Are you a Bad Man? Are you a cheater? An abuser? A murderer? A gangbanger? A dirty drug dealer, a deadbeat father with half a dozen baby mamas, a callous player, a narcissist, a sociopath/psychopath, in short, a man who only contributes to the societal decline we are witnessing even now? Then I have some good news for you: the Great Blue Pill Lie of "Just be yourself", which does not work for Good Men and has lead countless numbers of them to their destruction, works for you. That's right, you can be yourself and women will flock to you. You can be your thuggish, criminal, unreliable, abusive, cheating self and they will leap into your bed in droves while rejecting Good Men.
You also don't have to do any of the other schlock that women tell Good Men: "You have to work on yourself. Focus on your career. Get to the gym, get fit, join clubs and activities, develop a fashion sense, learn to respect women, realize that you're not entitled to jack shit from women (while of course we're entitled to you paying for dates, tee-hee), and do [ever-expanding laundry list of demands, requirements, and criteria] before we'll even consider looking in your direction. Oh yeah, and don't expect that we'll actually be attracted to you even if you do all that." Nope, you don't have to do any of that, Mr. Bad Man. You do you and you're drowning in female affection. Once you're done with the current crop of women, you move on to younger, hotter ones while your ex-plates go on to ruin and destroy the lives of the men they end up marrying.
Of course, chances are you already know all of this, consciously or unconsciously. You've probably been shaking your head and chuckling as you watched Good Men spend inordinate amounts of time, energy, and money on expensive dates, gym memberships, soul-sucking careers, and fancy clothes, all in the vain hope of getting a score in the constantly moving goalposts of female affection. Meanwhile you don't even have to try to score--those same goalposts come to you. In a rare moment of kindness, you may have even tried to tell this to some of the Good Man you knew, but you inevitably found that the Blue Pill conditioning which has been programmed into them for their entire lives was far too tough for any one man's words to break. And you thought to yourself, "Oh well, maybe they'll learn it themselves someday" and went back to fucking your latest plate. Well, now they're finally figuring it out, Mr. Bad Man. And a lot of them are really kicking themselves for not listening to you back then.
Dear women: This is the world that you have created with the power that you have seized over the sexual marketplace. It is not Good Men's responsibility to fix it, and they don't have the power to anyway. If enough of you collectively decided to stop choosing Bad Men, then it would make a difference. The power and responsibility to fix it lies solely with you. And that's assuming you even see a problem with the way things are--from what I've seen, you don't care. You don't care that Good Men are struggling while Bad Men are thriving. You don't care that the institution of marriage is rotting, you don't care that the number of broken families are higher than they've ever been, and you don't care that society will crumble if this continues. So don't expect Good Men to care about your struggles either. You had your chance to show that you value and appreciate them, and you rejected them for Bad Men. You made your bed, now lie in it.
[deleted] 3y ago
It’s so women can tell the real alphas from pretend alphas
empatheticapathetic 3y ago
Be yourself isn’t supposed to work for men. It’s for women to see who you actually are, alpha or beta.
[deleted] 3y ago
Be yourself is the advice women receive. After all women get plenty of attention by default.
This is like how by becoming things they like they hope men like them too.
The advice works for them so it should for you too.
Aubrey_D_Graham 3y ago
This is female solipsism. Just how it is.
spoderman616 3y ago
Given a choice, I'd still be the good man. Women will leave me alone for it right? Atleast until I start making bank?
Women are going for the bad men? you go gurrll!!! Feminism and empowerment (or whatever new crap they have). People will eventually get what's coming to them. I don't really care when it happens - just that I shouldn't have to deal with someone else's shit.
It boils down to one question: What do you want from life? The answers range from sex, money, power and various other things including combinations of the listed. However there comes a time, after certain experiences, that all these lose value in your eyes - all you want to be able to do is breathe calmly with a serene mind, have mental stability and peace.
And that is why I will be a good man - because he will give me those things. Nothing else matters.
imapotato99 3y ago
Whoa, Whoa, WHOA!
I spend that money on my gym membership because I love looking at MY OWN ASS in the mirror
Thank YOU very much
All the rest, you right...
But now I am the fake Beta Bux...I get on a hook, and jump in the lake, they see me as bait but after 3 months when they want me to spend money on them, commit and get that ATM card called my wallet, I tell them a heart wrenching story about losing my job and they are gone, and I miraculously kept my job
[deleted] 3y ago
Beta Game.
ogrilla99 Mod 3y ago
Actually works better than alpha game on post-25-30 year old women who are desperately looking for a "good guy" to settle with.
Alpha game is fun to run on young women because they're still not too damaged (plus beta game doesn't work on them anyway). But post-30s still chasing bad boys and flashy guys usually have a shit ton of baggage and emotional trauma you will inevitably have to deal with.
Meanwhile, beta game filters those women out, and attracts the ones who are still hot but have some modicum of sanity that keeps you from having to wonder if they're going to burn your house down tonight. Maximizes the pleasure vs pain balance of any relationship :-)
Well played, Mr. Potato99!
[deleted] 3y ago
yep
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[deleted] 3y ago
lighten up, Francis.
houseoftolstoy Mod 3y ago
"Just be yourself" is terrible advice to give men for several reasons.
1) It assumes that every man by default has the personality that will be immediately attractive off to a woman or women in general. Some men can be a bit initially awkward, and not being able to get a good foot in the door might make dating a major struggle when he otherwise would be fine for a relationship. Perhaps that is a commentary on how many women set their criteria for men based on poor filters (being good at sparking initial attraction is not the same thing as being good for a stable relationship), but that does not change the fact that "being himself" can mean failure at getting a relationship because he has a hard time with the initial phases.
2) It operates on the "there's someone for everyone" belief. No one is guaranteed to find a long term relationship, or any relationship at all. This pairs with reason 1, where those that tout this advice may admit that a man is not guaranteed to find success with just any woman, they believe that the right woman must be out there. You just have not found her yet.
3) Depending on the age of a man, many women are not going to appreciate a man who is consistent and reliable but also "boring." A man in his early 20s who would love to have a family and not waste his time in a party phase is going to find a lot of disappointment if he thinks that there are women his age who are going give him the time of day when they have been taught that such a man should not be appreciated when she is also in her 20s but rather that she should "experience life" in the form of a promiscuous lifestyle. Not that such a man should wait for a woman to be "done with those days," but he will have a hard time just "being himself" when he finds out that he is playing a suckers game when he is really not doing anything wrong.
4) You as yourself just might not be attractive to women in general. You might need to change certain aspects about yourself, and that is not necessarily a bad thing. Sure, you do not want to present a false personality or be inauthentic with who you are, but there might be something that could be improved about yourself. Perhaps you should have better physical fitness. Perhaps you should be more assertive. Perhaps you need to work out some other personal flaws. This is not to say that you should fix these things to attract a woman, but rather that complacency with who you are should be an excuse to be content with mediocrity.
I just find the advice "be yourself" to be lazy and ineffective advice. How do you know that someone is not already "being themselves" while they are struggling to attract a woman? You cannot know for sure why someone is having difficulties, and it often just leads to a bad implementation of the advice. Instead, it is better to be specific with someone, even if it means delivering some blunt truths.
SheerSocialSuicide 3y ago
"Be yourself" means be who you were brought up as.
So unless you were brought up without people telling you to be a simp, and you actually have some balls on you, it's a disaster.
Dls95405 3y ago
Guys, "be yourself" is what women say when you actually ARE being yourself but she's not getting the feels and validation and attention she wants.
silly_birb 3y ago
I think it's similar to christian religion.
Since after death people have another life they do not fear wasting time.
For women marriage is the next life "the other chance" and if they cheat with a drug dealer just rinse and repeat after a divorce (free money, so win-win situation)
smokecheck1976 3y ago
You can be whatever you want. Good, bad, indifferent. Have other interesting things to do. Treat every woman as if she is nothing more than an option or maybe that she amuses you. Women tend to want the things they think they can't have, just like men.