anything that makes her look bad, and I'm definitely not in her friendzone.
So regardless of whether or not I'm putting too much energy into her (which I agree I am) you didn't answer the question of when to make a move when she's in this sad state. Like I'm not going to kiss her when she's holding back tears.
Thanks for the reply, by the way.
[deleted] 10y ago
Oh the irony. And you get the medal for the highest orbit of the day.
RedPillJax 10y ago
So why have you been focusing on her so much? You admit she's an 8/10. There's nothing truly special about an 8. I can toss a rock out my window in any direction, and I have a 8/10 chance of hitting an 8/10. Why have you been playing this long game?
So she's dumping her relationship drama on you. What does this smell like?
Okay, tough love over - actual advice now. I'd give it a week max, three days minimum. Most importantly, you don't contact her before you meet / set up meet / escalate / whatever. No consolation texts, no 'I'm so sorry to hear about that.' You're not. Don't pretend to be.
Besides that, game her as normal. I'm sorry if I've came off extra abrasive tonight, I've just seen oneitis after oneitis after oneitis in denial tonight. I'm not sure if you genuinely fit in that camp, but I genuinely hope you close after all the work you've put in. Keep gaming other women, by the way.
teearrpeer 10y ago
She sits by me for hours every day. Basically it's a long game because of how much effort I'm not putting in.
Oh trust me, I know. Unfortunately though I let curiosity get the better of me and asked her for details. She didn't come running to me at first.
Thank you for the advice about time and the reminder not to fall into the emotional tampon frame. I'm self-aware enough to know oneitis is my biggest issue, but I've been gaming other chicks whenever possible. I have no time to actually go out and do anything, and I won't for the next few months, so this girl basically wins for now by proximity.
[deleted] 10y ago
You are making excuses for you being an emotional tampon bitch. Hamster hamster hamster. You are level 1000 orbiter. Drop the bitch and focus on other women.
Apexk9 10y ago
She comes from money brah. You never move on from money.
RedPillJax 10y ago
Yes you do, brother. My ex was co-heir to a ~$20 mil (CAD) fortune.
No amount of money was worth her staying out all night banging lines of coke and ignoring my calls while I was firmly beta. What are you, a woman branch swinging?]
Move on, for your own good man.
Apexk9 10y ago
So you not being able to control your bitch would be my problem why?
RedPillJax 10y ago
Look up "Gronk!" in the main TRP sub.
Your hilarious attempts at powertalk are entertaining, I'll give you that. You're already taking a trip through my post history I see - take a long hard look, friend. Learn something while you're at it, at least.
Apexk9 10y ago
I'm a fucking entertaining guy.
I don't worry about gaming chick's so I don't really got shit to learn.
I just do whatever the fuck I want if it doesn't work oh well.
teearrpeer 10y ago
That's definitely got nothing to do with it. If anything I think of that as a bad thing. That paragraph was just there to describe her in general in case it would help.
Apexk9 10y ago
To me that is a very important issue. If I have wealth and I can lock her into a relationship I'm golden. Unless her parents are racist and hate me cuz I'm white.
RedPillJax 10y ago
Make your own money. You're not a trophy wife, don't behave like one.
Apexk9 10y ago
I'd have no problem being a trophy wife.
teearrpeer 10y ago
I'm with /u/RedPillJax. A girl with money will just be more likely to perceive herself as above you.
Apexk9 10y ago
Why do I care how she perceives me. I'll knock her up get married and divorce rape her.
Flip the script 2015
teearrpeer 10y ago
Keep dreaming
RedPillJax 10y ago
Cute, isn't it? Let him go. This is pretty common with new guys who think they know it all. Let him tire himself out.
teearrpeer 10y ago
Yeah it's pretty hilarious how much the self-proclaimed idgaf posterboy has to seek validation on Reddit.
Apexk9 10y ago
Muffin you think I'm new I'm the poster boy for idgaf I was born that way. Since I was a child I'd game my mother to get me everything I wanted. I manipulated every person I have ever met for my own benefit.
I also royally fucked up a good portion of my life but hey live and learn.