Most men get angry when first internalizing TRP because they see this huge mountain of pain before them. They see this mountain and they now realize they have to climb it if they wish to become who they want to be. They get scared, as they should, it's a big fucking mountain. Then they start to see this other group of people, the attractive women and chads, that seemingly never had to climb this mountain to get benefits. Women and chads got a helicopter ride to the top while they were denied that pass. Not only that, but most of society is telling them you don't really need to climb that mountain, you can just go wait line for a helicopter (do nothing be yourself) and eventually you will be at the top with all the 8- 10's and chads.
So now, not only have you wasted your most valuable resources, time and youth, you clearly see waiting in this line is bullshit. The helicopter rarely comes and it only picks up 2 people at at time. Men get pissed about that, and rightfully so, they were fucked over. Fuck those people at the top who lied to them and who didn't have climb this harsh mountain. But spending your time being angry at the people at the top, doesn't get you closer to the top, if anything it just keeps you down in the line.
You need to start climbing that harsh mountain. Because what you will quickly find is this, everyone falls. The difference is when you climb the mountain you build support structures as you go. So when you do fall, it's not as hard and not as far. You learn and improve as you go, so your 100th time falling is akin to a footslip, not losing your grip and almost dying. You start to expect a certain degree of problems when you plan your path. You realize what structures work for you and which don't. You learn to create these things from seemingly nothing. That is a very powerful skill, few people airlifted to the top ever have a chance to develop. They may be given access to the benefits of this skill for a short while. But eventually that will be taken away. Whether it be the wall, or daddy's money drying up eventually they will fall. Even if they don't, they are rarely happy at the top.
Humans have a desire to create value for the ones around them. Being good looking, or tall, or a certain race doesn't create value. It maybe valuable, but it does not help others around us. When you begin to learn to create value for others around you, people will want to be around you. That's attraction, being someone people want to be around. Climbing the mountain gives you something that can never be taken away. Not by a woman, time, haters, or even "the man", it will stay with you always. It gives you the ability to generate value, no matter where you are. But before you can generate value for others you need to generate value for yourself.
You need to improve yourself to a point that you are valuable to yourself. If you start trying to provide value to others without first being valuable to yourself, you will be taken advantage of. You won't know your worth, because you have none in your own mind. You need to be fit, physically and mentally to challenge the mountain. You will need passion, skill, and determination to make it to the top. These will be forged within you as you ascend, but you need discipline to start that climb. People with discipline have value, because they have worked hard and sacrificed to enforce that discipline. People without discipline may have valuable things, looks, money, status, but they are not valuable.
People who are valuable to themselves do not hate others that were given these gifts. Because they know gifts can be taken away, it is the ability to generate value that is key. Valuable people do not hate those that got a helicopter ride, they feel remorse for them. Those that got to the top without developing this skill, fall the hardest and longest when their gifts fade away.
robotghow 6y ago
Some people start out life with more than others can build in their entire lifetime. The real reason to let go of the anger, is that you are the only one suffering from it. Life is not fair, and you shouldn't depend on some future reckoning that will punish the privileged. All we can do is accept the things we cannot change, and learn to play the game in a way that we enjoy.
general_derez 6y ago
“Yes, a Jedi’s strength flows from the Force. But beware of the dark side. Anger, fear, aggression; the dark side of the Force are they. Easily they flow, quick to join you in a fight. If once you start down the dark path, forever will it dominate your destiny, consume you it will, as it did Obi-Wan’s apprentice.” – Yoda
NofapandalsoNosurf 6y ago
God damn
How can we be mentally fit?
spicy_fries 6y ago
OP GTFO with this bullshit.
This is just one long post of "don't anger bro".
How long should the anger phase be? As long as it takes.
The is a shout out to all the recently woke... it could take you two years or longer to get out the of anger phase.
Fuck it. Embrace it. I'd rather you be angry than a totally lost, blue-pill cuck who refuses to wake.
You'll eventually get over it. When you find yourself laughing instead of getting angry over female misbehavior then you will know that you are finally phasing out of anger and into acceptance.
That could take time. I'd never tell you to get over it. Because getting over it is different for everyone and it could take you years. You'll phase out of it eventually. I'm not saying that you couldn't do something more productive than hating, but sometimes some hating needs to be done just to get it out of your system.
That is much more workable than "don't hate bro" stupidass advice.
Pure hamster. I would always want to make it easy for my bros. If I could help them to have what I have and suffer less for it than I would be happy for them. I wouldn't pity them. Ridiculous comment.
Entropy-7 6y ago
TRPers get a lot of bad press based on the ravings of guys in "anger phase".
We are here for you but you have to get the fuck over yourself and get back into the mix.
Maybe there should be another sub to deal with guys in the anger phase so that it can be isolated and dealt with as separate from what TRP is all about.
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Best post I have seen on this sub.
You rock, OP.
Stythe 6y ago
Putting a timeline on this isn't a great idea. Ideally people woukd get angry and start working, lowering the time of actual anger whike they overcome the past, but you have to get it out. I'd say it's better to manage the anger, use it efetively and be angry at the right things.
Jack0fDiamonds 6y ago
If that was possible this whole community would not be on here "raging against the machine" 24/7. For me anger is in sporadic relapses-that subside and I get back to work. So overcoming it permanently over a brief period of time is unrealistic.
GOATmar 6y ago
Or be smart, and just as your body uses calories for energy, let the anger phase fuel your engine to success.
Frenetic_Zetetic 6y ago
Fantastic post, OP. I love the helicopter/line analogy. Spot on.
I find that for myself personally, learning how to TRANSMUTE my anger/frustration was paramount. Know thyself. As a very energetic person, I've never done well with "just stop being aggravated". A lot of stuff pisses me off - not due to my own personal emotional immaturity, but due to knowing I shouldn't have to tolerate bullshit just to get through my day (and not offend anybody in the process).
Another side to fear is being timid. Being afraid to let your true power and self shine full fucking force. Well, boys, for me the flood gates are now wide open, and my only regret is waiting as long as I did to become my true self.
Turning my frustration with the Matrix into productive habits changed my life. Health/fitness, career, women, etc. I no longer feel like I'm being sucked dry of all my energy by useless people and activities. Take control, and don't apologize for doing so.
Being lied to about the helicopter, and being told to wait in line is hilariously and tragically accurate. Those mired in the anger phase would be wise to heed OP's advice.
Climb that fucking mountain, gentlemen!
worthlessfag 6y ago
Can't agree more.
I've recently seeing a lot, and by that I mean more than usual guys here really, really hating women. This is some incel, MGTOW and even to a certain point MRA type of thinking and it shouldn't be so common here.
If you have been long enough to contribute (including having the sidebar read and at least some of the top posts, maybe the recommended reading too) you should already be past the anger by miles.
Posts like these don't get attention because they mean that something is wrong with me and I need to work with effort to fix myself. However, posts that teach me how to use some weird ass machiavelian mental tricks to force some poor girl into my bed is much easier than slowly progressing until reaching the top. This attitude souldn't exist in a place like this considering the piece of advice is "lift".
Never wondered why outsiders think that we are a bunch of edgy fat virgin ugly neckbeard teenagers when they see the material, cause that profile fits a really big amount lf the community.
Gallobrax 6y ago
Perhaps it's because what brings most of us here is often very personal; something like a breakup or a wake up call of some type. For me it was the former, an eight year relationship that ended in the most confusing of ways possible - until I read the sidebar.
However I would not say that I was not still angry because again these situations are very personal and while some might mention frame there are some things you simply do not forget.
Further, as another mentioned somewhere else anger can often be a very good source of temporary motivation.
DarkCotton 6y ago
Dark times lie ahead of us and there will be a time when we must choose between what is easy and what is right.
-Albus Dumbledore
FOR_IMC 6y ago
Nope, you're wrong - on every level. Belief in an alternative structure can feel like hope when in fact you're dreaming.
RatioRegnum 6y ago
This. So much this.
Being angry is understandable. You have been lied to, by the media, by the government, by men, by women in general, and by specific women. You have been lied to by your church if you have one, by society at large, by your friends and your own parents. You have suffered as you struggled to succeed under a set of implicit rules which are explicitly, and deliberately, wrong. You have watched others with less to offer enjoy more success with less effort, and you haven't understood why, because the mechanisms by which that happened were both invisible and inaccessible to you.
Fucking right you get angry when the curtain tears and you see the machine for what it is.
And being angry is useful. Anger is energy. Anger will get you through fear, through pain, and you will have enough of these to face. Channel anger, use it, let it drive you. It will get you up that mountain, step by agonizing step. Lift, run, work. Get ruthless with those aspects of your life that hold you back, drag you down. Cut those things loose, and never look back.
But anger is dangerous. It can cloud your judgement, drive decisions which are not in your best interest. All anger is righteous anger, and righteousness can become addictive. All anger demands redress, but there will never be any redress for the lies you were told. You must accept that your suffering will never be acknowledged. You must accept that the past is gone, but the future remains yours. Fail in this acceptance, and your anger will harden into bitterness. Bitterness is paralyzing. It doesn't drive you, it saps your strength, makes it impossible to climb. Bitterness will leave you at the bottom of the mountain looking up, bewailing those on top but never doing anything to get there yourself.
Be angry. Don't stay angry.
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RatioRegnum 6y ago
No gold necessary. If I've made a difference, that's all that counts.
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Brennus390 6y ago
It is folly to despise roaches, rats, and other pests, as if they CHOSE to be vermin.
But a healthy degree of scorn and disgust is natural.
Be like the ancient greeks, samurai, or arabs. Of course women are lesser beings and generally ruin everything they touch: but if you use them like nature intended, you'll walk away having benefited.
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It depends.
The only way to kill the anger phase is with success. For someone who only needs to make a few tweaks it should be a short pit stop. For those raised in childhood-obesity-supporting households with little to no social skills, it will be much longer.
I think your post should moreso be titled "don't make the anger phase any longer than it has to be." And the way to guarantee that is to work as hard as possible on success, quickly.
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The oppositte.
Fat fuck eddie has so much low hanging fruit, he should he succeeding constantly
francisco_DANKonia 6y ago
Success with women not personal successes
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Yeah, problem is guys have shitty Metrics.
Start with openers, see how manybstsrt an open conversation.
Old man conversation. How long can you go?
Ioi. How many per interaction?
Kino, positive /negative? How quuckly. Can younget positive kino?
Tons of improvements, and unless youre an idiot, youll think piv is the only one, get frustrated, and go back to bring a fat fuck
TunedtoPerfection 6y ago
I had an Old man conversation last night as Panda Express. Old me would have shut door and not said a word. Improved me held a conversation like a champ. Did I get laid because of it? nope. But I did meet an awesome vet who has a bitchin show focused bike, got invited a local invite only car show, and had a good conversation with another human who risked his life in the Vietnam war for me. I only hope I brought as much light to his life with that conversation as he did mine.
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Its a skill that pays off in life generally
francisco_DANKonia 6y ago
The only way to stop hating is to actually succeed. Unfortunately, many will not succeed, so they will be angry.
Blacklabellogics 6y ago
I think this is a situation split between two things, actual anger and the perception of anger. While many men do go through an anger phase when they first find and start internalizing the red pill, this should be a fairly short lived experience. What I do suspect happens though, is that as these men internalize red pill thinking, they grow boundaries for the first time in their life. This causes two things to happen:
A) People who have known the man for a long time are unaccustomed to him having boundaries and thus perceive him as angry for merely enforcing his boundaries in a normal, yet decisive manner.
B) The man, being new to enforcing his boundaries is not properly calibrated and thus may enforce his new-found boundaries a bit too harshly.
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Like the title.
Paragraphs tho
TunedtoPerfection 6y ago
Copy and pasting from word killed the formatting, fixed it up!
CptDefB 6y ago
I disagree.
Why?
Because the anger phase, and all the stages of grief, should take as long as individually required. Some people arrive here, put things into motion within a month or two, and can call themselves stage 2-4 after a year. Others arrive and lurk for a long time while dealing with their issues, maybe they don't cold approach a girl for 2 years (you can make a post browbeating him to approach her sooner, won't make a diff unless he's actually ready to game some girls or fail until he's got it).
The post feels nice. It commiserates with the mutual feelings of betrayal. It points out how easily anger can be detrimental if not used responsibly by getting nowhere. It outlines the trials ahead and tells that success comes through trials while the free lunch should be shunned.
That's all well and good.
Anger is still quite useful.
The stages still take their own time.
kevin32 6y ago
Yep. We've all suffered various levels of distress that brought us to the red pill. So while the content of OP's post has merit, the title suggests he's never been the victim of extreme circumstance like divorce rape or false-rape/harassment accusations.
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Fuck off. Vengefully yours had the divorce, back problems from work etc...
Looking for an excuse is womans work. He got over it, as should you.
Terrence popp even had his ex kill his dog... A 21 year old in here has no excuae
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CptDefB 6y ago
You're right about the "get over it".
Despite the positive masculinity embedded, that's still all this is.
sqerl 6y ago
While I do agree with your premise, I disagree with your disagreement.
Here's why:
TRP is about accepting reality, not coddling whichever emotions are stirred up today. Yes, PTSD and other extreme feelings are the outliers, but for a vast majority of readers, they need a swift kick in the ass to get on the train of self-commitment and improvement.
Those born from weak leadership or feminine "feelz before realz" need a solid dose of masculinity, never-say-die, and "it's time to kick ass" motivation. Guys that come here from heartbreak or broken oneitis need to learn a little evo psychology to put it in perspective. Even guys that are divorced raped and lost their families to the female imperitive can find themselves in a far better place. Yes, it takes time, but not longer than it should. We promote self improvement, not "hang out and wallow in misery and being less than a man because some chick castrated you."
Building Power is all about overcoming adversity, helping a brother out, and looking another man in the eye and saying, "You. Got. This."
If actually suffering from PTSD, then I do recommend professional help.
CptDefB 6y ago
Yes.
This applies to the average person, I think, more than a subscriber to TRP who is inundated (one could even say inculcated) to lift. Anyone here is closer to boarding the train of self-improvement than your average normie who may get a red Goodlife Fitness bag to fit in, but won't really go the gym at all.
Again, this is the BP world at large.
Yes, TRP saves lives.
You don't get to determine that for anyone else but yourself. Nor does OP. I don't think anyone is encouraging the wallowing of unfruitful emotions, and even if someone takes extended time sorting out their issues, as long as they still browse TRP they are much closer to hopping on the train of self-improvement than normal people.
Even your statement was vague, "not longer than it should" because the timeline is not only intangible but incredibly subjective. If there was actually a rough guestimate of time for it, say two months, I believe you'd have said, "not longer than two months." but you couldn't, because there isn't.
Yes, and we provide more than enough tools, rehashed in more than enough ways, for men of all walks of life, to get there in their own time.
Well, of course.
So, it doesn't seem like we disagree on much. I understand the sense of urgency, which is to say, carpe diem. However, in the depths of emotional despair, all of this encouragement is utterly irrelevant.
When a man is ready to take the steps, he will, for his own reasons, not because someone on the internet told him to get over it.
sqerl 6y ago
Bottom line, its your aversion to the "get over it" feeling that bothers you the most.
Telling someone to just "get over it" won't work. I know this, you know this.
WHY can they not "get over it"? (Specifically when the source of pain falls within the realm of relationships and/or sexual strategy.)
Because they don't know HOW.
Enter TRP, the Rational Male, NMMNG, sidebar, asktrp, MRP, CBT, meditation, lifting....
The AFC now has knowledge they never had before. They open their eyes and have a vision and begin to understand. They start lifting and change their lives. They "get over it" stronger than before.
So yes, a guy will get over it in their own time. But that timeframe can be shortened if they're given the right tools to figure out HOW.
Case in point: guy I know has been off the market for 8 years due to a bad breakup. I started talking with him, slowly shared knowledge, guided him down a path. Things made sense, he began to understand, he's motivated to get back in the game. 8 years off, a few weeks of providing guidance has him back. So yea, guys will get there in their own time. Sure. Guys will get back faster, stronger, and with confidence once leaders lead and guys are given the knowledge and tools to resolve the conflict holding them back.
VickVaseline 6y ago
I had little to no anger phase. Finding an answer that made sense after 54 years of searching filled me with too much elation to feel anger.
What little anger I did feel was only toward myself, for allowing myself to be so blind for so long.
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BigMawsmidget 6y ago
Best line was climbing that mountain creating support structures for yourself. That reminds me of my weight loss journey I'm on right now. Helicopter ride is the person who has surgery I know some probably have to have it, but shortcuts are only good if you know where you might fall when it backfires.
Although I agree about the pitstop I think it varies person to person especially how long they've been blue. I'm only 27, and I've been blue possibly day 1, around college I saw scenarios play out that made me aware something wasn't right, but it's only recently I found this place, and even more recently I've begun to internalize what it means. So yeah I'm still in my anger phase, but it's helping me by getting my butt out here, and hitting the gym.
mill58 6y ago
It will take at least 2 years to look like a normal man if you are fat... that is true for sure (I know).
MattyAnon Admin 6y ago
We're angry at all the lies and the abuse and exploitation of men.
dontbedenied 6y ago
I knew something was wrong with me when I was expressing anger at the guys who were getting more girls than me despite being "assholes" and "treating women like shit". That anger was pointless, aside from inspiring me to understand why women are attracted to guys like that, and are repulsed by the opposite of that, or guys who whine about that shit. Don't get mad, get better.
Returnofthemack3 6y ago
The anger phase is just a waste of time and stupid. I think by calling it a 'phase' were just enabling people at this point. Hating society/women is a waste of your time and a sign of immaturity
LostLittleBoi 6y ago
God this is me. Got redpilled a bit, started fucking a fair amount, got a girlfriend from that, got complacent, she left/cheated (not that I didn't do the same), and got stuck back "in the line" for nearly a year up until like two months ago. I burned damn near all my bridges during that journey and it's like I never got near the top at all, except now I've got the added shame of knowing I could do that shit, I have in the past, but I can't anymore. Rebuilding sucks, don't be like me, stay RP till you die boys. The fall is either a small stumble or a huge crash and burn, but it'll come. Make sure it's just a stumble.
Cunt_Robber 6y ago
See, theoretically yes, the anger phase toward realizing the realistic perspective of how the world works should be overcome as quickly as possible. But I say let guys take their time during this phase. Let them work through the massive amount of BP conditioning and their identities at their own pace.
It is a very sensitive time, where certain aspects of swallowng and understanding the real world and how it operates can be incorrectly processed. That certainly was the case with me, where I spent a good 6 months trying to be the biggest douche possible because I thought it was all about being badass and having the biggest ego. I didnt realize I was still in this anger/vengeful phase of rebelling against reality. It took some time for this trial/error and then hindsight analysis to conclude becoming a douche was not a step forward, but being engaging, positive, intelligent, and uplifting toward those around me was. It simply took time and introspection/mindfulness.
For every guy's benefit, he should take his time sorting through his indoctrinated beliefs and the harsh reality TRP forces down their throat so he digests the pill effectively. it is only with the proper, effective digestion/understanding, that he can actually commit to the journey of self-improvement and success. Expect many failures along the way, and expect to learn a new lesson from each one. Rushing the process ensures you miss valuable insights.
Orsick 6y ago
Could be that I haven't taken the entire pack of RP, but I'm not angry and have never been on women or other alfas. Actually, I've felt anger, but on me, when looking back in all the oportunities that I've lost professional and personal wise. But it's this anger that fuels me the most to climb the moutain.
circlhat 6y ago
I don't think chad got a helicopter ride or 8's or 10's, they are just good sexuality , people have different skills
This is being a hater, value is a man made abstraction, survival on the other hand isn't and nature most certainly has never chosen the strongest or the smartest.
I know people smarter than me and who work 10 times as harder, but I try to coast though life as easy as possible, and I end up making more than them.
Point is, you are valuable (to yourself), you improve yourself because it is what you want to do, not so you will become worthy of anything.
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Holy shit another "self-improvement guyz", you'll be a chad, I promisse post eh?
Is everyone here less than 20 years old? I would feel fucking ashamed of writting such a fucking bad text. But ok, hold on my beer for a second, because 15 in the pitch and the match already fucking sucks. Let me bring you to your senses junior.
First of all, how the fuck are you going to be tough to begin with, when you don't even know what is like to feel stronger pains like death? What is like to see a mother or a father in a coffin? Maybe a brother, a best friend? Maybe getting shot, losing a limb, being tortured. Like, how can you say all that when you haven't even lost TRUE hope in your entire life.
You are all weak, and I am not even saying I'm fucking rambo, but this subreddit is the epidemy of 1st world babies with computers posting about how smart and wise they are while the truth is that behind all that "pseudo phylosophy" there's only fear.
Second of all, a true "alpha" (If that thing exists because I still want to see one in real life for once that doesnt' come from this sub's fan fiction) would not spend so much time in writting such a bad text without at least knowing about formats, this is a huge and clear sign of you projecting and craving for other's approval and attention, I've seen the kind of you, kids who enter in my fucking gym every weekend thinking they can achieve shit when in 2 weeks they are already depressed giving up and using retarded apps like tinder, lying on facebook, and making up a non existing life in instagram.
Pathetic.
But, do you know what's also pathetic? The ammount of hypocrisy in you, believing you have any kind of right or entitlment of giving anyone advice with such a fucking generic speech, "the rich kids cliche", using the fucking word "haters", the "top of the chain food bruh" speech...
Like, who the fuck raised you? Mr.T? 5 fucking years riding that sweet little wave ot I am special millenial style attitude makes me sick to the stomach. You haven't even swallowed the true red pill, in my imperative opinion. At least in your speech you consider failling because even you doubt about this speech, you try to be careful but at the same time you show weakness in your words. No coviction, no aggression, you come in hopes of getting approval from the other 15 year old lying meta-filler content boys in this subreddit.
The funny thing, is that I am not even mad! I am just so fasci-fucking-nated about the ammount of delusion in this redd pill place that it blows my mind! If we are rising a generation with all this "bro science" I am going to hope this generation's train crashes so badly that in the end I will 9/11 the shit out of it whenever I can. I am going to enjoy the following decade by throwing with ease people with this mindset off that train.
Now, I'll conclude my speech here because A, I already wrote a better essay than that Golman faggot, and B, there's people going through worse shit who actually need to be cheered up and supported more than any spoiled brat in here.
Good night, and Goodbye-
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You know the whole "Being nice is the best weapon against others" is bullshit right? the whole "Kill them with kindness". Get that out of your system ASAP
I respect you went through a suicide phase, jokes aside (You probably notice I like to swear and use unironic irony a lot, I am a bit of a fucking asshole when I come back from work and college). We all do go through a suicide phase, it's just some of them say it some of then don't say it. When I started seeing my closest ones die being just a teen I wanted to go through that, funny how little that matter anymore. It's called existential crisis for a reason (Man that gave me a Margaret Tacher boner right there)
Also, the "you don't know my story" is quite teenish too, you know that 70% of 1st world people usually go through the same stupid shit right? It's fuckign depressive how little unique is everyone nowadays. So keep working on better arguments, and no, I am not roasting you, actually nobody can fucking roast anyone online, that's fucking stupid. Get that out of your system too.
Since you seem to be a "good kid" I guess, I'll play along, when I meant fake humbleness, is for example Alicia, a girl in the new work team I am leading, I explained her today the new dynamics that are taking place with tourism in our city, she was interested, she looked like it, was she? Nah, fake humbleness, using active listening until the end of my short speech. She will smile back feeling she just learned something, and that new learning under my wing will get here somewhere in the near future. Spoi-fucking-ler alert! She won't. She belive she's achieving progress, that eventually will lead to success, but she doesn't even know what success is for her.
There you have a fun-fucking-tastic practical example of how to be a retard irl, apply that to your school or wherever you go on the mornings, a farm? Idk.
One more thing before I ask my self why am I even writting you back junior, your tactics, suck, and I doubt you'll ever be an alpha, mostly because there's no such thing, but maybe one day you'll become a more stable human being. Which, you know, being a fucking normal human being sounds good and logic like drinking ice water in summer?
One last "Pro tip" (God it just felt such a faggot thing to say "Pro tip" like, it's what a faggot guy would tell a 50 year old fat ass while selling him a suit), get the fuck out of the red pill and start taking life seriously.
Experience, true learning, and progress are in streets, self education, physical and mental training, and having fun while you are at it.
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You just pointed out a thing I see in a lot of young people today, they all have a pretty bad obsession for Feedback. They are truly scared in fucking up and not doing ok at all times. Media's fault, but they make young kids skip a lot of basic steps in life, so it's not strange this habit has been developed overtime.
Btw, that's quite funny when learning comes from asking, getting told you are stupid, learning the answer and then actually when answering again, and get called stupid again.
As retarded as how that sounds, that's how you end up learning in life, I've worked in economy related stuff, tourism, working face to face with clients, I've worked in investigation, sociology stuff, fucking bartendering, the list goes on and on and I swear that what I learn in my university is beyond garbage, most experience comes from one's personal learnings in life, the lessons. (But do not get engaged by "The only education I needed came from the streetz nigga". That's also fucking retarded, and you don't want to be retarded)
Reddit is good as a tool for some things, even for messing around and get yourself entretained, learn to improve some skills, but learning from strangers online about life experience should never be taken seriously, it's like making an investigation based on on-line articles, which is insane and lacks of a truthful base.
Learning from other's experience can be benefitial nowadays when it comes to a face to face, or in a vertical hierarchy situation, but if you are different from the rest and you lack basic skills like communication, improvising, solving problems and taking hard decisions in seconds, then you should learn more ABOUT YOURSELF. Which I bet 100 bucks you barely know yourself yet.
It's ok if you want to self improve and all that, but do not come here, this place is cancer, young men lacking of affection and attention writting big ass essays without a basic investigation, all done "a priori" of a well done research as how academics would say.
Small secret: Most people here lie a lot because they need to feel important since they don't deal well with being no ones in the daily lifes, which, funny enough, is key to actually develop your status in society, so you can be TRULY humble, and therefore reach TRUE success. (I can explain this to you a bit more if you wish, just PM me)
Pure experience is what builds the attituded needed towards ANY job in this world. When I was your age we did not have reddit, so we would simply let life go and learn from what we saw outside.
Let life flow and do whatever you can while at it. Like seriously, obviously you are going to go through so much fucking shit you will want to kill everyone around you, but fuck it, it is what it is. And sadly, If you don't want it, kill yourself and leave a beautiful corpse behind without making much of a mess.
In the end, you can only add more or less spices to the dish, but life will decide if it serves it to you cold or hot.
Anything else?
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