I love this question!

So here's a hearty dose of honesty from an older guy:

Nostalgia will always be there. I think about my single days in my 20's in Miami. I miss the excitement, simplicity and freedom.

Watching my daughter grow up I miss when she was a toddler and would waddle up to me and say "Daddy, hold you"? That meant she wanted me to pick her up and snuggle. She used to greet me at the door she would jump and squeak that I was home. It would make me tear up.

I miss my ex that would get wild and we would have sex in public somewhere.

We tend to see our past with rose colored glasses. This makes sense doesn't it? Why hold onto the rest of the picture?

So I forget in my 20's I was really lonely and not as successful with women or even assertive with anyone.

When my daughter was a toddler I was married to a BPD woman and my job in aerospace beat me up and overworked me.

The ex I was so fond of lived 4 hours away and it was difficult to see her and painful when she left.

We forget about this because of those sweet moments. The ones that are forever etched in our memory. It's a little glimpse of heaven right in that moment and who doesn't appreciate that?

I've said this before, but it's worth repeating: When you share a moment with someone, your life story and timeline intersects with theirs. That something really awesome that no one can take away. It's eternal. Even with any sort of setback or loss, that memory still exists and that moment is very real. Celebrate it.

Now this can be tricky. We have to celebrate, but also make room and time for new awesome memories. People that live in the past are depressed. Live in the now.

There are some things that you can do that might help. A few of the exes I love I still talk to every once in a while. It's not digging through the trash if you can move on and stay on friendly terms.

You can celebrate the strengths and time you have with your current relationships. And finally you can practice gratitude. Write out a quick story of the joy someone brought you or why they made you happy.

Open your eyes to the abundance you have and celebrate the past by treasuring it. You have countless more moments of happiness to experience! Go out and experience them.

Was she your first serious relationship? Did you actually love this girl? Have you actually loved any woman since? Why'd you split? Who did the splitting? What do you mean by miss her?

You don't have to actually answer any of those out loud but answering that line of thinking might help you understand your emotions towards her better.

For me, I'll always hold a soft spot in my heart for any woman I've been dumb enough to fall in love with. Even the toxic ones, who did me bogus in the end. Why?

I don't know why and I forgot who wrote it but I agree with the statement men love unconditionally. I bonded with these women, I let half of them destroy me. Of course I'm always going to have a feeling of intimacy with these girls. That being said I'm no fool.

There is no line of thought that leads me to, we could maybe work it out. There’s no actually missing them or what we had. I made what we had special. There's just this odd feeling of empathy towards what for all extensive purpose is no existent in my life.

You’ll think of her less and less as time goes on. You’ll still think back on her from time to time for a long time. Or until you find a better relationship.

The reason is because the chemical highs you get from an LTR are substantial.

Women do this all the time! My ex this, my ex that. Question is, would you ever go back to your ex if you could? Are you trying to pick up with these women where you left off from your ex? If so, then you aren't ready for another relationship yet. You have more healing to do.

You will never find another girl like her. People are different. They have their own personalities, experiences, traumas, and quirks. Which is why you can't compare other women to her. What you need to ask yourself is if these other women you're dating are meeting your standards. If not, then you're not dating the right women.

Yes, eventually the feeling does go away. You will look back and appreciate the good times you had, and learn the lessons from the bad. You have to understand that your world revolves around you, and not your ex. It sounds like you're just getting by in your present stagnation. Eventually, you will have to let go of the past, and look toward the future if you want to continue to grow and succeed.

The whole point of having positive and constructive experiences is to have memories you can go back to for inspiration and comfort and not like open wounds you need to heal, which can lead to regret and maybe learning something from it.

Maybe it will never go away, maybe it shouldn't go away. Think of the alternatives to a great memory: a shitty memory of pain and unpleasantness or total indifference.

I have a 9 year old relationship that ended up in a divorce and the woman's last words and thoughts towards me won't ever be nice,ever. Women hold on to resentment because it is the easy way. The ogre-woman doesn't deserve to be remembered anyways.

I have a girl I dated for 3-4 months, fucked like rabbits everytime we met, she showered me with gifts and was submissive as hell, I remember it all the time with lust and joy.

The positive experiences can be just as constructive and a learning experience as a negative one, I choose the positive one cause I got no time and space for pettiness.

This is a severe case of chronic oneities. Abundance mindset and understanding that awalt may help to treat this.