Random nuggets of gold and shit. (This is also a reference on how to be Anti-fragile. If you are not familiar with the term give the book—or audio book—a chance. Written by Nassim Taleb, it really is excellent supplemental reading to TRP and only reaffirms everything I’ve learned in life and from TRP and also makes you realize how high your waders have to be to navigate through the bull shit we call “modernity.”)
Quote from Louis CK: A fifty-five year old garbage man is a million times smarter than a twenty-eight year old with three PhDs.
What he’s saying is that experience, wisdom, and maturity counts over theory and by that he means it’s more effective and beneficial to your life.
Some data:
Age bracket of women I was in relationships with: 18 to 55
(The fifty five years olds were hot, showing little signs of age)
Status over twenty year time frame: single
Locales: Los Angeles, San Diego, Las Vegas
About half to two thirds were married or had a boyfriend and many were strippers which probably skews the study but it will still benefit mankind.
I’ve carefully—even thoughtfully—poured over the prerequisite reading for TRP and followed Chateau Heartiste for several years now and I would say on the whole that Red Pill theory applies to ninety percent or more of the situations I have observed or been a part of.
I avoid calling it truth because that changes from person to person but it’s an excellent strategy and a way to see the world that could save you a lot of money on divorce, alimony and child support.
First off, let’ face it. for many of us there is a part of our soul or personality that wants to be a knight, a hero, or some gallant rescuer of womankind that believes in a little romance.
Fortunately TRP is the ultimate corrective to that.
I’d be lying if I said at one time I did not believe in soul mates, true love and romance. I can also say that life experience has mercilessly beat that nonsense out of me.
I’ve slipped into “its you and me baby” beta-ness only to be left alone on Beta Island and had to find my way back to civilization. Every time I learned more about the female species at the cost of debilitating depression and career.
Fall down seven times, stand up eight— so the saying goes.
Women across the board are the same regardless of age until menopause and by that I mean TRP applies. I’ve found that with younger women you have to be a bit harder and with older ones more of a gentleman but when the shades of the bedchamber are pulled it’s all the same.
Through the generations I would say that now is the absolute worst time for dating and that’s going back to the eighties for me. Social media has created a nightmare of how younger women behave. This is in part economic and part social. In the past you just met a cool chick through a social circle or at work and you asked her out. There was no TRP or seduction forum because it wasn’t necessary. You just asked her out. It was fun and easy. Now, not so much. The amount of frustrated people under 35 that I’ve talked to is quite high. It’s the times we live in. You can feel it. But it will pass.
If I were to simplify what can become overly complex I’d say the precepts of Tao of Steve (200) encompass what you want when you are trying to pick up women:
Be excellent
Be desireless
Be gone
(This is exactly what rockstars and super heroes do. Rockstar come onstage rock and roll and move on to the next city. Heroes save the day and then roll out.)
That being said you must find your own personal style. This is only accomplished through TRIAL AND ERROR. That means you will fall flat on your face sometimes—the error part.
For me, it’s being charismatic and then pulling a take-away. I’d say this is effective all the time especially when you are spinning plates and can really afford to walk away.
ENTHUSIASM TRUMPS EVERYTHING: this is in part about holding frame. But it’s a zest for life. The other end of this is no one wants to date a complainer or Doug the Downer.
Adventure so you have experiences to talk about. These will also make you feel good—make you feel like a man. Take risks.
Travel will give you more insight into women and people than anything else you will ever do. Travel the states and travel foreign countries. If you travel enough probability dictates you will find a place where you really resonate with the women. There’s that one place where you are the rockstar. It’s different for everyone which is why trial and error is the key. Find your philosophers stone.
On looks: they do matter but have you looked around?
On money: the more the better—money will get you what looks can’t
On age: at this point I’d say a fit forty is the place to be especially outside of the United States. Although American women do like older men they are very reluctant to leave their ready-made tribe of friends. Latin American women are much more open and uninhibited about dating an older man as are Asians and Europeans. YMMV
On paying for sex: if you are married you are paying for sex unless your wife was wealthier than you. In that case, bravo! You mother fucker. I commend you. In all other cases I’d almost rather pay for the company because then they leave me the fuck alone after the party is over. A wife sticks around. I honestly don’t know how many people are happily married or what arrangement they have but I tend to get bored with a women after a while. Also, they can become controlling after a time and I don’t care for that. If you ever watched any of these reality shows were couples buy homes ask yourself who is the decision-maker in that partnership.
Keep going
Keep playing
Stay Alpha
Butt_Man_69 6y ago
No endorsement of Dos Equis man?
bickisnotmyname 6y ago
I would welcome any more advice or posts. Useful to see the views of a person looking backwards. I’m nearing 30, once divorced. Will likely never marry again. What would you say was your greatest learning to attract more women?
shakespeareSMG 6y ago
Find what is intuitive and natural for you and then work on what is unnatural or counter-intuitive and integrate that into you MO.
For me, I was about 80% natural, the other 20% was not so I studied and went out into the field. Trial and error.
For example: I thought kino was bullshit but then I saw how effective it was when I tried it.
Look for the place or thing that resonates with you and helps to bring girls to you. In other words find something you like or have a passion for because when you do it’s easier for you to be you: natural, confident, not worried about what people think (ZFG).
bickisnotmyname 6y ago
That’s solid advice mate. For me, that’s climbing. I love it and it’s a good way of meeting girls. I don’t think meeting women is the problem I face, I’m good enough looking and social enough. The biggest challenge I face that I’d love advice on, is what to do in your down time when you’re single. Like tonight, it’s a Sunday night and I can’t afford to be out every single night. It’s just so boring to be at home. Family aren’t in the country so can’t just go visit them. Got friends but equally it’s on occasion we meet up. It’s that boredom of living alone that kills and makes me want to LTR.
ZercherSquat 6y ago
Anti-fragile is an absolute gold book. IT has very little bullshit compared to any other philosophical book I've encountered.
abstractplebbit 6y ago
His entire series Incerto is amazing
twy1231235 6y ago
lololol the part of "enthusiasm" aka, what i deem as putting on a "clown act", really shows how little you've learned in 20 years. this is exactly why experience < IQ. all day every day. Someone with a good IQ will learn what you learned in 20 years in 2 or less, and they will learn it "better" as well. You don't need to be "enthusiastic" with anyone lmfao. All you hvae to do is not be a complete moron. Ask questions about other people, they love to talk about themselves, and always will. You don't need a story. The fact that you think you do after 20 years is shuddering to think about. You're an utter and complete ape, kid.
shakespeareSMG 6y ago
Big difference between a passion for what you do and being a dancing monkey.
Too bad about the IQ thing for you...
greenlittleman 6y ago
"A fifty-five year old garbage man is a million times smarter than a twenty-eight year old with three PhDs."
Bullshit.
abstractplebbit 6y ago
If you fall down seven times, can't you only get up 7 times? When is the 8th one lol
Subiray 6y ago
You have to stand up in order to fall down.
abstractplebbit 6y ago
It's just confusing because it says "fall down" first
If you fall down 7 times you get back up 7 times but by default we're pretty much already standing in general
Subiray 6y ago
You always start from the ground and get up, think crawling before walking. That's where the saying comes from
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max_peenor 6y ago
Oh, please. I've seen a lot of women that have aged very well, including LCF and her almost inhuman aunt, but there is ZERO chance I'd confuse a 19 year old with a 55 year old.
Women love their dirty little secrets though. Be their dirty little secret; they just need to know you'll keep the secret part.
anabolic92 6y ago
What do you mean by be gone?
Last night after fucking a girl I spend the night and part of the morning of today with her, it was fucking cold and I had to take the bus 40 min to get back home.
In my head I wasn't sure if it was a good idea to stay or not.
vengefully_yours 6y ago
Don't be all up in her shit, dont be attentive. Do your thing regardless of what she is doing. I'll go spend a weekend or a couple weeks with my girl in Chicago. I do what I want at her house, she doesn't want me to be attentive and emotional, she wants to ride my dick, and cook me food to show her appreciation for me. It's my day to do what I want with it.
MattyAnon Admin 6y ago
Good post, and I'd like to hear more about your experiences over the decades.
Please could you edit out the "examples from fiction" at the end? I get the idea of illustrating your points, but fiction is useless for learning and shouldn't be encouraged. Examples-from-fiction is banned here.
Good post.
TheDevilsAdvokaat 6y ago
"fiction is useless for learning and shouldn't be encouraged".
Spot on.
newls 6y ago
Fiction is written by people, and therefore coloured by their biases.
TheDevilsAdvokaat 6y ago
Yes. And it's not real - it's fiction.
Let's leave fantasy out of education.
Reunn 6y ago
It depends on the type of fiction. A really good story is generally an abstraction of reality distilled into archetypical characters and situations. There’s an immense amount that can be learnt and applied from someone such as Dostoevsky.
TheDevilsAdvokaat 6y ago
You have a good point. For example I read "Les Miserable" which is fiction - and yet the author (Victor Hugo) uses it to make some wonderful points about the French justice system at the time. For example he says a person, once imprisoned, is like a sailor having fallen overboard from a ship - he can see the place he used to be, but there is no way back, and the ship sails on remorselessly, leaving him to sink forever into a morass from which he cannot escape - the ship was society, and the inescapable black morass was the prison.
However, I wouldn't want to use the same book to learn how to build a ship. I'd get a non fiction book about building a ship.
So....we do learn informally from fiction but for learning a particular subject I prefer non-fiction.
I'd prefer my education to be factual as much has possible.
Reunn 6y ago
I 100% agree but unfortunately, not everything is a hard science or applied skill, for more nebulous subjects fiction is an invaluable tool. I guess it also depends on the type of person you are, some people internalise teachings better if it's encapsulated within a narrative. This is essentially religions in a nutshell.
TheDevilsAdvokaat 6y ago
I thought so too. The reason they teach by example is because some people find it easier to understand...
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mishasam89 6y ago
By 'pay for sex' do you mean an escort?
shakespeareSMG 6y ago
More than likely if it’s an older man and younger woman (a May-September relationship) there is an “arrangement.”
Even more likely now with sugar daddy sites.
She’s getting some compensation whether it be money, a car, a condo or all that plus.
If it’s the opposite congrats on being an Alpha of Alphas
chaseemall 6y ago
Thanks for this. I love hearing from older men; it's part of the reason I stick around.
What would you say to a man who intends to have children at some point in his life?
EdAnt 6y ago
Don't. Just kidding, I love my kids. They are expensive, though. Make sure you have money before you have kids
vengefully_yours 6y ago
Do it early in life so you're not starting over with a divorce rape at 40+ with 20+ years of child support ahead of you.
No need to marry the bitch, just get your kiss from her and let her go when she decides she's not gotten enough strange cock.
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JimCanuck 6y ago
Didn't help him with knowing what is appropriate sexual activities or not...
Entropy-7 6y ago
My 51st birthday is next week so OP and seem to be peers.
Is So-Cal women on easy-mode?
I grew up in Toronto, arguably the worst place in the western world for dating women. I spent 7 years in Vancouver and the last 5 years or so in China, and yes it is a lot easier.
The oldest woman I have ever dated was 40, but she was (Canadian) Chinese and had the body of a teenager. My current (finace) is a Filapina 17 years my junior.
AFAIK, I only mowed another guy's lawn once: chicky was a fashion model and he was a navy boy out to sea for 6 months.
BTW: single mothers make for great ONS.
There is too much here to fully comment on, on a Saturday morning.
VasiliyZaitzev 6y ago
The back door is usually open, too.
That said, No Single Moms.
Entropy-7 6y ago
They tend to be OK getting down and doggy but the hershy highways is still rather uncommon.
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Entropy-7 6y ago
It is full of self-entitled cunts.
Again, I was a fish who did not notice the water but in retrospect, the were rather shitty.
Epictetus2017 6y ago
I would agree with the Toronto comment. Lived there all my life, and when I finally left for Panama City, there was a brief moment of culture shock at just how friendly and flirty the average woman is with me now. Latins are big on touching and getting close to one another. (Contact culture?)
It is at the point now where I meet vacationing countrymen, and it's awkward how far apart they stand, with no signs of affection upon meeting new people.
Torontonians are frigid and cold like their city. I have some friend from Seattle who attests similar in his city.
Entropy-7 6y ago
One day, I hope to explore this "Latina" thing.
plainposter 6y ago
me too. it'd be a nice change from my frigid winters in canada.
newls 6y ago
I'd like to hear more about how women in Latin America are different to western women. Sounds likes a much more fun experience than around here.
Epictetus2017 6y ago
Well I will preface this by stating my experience is tainted by the fact that in terms of status, I went up quite a bit on the scale by moving. As a gringo who speaks passable Spanish, and who is putting down roots and pursuing business that makes me different then the typical tourist. In other words, my SMV went up significantly by moving.
Still, I will point out a few differences I noticed that makes for a friendly place:
Contact culture:
Generally, you greet women here by kissing them on the cheek, or embracing them. Men clasp hands, and clap shoulders, or embrace.
Personal space is much less culturally. What I considered intimate distance is pretty normal for Panamanians. (They stand about twice as close on average.) This makes intimacy easier. I am typically interacting with students, travellers, and professionals within Panama city, so my experience is colored by this.
Used to expats and trade:
About 1/3 of the country is made up of foreign people, and it's a big trade hub.
Good entertainment and Red Light districts:
The country is a little infamous for its legal prostitution, (beautiful women low prices, lots of bordellos) but also has a very good club scene, and a lot of hotels. Colombian women and Venezuelan women tend to congregate here.
Latin women are demonstrative, and imaginative towards men:
A lot of these girls flirt frequently, and like to show off. They dress provocatively, and feminine.
To give you an example: I buy large condoms because normal size are uncomfortable for me. So, I walked up to the counter and ask quietly, in my heavily accented Spanish because they did not appear to have them. The perfectly made up pharmacist (HB7) looks down at my pants, giggles, then spreads her index and thumb wide apart in a universal gesture to her coworker, who also giggles and goes into the back. I flirt a little while I wait.
She comes back with the box of condoms, and a third coworker in toe who looks me over, nods approvingly at her two other companions and departs.
I pay, recieve a "buenos noche senor" accompanied by a little Cheshire grin and I walk out.
Where I am from, this sort of interaction just never happened with strangers. I would have gotten a bloodless frigid exchange of coin. Approaching girls on the street is comparable too.
red_matrix 6y ago
It's called the 'Seattle Freeze' for a reason.
TRPDigesting 6y ago
Always wanted to believe that the Freeze doesn't exist. But as a lifelong native of the area, it's only gotten more pronounced over time.
Particularly, that "ready-made tribe of friends" OP mentioned seems quite applicable. Men and women alike around here (on average) seem to stick with what's comfortable, even when a call to adventure is a lot more appealing.
red_matrix 6y ago
I think many large cities face a similar problem. That and modern life has created a loss of community. They say we are all 'bowling alone' these days.
TRPDigesting 6y ago
Bowling alone is a very apt image for how it can feel. I think it's key to go and seek out a community that you can be part of...a sense of belonging is on Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, after all.
shakespeareSMG 6y ago
In SOCAL YMMV. Los Angeles is very different from San Diego. I prefer LA.
Entropy-7 6y ago
In terms of life-style, my friend said San Diego is far better than San Fran or LA, but that is one, second hand opinion. However, I consider him a credible source.
StonedZergling 6y ago
San Diego is awesome. One word: Tijuana.
Also San Diego has just as many hot girls as LA but the difference is you're not competing with Hollywood guys and billionaires. San Diego is very much minor league compared to LA in terms of male competition. People (incl girls) are much much friendlier too.
askmrcia 6y ago
Tijuana, the world's best kept secret. Has the reputation of being one of the most dangerous places on earth.
But to any straight man, it's paradise.
vengefully_yours 6y ago
You have a navy base and a marine camp there, puts Mexico is close by. Navy wives are huge sluts.
Entropy-7 6y ago
Navy wives. . .
I actually experienced the emotion of guilt.
She was a fashion model who needed some dick. He was a navy guy out to sea for 6 months.
The 3 year old daughter walked in on us and I was like "oh shit!"
Never again, I told myself.
Psychocist 6y ago
So you're in a relationship. Any suggestions on that? I'm becoming a bit jaded by plating. Just moved to Thailand and there seems to be plenty of traditional minded, less experienced chicks around.
Entropy-7 6y ago
Go to BlackDragon
I agree with about 90% of what he says but I am a serial mongamist rather than an OLTR kind of guy. The sticking point in my relationship is that I love her to bits but want a 3-some. Unfortunately, she is straight as an arrow and will have nothing of it. However, she offered to pay for two Thai hookers so I could have a threesome.
I spent a week in Thailand, with my then Chinese girlfriend. In Pattaya we stumbled on to Soi 6 and that was pretty weird.
We stayed in a hotel close to North Pataya Road. That road is filled with German restaurants and walking down the street you see fat, old, white guys with petite, Thai women. Thai women keep their bodies well but as they fall from the age tree they hit every ugly branch on the way down, face first.
I have more insight into the LTR market in China as that is where I have lived for the past few years. I can't comment on Thai girls.
Psychocist 6y ago
Cheers. I'll have a look. I'm starting to think serial monogamy is probably for me, maybe with the odd fling.
Btw, Pataya is not at all representative of Thailand. I'm in Chiang Mai. Very different story up here.
Entropy-7 6y ago
I chose Pataya becaue it was close to but out of Bangkok which had some political problems at the time.
While it is still a sexspot, they are trying to improve their image to be more "family friendly".
You should post something about your experience in Chiang Mai. I think other guys want to read that.
Psychocist 6y ago
Ahh I see. Yeh I've heard they are attempting to reinvent the place.
I might do a post in the future once I've settled in somewhat and have something insightful to contribute.
newls 6y ago
Lol I have to respect that, great woman.
Entropy-7 6y ago
She is the cat's meow but we shall see if I can cash in that at a later date.
newls 6y ago
Sounds good. A woman secure enough in her femininity to buy you one-off sex is one worth keeping around.
red_matrix 6y ago
Curious - are you on vacation or working abroad?
Psychocist 6y ago
I'm working (freelance programming). I mainly moved out here so I could afford to work part-time and give myself much more time to build a software business on the side. It's working out well so far. Have a nice one bedroom apartment in a prime location for £350/m. Can eat for ~£2/day. Beautiful women, warm ALL the time, every hour of the day and night.
Definitely one of the best decisions I've made in my life. Highly recommend to others who are in position to work remotely. And, if not.. learn! haha
red_matrix 6y ago
Living the dream! Are you on a tourist visa?
Psychocist 6y ago
Yeh, but moving onto an edu visa shortly, and will (hopefully) be staying for a few years. Highly recommend it if you can get out here. I'm not even on the islands and it feels like paradise.
honeydogg 6y ago
Can you elaborate on why Toronto is the worst for dating from your perspective?
dr_warlock 6y ago
you clearly missed returnofkings (and rooshv's blog) over the past few years. Type ontario or toronto or canada in their search bar and start reading
Entropy-7 6y ago
Fish don't notice the water so I, as a Toronto boy, didn't notice this.
My Chinese internet is fucking with me but do a google search of "Toronto worst pick up city" or something similar and you will get hits from Roosh and others who say it is a wasteland.
gELSK 6y ago
// , Get a VPN and some bitcoin
Entropy-7 6y ago
I have a degree in business: bitcoin is a scam
However, I should get a VPN
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Entropy-7 6y ago
I guess opinions vary. It is ether cash with nothing behind it other than hype. I suppose you could say the same of any fiat currency but at least the dollar and pound have a multi-billion government backing them.
SPREAD_THE_LOVE_7791 6y ago
Blockchain technology is the future. The people making millions in the space laugh at these comments.
plainposter 6y ago
if you have a degree in business, you'd also notice how effective bitcoin is at laundering money..so.. just because it's a scam.. doesn't mean it's bad.. you can use it to your advantage
gELSK 6y ago
// , I have no degree, but I agree with you: ALL currencies are a scam, from a business perspective, as they rely on social proof. But consider that, from a technology perspective, Bitcoin works internationally, cannot be censored, and matches the 402 PAYMENT REQUIRED protocol response built in to HTTP since 1990
EDIT: "402 Payment Required
Reserved for future use. The original intention was that this code might be used as part of some form of digital cash or micropayment scheme, as proposed for example by GNU Taler[35], but that has not yet happened, and this code is not usually used. Google Developers API uses this status if a particular developer has exceeded the daily limit on requests.[36] Stripe API uses this code for errors with processing credit cards.[37]"
I mention Bitcoin because of the impending censorship of TRP and other such sites by PayPal and the credit card associations. At the very least, you can use it to buy VPNs anonymously.
empatheticapathetic 6y ago
Good post, just had to point that out.
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He got hit with the Trump curse.
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LuvBeer 6y ago
stolen from 4chan, but these 2 female "comedians" were happy to watch him masturbate and not leave and not say anything for years in case it helped their careers. Then they read the NYT one day, #metoo
sigma272 6y ago
This. A woman can rewrite her memory so that a completely consensual encounter becomes literally rape. Their capacity for self-delusion is amazing.
plainposter 6y ago
women and men too.. we are all the same species of psychopathic monkeys
shakespeareSMG 6y ago
That was on purpose to show support. as feminazis and the media are having a field day with this. I won’t start the rant here.
ajbrooks192 6y ago
Tell me about it as soon as I see any headline about this I feel like I could write an essay. Dude needs our support.
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For whipping his dick out to unsuspecting people? The guy is a blue pilled creep and deserves what's coming to him. Incredibly stupid ass behaviour.
rigbed 6y ago
As we’re seeing with Dreyfus and Takei it’s only picking up steam
wkndatbernardus 6y ago
I'm actually stoked for the Takei takedown. Dude has been needing to take his tampon out for a while. I don't really care about the other fool's, Weinstein, Spacey, etc.
El_Ejcovero 6y ago
Takei has been a menace long enough, I really hope this will take him down. But if this allegation doesn't do it, I am sure something else will come up. That guy has baggage and a sick attraction to underage boys that will come out, sooner or later.
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newls 6y ago
It's hard nowadays in the sense that girls act like they're auditioning you for a role in their movie of life, and if you slip up once you're gone, because of the sheer amount of male attention they constantly receive.
It's funny as I watch a show like Mad Men where the women seem genuinely grateful for having their husbands, and appreciative for the leisurely lives they're afforded.
I wish life could return to something like that. I like freedom but coming home to an empty house every night isn't fun.
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newls 6y ago
Yes I agree in a way. We've had a massive shift in the sexual marketplace in women's favour because of Facebook and online dating.
I think that AI partners will be the next big shake-up to the sexual marketplace, in favour of men. If we can give these AI girls some kind of genetic code, and allow them to breed, then we will have successfully made women as redundant, if not more so, as men are now. I know that's a stretch but I'm just thinking aloud here.
No modern girl can compete with an AI girl programmed to love you unconditionally, listen to you talk about your problems without disgust, and cater to your every material need.
This will inevitably cause women to want to compete on the same playing field, offering the same type of love and giving less sass to their men. It won't be a universal shift in attitudes, it never is, and there'll still be alphas and betas, but men will have the power again.
I say this because talking to women isn't as fun as it used to be. I come in with a relaxed attitude expecting sweetness, and am just met with sass talk. The media has caused such a mortal fear of men in women that they think they're justified in treating us like that.
I want this situation to end, where average men are being shamed to the point that they're so afraid of being labelled creepy and a pest, that they're terrified to even approach a girl and talk to her. Too many men are having to put in work to
The next shift in our sexual marketplace will address that problem. The feminine imperative will shout and scream against it, but the degree of that will give us an indication of the magnitude of the coming shift. The medium is the message.
I've just had my morning coffee so apologies for that essay!
physicalbitcoin 6y ago
Good post. 'scuse my ignorance, what does pulling a takeaway mean?
shakespeareSMG 6y ago
Like Dread game you go dark or just become Mr. Grumpy as my friend calls it. You are the opposite: brooding, intense, obstinate, intolerant—generally not fun to be around.
The key here is your WOUNDED because society, because your ex—whatever it is, something is stuck in your craw.
She wants you get better and be your high energy self.
Because she already likes you she’s empathic and/or sympathetic.
pridebrah 6y ago
Interesting. I've done this at times and got a bit angry at myself for slipping out of the easy going frame but have noticed women try to boost you back up to that happy state again if they feel its your norm.
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BewareTheOldMan 6y ago
I find myself conflicted between making up for lost time in my early 20s vs. focusing on the future.
Recommendation - do both, but strategically and with more direct and laser-focus on future effort. In the long run what you do today will reap either benefit or failure - both of which can and will significantly affect your future.
No issue with making up for lost time/events you missed in your 20’s, but that’s so much less important and has relatively little bearing on where you will be 5, 10, 20 years from now.
You’re are your own best competition. Definitely, and technically, men are in direct competition with other men. The guy you’re chasing, however, is the man you want to be in the future. Focus that effort.
Side Note: The guy you’re chasing, however, is the man you want to be in the future.
The statement is a reworked paraphrase from actor Matthew McConaughey, eloquently explained in an acceptance speech from an award show. The explanation of the man he truly wants to be was inspiring and I have adapted that belief as a partial application to my life-focus. That…and being who he is made it sound really cool.
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NoImBlackAndDisagree 6y ago
replacing 'debbie downer' with 'doug the downer' is one of the most pathetic things ice read this morning. taking a page from the feminist book? Jesus Christ.
shakespeareSMG 6y ago
Hello, my name is Inigo Montoya, you killed my father. Prepare to die.
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