Alright, so she is a classmate but I saw her a few hours ago, and so when I came home I figured this would be the place to go to get some advice.
There were some cringe moments in my head at some places and my excuse is that my parents were around so I choked bad (Though I give them props for not interrupting the conversation)
I left somewhat long pauses during the conversation, but she did fill them in for me!
At the end she suggested we meet up again and (I have no phone) I gave her my email and we set a 'frame' for a meeting soon (She really took the initiative- its probably lunch or something, though I might push for coffee). But, I completely face-palmed myself in my head at that moment. (She did stay more than she had to- her parent was telling her come on as I found out from my parents)
The thing is I do have her email due to having her in class last year so I wanted to ask if I should initiate contact (and after how long?). I am planning to say something like "We talked about meeting up, how about this X-day."
If you need to know anything else please ask in order to give me good suggestions. I am a bit 'weird' since this was all spontaneous and I guess^my^first^time .
(Also how to deal with these flood of questions I am getting/maybe going to get from my P's?)
I thank you bros in advance!
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SystemHalifax 10y ago
I have no phone. So, I'll wait for her then?
Its summer man- no schoolwork.
Don't worry, I don't have oneitis since I treat everyone the same way. I guess I do seem to give off that vibe in the text, though.
I might be eager because I would like to use this opportunity to learn things rather than mess it up
TheIslander829 10y ago
Dude, how old are you?
desire_engineer 10y ago
Aim for the number, don't communicate too much over email cos that's like pen pals...
It's not like we can just write down a few sentences that you read and you become socially brilliant. You have to get out there and see what it takes, trial and error, develop your interactions based on your interpretation of social ques.
SystemHalifax 10y ago
Roosh says that a lot. I just needed some sort of kick start advice!
desire_engineer 10y ago
"why do we fall bruce?... so we can learn to pick ourselves up."
Make mistakes, make many many mistakes, especially when the consequences are only learning how not to do it.
On the next encounter, take the lead a little bit, have a somewhat flexible plan with multiple options... mention coffee but plan for: coffee + walk in the park or coffee + movie, based on the situation (weather, social ques)
Always aim to have a good time talking and never let her think negatively of you, the cringe moments have to filled with something before they happen, (have a container of topical conversation starters ready to talk about, change direction, if the conversation runs dry/away from where you want it to go)
you are the interactive entertainment with the subliminal message of your sexual objectives until they are fully accepted.