So I've slept with 33 women, most of which were very atrractive, and dated a university cheerleader for a year. She cheated on me and we broke up in March. It was very hard on me, I found the pill, started lifting and settled throughly into the anger phase.
I now find myself full of apathy. It's Friday night and I bailed on going out to stay in, watch TV and play guitar. I am still very sexually attracted to women but the thrill of the hunt is just gone, and I find myself nearly completely uninterested in dealing with the Bullshit. It just seems so...futile.
I'm still lifting, I want to become as smart and well forged of a man as I can. But as much as I desire an LTR with a woman very high value, want kids and a family, right now, I'm just not in the mood.
Does this make sense? Is apathy a normal phase? I don't feel like I'm a MGTOW type, because I do want a family. But the hypergamous Bullshit is just not something I care to deal with.
I would love some thoughts and comments. Thanks in advance.
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RememberingAlpha 11y ago
I had dinner at a bar tonight and winged for my buddy and ended up carrying the conversation. I got numbers. I was great. I just don't have the interest. In college I got out of bed in the morning to try to hook up with hot chicks. Maybe I've developed standards beyond aesthetics now but I'm just not into it like I was. Going out and getting laid used to be my favorite hobby. Now I'm very happily staying in on a Friday.
laere 11y ago
Dude this is exactly me right now. I dropped all my plates over the summer, because all the novelty wore off, and it just wasn't fun for me anymore. Now I focus all my time on myself. It's great being able to be alone and enjoy myself in the things I like doing.
It's really personal preference. Some guys like going out and banging a lot of chicks other guys like staying in and working hard on themselves.
To each their own.
machimus 11y ago
Yes, that's the Depression and Detachment phase, if we use the grief cycle as a model. Next you will enter bargaining phase, where you start to make the case to yourself for a silver lining. After that is acceptance phase, where you are content with how things are and formulate plans to move forward.
RememberingAlpha 11y ago
While that makes complete sense, my breakup happened in March. I thought I had moved the phases long ago.
Thanks again for the insight.
machimus 11y ago
The other possibility is you're just in a funk, and that's all there is to it. It happens.
RiseAboveRuin 11y ago
This is exactly where I'm at bro. I've got 3 girls I haven't slept with yet that I could seal the deal with right now but I'm just burnt out. That and I've had a few STD scares lately that have put me on edge.
I too am playing guitar though. What a hobby. Keep doing you man. Build your empire.
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