Why don't you talk to people in real life and schedule some dates? Try living outside of the digital world..

Therapy could be great, but it could also be wasted time.

First things first: what would you want to achieve with therapy? You should have a clear goal (even if, later, once it's reached, you set a new goal). Going to therapy just to talk about life will hardly make an impact.

If you have a goal in mind, go look for a therapist. Look for recommendations - there are many therapists out there, and not many good ones. Ask many questions - what kind of approach they use, for how long have they been practicing, and whatever else you can imagine.

Even if you find someone competent, they might just not be a good fit. Don't be afraid to look for a new one. Look for someone who works for you. Some people prefer an older therapist - experience and all -, but there could be a generational gap. Some prefer men, others prefer women. Find what works for you.

At the end of the day, therapy is not magic. You won't get better just because you've attended X ammount of sessions. A good therapist will have you face the things you might not want to face - and then either get rid of them or learn how to live with them. Yes, you could very well do this by yourself, but it will most likely take longer, and you'll be prone to bullshit yourself to not face the hard truths. So, a good therapist could save you a lot of time. But you have to put in the work; just showing up will be useless.

Yes

Just book the appointment, dude. Why do you need our approval? Thinking about it is reason enough to go and have a chat, just saying.

I think therapy might help if it serves to stimulate your mind into making changes, otherwise it is just paying some overeducated (very probably liberal) jerk to comment on your shortcomings (like we don't all have them) and tell you what to think. If you click with the guy and or the program, it could really help but if not at worst it could be paying someone with a liberal establishment blue pill as hell point of view to patronise and try and indoctrinate you.

I would definitely research the therapy thing before signing up. There is probably a book on that type of therapy you can buy and read to see if you will like it.

You can use a lot of these techniques on yourself if you have motivation -you could do CBT on yourself- but sometimes an intervention by another person adds the human element and that can really help start change.

I would say no.

The fact that you are asking this question is a sign of progress, but ultimately, I have come to the conclusion that therapy is quite gynocentric and self serving. You are very likely to get bad advice, or even 'a diagnosis'. I can't tell you the number of people that I have met who have been set back years by a 'diagnosis'. You have to remember that that Therapy industrial complex basically makes its living of handing out diagnosis.

You would be far better off simply spending the time, effort and money on developing friendships and networks with other like minded men. You would probably get more value out of volunteering to help other mens groups, such as suicide prevention, esp aimed at high risk mens cohorts.

There are no easy solutions . Most people go to a therapist looking for an easy solution - they want someone to hand them 'the answer'. They are invariably disappointed.

I tried therapy multiple times and found no value, but I went to a program through the VA called DBT intensive program and that was the only therapy that helped me. They did actual skill building and forced me to work on things I dont want to do and held me accountable if I didnt do it

No; therapy is for pussies.

I think in another comment you mentioned you are 5”5. While that’s not going to kill you; I can see from that how you’ve got some difficulties with the ladies. To clarify: just bc you’re a short king doesn’t mean you can’t get bitches. Plenty of stories ab 5”something dudes that are cool as fuck n get hella pussy. You will however, have to put in a lot more work than the standard 6”2 chad and that’s just how it is.

You say you’ve got a good build of muscle; maybe try cutting to 10-12% bf. Beyond that there’s plenty of things you can do to increase your smv. For starters: good haircut (clean business professional cut, with tapered sides (2 or less) and maybe a fade. Dress edgy: t shirts that compliment your muscles, pants that compliment your figure (think lululemon abcs slimfit; birddogs shorts (4-5in inseam). Good colognes (LV, Hermes, etc). Good hygiene (duh). Extra pro tip: new balance sneakers and Nike air forces give you ~an extra inch. Rock those.

Get those bases covered and overall make sure you look presentable on a day to day basis.

Next: charisma. You develop this overtime by becoming more social and outgoing. Get friends - like minded bros (ideally ones that get bitches). Go out more and just see how ppl interact w each other. Having a solid group of friends to hit the bars with automatically gives you a bit of credibility plus extra confidence(you shoot a shot w a chick; she turns you down; you can laugh ab it w the guys). Smile, laugh, develop a dope personality. Do this well enough and you can become a “life of the party” type of guy. It’s that inner confidence that gets you bitches.

Ppl say a lot you’re not gonna find wifey in the bar/club. And that’s true but rn you don’t need wifey; you just need some bitches. Go to BARS not clubs. I am 5”8 I’ve still got a slight advantage but it’s harder for me to pull in a club than in a bar. In a bar there’s still noise but you can still have convos. Go around and talk to chicks. It’s really a trial n error thing; you’ll see what kinds of approaches get good results vs the ones that don’t. The bar is a great place bc ppl go there literally to meet other ppl.

Here's your therapy. That'll be $100.

It's great that you've taken significant steps towards improving your mental well-being and overall outlook. You've already made positive changes like reducing social media, eliminating dating apps, cutting back on porn, meditating, and preparing for high-paying job interviews. Here are some additional strategies that might help you manage those lingering feelings of jealousy and resentment:

Understanding and Addressing Jealousy

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings: Recognize that jealousy is a natural human emotion. Instead of suppressing it, try to understand why you feel this way. It could stem from deeper insecurities or past experiences.

2. Reframe Your Thoughts: When you see a couple and start feeling jealous, try to reframe your thoughts. Instead of focusing on what you don't have, appreciate what you do have and remind yourself of your own journey and goals.

3. Practice Gratitude: Cultivating a gratitude practice can shift your focus from what you lack to what you have. Every day, write down a few things you are grateful for. This can help you maintain a positive outlook.

Developing Healthy Habits

1. Physical Activity: Regular exercise can be a great outlet for stress and negative emotions. It also boosts endorphins, which can improve your mood.

2. Social Connections: Strengthen your relationships with friends and family. Building a supportive network can help you feel more secure and less alone.

3. New Hobbies and Interests: Engage in activities that bring you joy and satisfaction. Finding a passion or hobby can be incredibly fulfilling and can distract you from negative thoughts.

Professional Help

1. Therapy: While you might be skeptical about therapy, it can be incredibly beneficial. A therapist can help you explore the root causes of your jealousy and resentment and develop strategies to cope with these feelings. Therapy isn't just about someone reading from a book; it's about personalized guidance and support.

2. Support Groups: Sometimes, sharing your experiences with others who understand can be very helpful. Look for support groups where people share similar struggles and provide mutual support.

Mindfulness and Self-Compassion

1. Mindfulness Practices: Continue with meditation and try incorporating mindfulness exercises into your daily routine. Mindfulness can help you stay present and reduce the impact of negative thoughts.

2. Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself. Acknowledge your efforts and progress, and don't be too hard on yourself for experiencing setbacks. Everyone has moments of struggle, and it's important to treat yourself with the same compassion you would offer a friend.

Action Plan

1. Set Clear Goals: Continue focusing on your career and personal development goals. Having a clear direction can help you stay motivated and reduce the impact of negative emotions.

2. Monitor Progress: Keep track of your progress, both in your career and in your personal growth. Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small they may seem.

3. Seek Feedback: If you're unsure about therapy, consider a few trial sessions with different therapists to find one who resonates with you. You might be surprised at how beneficial it can be.

Remember, overcoming jealousy and resentment is a process. It's okay to seek help and take things one step at a time. Your efforts so far are commendable, and with continued dedication, you can achieve a healthier and more fulfilling mindset.