Thank you for your reply. I thought he did and he explicitly said it to me one night. But I don't think his actions of seeing another woman and then dropping in to mine on his way home conveys that... Is it the kind of question I can outright ask or will it be viewed as a shit test and deflected? Thank you again.

Thank you for replying. I completely understand what you're saying. 

Would you lose respect for a plate who understands she is just that, but just wants honesty in return? Have you ever met any women that TRP doesn't really work for? 

When he first came across TRP from the Men's Rights sub, he was asking me if I'd heard of it or not and he mentioned a few of the main principles. I asked what his thoughts about it were and he said he thinks it only works on stupid women blah blah. This was about two months ago. I've read a lot of the sidebar posts and top posts to try to improve my understanding of TRP, and I can see how it works for self-improvement but I would be lying if I said it didn't upset me that that's how he feels about me. 

Thanks for your thoughts. If someone asked you straight up if you respected them, would you take it as a shit test and deflect the question? I do plan on seeing him again (if he hasn't replaced me yet) to see how the vibe between us is. Thanks again!

I dwelled on it for two days before I messaged him asking if I could see him a day earlier than we arranged. He said he couldn't make it that night and also couldn't make the night we originally agreed. He basically told me to spit it out over text so I did in a completely rational way - not accusatorial, completely understanding that he wants to see others, but I just want honesty.

He admitted he saw someone and because she was "so disappointing" and was in my part of town, he messaged to see if I was free. So it's not exactly that I feel like he's cheated on me, but literally less than 24 hours beforehand he told me that I was "his only bitch" (terms I brought up so I don't find that disrespectful).

I have had a look on the RPW sub, and I don't think that community is very accepting of women who just want something casual (which I genuinely do at this point). I definitely do not want to try and turn this into an LTR, he got out of a relationship at the start of the year and is obviously working on himself (and I need to do the same), but he is a great person and I really don't want to lose his company.

I have been reading up on dread game, shit tests etc, so I guess I have no choice but to see how things go.

Thank you for both replies, I really appreciate the insight!

Thanks for the reply. It's good to see that you're able to distinguish between your plates like that, because I just don't want him to have swallowed the red pill and then just immediately think I'm now the devil. I admit that I need to lose some KGs, but he tells me how attracted he is to me everytime I see him, but now I want to do it for me to become the best version of myself I can be. And yes, I genuinely want to understand The Red Pill and have been researching it before immediately slamming it like I've seen a lot of people do. Thanks again!

Thanks for your reply.

I'm referring to myself as a plate because I have been reading a lot of TRP literature and I wanted to try and illicit the best advice possible from the community. It was also to show that I'm under no illusion as to my position in his life.

I can honestly say that I'm not a bitchy person. Of course things/people annoy me from time-to-time, but I try not to dwell on it and am definitely an optimist. I am not self-entitled, I'm currently completing tertiary education and I have a huge range of interests that keeps me busy.

I was raised in a house with just my Father and younger Brother, and maintain a good relationship with both, so I don't have any kind of "Daddy issues". 

Over the last year I decided to be more proactive when it came to men because due to insecurities, I'd had sex less than 5 times in my whole life. Obviously this isn't a bad thing, but then I started getting close to a male friend and when he was asking me what I was into and favourite things to do, I just had absolutely no idea so I wanted to find these things out. I had a few FWB-type flings over this time until I met this man. 

My physique is the main thing I need to improve and I know this, but every single time I've seen him, he has told me how attracted he is to me and asked me if I knew how sexy I was etc. He thinks I'm fishing for compliments when I say that I'm none of these things, but that's genuinely how I feel and one of the reasons I am the person I am today. 

I'm sorry for picking your post reply to vent on - this thread has helped me immensely in getting some much needed perspective, and it has helped me writing things down. 

Thank you again for your advice, I will work on myself to prove that I am someone that deserves respect.

Thanks heaps for your insights. It's good to know that even though it's just sex, there is at least a level of respect. Thanks!

Thank you for bringing that term to my attention, I just went and read what Tomassi says on the subject. I guess it's something I need to be aware of, but because of my upbringing I have no intention of reproducing and I have no desire at all to be married. So I know I'd rather be happy with my own company than have some poor BB just for the sake of fitting into society's idea of "settling down".

When I told him that he's ruined me for future guys, I meant sexually since he's the only person I've been with that has been able to give me PIV orgasms and he knows this. I know things don't last forever, but he has definitely opened my eyes sexually.

Cheers.