This will be a short post detailing my experience at a festival this summer. I'll also provide some tips.
I've been going to festivals for over a year now and recently decided to actively pursue girls at my most recent one.
Here are the things I learned out In the field. This is for the guys who are past approach anxiety.
Active game:
If you're trying to pick up chicks, large venues like festivals and concerts are the best. The reason being that pick up really is a numbers game. You will be rejected, but at a large venue it won't matter because you can bounce around.
-My first tip is exactly that, bounce around. Don't stay in one spot, keep your energy high and positive. By constantly opening new groups of people you keep up a positive vibe and begin building social credit.
-keep an eye out for the doggie dinner bowl look. If she gives you that, she's dtf. Never been wrong in my personal experince.
-people come here to have fun, be fun. Not saying be the most hyped guy in the room but be the guy having the most fun. People will gravitate to you.
-Smile. Enough said. If you're black smile even more, black guys naturally look more pissed with a neutral face there is a reason Terry crews, Will Smith and the like, are always smiling.
-Talk. Now talk some more, now talk way more. Being silent is bad, people need to get a feel for who you are. That's how comfort is generated. Comfort allows you to touch.
-Touch builds attraction. Any kind of touch does this. A woman's body is calibrated to respond to a man's touch. This doesn't mean be sexual right out the gate (although you can be) but it means even high fives are benifical. I used to diss dudes for doing it. Touch releases dopamine.
-Rejection is good. It will feel bad but it's good, because it means you tried and if you tried you can learn. How shit you feel is your brains natural response to perceiving you failing in a social situation. Whether or not you failed is subjective. At this point my only personal failure is not doing anything.
Re-opening: if I ever run out of things to say, I leave and come back later. People love when you use their names so when you get back act like they are your long lost friend and use their name. People will get comfortable around you fast.
Cheat codes: I'm no good at talking. At least to random strangers in loud musical settings. So I cheat, I bring a prop or something I can use to help open sets or increase sexual tension.
I.E I snuck in lollipops so I could use the line "what taste better you? Or this lollipop ?"
FR: first day at the venue
First approach was a party girl dancing with her friends, I like party settings cause you can approach without approaching. Dance, make eye contact, smile. I brought a bunch of cheap shiny beads and when she noticed she asked for one. I asked her what was in it for me? She made a kissy face and it was on. Shortly after she was pulled away by her friends. I did give her the necklace though. I mean why not? You get six for 1 dollar. I bring them for the specific purpose of giving them away.
I made about 8 approaches the first night and most went the same way. Sometimes I'd give them a necklace to open other times I'd dance. I made out with about 5 girls and every time a friend would pull her away.
Normally to avoid this I would use friends to distract the group or I would open the entire group, sadly the guys I came with were too nervous so they we're simply background characters.
Second day I was in the zone, I was chatting up almost everyone I came across with before we even headed out. The past year up to this point I was working on social game mostly, so I was invited by some party friends to pre-drink at a girls place.
I mention this not because something happened but because building social momentum takes some time. I became a "yes" man for a time to get back into the social game. Social skills are a muscle, try to flex(train) when possible.
There were a couple of cute girls in our group when we arrived, I decided to try to use them as wing women. I took two girls, whom I had previously generated rapport with during the pre-drinking, and used them to open a group. I had a girl in each arm when I approached and I noticed it defused the entire group. The men didn't feel threatened by me, in fact they were almost enamored by my presence.
The goal was to pawn the girls off to the guys and go for whatever girls I liked In the group. This is a tactic employed by mystery. Sadly it didn't work out as the girls I had with me wouldn't leave my side. So I ended up leaving to re-open them later as a solo player.
Fast forward through the night and I end up being completely solo(as usual), it's almost impossible to keep tabs on everyone during these.
I end up coming across the group I initially opened with the girls. They welcomed me and we started partying, I noticed a girl I found attractive but she was dancing with a guy. I decided to make a bold move, I didn't know their relationship but I never saw them kiss. I stuck my hands out to her while she was dancing with him. She took my hand and I'm sure you can guess the rest.
Although there was an interesting "tug of war" scenario going on between me and the guy. In all honesty I felt bad, I used to be the guy getting his girls stolen. I did it so blatantly that it reminded my of my former self. I sort of became the thing I used to despise.
Being aware of hypergamy makes me feel better about it. Anyone could have taken her away, it just happened to be me.
She may become my first plate in almost a year and a half.
I'm not a stud or some guy who is constantly slaying and is super alpha. I'm just a regular guy, so realize that when you read all this.
I feel the need to come clean about that because while what I'm saying may all be truth, it doesn't have as much of an impact if I wasn't living it. I've had dry dick for a year and a half while I cultivated my SMV. While I knew these things and had to remind myself of others things I had truly forgotten what it was like to go out there and see for myself what works.
I say this because awhile back someone made an amazing post and when I made Contact I found out they weren't getting laid regularly. Nothing they said In their post was wrong even with my personal experiences but if I was gonna learn how to fish I wanna learn from a fisherman, not the guy who watched the fisherman from the dock and thinks he understands and has mastered the science behind it.
I digress.
If there is one thing I want you to take away from this post it's that you need to go outside.
Be a "yes" man.
Go experience life.
Pick a hunting ground, get comfortable then start hunting. It's been a year into festivals before I started getting laid. Just go at your own pace and most importantly;
Have fun.
Cheers.
Kiregnik 6y ago
Well written and a lot of what you say can be applied in more than this setting.
SmilingWatermelon 6y ago
Thank you. Surprised you found this considering how old it is haha
Kiregnik 6y ago
Lol, been a slow day at work.
kidthrowingrocks 6y ago
In my experience, festivals are surprisingly bad venues for picking up girls. Anyone who isn't stapled to their large boyfriend is usually a troll who looks even more disgusting than usual after the mix of drugs, too much sun, and ill-fitting, revealing "festival outfit". Even if you find someone decent, fucking is a logistical nightmare since you're both probably staying in a hotel room with 6 other people, and who's really in the mood after 8 hours of dancing, getting sweaty and dirty as fuck, and likely coming off of party favors? Not worth IMO
thebadmanpuntdbaxter 6y ago
PSA if you indulge in molly or lucy or other party favors you will be emotionally compromised.
You bond incredibly quickly since these drugs amplify your empathy and let you open up. Festivals are generally places be open and expressive in the first place. If you're inexperienced you are way more likely to catch feels than at clubs and bars. The festival isnt a fairytale, its a facade. You can live in the fairytale for a weekend, but don't try taking it home.
That said, those drugs are a hell of a time.
Have fun kids
Gallobrax 6y ago
You sir have both talked to talk and obviously walked the walk. Safe travels friend.
The_Redmen 6y ago
This needs to be top comment
Zanford 6y ago
Yes. Let other people do the molly, but you should bounce around and game with a clear head. (Maybe pre-game with a shot or two of alcohol). Plus, the legal and health risks of street drugs.
thebadmanpuntdbaxter 6y ago
Nope, you're not there to "game". You're there because its a fuckin ballin party.
Legality wise its a small risk to find psychoactive chemicals. No cop gives a shit about an average festy and their personal use. Its culture there.
Health wise test your goods or get them from someone you trust. If you actually have lsd and mdma, and take them responsibly, they are safer than getting behind the wheel of a car. Take them at the same time even. Shrooms too. Just stay hydrated
Zanford 6y ago
OP's post is about picking up girls at music festivals. That would be an example of "game"....at a fuckin ballin party.
The legal and health risks are there. Small in many cases, but worth being mindful of and making a conscious choice that they are small enough.
thebadmanpuntdbaxter 6y ago
Be careful at the supermarket, you're at risk of taking a watermelon to the dick????????
Zanford 6y ago
Sounds like you found some good molly
GroundhogLiberator 6y ago
If she doesn't respond to your game you can always neutralize her with your weapons-grade autism.
thebadmanpuntdbaxter 6y ago
Silly shit works man, nonsense is fun for chicks
SmilingWatermelon 6y ago
That made me lol. If it's dumb but it works..haha
REAL_TALK_YA_CUNT 6y ago
My sides...they gone forever
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setzer_ 6y ago
Such a cringe worthy post. If I ever refer to conversations with people as "sets" I hope someone takes me out to the barn and shoots me.
"what taste better you? Or this lollipop ?"
uggggggghhhhhhh
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I was thinking the same thing. GAWD. The thought of going to one of these festivals and having to be around such a fucking SJW crowd of 20-somethings makes me want to throw up, and then yell GET OFF MY LAWN!!
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Darkone06 6y ago
I think another point I will add is location.
If you are camping out be as close to where people congregate and the concert gate.
I have made the mistake of trying to camp near the back for safety purposes and just waking back and forward between the campgrounds and festival ground was like a 20 minute walk in an open field in 100 f weather.
Get as close to the front if you can or near restrooms and water. People will naturally walk by your area on the way to the restroom, especially girls cause guys just go wherever.
Always be fun never bring anybody down at a festival.
Soccer balls and beach balls are your friends, just start randomly tossing it to group of girls and see which one is game.
But lots of blunts, even if you only have an eight buying $20 with of blunts will keep you smoking all weekend.
Beer - while your being social you will be offer beer and other drinks. Don't mix alcohol!!! This is the fastest way to pass out.
Don't take your high end local brewery shit to festivals, pick the most generic beer in your area and bring as much as you can and only drink that. Budweiser / Budlight after safe choices. For the love of God, don't bring Coors light, Blue ribbon, Bush etc. If you want to look a little nicer in beer coffee bring Platinum or Michelob ultra.
Also lots of water, I have gotten very positive reaction from being the only guy that thought about bringing water.
Peter_B_Long 6y ago
budlight is crap too, but thanks for the tips.
htbf 6y ago
I'm at a film festival this week. Not a lot of dancing, just people talking, networking, drinking and watching movies. I think I talked to almost anyone. From big shot actors (George Lazenby) to more local celebrities, staff, organizers, founders and presidents, and a cute bartender I met on the street (opened her whole group of friends) while taking a break to get a sandwich.
I have been asked who I was, how I knew everyone, if I was the president of the festival, etc. Talking to everyone, giving genuine compliments, remembering names, and having a smile is mostly what it takes.
enkae7317 6y ago
I'm confused. Did you get laid or not?
BusterVadge 6y ago
I was asking myself the same question then stumbled upon the fact that the girl from the festival last summer MAY become his first plate in over a year. So no.
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SmilingWatermelon 6y ago
Try going after straight girls. You'll have more success
Dragon_Garoo 6y ago
There are no gay women. Female sexuality is very fluid. Every lesbian I know still loves the D.
max_peenor 6y ago
The bullest bull I ever knew did eventually find That One Guy. She and LCF used to hook up frequently, so we became friends. She looked like a guy, though I hear from LCF she hides her magnificent bosom very well, until the clothes come off.
Anyways, she had a certain sport of choice and one day she met this guy that did it. he was really good at it. Tingles were made. Apparently, she got addicted to sucking his cock any chance she could. He was married. She didn't want anything to do with him other than being a sports mate and suckle on his dick. The only thing that made her stop was other women shaming her for not being dyke enough.
AWALT is bisexual. It's just how they express it.
GastrointestinalRap 6y ago
I...I don't think you understand what a lesbian is, sweetheart.
Dragon_Garoo 6y ago
I think I've had sex with a lot of lesbians. Female sexuality is fluid. Many will make justifications and "I don't like guys, but I like cock". I only know one girl that's tried it and doesn't go back for more. Out of dozens.
awalt_cupcake 6y ago
lesbians are just mad they can't get dick and they'll put out given the chance
cuntlemonade 6y ago
Not true you stupid bag of dicks
awalt_cupcake 6y ago
why am I a bag of dicks? why not one? It's because you can't hold back the desire for schlong. No matter how many buzzed hair cuts you get, how "real" and goofy your next "serious" relationship is, no matter how baggy you dress, deep deep deep down you're suppressing the one thing that really makes you happy: getting a good hard dicking by a man that represents all the things you find 'oppressive'. You'll feel confused and post about it on Tumblr. Then you'll get angry at yourself and project it onto some type of men or 'world problem'. And the cycle repeats.
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GastrointestinalRap 6y ago
Hmm. Think what you want about them- the fact is that lesbians are into vagina, and only vagina.
theredpillager 6y ago
I don't know a single lesbian that hasn't banged numerous dudes (I know many "lesbians"), but I know plenty of gay men who have never banged a chick. One of my best friends was a lesbian. For eight years, until she met the right guy over a year ago. She's pretty straight now.
GastrointestinalRap 6y ago
Ah, the old "met the right guy" argument. First off, your experiences don't define every damn lesbian in the world.
But aside from that, as already was stated before sexuality is fluid and can change. What my point is, is that if a woman is a lesbian, she's only into other women. That's what the term means. It could change- she could become bi, or even straight, or she could be a lesbian her whole life. But that won't change what a lesbian is.
theredpillager 6y ago
My point, as well as the point of the others down voting you, is there are no real lesbians. If you had your own real world experiences to lean to, you'd have figured this out for yourself by now.
GastrointestinalRap 6y ago
No real lesbians? That's exactly what I'm arguing against.
Also, aren't they forgetting what the downvote button is for?
theredpillager 6y ago
I know it is. You're wrong though.
awalt_cupcake 6y ago
you're an idiot who believes everything they hear and not what they experience congratulations what's it like being a loser?
GastrointestinalRap 6y ago
You're an idiot who has no idea when to use punctuation.
Oh and, it's pretty okay I guess. I mean, I've never been anything other than a loser- so I wouldn't know what it's like to not be one. ;)
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Thotwrecker 6y ago
Your problem is you are pretentious. You probably don't like making friends with the dumb jocks and frat guys either because they don't "intellectually resonate" with you or some BS. So you have no cool male friends aka a autistic tier social circle in college, and you aren't even sharpening your social skills on these "dumb student" girls, so you have no females in your social circle.
College is 100% social circle game and cold PU skills are only useful insofar as they teach you a certain mentality. Most girls you fuck will fuck you because you have social status in some clique they care about - IE if you are the coolest kid in band / theater, the nerdy band chicks will fuck you. You don't have to be the cool kid at the coolest frat, but you do have to be near the top of some social pyramid.
This means when you say "my friends don't hang out on campus and it looks like they have zero friends" that is worthless. These girls are what they are - the fact that you think they are too stupid for you to talk to is your own rationalization, and that attitude is repulsive. Literally everyone in PU or in TRP or reddit in general has this problem; they believe they are better than the dumb guys, meanwhile the dumb guys are partying, getting their dick sucked, fucking top tier bitches, making friends with other rich, connected dudes, networking, etc. Meanwhile you're a pysch major who thinks he is smart and shit because you've taken psych 101 and therefore have this deep insight into people.
What I tell all these guys is simple - do you want to feel superior about yourself, or do you want to fuck bitches, live the good life, and have fun with the various types of people you will encounter? At some point, being judgmental is just a stick up your own butt, it's not a stick up their butt.
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Kampizi 6y ago
Another part of redpill is being independent, move to a city or area with more women. More fun, you will give yourself more chances
While you work on your self, get a good pump, after graduating go to a new place and be ready to score.
OzzyDaGrouch 6y ago
Dude you are University student trust there are thousands fs of ways to meet girls. all colleges have a sort of lunch hour when no one has classes, go walk around and chit chat with strangers for NO REASON. I am also a student let me tell you something I stop at ANY random booth on campus where people want you to join shit and i just chat it the fuck up. GREET EVERYONE. Stop calling thise chicks in your class boring or stupid, the only stupid person I see here is a man who is not figuring out a way to juice all the resources he has around him. All those chicks are probably bored as FUCK and just waiting for a fucking bad ass like you or me to step in and say HOW AREYA CUTIE. half of the time you see strangers again when you go to universitys they will always help or be awesome if theyre previous experience with you was cool. People at the booths now give me free shit or are super enthusiastic to have a little chat and that attracts other random passerbyers to have a word and so on and so forth. Dude stop telling yourself you're not cool enough to get these chicks before they even hit the club! daylight approaches are so much easier if you're good with words and impressions. Trust. Much love
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Unless this is a US based university with a Title IX kangaroo courts. Then all women there are off limits.
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7Fig 6y ago
That's a tough degree to get a job with.
Morphs_ 6y ago
Yes, got a masters degree in psychology but ended up being a breakdancing teacher :) It does seem to get the ladies interested.
Marsupian 6y ago
I generally don't open chicks to be intelectually stimulated. I do it for the ass. Girls don't have to be smart to be fun.
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RPBulletDodger 6y ago
And you're actively seeking this criteria at festivals?
Please continue.
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zephyrprime 6y ago
"Not saying be the most hyped guy in the room but be the guy having the most fun" Isn't that the same thing?
SmilingWatermelon 6y ago
I wouldn't say so. I'm saying enjoy the venue. If you go there ready to have fun people will pick up on that vibe.
Attend these events that have artists you enjoy, girls shouldn't be the only focus.
Enjoy the music brother
Rugby11 6y ago
All true was at a ukrainian festival.
young_beard 6y ago
"Pick a hunting ground" ..... just stfu
Estus- 6y ago
What kind of festival? Renaissance faire?
I need somewhere where there's not drugs or a bunch of low lives like burning man.
Gallobrax 6y ago
Then stay far away from festivals. Oh and the Dead.
max_peenor 6y ago
Only if you like them fat or hooked on drugs.
Peter_B_Long 6y ago
Any kind of festivals that aren't raves. I go to reggae festivals and mixed music festivals where most people are just drinking or high. Raves are where you'll find all the hard drugs.
Peter_B_Long 6y ago
Any kind of festivals that aren't raves. I go to reggae festivals and mixed music festivals where most people are just drinking or high. Raves are where you'll find all the hard drugs.