For those of you that did, what was it like transitioning out from your comfort zone, and going out to meet women? like practical steps, and also mentally. Day game, night game? Streets, clubs?
Also any resources you could point to that would help.
I've been RP aware for years, read the side bar, lot of roissy stuff and rollo content, Rian stone, etc. Yet I've never applied it in my daily life. I still have lots to read, but in the meantime I should gain experience.
I'm at that stage right now, and wanna get an idea of how it looks like. I've never sought out women to game and escalate sexually. Am I just supposed to go out and approach any girl I find attractive? I can't see myself doing that. I've only ever had platonic friendships that I turned into romantic relationships by formally asking them out, never romantic/sexual from the get go.
Edit: I remember Rollo talking about the transition from beta to red pill being really tough, especially the internal guilt and from friends/family. What was the concept called again? I should look that over.
Kloi 3w ago
Learn to hold a casual conversation with a stranger with no underlying motive. If you can't talk to some random for a few minutes on the street, you'll never be able to talk your way into pussy.
Go ask a stranger how their day is going. Ask the cashier if they've got any fun plans this weekend. Strike up conversation with the old timer in the sauna.
brazilianxof 3w ago
The lack of answers here shows the truth: Most guys rather waste their times in Memes bashing girls (uhhh mean wimen) than go and face their own issues.
Join group activities. The younger you are (aka the sooner you do it) less ackwars will be. But whatever. My uncle got divorced at 60 and went to a trip trough Europe staying in Hostels...
Anyways. Nothing will happen inside your house.
I see this way: what is your type? Fit: Go crossfit, beach tennis, hyrox, those stuff..
Party: Party....
Nerds: Same logic.
"Cult": i don't know, not my type, but i think you can find.
Don't forget to put YOUR OWN PREFERENCEs in the center before choosing the place. Unless you are a full logic psychopath (which could be helpfull depending on the situation), you would be torturing yourself.
You can also go to those festivals/music events with thouse of people that "made" for approching. I find it boring. But... Like raves or so.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 3w ago
Stop that.
I always found it best to apply effort only to the women who showed interest, and not to waste my time and effort trying to convert the uninterested.
I'm sure by now you've read a lot about indicators of interest and also indicators of disinterest. Fucking apply that shit.
See a cute chick smile at you in a grocery store? Say "hi, I'm _____".
Do this anywhere and everywhere that won't fuck up your life, such as a job you care about or a gym you care about.
And brace yourself for rejection. Being rejected more often than not is just the male experience.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3w ago
WAY too many men don't improve specifically because of this
Of every guy I've coached who still has the same problems for a few years it was specifically because they never think anything positive about themselves and reject every piece of objective information presented to them
HighBodyCountVirgin 3w ago
So true, I've been doing that
But what are some practical situations I can put myself in to meet women? I can't just have my grocery store be the spot. And I read that night game like in clubs these days is not worth it.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 3w ago
Anywhere and everywhere. If a woman seems interested, talk to her.
Not the spot, but definitely a spot.
GeorgeIII 1 3w ago
I’m assuming you are already finished with school and uni.
The best places as an adult for me have been social sports leagues and social/ballroom dance lessons and events.
Advantages include: selection bias toward fitter chicks (and men too), once-a-week schedule so you can build continuity with people (again both men and women), and the fact that you are doing something benefiting you long term (getting fit, learning to dance).
I’ve had limited success at random Meetup events, music festivals, and on vacations.
OP, how is your social circle? As in, other men. Do you have at least a few guy friends who are reasonably non-blue pill? If not, start there. This will help you build social skills in general. Plus, if all the guys at a particular venue already know you, you gain social credibility with the girls too.