as someone who never paid attention to girls until I was well out of college, being the typical asian that only focus on academic studies, it occurred to me that I simply don't know where to meet girls and none of few I met has shown me sexual interest.
As I spent some time now getting in shape I would like to try again. However; other than online dating sites I don't know where to find single women. I've been single all my life, and I swallowed the red pill years ago I wish things would change.
Archwinger 11y ago
Meet girls absolutely everywhere. And don't just meet girls. Meet people in general.
Odds are that you studied hard in school at the expense of developing a strong social network or very good social skills. But if you want to have sex with women, you need to be a man. A valuable man worthy of fucking. Real men aren't afraid of initiating conversations with strangers and aren't socially awkward when they do it.
But you are, right? And there's nothing you can read here, on The Red Pill, that's going to fix that for you. You need to make yourself talk to ten complete strangers every day. (10's just a suggested number. If you have the opportunity to talk to more, go for it. If you have shit to do for work and only see 8 people all day, don't kill yourself over it.)
Whoever. Talk to some guy at the gym about an exercise you see him doing that you'd like to learn more about (in between sets -- don't be that guy), or talk to some gym guys about their protein shakes, or diet, or football, or that Lebron joker who makes a dramatic production every time he changes teams. Talk to a random girl at your local coffee shop about what she ordered or what she's reading, or just about anything that comes to mind. Talk to people on the street. You'll never see 99.999999 percent of these people again, so it doesn't fucking matter.
It's going to suck. It's going to be embarrassing. It's going to be socially awkward. You're going to fumble over words and say stupid shit. You're going to have uncomfortable lulls in conversations until you're less boring and don't have to force things due to having nothing interesting to talk about. This may go on for months. But each time you have an uncomfortable and awkward moment of embarrassment, you grow stronger. It affects you less. You realize that some stranger thinking a little less of you due to poor social skills doesn't actually matter. You get more confident. You start talking naturally and organically about things with people because you don't care what they think and aren't worried about rejection any more. You get good at talking to people.
Then you walk up to girls all over the place and just talk, like a normal person, about normal person things. Smile, be nice, tease her a little if the conversation goes that way, let the conversation go subtly toward sexual/dating/relationship topics if it goes that way, touch her a little bit if things go that way and read her reaction, and depending on where you are and the time of day, maybe use those balls of yours and set a date with a girl.
A lot of guys think asking a girl for her number is a waste of time. 90% of women flake on you at that point and never return your calls or texts. And asking a girl on an official date isn't much better. But if you make it known that you're going to be at location X at time Y with some friends and invite her to come hang out with you, and she shows up and you're the center of attention of your now-large social network, you'll probably get laid that night if she's down.
HandsomeXan 11y ago
Everywhere, as long as you're not creepy about it.
Say something random to random girls at random places. If they seem to maybe want to keep talking to you, then continue talking and eventually ask her number.
You got nothing to lose.
edit: Hint - They're more likely to be receptive if you look good. Smell good and wear well-fitted clothes all the time. Work out. Every. Fucking. Day.
ioncehadsexinapool 11y ago
I agree. Everything humanity has ever done boils down to mating. If she's into it, you should be able to continue. If she's not, next her. A big mistake that i've made is that you can't emotionally invest yourself unless she already has.
[deleted] 11y ago
Don't work out every day. It's not efficient and you will burn out.
Confluenced 11y ago
you can exercise everyday, I lift 3-4 days a week, run 1-2, and surf/play beach volley. The key is changing it up.
[deleted] 11y ago
You can, but most people will not be able to keep up with that, especially if they're not already in pretty good shape.
El_Shakiel 11y ago
Everybody can fit a 30' routine in their daily... routine (?). Also, if you dont want to lift and run forever, try the Lafaye Method. Shit is dope.
[deleted] 11y ago
Yeah you can fit it in, but there's no need to, just lift 3-5 days a week and do a couple rounds of cardio on off days if you want
TheIslander829 11y ago
The mall.
kami_kakushi 11y ago
wishing doesnt work, i tested it many times. i wished for a millions dollars, and i didnt get it, i wished for a better job, but i didnt get it, i wished for peace on earth as hard as i could, but still .... nothing.
you got to ask women out.
dont wait for them to show you interest. would you wait for a company to show interest in you before applying for a job? of course not. women are the same, you got to talk to them and make them interested in you, and ask them out
El_Shakiel 11y ago
This is brilliant comment. If I had internet gold, you'd have it.
[deleted] 11y ago
Coffee shops, parks, bars, etc. they're all over man, you just have to think logically about where to look.
Mengs87 11y ago
The internet is the LAST place you should ever look. Don't bother - think of it as the Sears of dating. Other venues are Nordstroms in comparison.
Red_Work 11y ago
Literally everywhere. There are women everywhere
raceAround126 11y ago
General answer: Everywhere.
Best practice: I recommend speed dating. I wouldn't get your hopes up, the girls don't put out (generally). But I've been three times now and it's a great way to just explore what different personalities are like and it's perfect for being able to read peoples' tells quickly, as in whether someone is interested in you or not. And it's great fun practicing, watching the attitudes change when you fuck up your game. Do it, it's fun! The last time I went, I put in zero effort into my appearance. I showed up in a Behemoth shirt with a massive satanic logo on the front and didn't even dry my hair. I got the most matches out of anyone that night! Go figure!
And yes, there are some landwhales. But not all of them are!
Next, it depends what you like doing yourself. I see people here all the time recommending you go sit in a book store or a coffee shop. Motherfucker, it's 2014... nobody buys books anymore! Not unless it's on a kindle or an eBook. Not even LONDON has many book stores left, other than crusty dusty places that don't serve coffee.
But, I've had some luck making myself available for various social events. Either by through studying, taking a course, or night classes, or just plain going out.
Club girls get a bad rep and sure the grand majority are easy. But it depends on the clubs you go to. I like going to electronica and techno clubs. The girls there are pretty easy and into the slightly freaky stuff. Plus they're shit at hiding their tells.
I also like metal clubs and gigs. It's the music I'm into, I stand a better chance of meeting a girl with at least some similar interests for when I want someone besides to fuck.
Opposite of that, get a wingman, hit the town!
Online dating is bollocks!