This basically comes down to integrity. Do you want to do something that you said you would or not do it because she fucked you over? That's for you to decide.

you owe her money, dont be a bitch and pay your debt.

keep your word, pay your fucking debt.

I think it's good practice to her. how much is it worth to never have to talk to her again?

Geez. I cannot believe all the comments here. Why would there even be anything to discuss?

Man the fuck up you whining pussy and pay your debt. This is pathetic. Her text isn't even as disrespectful as I would get if you wouldn't come up with the money all by yourself when we made such an agreement.

You borrowed money and now you owe. Simple as that. I can't find the connection to her fucking your friend afterwards. That's just strawmen excuses. After your relationship has ended she is free to swallow any cum she wants to. Just because you are hurt is no reason to not stick to your word and honour your integrity.

You know why she doesn't respect you? BECAUSE YOU DON'T KEEP YOUR PROMISES.

She fucked your friend. That's a low-rent, low-class, whorish thing to do. Tell her to go fuck herself.

edit: to be totally honest, I'm in a similar situation to you with an ex-girlfriend who I lived with. She was so shitty to me, that I was considering not returning her deposit. However, on some level it is about being a man and giving your word. I might be swayed by the other replies in this thread to repay her.

From my view, since the relationship ended. . . theres no reason for you to be attached to paying for it after. Just because you gave your word to your EX doesn't mean you have to follow through on it. That word of loyalty is great but don't give it to people your not going to be affilated with in the future. She is your ex after all. I know a close friend thats been with his GF and she bought a house and my friend helped put down a big chunk for the down payment and after they broke up he didn't ask for it back.

You've given me 3 reasons why you shouldn't pay her

1. You got talked into it even though you didn't have any money
2. She fucked one of your friends
3. She's asking in a disrespectful tone

but you've given me 2 reasons why you should pay her

1. You gave her your word
2. she won't stop asking for the money.

3 beats 2 .. tell her to kick rocks

I would repay a male friend if we had a falling out, because I said I would and I don't take my word lightly. Just repay and be done with it.

she doesn't deserve the money I owe her

You owe her money, be an adult about it.

Plus 100$ is still quite a bit of money.

I think you're being cheap and I do not strive to be a cheap man, at least not towards others. Pay it and move on, anything else are actions done by a man you don't want to associated with.

Go Dark Triad and don't pay. Fuck her, she's your past.

Stay true to your word. You said you will pay it back, then you do it. But don't fucking give it to this friend! If she wants her money, she has to come over personally.

Alternatively, tell her she should have calculated that before she fucked your friend. Now you let her cost such behaviour 100 bucks.

i think it is a tough question.. on one hand, you gave the bitch your word. But on the other, she's a disrespectful piece of shit.

She talked you into going, that means it was your decision, right? You could have refused.

If she fucked someone else weeks after breaking up with you, I can see why that hurts but do you honestly think you should have any say in who she fucks?

What can you learn from this? Be more selective about what you choose to spend money on and don't let people talk you into spending more than you would like. I used to wash dishes ~10 hours in a row to earn $100 so I know it hurts to waste that much. You just have to decide what your values are and stick by them. If you honestly believe it's right not to pay her back then okay, but stick by it and don't try to weasel.

Personally I think it would be dishonest after you apparently promised her twice (before and after) to pay.

Character is something you either have or don't have. I don't think you can show poor character now while thinking you'll have high character later.

Being a college student I had close to nothing in my bank account, and attempted to use that as an excuse to get out of it, but she offered to pay for the entire thing if paid her back my half.

By the way, this is why you shouldn't use excuses like "I don't have the time" or "I can't afford to" when they're not true. People will always argue about logistics.

You think of 100$ as a lot of money? You'll never be rich.

I would tell her she should consider it 'whore tax' for fucking another guy while you two were dating. You didn't agree to pay her back in writing, so Judge Judy wouldn't even make you pay up.

Calling it a whore tax will let her know exactly where you stand with her and she will drop it. This girl doesn't deserve one more second of your time, so lose her contact info already. Why would you even entertain the idea?

Or you can offer to pay it back to her $20 at a time, in exchange for her services. Do you think this is too harsh? She cheated on you and has the nerve to ask you for money. That is harsh, man. Fuck her and her $100. You don't owe her your time or your money and you need to stand up for yourself and let her know that.

Best of luck.

These are my favorite types of questions because they have such an easy answer. Just text her back with

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and be done with her. If she pushes it just maintain frame and be prepared for the backlash. If she brings up that you said you would just say you changed your mind.

If you told her you'd pay her back, do it.

Throw in an extra $20 as a gift/apology for being late on it.

This has nothing to do with her. It has to do with you.