A friend of mine asked me how to have casual sex. This was the first time anyone (indirectly) asked for TRP advice since joining several months prior. I told him that basically everything comes back to abundance mentality. "Don't be desperate." Because you're not, you have an abundance. "Be confident." Because you are, since you have an abundance. Etc.
The first time I put straight up abundance mentality into practice with a girl, was with a chick I met on tinder a few weeks prior. The night we matched, I met her at a party, fucked her that night, and now we're meeting up again at a different party.
When I met her there, she said her roommates were home, so if I was expecting anything tonight, it wouldn't happen. I said, "All you ever think about sex." (A shit test response I picked up here).
At the party, I said, in my usual cocky, playful manner (this is very important) that I better start looking for someone else for tonight. She laughed and hit me. Then I really started scanning the crowd, saying things like, "What do you think about her," or, "Damn she's probably down."
She loved this. She immediately grabbed my shirt and pulled me in to make out. We did end up fucking, but the point is this little moment.
I established the thought that she was going to lose me. Most of every other guy she interacts with has been treading so lightly because they aren't okay with finding another. Or they don't believe they can get another. Now that she sees a guy who has options, she does her best to make me think that she is the best one. This is a flip of the usual paradigm in nature sexual selection, where the male desperately tries to separate himself from the rest in hopes of catching the female's attention.
Now, I'm not saying that us here in TRP have revolutionized nature and flipped it. We all know that we still have to separate ourselves from the herd.
Just wanted to share this little moment of the power of abundance mentality with you guys. Thanks for everything. Take care.
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Pointing out different girls is quite a tactic, but man, would that work in most circumstances or is it not recommended?
Auvergnat 6y ago
Roissy would be proud. Well done!
banjew 6y ago
This is not so much TRP but common knowledge.
Today I got fed with my girlfriend and she knows. She posts pictures of her with another "friend" to make me jealous. Then I said to her "you two make a nice couple, go with him, seriously, you will be happier". And this by the way, it's true.
Then she proceed to cry on the spot, telling me that she loves me. That she did many things wrong. Then she goes and buys me a damn huge birthday gift, the girl went crazy.
She will never leave me. I will have to push harder to end things.
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I banged a girl who was at the time engaged (I didnt know this) to someone in a weird-way related to my group of friends. Now when I see their little family on facebook I can't help but laugh to myself. AWALT.
I had an ex GF back in the day, she did exactly the same thing yours did, she was publicly shunned by all of my and her friends/family.
She eventually admitted to seeing other guys when we were apart.
Awalt, as fuk
shitwiththatass 6y ago
Sounds like she cheated on you bro.
empatheticapathetic 6y ago
What if she cheated on you?
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empatheticapathetic 6y ago
When op says "she will never leave me", it's a dangerous mindset that will lead to complacency. It's a sideways route of betaisation. OP needs to be on his feet and know anything is possible and not to assume such an idea, because it could bite him in the ass one day.
Not saying OP isn't aware of this, but it could happen to him if he thinks she will never leave him.
LordThunderbolt 6y ago
Thinking they're too Chad is the number one mistake of people who swallow the pill. They think they can't get cucked
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This mistake is fixed when they know they can get cucked and dont care; they know their girl might be on the cock carousel but realize that investigating it will take too much time and energy. So if they dont know they dont care, and they just bang and treat as just another plate. Life is too short to worry about women cheating, they all do it. Once you find out, hard next. Otherwise, don't fret about it.
banjew 6y ago
Don't care that much, to be honest. I was going to break with her anyway.
empatheticapathetic 6y ago
My question basically is, if she cheated on you, do you care enough to even break up with her? If she has that little relevance to your life, why would it matter?
banjew 6y ago
She's a good fuck.
But I can't show in public with a girl that cheated on me. Remember this is a girlfriend not a plate.
empatheticapathetic 6y ago
Great. That's all I was asking about. Good luck with it.
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ajayhemant 6y ago
Only thing girls care is being left. If she is not behaving properly, you need to keep her in her place. Only problem is that we are too afraid to breakup or being nasty to girls. Once you understand that your value doubles as soon as you leave a girl or threaten to leave her. One who use the breakup word first always get the dominant hand. Do it once and you will be amazed. Only once you get the courage, you will become instant alpha. Secrets to modern women's Heart: Learn what women really want : Be ready to be shocked! (Secrets of Women Book 1) https://www.amazon.in/dp/B071R39L29/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_-2BxzbTDAK814
suxxos 6y ago
Girls do the very same thing when they are flirting with guys. And this has been done for centuries, read any love story of any period.
SergiuIlescu 6y ago
"When I met her there, she said her roommates were home, so if I was expecting anything tonight, it wouldn't happen."
Typical anti-slut defenses up.
You also shit tested her well, but that was a dangerous situation depending on someone's looks.
Probably if it was a lesser attractive man she would have just leave the date early. Props nonetheless.
Sluskarn 6y ago
So what if she left the date early? Get another date then. Nothing close to dangerous in that situation.
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banjew 6y ago
Once I feigned abundance with a girl and things went terribly wrong.
She's in my bed. Anti-slut defenses came up, she left. I didn't push for anything, because "she will come back".
Next week, she's banging her boss.
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banjew 6y ago
I did exactly this. Tried a few times, I could see she was enjoying it, but didn't want to deliver.
I leaved it for another day, probably too early. There wasn't another day.
JDeegs 6y ago
I don't know that I've seen anyone post that demonstrating abundance is a good way to get past ASD though.
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It isn't. You have to escalate and get past LMR, as well as give her assurances she is a "good girl" whilst fingering her.
Just how it is; abundance only truly works if you believe it. If a girl has strong ASD you either have to put in work if you want it, or just give up and rely on abundance to not make you care. I generally give up because I don't have the energy to waste on heavy ASD. I'm too tired from working, lifting, playing computer games, and drinking at the local bar with friends to care about missing 1 pussy slay.
NotMyBestEffort 6y ago
I see your problem. You feigned abundance - her boss did no such "feigning" ... he fucked her instead.
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sixseven89 6y ago
well he didn't do that and it worked so
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