Every now and then I find interesting read that aren't posted on r/trp and today is one of those days. We often talk about how feminism is screwing over the adults but it seems like the kids are also getting a raw deal.
The nice guy bluprint blog talks about the adverse effects feminism has in the education system and I gotta say I had no clue it was as bad as it is. When I was growing up I got the "don't hit girls, be nice to them" speech often but now they have class discussions on why they hate being boys? WTF?
Certain establishments have policies about men being in a certain proximity of children. Add the fact that masculine role models have been phased out in the 90's and male teachers are bullied out of their careers it just seems like things are going according to plan in camp feminist. Did you guys go through this feminist upbringing?
lafacon 9y ago
And will continue to do so with reckless disregard.
I am old enough to remember when girls were testing more poorly than boys. What did this mean? Why, biased tests, of course.
Boys testing worse than girls? Something's wrong with those boys!
newlifeasredpill 9y ago
I have an 8 year old boy who would be totally fucked without me around. Its become fashionable and normal to attribute pathology to healthy male children's behavior.
Read the War against Boys to see how bad things are.
Girls behavior is the gold standard in schools now. Boys are treated like defective girls
These defective girls are not succeeding.
Books are fiction and poetry while boys prefer comics and non fiction. What do you think the 24 year old hambeast woman teachers are asking classes to read?
The writing assignments are about personal development and self disclosure and emotions ....things girls like to write about not things like baseball games or good guy bad guy tales
Boys are five times more likely to be expelled from preschool for things like restlessness and being " hard to manage". Things that used to be naturally assumed about boys
Recess is nice for girls but essential for boys yet unstructured playtime is disapearing and games like tag and dodgeball are forbidden. Tug of war is now tug of peace.
Boys are constantly subject to disapproval causing then to disengage
One day soon I intend to write a long post about the "meds" the school and my wife tried to make my boy take.
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ChaddeusThunderloins 9y ago
This article absolutely infuriates me and makes me depressed for the future, especially if I have a son. What have you done to help counteract this type of insidious brainwashing with your boy?
harkrank 9y ago
You don't have to put him in school. You have agency.
ProjectShamrock 9y ago
I'm not the original commenter but I have sons and I make sure to do different things with them and get them into masculine activities. For example, my 5 year old has been in swimming lessons and taekwondo this year as extra-curricular activities, and I like the outdoors so I take my family out to state parks and stuff (we'll probably start camping in the spring now that my youngest is big enough to not need carried the whole time.) My kids are also very science-minded so I nurture that by pursuing their interests. We go to the zoo and museums, but we also do projects at home. My kids got really into Iron Man recently so I bought a kit off of Amazon to build a robot arm that you can control and we all sat around together and worked on it.
Also, for the record my daughter gets to do all the same stuff if she wants, but we also are making sure she's being raised to be comfortably feminine. There is a problem where girls are discouraged from being feminine and to become tom boys and abandon dolls and stuff. So my wife and I think that's bullshit and that since she naturally likes girly stuff we make sure she has opportunities to do it.
All in all, being a parent is tricky, but it's probably easier in the past. Most of the problems we have these days are psychological. They are in far less physical danger than ever in history, so we get to focus on nurturing their minds so they can grow into good adults. Part of it comes from teaching kids that they shouldn't blindly trust authority figures and that sometimes grownups can be wrong and that my wife and I are there to guide them.
getred_fuckblue 9y ago
There is a deep anger boiling with all of us at this, and soon it will erupt. This is a sign of lack of culture.
I hope feminism of this magnitude leaves Europe alone, seeing as just 70 years ago in Germany (Hitler did a lot of shit, but some of it was good), being a guy and being masculine as fuck was praised. It was a positive role model for young boys. Similarly being feminine was being instructed to the girls.
Also, the bit about medications really fucking annoys me. Putting all the guys on sedatives is a fucking terrible idea. The bit about all the emotional bullshit as well. I fucking hated english in school. Always some "oh look at how bad the girls have it" and "how does it affect you on a personal level?".
It doesn't. This is shitty writing I wouldn't dare calling literature and it changed absolutely nothing in me. Actually, it took away from me, it made me waste my time. It didn't affect me at all on any level, other than maybe not sleeping enough since I had to read sparknotes. Fucking mook.
Also in the goddamn IB: they always want you to "reflect" and "how did it change you as a person". Jesus. Fucking. Christ. I can't. I told the coordinator person (who was a cool guy and saved my ass) that "this is an absolute wasteful and laughable attempt at feminizing men. I wasted my life doing this. Thank you." to which he nodded silently.
I hate reflecting. I can't reflect.
The school system being tailored to girls is also a huge fucking problem. Testosterone is on a very basic level the opposite of estrogen. Adding feminist teachers and weak betas to the mix doesn't help at all. I salute you for raising a boy who will resist this bullshit and come out as a fucking baller. On a deep level, everyone he will meet (the teachers, students, etc) will all be jealous, since the alpha is always envied.
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juanqunt 9y ago
I was so mad in AP english when we had to study The Awakening. The hamstering in that book was unreal. The teacher hated me the whole year for shit talking all her favorite feminist literature in all my essays. That was actually years ago before I found out about the red pill completely, but at that time I already knew that something was wrong.
DexterousRichard 9y ago
Hah. How about "A Separate Peace". What. The. Fucking. Hell.
IMissOsama 9y ago
In writing class I'd ace because I learned how to tell people what they wanted to hear.
Cyralea 9y ago
An incredibly valuable life skill. Perhaps that should be the underlying directive for high school classes.
GOATLin 9y ago
That's why you gotta get your sons into team sports. Boys who don't do team sports end up strange in my experience.
Meto1183 9y ago
Absolutely, gives them something masculine to do, a way to compete without being judged for it, and a place for the kind of emotional release guys tend to like. I feel bad for the smart kids who, because of the whole everyone is equal shit, didn't have a competitive outlet even though they excelled with studies. If I hadn't had sports to wear me out and something to do that wasn't absolutely "equalized" I probably would've come out of high school addicted to drugs and had nowhere to go with my life.
Kingoffistycuffs 9y ago
I wish I had gotten into sports when I was in high school. Instead because I had "foot problems" my mom wouldn't let me play so, I got stuck in band and marching band my freshman year. Won't make the same mistake when I finally get to collage that's for fucking sure!
ToBecomeSuperHuman 9y ago
Definitely should get him into team sports.
I never did them when I was a youngin, but I crave them now.
GOATLin 9y ago
It will be great for him. Friends that last a lifetime and the experience of competition. Stronger body, stronger mind. And the value of hard work.
Unless your kid has physical issues that prevent it, there's no reason not to get him on some teams. It's not even expensive unless you do American football.
beltwaytr 9y ago
Yes the writing part I do remember, I used to fail miserably at writing assignments in grade school (action, adventure themed). Turned out what was my weakest skill turned out to be my strongest in high school. I had 2 male English teachers that had a fair grading style unlike in grade school. It's pretty sick how far feminism goes to uproot masculinity.
newlifeasredpill 9y ago
In elementary school the kids behavior deeply influences the kids grades. Self control and organization are areas where boys tend to lag girls and sometimes never catch up.
All the teachers and administrators are women.
scottlapier 9y ago
I just realized where that whole 'girls mature fast than boys,' idea came from.
harkrank 9y ago
They actually do mature faster than boys. But they are fully mentally mature when they are sexually mature after puberty around 15, while boys keep on maturing for many years after. A woman will be 15 in her mind for the rest of her life.
newlifeasredpill 9y ago
I believe it's true. It's just not a disease that women mature faster. It's biology
Guests who stops maturing at 16? Stuck there til they die
scottlapier 9y ago
Indeed, I meant how women propagate the myth that girls 'mature emotionally and 'intellectually' a year ahead of boys."
They 'mature' faster by their own criteria. And yes they do reach physical/biological maturity before most men.
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The tedious busy-work assignments I got were the toughest for me, with vague instructions and points for completeness not correctness. I (and most other boys) could not bother to spend 2-3 hours a night lobotomizing myself, it was literally painful. The girls didnt seem to mind neatly writing and rewriting them even neater in multiple colors. Oh shit, turns out the homework is actually 30-40% of the class grade. Doesn't matter if I could ace the quizes and get consistently high marks on the standartized tests, I was a "bad" student. This shit continued even in high school honors classes.
Then I get to college and it's fucking awesome, can take classes I want, never have to ask to pee, etc.. but I severely lacked the study skills needed to succeed and am just barely skating by.
Don't even get me started on No Child Left Behind, which is the legally imposed crabs in a bucket mentality.
Red_August 9y ago
Luckily I left the system before its worst changes but they really did significantly move the goalposts in overt and covert ways to favour women. There is no value in repetitively writing neat little books with coloured pens. There was a time when many men, and a few exceptional women were coming out of the system with some vision, and confidence to build the world. Seeing a gender imbalance, and not seeing it for what it is, they thought they needed to change the rules to help women along, and so they did. Today, only a few men, and even fewer exceptional women have that confidence. The net result is you just fucked a generation of men and made no useful changes with women.
ProjectShamrock 9y ago
I had exactly the same problems, and in retrospect, most of the teachers who made a difference in my life were men.
I hated math class because it was so abstract and pointless, and repetitive over stuff that I later found out was too easy for me. In middle school, I was failing math until my math teacher apparently realized I wasn't being challenged. While my classmates were going back over division for the fourth time since elementary school, he jumped ahead and got me learning algebra. Suddenly my F's became C's, then by the end of the year, A's. I left I believe the 7th grade with an A because my teacher put me on 10th grade level math.
I had other good teachers, both male and female, but this guy literally changed my life. I work in I.T. now and if this guy hadn't helped me I'd probably be a complete loser in life with no career beyond Walmart.
That being said, I never completed college despite having a scholarship, but ended up quitting because I already got a good job while I was a student. Making money trumped taking bullshit classes. However, it ultimately caused limitations in my career. I can't get certain jobs that I'd like, and without a degree it's difficult to get a work visa in other countries. If I weren't responsible for feeding several mouths single-handedly I'd go back to college now and finish up.
scottlapier 9y ago
I never did homework from 8th grade until my Sophomore year of college for that reason
AcrossHallowedGround 9y ago
This was exactly my problem in grade school. I distinctly remember that I was always kept in from recess to redo literature assignments because I didn't follow the instruction to a 't' or there was a couple spelling errors. Let's just ignore the fact that every line was mechanically correct (this being a grammar class, not spelling), and I was way ahead of everyone else, acing tests and shit. I wasn't following directions so I was a problem student.
And while we're at it, lets talk about bullying. I learned early on that if I fought back, the bullies went and tattled and I got in more trouble than they ever did, but if I went and complained about them, I was told to 'forgive and forget' or 'don't be a tattletale' just because what they were doing wasn't quite physical abuse.
What did I do? I learned early that if I decided to defend myself it had to be cataclysmic, it had to count. I broke a watch by pushing a kid into a wall, I nearly fractured a girls shin because she wouldn't quit biting me, I dug my thumb under some kids collar bone until he fell out of his seat in pain and started bawling. Why? He kept touching my junk. I had to make it clear that I was not to be fucked with because I couldn't afford to defend myself on a regular basis, and nobody else did.
This is not a healthy way to deal with confrontations at all, but now that's the way I function. I either sit down and take it, or way over step trying to get my voice heard.
newlifeasredpill 9y ago
Keeping you from recess was the exact opposite of the right thing to do
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The more I think about it, the more grade-school seems like a prison than a learning environment with the high barbed wire fences and the absolutely shit lunches.
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It is a learning environment. One in which they break down your mental defenses in order to build you back up to be psychologically interchangeable with your peers. You're learning to be somebody else's bitch!
Some similarities between grade school and prison:
Same food from the same private companies which serve prisons. Literally.
Subject is given no choice to be there.
Strictly regimented time schedule. Pavlovian training a la school bell, response to authority.
Complete lack of humanity. Punishment for rule-breaking? "Zero-tolerance" and dictated by "policy", "procedure", or "protocol". Typically involves extra time spent doing school things at school; that alone should tell you something: that it's considered a punishment to spend time there.
wardsstudents.berluch 9y ago
That's exactly why I dropped out of high school, because despite getting at least 95% on every test, I was required to do bullshit study guides and other busywork at home that I was either too busy or didn't care enough to do. I tried speaking with my principal and teachers about this but their answers ranged from "Sorry, that's just how it is." to "There's nothing I can do."
Fortunately, I did well enough on my GED, SAT and ACT that I got a full-ride scholarship to college. Like you, developing study skills after never needing them before has been a challenge, but it's one I enjoy. Especially being as I get to choose my classes and set my hours.
Meto1183 9y ago
God this is exactly how it was for me. My mom, bless her soul, spent so much of her time urging me to do my work. My dad said fuck it, do the bare minimum and get A's on the test and in the class overall and I'll be happy. I did like 20% of the work the average kid did. I don't understand how some kids just as intelligent as me thought it was worth it to spend ten hours writing a paper that really only takes an hour maybe 2 just to get a 98 instead of a 95.
berluch 9y ago
Yeah some people seem to enjoy the busywork and that's fine for them, but it shouldn't be forced on everyone. Many people learn best with other methods.
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berluch 9y ago
I don't know about your state, but many states offer scholarships based on GPA or other standards (such as your SAT score) when you attend an in-state school as an incentive to keep young people from moving away.
Seuguh 9y ago
We can't have "equality" between men and women. Society should aim for "balance" instead. I mean, biologically alone, we're different, but we do complete each other in nature. If all the pieces of a puzzle were shaped the same, it would never be able to be pieced together. There needs to be a gap that has to be plugged in by an edgy part.
If men and women become "equal", then they're no longer "men and women". They'd become one in the same, which is against everything in nature. Nature thrives on chaos AND balance. Harsh fucking weather one day, to be replaced by fields of blossoming flowers. Excruciating natal birth pain, followed by an overwhelming joy of bringing life into the world. There are many examples of this. What we really needs is balance between men and women.
Rollo-Tomassi 9y ago
I'll just leave this here:
http://therationalmale.com/2014/12/05/teach-your-children-well/
hairaware 9y ago
Its funny reflecting now I realize how much more I enjoyed my male teachers to the female ones, at least in the earlier years. Id say there was still more enjoyment and enthusiasm later on as well but those first 10 years of schooling I was lucky to have mostly male teachers who knew boys would be boys and were there for you.
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NoRegretj 9y ago
I'd say take it to the principal or superintendent, but they're probably female too. This came up the other day in an ENGINEERING ETHICS course, for fucks sake by an OLD MALE PROFESSOR, I just started reading this forum on my phone and decided against arguing with the two female "engineers" in the room and all the other blue pills. Not even worth it.
Starshitlord 9y ago
Thinking back the more then 10 years now. I remember every male teacher was more passionate about their subject. I remembered more about history and science when I was taught by a male teacher. The only reason I passed accounting 12 was because my accounting 11 teacher was male and taught me all the right and correct ways to balance everything. While the female they got to teach accounting 12 barely knew how to teach the subject and was piss poor at the job. Heck the reason I failed science in grade 8 was because the teacher never explained or showed up in detail how things work or react. It was all take notes and that is that. Woman if I wanted to just sit and write out the same crap you read off a book I would just buy the book read the info learn and practice the materials and be done with it. I re did science 8 in modules and such on my own instead of French and learned it way more better on my own then how she could of ever taught me. Took me 2 months and I got a b+. I have never been to my niece or nephews school so I have no clue what kind of learning environment they have to learn it. All I know is that my nephew is not having the best time and I can bet it's because of the shitty wall hitting single over weight oblasts that he is stuck trying to learn from.
Rougepellet 9y ago
I only feel bad for the young boys who are being fed this bullshit.
phillip42069 9y ago
This stretches wayy further back than the 90's.
dicklord_airplane 9y ago
feminist lobbying and the feminist invasion of academia and educational system are waaaay more powerful and influential on family life than most people know or than feminists would admit. the changes in public education policy are obvious, and individual feminists teachers are often discriminatory against boys without even realizing it. i think we've all had a few man-hating teachers who clearly favored girls in terms of grades and disciplinary action, but we were too young to do anything about it. i remember being told that the world isn't fair and that I must do whats necessary to please my man-hating teachers to get good grades.
this is off topic, but another example of how influential feminist lobbies are and how dangerous feminist theory can be is domestic violence policy, particularly the Duluth model and all it's derivatives. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Duluth_model
under this sort of policy, women are never at fault if they're abusive. this sort of policy makes it nearly impossible to identify and rehabilitate violent and abusive women, and children suffer the most from all of this. the results of writing feminist theory into law and into public policy have mostly been disastrous for everyone except for women with sociopathic tendencies.
Meto1183 9y ago
The other thing that bothers me is that it's all in the name of preserving a good place for learning, but most kids come out of high school having learned jack shit anyways. Sure, the top few kids have some real applicable skills in sciences, writing, math, etc. and they use them when they go to college. Yes, some kids learn time management and other relatively important stuff. But by and far the things teachers spout, and punish kids for "interrupting" is rehashed shit year after year. I learned the difference between there their and they're at least 40 times through high school. I learned how to make fucking clay pots. I mean seriously, the problem isn't that kids are slowing down the process, it's that the process is slow. They're taking a car thats got a blown transmission, pouring in more gas (and blaming mostly boys for the gas running out) and wondering why it won't move.
CDBaller 9y ago
And while all this is happening, the government is slowly but surely chipping away at the rights of parents to send their children to alternate schools, be they private schools, charter schools or homeschools.
My male teachers in junior high and high school were some of the best and most memorable I ever had, with one exception, my BP, white knight english teacher during my senior year. They always engaged me, made me think and challenged me to do better. I believe that without them, I would have been double the BP that I ended up as. Conversely, every woman teacher I ever had was hormonal, applied standards inconsistently, censored and limited topics and generally told students what to think instead of teaching us how to think. Girls were always favorites and boys were generally seen as challenging most womens' authority.
bakbakgoesherthroat 9y ago
Their are two points of view in the TRP community. One side understands the ins-and-outs of the system and is content with only getting pussy, while the other side wants to use this knowledge to change society to be more balanced and male-friendly.
Gentleman, we will keep getting the shaft generation after generation unless we find a way to fight back against the excesses of feminism.
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Feminism is a snake eating it's own tail. It will fight itself and we will all suffer the consequences when the government runs out of borrowed money to subsidize all the single moms.
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bakbakgoesherthroat 9y ago
as a group, not as individuals.
Hardparty 9y ago
Yes, the 95% of the population are hopeless. But that doesn't mean we should give up on them. Most don't even know what has happened to them in their lives, or why they are the way they are. The future children are even more important, and we need to get to them soon.
It is our duty as men to step up and document and defend our kids against such malice such as feminism, no matter how hopeless. I'm not exactly sure how one man can do much against many, however I do know that being a man who fights makes you the envy of those who cower.
You can tell a lot about a mans character by how he treats things that can do nothing for him.
ProjectShamrock 9y ago
I've got a bit of a peacemaker mentality so I'd like to jump in between both of you and say that I think you're both right to a degree.
/u/projectself is right in saying that we control our own destinies and should focus on our own self improvement first. However, since we live in a society, it is in our best interests for that society to be the best it can be as it does directly impact our lives so your words also have merit.
Personally, I put my priorities as focusing on myself and my children first, then my wife, and then the rest of my family and close friends, then employer/country/nation/society/etc after that to varying degrees. To advocate for improving society is to want to build a better place for yourself and those you care about to thrive in.
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ProjectShamrock 9y ago
This makes sense, and I see it similarly, but I extend it out a bit. If the local economy fails where I live, then bad things happen such as increasing robberies, housing market values decreasing (and bringing my home's value down with it), potentially worse education for my kids, less opportunity for me to change to a better job, etc. Right now I'm doing great and will work to keep that, but at the same time I see how investing in my community in some way helps maintain my quality of life and provides me with a certain level of insurance in case of a problem.
I've never heard of an individual or group of people having great things bestowed upon them and it working out. A great example for individuals are the people who win the lottery. They don't earn that money, so they are missing the foundation of how to maintain it. As a result, they often end up in worse financial shape than they were before they won. If they had instead earned it slowly over time they would work harder to maintain their money and have more foresight on how to use it wisely.
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Did you know boys nerve endings in their fingers develop later than girls?
That trying to learn to write while your nerve endings are still developing results in the brain constantly re-learning how to write.
This is why boys handwriting is so crappy, but was beautiful before women started teaching boys.
randomchaos1 9y ago
Yes, basically I was always taught that being beta is good and attractive and that's what girls really like.
I was really surprised when all the dirty scummy assholes were getting laid in college. It was almost like a culture shock. I knew something was wrong right off the bat. I was always focused on scholarly pursuits and thought that's what females found attractive as well. I thought a good looking smart guy > buff dumbass. Boy was I wrong...
Venicedreaming 9y ago
To be fair, being in the cubicle is prolly a good place to hunt for financially stable men. So it's pretty smart to hang around cubicles instead of malls/bars/restaurants when it comes to mating choices
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I silently boycott anything anit-me.
These establishments don't get my money, but I'm more than happy to spread rumor about them.
Fuck hollywood. Fuck pop. Fuck lefty news. Fuck them all. They don't get a dime. I will do my part to starve my enemies. I will silently discriminate.
Anything pro-me will be supported by my excess. Allies.
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DexterousRichard 9y ago
I wish you had given her back one with a positive note about all the decent kids.
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I have had a long-held belief that women go into teaching because this is the only way they can feel powerful without actually developing any amount of internal strength.
Women are raised in such a way that, as they grow up, they're imprinted with the notion that they're powerless. This is why women feel entitled to physically and mentally abuse men without fear of retribution.
Men are raised in such a way that, as they grow, they're told that the physical strength they possess is meant only for things that promote society.
This piece of shit was circulating on social media recently: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-pv8mCHbOrs
TL;DW: Lady made a video 50 yrs ago which segregated kids by blue eyes and brown eyes. Teaches kids "racism is bad kay." Is inexplicably given a college course where she does the same thing x 10, and uses bully pulpit and peer pressure to make college-aged girls cry.
Great! Mao Tze Tung used Struggle Sessions too, and we all know how great of a leader he was! Peer pressure is a recognized method of scientific discourse! Using universal qualifiers like "every day" and "all the time" are surely truthful when talking about individual people!
But the main point of bringing this lady up is to prove a point: Women teach because they want to abuse people. They're never taught to use their power with moderation. They're never taught that you shouldn't enjoy punishment. Thus, why women enter education/nursing/daycare in droves.
Areimanes 9y ago
I know a lot of guys who would love to teach (and they're good at it, too), but the money, hours and lack of autonomy (here in the Netherlands at least) prevents them from picking up the teacher role.
The people who do end up becoming teachers are either the really passionate ones who get bludgeoned down over the years due to the bureaucracy or the ones who couldn't hack it in other professions.
Furthermore, the requirements to teach are a joke.
There was actually a row a few years back where it turned out that the people getting ready to teach after college didn't posses the mathematical acumen of a 12 year old. They introduced an exam you had to pass that was at the same level 12 year olds would receive in their last year of primary school. A lot of people complained because it was too hard.
And those people will be teaching my kids? Get the fuck out.
slcjosh 9y ago
The US has a real problem with poor teachers. I'd need to do more research but I'm feeling lazy, but teachers who help develop our youth usually graduate in the bottom third of their classes. In have a personal anecdote that adds to this. I asked a chick I was hanging out with why she wanted to be a teacher. Her response "3 months off every summer". Jesus.
JohnGalt316 9y ago
can confirm
this applies to the undergrad bio majors in my school:
if you were white, in a sorority, and didn't have the grades to get into med school you would become a teacher
if you were an asian female and didn't have the grades to get into med school you would become a nurse
newlifeasredpill 9y ago
They were the girls who couldn't possibly have studied finance, science, or engineering. They were in school to have fun and taking care of kids is about all they can do.
And not cuz they learned shit in school. Watching kids is in their DNA.
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newlifeasredpill 9y ago
Separate note..I take my little guy to the gym in our building for ten to fifteen mins before school a couple days a week. He loves it
I help him do Pull ups, pushups, plank, squats with one pound dumbbells.
Any programs for young kids? I really don't know what is safe so I stick to these bodyweight excersizes and I don't really let him do more then 4 to 5 sets as I don't know what is safe
ScumbagBillionaire 9y ago
Stick to bodyweight exercises until he hits around 13.
Then teach him how to train with barbells/dumbbells/freeweights.
moiez326 9y ago
i think you're doing a fine job. just don't make it too intense. bodyweight is good but nothing that puts too much pressure. As soon as he hits puberty, BAM. tell him to lift and eat like crazy. watch him become an animal!
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wiseclockcounter 9y ago
im by no means certified, but maybe have him do plyometrics and ladder agility drills.
They will be especially fun for a young kid and the ladder stuff will improve his focus and coordination. Not to mention jumping is a serious workout for any age.
newlifeasredpill 9y ago
I'll try the ladder drills
Appreciate the suggestion!
chillmonkey88 9y ago
I think is so cool of that bond you can get out of a child when they gravitate to you... something I think a lot of people misinterpret is that trp can help immensely in child development of girls and boys... short story that happened two days ago...
My brother's kids (boy 10, girl 14) are bad, around him and his wife. They both work a lot and the kids had shitty grades in math this semester and one day I dropped by (don't remember for what) and gathered the kids around... anyway I decided to intervien and help them out with their math homework before a test and treated them like you said... adult but fun, while showing dominance... and they were the most focused, happy, in line kids for that time. after they completed everything and I checked it over, I left. The next day sister in law calls while I hear fighting and screaming in the background "they both got 100% on their math tests! can you tutor them again?"
It's funny and gratifying how when you show respect and treat them like equal humans and also be a leader, how kids (boys and girls) warm up to you... and stay in line because they gravitate to you so your frame to them is strong in the sub conscious and they're able to just be themselves.
DexterousRichard 9y ago
MARY POPPINS
I'm serious. Watch that movie and tell me she's not the most awesome disciplinarian ever. She is tough as hell when it comes to being proper, but makes everything fun, and cares about what's important, not about bullshit.
Those were the old values of the West and of Britain. Culture. Pride. Respect. For the kids and for the adults.
wiseclockcounter 9y ago
I'm inclined to assume that it's drastically different when you're their actual parent though. When you've been with them literally their whole lives- having to discipline them and be the bad guy sometimes. I'm with the both of you when it comes to giving kids respect. People don't give children enough credit most of the time.
But while you may view your behavior towards them as the equalizer, it could be that they just have pent up resentment towards their parents and none towards you. So when their parents come to them in a respectful manner that is the same as yours in every way, the kids respond with their own shit attitude which tips off the parents which sends everyone into a cycle.
Any parents want to chime in on that? In this hypothetical, would there ever be a point where the way you treat them or chose not to treat them prevents resentment? Or is it unavoidable?
chillmonkey88 9y ago
I'm getting at the strong male role model example... I'm a dad and my son loves and respects me but he can lash out when he breaks one of my rules.
I understand where your coming from because I'm the cool uncle vs. The law of the home... my point was that, the male "role model" is slowly being executed. It's so rare now because of the teaching industry being mostly women and "pedo hysteria" you hear about all the time (for every 1000 good male teachers stories people hear about, instead it's the crazy that made a sexual comment to another staff member or a professor that slept with a student). On one side you get men that can't interact with children because they don't know how, on the other you get ones that are good but patronized and parents don't give them the time of day to shine over hysteria they've saw on the news.
My brother and sil provide a very good life for their kids... but that comes at the sacrifice of not quite having the most respectful kids right now...
baseballbat 9y ago
As long as you're respectful, it is usually fine. My father always made sure when he criticized me it wasn't to chastise me or annoy me but to point out my weak points and hopefully make them better. Even if it was a sore spot as long as you say something like "this may come across as derogatory. I don't mean it to be but I can't think of a better way to say it so just keep that in mind" No matter how mad I was I would always at least listen to what he had to say. 99% of the time he was spot on so I couldn't really be pissed.
My mother would rarely try to criticize constructively and always came off as insulting. Even if I knew she didn't mean it that way, her not paying me the courtesy of at least saying she knew she'd come off as a jerk would start the whole conversation on the wrong foot and would never get better from there.
They were divorced so I could see the two strategies work separately so I can see how the one would completely undermine the other and why a lot of families seem to just implode over anything even if it was perfectly salvageable.
wiseclockcounter 9y ago
that's pretty interesting given how they were distinctly separate. Do you have any examples of their differences when it comes to one instance in your life? Also are you a parent?
baseballbat 9y ago
I'm not a parent, can't imagine being one before the next decade.
But one instance was when I got caught driving home impaired affter partying back in high school. My father caught me and proceeded to chew me out about how this sort of thing could ruin my life whether getting caught by authorities or injury or worse. He was fucking PISSED. I was getting kind of pissed too because he seemed to be telling me how much of an idiot I was and that's insulting no matter how old you are or what you did. But mad as he was after the initial reaming he apologized for being so mad and explained it was only because he was worried about me and that he thought I had made a terrible decision, especially because he believed me to be smart enough not to risk something like that. He talked to me about how it was a natural part of life that I be interested in this sort of thing and while he understood it he wasn't comfortable with it. However as long as I was honest he would not punish me. This was followed by the talk about even if I was out partying he'd much rather have me call him and pick me up, at any hour, if I needed it and no one was 100% okay to drive me home. My safety was his utmost priority.
My mother, while I'm sure was worried about me merely continued on to wail about how I would ruin my life and how stupid I was and how I'd turn out just like my uncles (both died of alcohol related activities/issues) and never amount to anything if I kept up behavior like that and that she "saw this coming".
A lot of other examples are more about how i did in sports. My father told me I had had a great practice but "you need to pick up your feet more. You're just dragging yourself down and is just dumb. Now I'm not blaming you, I'm just trying to show you how you can do better because you really can do SO MUCH BETTER. I mean, this is you doing it wrong, imagine when you're doing it right!" And my mother would say I wasn't very good at running and I should work on it so I could still be as good as the other guys on the team.
juanqunt 9y ago
Big sister is watching... I really fear for the next generation. When I will have a son in probably 5-10 years, I won't even know how to raise him in this pussified society without him getting bullied by feminazis and getting suspended from school all the time for just being a normal boy. He will be a Harrison Bergeron, oppressed in a politically correct world for being too good. I fear that he wouldn't be able to have normal bros to hang out with, but instead have a bunch of SJW acquaintances who are biologically male but low test white knights.
Feminism is the worst terrorist threat of our generation. It's not a bomb threat or anything, but it's a threat that poisons the next generation and destroys society from the inside.
moiez326 9y ago
bam, you hit it perfectly. I'm so conflicted about having kids...this world is so fucked up precisely because of things like feminism.
Saturnalia93 9y ago
There may be hope yet. It remains just a sliver, but the fact that places like this right here are constantly growing bodes well for us. The further they go, the more radical things become, the further back their "gains" will be rolled if there is ever a successful social counterrevolution.
harkrank 9y ago
You don't have to put your child in prison. If you put him in prison you can struggle and fight as much as you please, it will still be negative for him. The easiest solution is the best solution. Don't put him in prison.
juanqunt 9y ago
I think you misread what I wrote completely. I mean that I fear that feminists would probably try to put him in prison just for acting like a normal boy without actually doing anything wrong. Not to mention that public school is so heavily censored that it's effectively a cage.
harkrank 9y ago
I meant school when I wrote prison. You don't have to put him there. That's the key point that everybody seems to miss. You don't have to put your children in school. And before anybody replies to this, be aware that you are probably rationalizing.
juanqunt 9y ago
I see. There are still problems. Homeschool can take a lot away from the social experiences of kids... private school can be better, but how many of them aren't corrupted by feminism too? I can't think of a good solution where there won't be any isolation or stigmatism involved.
Ideally we could kickstart red pill private schools for kids... maybe that will happen eventually, but honestly this is not a priority for most red pillers, and there are developmental problems associated with boarding schools as well.
herewegoaga1n 9y ago
Fuck, I remember a whale lord of a teacher when I was in high school that told me to fix my frayed pants, when I replied,"Oh, I'll just ask one of my aunts who sow if they can fix it."
This ham beast then yelled like I just fucked and stabbed her young cub to death, "THAT'S SEXIST!!! I CAN HAVE YOU EXPELLED FOR THAT!!!"
That was some pretty fucked up shit to drop on a sophomore. Either way, my motto became "Bitches be crazy" soon afterwards.
rapreaper 9y ago
There is a saying in Sanskrit: Vinashakari vipareeta buddhi. Which means that "Behaviour/thinking/actions become more and more extreme as you approach (self) destruction".
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gekkozorz 9y ago
Not just that. It ruins girls, too.
As Frost once wrote, [feminism is causing the female depression epidemic.] (http://www.thumotic.com/feminism-depression-epidemic/) Women are now being encouraged to reject the sort of lifestyle that works towards their biological best interest (ie, slutting around, acting like a dude, cutting her hair short, and wasting their fertile years as a cubicle monkey), and this is making them miserable.
And what do women do when they get miserable? More feminism! Obviously the reason she's feeling this way is because they don't have equality yet; maybe if the Patriarchy would give her just one more Equality, then she'll be happy.
It's a
negativepositive feedback loop which won't end until all women are completely miserable, and yeah, boys are getting dragged down with it.Feminism is a viral infection that ruins things for everyone.
gstvtrp 9y ago
Sorry to be pedantic, but that's actually a positive feedback loop. Positive feedback is where an effect keeps increasing out of control (upright pencil falling down). Negative feedback is where an effect is diminished (pendulum). I hope you learn the difference because you seem like a smart guy. I see this mistake made a lot.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Positive_feedback
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Negative_feedback
demilitarizdsm 9y ago
"just one more equality" perfect.
beginner_ 9y ago
Feminisim is a meme.
The idea is from Richard Dawkins book "the selfish gene". While not TRP related a must-read anyway. Religion is also a meme and in grand scheme of things feminism is a religion.
Just read this infamous essay of Dawkins and replace "religion" with "feminism".
Your virus analogy is pretty good.
EDIT:
And further most children take on the religion of their parents. So it spreads even further the more children you have (make it obvious why certain religions don't like condoms or abortions...). This will also tell you TRP will never really spread far because your probably less likely to have kids.
And another interesting similarity is how TRP is a bad thing just like Christianity was back then in the roman empire. Only difference is that now you are not literally getting crucified.
R4F1 9y ago
"Nigga you got any more of that Equality??... C'mon man. I'll suck your dick!" —
crackequality addicthigh_protein_diet 9y ago
You mean positive feedback loop
randomchaos1 9y ago
I honestly can't help but think that this multiculturalism/feminism agenda is meant to destroy western civilizations.
No conspiracy shit, just step back and look at the numbers. Of course that's when liberals will step in and say in this particular case "causation does not equal correlation."
ETH_Zurich 9y ago
Abso-fucking-lutely, there was an article in the BBC that analyzed a study done on women in management positions.
http://www.bbc.com/news/health-30127275
galvanised_computer 9y ago
Could you clarify or provide evidence for "acting like a dude" ?
NightPhoenix35 9y ago
Circle jerk the status quo
rockumsockumrobots 9y ago
PROTIP: Homeschool your kids.
I was homeschooled and was always taught to think with a critical mind. That has lead me to TRP and helped me find other red pills to swallow. The ultimate red pill is that of self improvement.
It is a blessing and a curse. I know what is going on around me, but I have to self censor, self police and live in it. Meanwhile I work towards the future I want to see without compromising the leverages I have to change it.
Such is life under the thumb of the zionist cultural marxist mafia, feeding off of the rotting corpse of the western society in the behavioral sink.
bobbatosakosanose 9y ago
Most girls I talk so support it. They think it means "gender equality". Remember women vote more than men and initiated the movement. Its really entirely their own doing.
duckspeed 9y ago
Has there ever been a women's movement that didn't receive government support and that didn't succeed? Even prohibition succeeded for a short time.
symko 9y ago
Did they get rid of home economics yet? In a perfect world that shit would be mandatory for women before you get a high school degree. Foodies got to go!
berluch 9y ago
Should be mandatory for everyone, a man should be self-sufficient enough to cook his own food and repair his own clothing.
BlackHeart89 9y ago
I can cook, but I can't sew for shit. I'm not even going to pretend as if I plan to learn.
NoRegretj 9y ago
This is why I'm not even necessarily mad about this movement. I don't plan on having kids and I've been going my own way this past year, the more unhappy they are the funnier it is and makes you realize just how pathetic the whole modern feminist movement is. It's hilarious honestly, they raise boys to be the exact opposite of what every girl wants, of course they are upset they can't find happiness anymore since they base it entirely off of relationships.
newlifeasredpill 9y ago
I dont care about some middle age women who are emotional basket cases as they spent their best years working offices by day and riding cc at night.
Its another story when a smart ten year old boy is drugged to the gills and told he is bad because for zero reason. Big pharma has blood on their hands
Dubiousxy 9y ago
Strong men lead revolts and overthrow tyrannies, which what we have now. The government wants dumbed down fat fe-men that are more interested in the latest reality show than they are in the rapidly dropping rate of living or division of wealth.
Ibex3D 9y ago
The government want Iron-men? Fuck yes! When is this gonna happen????
ubrayj02 9y ago
Televised sports, vidya, and ample porn doesn't help make strong men either.
LukesLikeIt 9y ago
This is what I like about the boom in the fitness industry. It's like on a subconscious level many of us are realizing we will have to fight for our right to exist in the future and are building our bodies accordingly.
boscoist 9y ago
Then we are doing a shit job. Big muscles are very expensive to maintain compared with very lean strong muscle. We'll still be better off than most, but not optimal at all for a collapse.
BlackHeart89 9y ago
Thats wild. For me, it started because I ran into the mother of a friend I hadn't seen in over 10 years (when I was 9). I had gotten fat. I googled the chick and found out she was a track star at her school.
Been lifting weights ever since. But the reason for it had gradually changed. I've always wanted to be strong. But now I want to be fit. Big difference.
BedHeadd 9y ago
I've been thinking about that too...
sir_wankalot_here 9y ago
The real agenda, I am pretty sure this crap is only taught in public schools.
AcrossHallowedGround 9y ago
Nope. Private Catholic schooling from k-12. Pretty much just as bad. Except they used bible verses to sell it.
lostbutnotmad 9y ago
I was home schooled from k-7 and that is the only thing that saved me. I then attended a Catholic middle and high school. They are just as bad. But college is where the Big hammer hits.
AcrossHallowedGround 9y ago
Pretty much. I go to a pretty prominent college and they like to make a big deal about rape prevention and advancement of women and shit like that. And although it's worse than high-school, to be honest, it's not as bad as most of the shit I see on here.
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[deleted] 9y ago
I've seen kindergarten kids (5-6) being put on amphetamine stimulants for ADHD.
Holy fuck, that's absolutely criminal and incredibly sad. They get the label of being defective their whole life, have to deal with shitty side effects like trouble sleeping, eating, depression, iritability, not gaining muscle, heart problems, etc.. and thinking that is their whole reality. Not to mention they become dependent on these drugs for their entire life.
I convinced myself I had ADHD(and you can too by reading the Wikipedia article on it) in college and went to a doctor about it who asked me a few simple questions and was more than happy to dole out the drugs (Ritalin and Adderall) without ever taking any blood test or drug test to see if I was already a junkie, without asking me about my diet, exercise, and social life, without ruling out any cause for it at all, just treating the symptom like it's the cause. A few months later I failed all my classes but got really good at focusing on video games, pointlessly organizing shit, and masturbating all night long.
Years later it turns out I actually just needed to cut sugar and most carbs from my diet and get strenuous exercise EVERY day. Skipping days didn't work for me because I found it hard to sleep on days I don't work out, without sleep my diet and focus suffered, I start losing willpower and skipping more gym, start getting ADHD, Anxious, depressed, and can't sleep even more. Terrible fucking cycle cured by wearing out the primate in me.
I feel so sad for the drugged little boys that don't even know what recess is, let alone playing freely outdoors with other kids in the neighborhood after school.
EDIT: I'm not saying ADHD doesn't exist, its absolutely a horrible disease, but just because a kid can't pay attention in an incredibly boring, inactive, and uncreative environment without the comfort of their parents, doesn't mean there's anything wrong with them.
Dadoms 9y ago
Back in elementary school I got the same thing. I would act out too much or disturb class, boom straight with the ADHD shit. Good thing my parents were old school Europeans where that type of shit is nonsense. Let boys be boys.
brain_candy 9y ago
I wish my parents were the same. I was too "energetic" and didn't focus in class like I was apparently supposed to. What was the answer? Ritalin. Let's dope the kid until he's a fucking zombie. From Kindergarten to high school when I finally said enough. They didn't, and probably still don't know what that kind of long term use does to a child. But fuck it. We have to think about our poor teachers and how haaaaaaaaard it must be to try and handle such an outrageous student!!1!
NoRegretj 9y ago
We have a literal epidemic of boys being put on this medication, it's sad to think about really. It's a made up ..."disease" or condition what ever the fuck they want to call it. I feel terrible too but how are we honestly going to change it?
1independentmale 9y ago
We have to change it one child at a time. I can't control what other parents do, but I can control myself and my son will never, ever be on such medication. Period. I would take him and leave the country before I would allow this to happen to him.
newlifeasredpill 9y ago
No questions about diet and excersize and social life and ..here you go bud...Schedule 2 drugs!
My little boy is doing very well with tons of soccer,baseball,basketball, and swimming. We feed him real food and limit tv and video games to about 2 hours per week. He sees a psych once a week to talk. We use behavior plans. We monitor his playdates to make sure no one is overstimulated.
I think adhd is real. I think drugs can help. I also know feminism redefined normal boy behavior as something that needed to be treated FIRST with drugs rather than a last resort. A compliant docile boy is a girl and that's the goal here.
Thus..the incidence of ADHD is overstated about 50 times the actual occurrence
Seuguh 9y ago
See a psych to talk is a bit much. A psychologist gets paid to act as your best friend, that's it. Psychologist visits are all about being asked questions that make you give answers that free your mind. Ex: What did you this week? How did you feel about what you did? What are some things you think or felt you could've done differently for a better result?
It's little things man. Just talk to kid, he's a human like you, with his own thoughts and reality, just new to the world. Don't just see him as a "kid", see him as whoever you named him as, and speak to that person, ask them questions and exchange ideas like you would with any friend... That's it.
newlifeasredpill 9y ago
You don't have kids or ADHD DIAGNOSIS right?
niczar 9y ago
I have ADHD. It's bad. Very bad. And the science is clear. It might be misdiagnose, but it's not overdiagnosed, and certainly not 50 times over.
A quick rundown as to why it's real and not overdiagnosed:
People diagnosed with ADHD but untreated are at least twice as likely to have a car accident than non-ADHD people. Medication reduces the risk to near baseline.
Untreated ADHD adolescent are much more likely to abuse drugs than those who are treated, who are still more likely to abuse than non ADHD people.
And so on.
Lakey91 9y ago
What you wrote indicates that ADHD exists, not that it isn't over diagnosed. ADHD is a developmental disorder where children act much younger than they are in terms of hyperactivity and concentration. A five year old is supposed to act that way because he is five.
We're essentially giving young boys amphetamine (which is what ritalin and adderall are) for acting like age appropriate young boys so that they'll act like adults.
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I think it's great you are putting so much care and attention into your sons life, really, far too few parents do, but you also don't want to be too overbearing. I've seen too many of my peers with helicopter parents go completely fucking crazy when they get any semblance of freedom.
I know it can be scary, but it's pretty important to give him some unstructured time to himself and with his peers without rules or guidance so he can flap his wings, instead of crashing straight to the ground when he learns he can leave the nest.
newlifeasredpill 9y ago
Good advice. Yea. Hold on tightly, let go lightly
fathak 9y ago
drop the shrink like a bad habit -- if you need to see a shrink, you should have your head examined. Talk to your boy yerself eh?
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john-b 9y ago
I Don't think drugs can help. Giving heavy duty mind-altering drugs to developing brains is never a good idea. It shouldn't even be a last resort.
BlackHeart89 9y ago
Its not really to help get rid of the ADHD. Rather its to help them get through the class so they can actually learn. I'm sure many parents use it to get rest as well though.
newlifeasredpill 9y ago
I never say never. I agree with you in principle though.
If my kid was failing out of school or in trouble with law or having serious issues holding onto friends...I d reconsider.
The idea that he won't listen to little house on the prairie during reading rugtime or that he plays tag at recess despite warnings not to do so...?
This is a joke. Not a reason to use stimulating drugs
niczar 9y ago
There's solid studies showing that untreated ADHD kids are much more at risk of developing substance abuse, social isolation, depression and failing school.
There's decades of experience treating kids with MPH and amphetamines. The risk/benefit is perfectly clear.
And no, there's no big pharma conspiracy, the most commonly used meds have been out of patent and thus available as cheap generics for half a century.
newlifeasredpill 9y ago
You are correct but meds should be tried after many other interventions.
My son is messy. Disorganized to the point where he make silly mistakes in math. Yet he is in gifted program.
Graph paper really helped. There are practical solutions that should be tried first.
Maybe some of these props and supports can temper the amount of meds others need.
Anyway..I am sure I also suffer from this. My whole life is based on accommodating and I play to my strengths and avoid my weaknesses
Good luck
cntthnko1 9y ago
Sees a psych to talk?? You cant do it..? I mean, shit dude.
Overly energetic (adhd) is a necessary thing in children and you need to let it grow, not dull it. Its their strive to want to learn about the world, it needs to be cultivated by all means. No kid needs drugs unless if he is actually dying of some disease. Mental problems are almost always just bullshit; a little manliness takes care of it quite well (edit: see the southpark episode on adhd).
My childhood (a village in india) i was out all day without parental micromanagement playing in dirt and doing whatever we could think of -- granted my village didnt have feminist micromanagement at every cornor, so youre probably doing it right.
niczar 9y ago
ADHD treatment is not very necessary when you live in a village doing village things. It's another story when you live in a city and have to do non village things like filing fucking taxes or getting to an appointment on time ... if at all.
Running around as a kid is not the problem with ADHD, it's just one of the (most minor) symptoms, the one that happens to be the least problematic as such. It's just that it's the most visible.
cntthnko1 9y ago
You dont think there are taxes and doctors in villages? Lol.
Im not gonna get too deep into what it looked like (dirty as fuck, by the way), but we had electricity, if that helps... Most people were farmers and animal herders.
If the kid is always told to stop doing what he instinctually wants to do (dont play ball in the house, dont eat that off the floor, dont sit on the dirt, dont touch that bug, blah blah), that energy is going to just build up.
We were allowed to roam pretty freely and let our energy out so when it came time to study (which is the non-visible problem, i assume) we were more than capable of focusing.
newlifeasredpill 9y ago
Running around is not even close to the real problems we face
newlifeasredpill 9y ago
No I can't do it. I am not trained in cognitive behavioral therapy.
Kids with ADHD (or energetic boys if you prefer) are always "in trouble" for lack of impulse control. When every authority figure...(mom, women teachers, women principals) are always displeased then kids grow up thinking they are "bad". Destroys self confidence and becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. My son doesn't have a positive male role model for the first ten hours of his day til I get home or after school sports.
Agree about drugs 100percent. It's a last resort. That's one of the reasons I have him in CBT. First...do no harm
Seuguh 9y ago
just get your kid to talk and open his mind to you so you can see what's it like in his head. Ask him what he's thinking about, make him draw often, ask him to tell you about his dreams in the morning etc. Enter his mind yourself and be father.
Seeing a shrink at that age is like going to boarding school. His deepest thoughts are being shared with a stranger that's paid to listen to him. How would that make you feel if it were you growing up? Be the father you didn't have, and the father you wish yours was.
newlifeasredpill 9y ago
You have no idea what you are talking about.
Google CBT and ADHD
If I were an absent father I'd dope him.up and call that the treatment. Instead I make him breakfast and take him to gym before the bus to his gifted program then go to work. Most afternoons are helping him do his homework and shuttling him to soccer practice or basketball etc. I also have a daughter who gets half the attention as her brother.
His "stranger" shrink works with him on impulse control and the feelings of shame that he gets from.constantly being reprimanded.
Or I could make him draw like you said.
And what the fuck do you know about my father anyway?
Seuguh 9y ago
I don't know anything about your father, but everybody has some things they wish their father taught them or made them experience or did for them when they were kids. So I'm saying, whatever those might be for you, be that father for your kid.
If your pops was an 8/10 dad, fill in the gap and be a 10/10.
I'm "gifted" so to speak myself and had parents who didn't know how to deal with it when I was younger. Sure, I was very bright and more mature than my peers, but it came with baggage they didn't know how to deal with. Don't even talk to me about ADHD and being gifted. All I'm saying is, the mind is a lot simpler than people think.
erpii 9y ago
I have the exact same problem as you do. I'm going to give it a try, but how did you cut out sugar? I have a sugar addiction...
BrunoOh 9y ago
If you're like me and eat a whole sack of sweets mindlessly, try switching rather than removing. Something like celery, carrots or tangerines (my favourite, since they take a fair bit of time to peel and remove threads) are ideal.
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Yeah, sugar is fucking delicious, is cheap and subsidized, is in everything, and spikes your insulin to make you want even more of it.
Start slow, and just try to keep written track of what you're eating, just having that insight and history is a powerful tool by itself.
The easiest thing to cut out is soda, all soda, even diet. It might seem like its healthier, but its still messing with your insulin. You might even be addicted to the caffeine in it if you drink a few per day, so I would suggest replacing it with unsweetened tea or coffee at least the first week or so.
What also worked for me is simply not buying any snacks or junk food to keep around that I'll just inhale when I'm bored or stressed. Instead I mostly buy raw ingredients that I have to take time to cook, even if its just making a sandwich or something, when I actually have to make food, its because I'm really hungry. I also always keep a bunch of fruit and nuts around for snacks. While before I would eat a box of cookies for a snack, now I eat like an apple or banana or a handful of almonds and I don't feel hungry for a couple of hours. There's only so much fruit you can eat in a day, it gets exhausting.
Already feeling better, I then started to roughly count my calories and see how much sugar I'm actually in-taking and hooooooooly fuck, it was like 80% of my diet. When you start to look at the carb% on your food, you realize its in fucking everything. Pasta, sauces, bread, milk, juice, cereal, energy drinks, sports drinks, starbucks, potato chips, salad dressing, condiments, trail mix, oatmeal, dried fruit, baked beans, even cold cuts. That's not even accounting for the obvious stuff like fast food, candy, pasties, and desert.
Now I'm not saying carbs are the devil, and it's important to eat some of them, especially if you exercise. But when you cut out sodas, candy, and pastries, and the majority of your diet is still carbs, that's a massive fucking problem. Everything in moderation, including moderation.
Now roughly 10-25% of my diet is carbs, and most of that comes from fruits, veggies, and slow releasing carbs like whole grain bread and pasta (yeah, all the stuff that's not actually that delicious, boo hoo). But I feel like a completely different person, lots more energy, way less neuroticism, and never having to strain on the toilet again.
Although personally, exercise was slightly more important for me than diet, because constant exercise cured my insomnia, which gave me more willpower, which helped me in every aspect of my life, including diet.
Good luck out there, it's not easy, but it's worth it. You will hate it at first and your body will reject your new diet, probably from all bacteria in your gut that love your current diet, but you will get used to it until it becomes normal.
brannana 9y ago
This tends to be one of my lines of argument when discussing things with harder-core feminists, particularly when they go off on rants about what "society" is telling young girls.
I will usually ask them how they feel about what society is telling young men with much of the anti-rape, anti-harassment, anti-abuse materials out there. That the message that's being put out there is that just by virtue of being male, they're already seen as some slavering beast, beholden only to his hormones and base desires, that cannot be trained or educated, that must be feared lest he find some crack in her armor and rape her at the slightest opportunity. That he, as a male, will be seen as being sexually harassing just for approaching an attractive girl, even with an opening line as gender and intent neutral as "good morning". That, particularly as a white male, he is automatically guilty for the sins of his forefathers and must bear the burden and guilt for all socio-economic disparity. That if he is sensitive and emotional and cries, he will be labelled as a crybaby and/or homosexual, but if he resists those things, and tries to act more traditionally male, he'll be labelled as a neanderthal, misogynist, unintelligent meathead. That no matter what he does or how he acts, he's doing it wrong.
Then I ask them how the harm of that message stacks up against "I'm not pretty enough" or "girls are bad at math".
GRRMkills 9y ago
Destruction of the family unit has been more damaging than what's happening in the school system (and that's saying a lot, because the schools are fucked). Feminism cause broken homes, and broken homes produce broken children
harkrank 9y ago
The school system is the destruction of the family unit. In the beginning kids had four years of mandatory school, giving a % of government influence on the minds of the % of people who went to school.
Let me invite the numbers just to explain my point. Let's say 4 years of schooling influenced the minds to 15% on 80% of the population.
When they in turn have kids, the kids will be 8 years in school and the government will have a 30% influence on the kids' minds, and the parents will have the other 70% influence, but they are 15% tainted, so the kid will have a total of about 40% government instituted thinking in their minds.
Next generation is maybe 12 years in school. 45% government influence, the parents are 40% tainted, so the total will be 67% government approved thinking. In three generations you can totally mindfuck a population. Consider that in a lot of western countries people go to 20+ years of school on average and couple that with mass media and there really is no protection. Less than 10% of the population is adult in western countries.
namae_nanka 9y ago
http://www.illinoisloop.org/gender.html
But according to a feminist, who argued with a study, the stories are still boy favoring since more boy characters are the protagonists.
darksoldierk 9y ago
I know I did. In eighth grade, my English teacher wanted us to draw a representation of love and a representation of friendship. I remember ripping my hair out, thinking to myself "wtf does she want from me?". At the end, I decided that the best way to do it is to draw a heart and to draw a happy face, inside the heart/happy face I would write what characteristics I would want in someone that i'd like to be in a romantic relationship with and what characteristics I would want in a friend. When I got there in class, everyone compared their assignments. One girl had a similar idea. She drew a flower for love and a dog or something as a friend. My teacher gave her an A and not only failed me, but decided to single my assignment out in front of the whole class and repeatedly tell everyone how stupid the assignment is and how much of an utter failure I was. This was in a school in Canada.
That same teacher had a class exercise where she told us one things. The first was "a woman cannot rape a man, only men can rape a woman because if a man didn't want to get hard, he just chose not to". It's funny, looking back, I was 12 years old. Topics like romantic relationships and rape were things that had never even crossed my mind.
GameTheorist 9y ago
It was pretty much always drilled into me from a young age that women are superior in pretty much every way. I grew up being afraid of girls and putting them up on a pedestal. I think it ended up leading to a lot of anger for me in my teen years as I slowly found out I'd been lied to.
smokingmonkey420 9y ago
Be glad you figured it out in your teens and not your late twenties.
gideonrakthor 9y ago
It's also sickening to know so many women think everything is just fine, especially those reading the sub. They want their "balance" of pussified men vs self actualized men to the maximum.
ollivierre 9y ago
I can not handle this big dose of red pills all at once ;)
[deleted] 9y ago
Not that I know. I've rarely had male teachers but the the ones I had are the ones I learned the most from.
If feminism really is ruining the lives of boys here, then it's just gonna keep going. There was a post on here saying men don't waste time with that stuff. They don't, hence the reason they and their sons keep getting screwed.
It's no-win situation either way. Either you try to fight back and have to deal with all the hyenas or don't and watch the system screw you or your son over.
scottlapier 9y ago
The more I think back, the more I realize that I barely remember the names or subjects of most of my female teachers (aside from the two I had crushes on). But I remember every class I had that was taught by a man, good or bad, and it influenced me in some way.
Even in college, I.had one super RP professor who everyone looked up to. Most of the female professors were 'smart' and often got hostile if you questioned them and their 'methodologies'
Recently, a former classmate compared me to my aforementioned RP professor...it was a proud moment for me.
scottlapier 9y ago
The more I think back, the more I realize that I barely remember the names or subjects of most of my female teachers (aside from the two I had crushes on). But I remember every class I had that was taught by a man, good or bad, and it influenced me in some way.
Even in college, I.had one super RP professor who everyone looked up to. Most of the female professors were 'smart' and often got hostile if you questioned them and their 'methodologies'
Recently, a former classmate compared me to my aforementioned RP professor...it was a proud moment for me.
Noculum 9y ago
I definitely preferred male teachers over female. But that might just be because I'm male as well.
I do remember one of my female teachers (English). She was absolutely amazing. She actually knew how to teach, and clearly knew her shit. Also she was Alpha as fuck. Grade 8's were scared to death of her. If you asked for help she'd do everything in her power to help you.
If you were caught doing something stupid, you were truly screwed. She'd break up beta little boys trying to have a fight when everyone else stood around. She came to school about 2 hours early and left 2 hours later. If there was a test, she'd have it marked by the next day, and you could see the bags in her eyes. She took her job very seriously and she was one hell of a teacher.
Won't ever forget her. She was definitely the most alpha teacher I ever had.