previously "saved clips" in my head

Dude, whether it's from porn or an IRL experience, if it's in your head it's called "The Spank Bank." You're welcome.

Well to explain it better, sometimes she's not around, sometimes I am in a different country, sometimes she's on her period, sometimes I'm too busy, it can be many things. I travel a lot and stay in countries away from her for long periods of time, so I used to resort to porn.

Also, porn is a progressively changing thing. You need more and more extreme porn to get you off over the years, to get that fake dopamine rush.

A real woman stops being enough to get you horny, sometimes you won't even get hard. There have been times I fuck for an hour or two straight and don't cum, no man or woman can take that much sex at a time.

You start losing interest in relationships, she starts doubting herself and her ability to get you to cum, you get tired of no pleasure.

There has been times my dick stops working even during sex; imagine! Your erections are never really hard, they're soft. You can't cum from blowjobs.

Even cumming with a gf doesn't give you pleasure because the porn just stimulates you so much more. The thing you're chasing is the very thing that you end up destroying.

Bro, I could go on giving more reasons for days!

What's wrong with dirty thoughts?

What's the point of quitting porn when most of us aren't getting pussy?

Im in a streak of 78 days of quitting porn and masturbation. Keep up with it man, porn really fucks our brain and our sex drive. Now im getting some signs of improvement. I really recommend to all the people here: quit fucking masturbation to porn now.

Your post targets an important issue and all but don't get me wrong quitting something for barely a month is not quitting. You need at least 90 days (average amount of time to rewrite your brain from addiction) porn free to even start saying that you made it. Just my two cents.

Lol, I will quit TRP before I quit porn. Keep dreaming.

I will not however entertain self-pitying repeat relapsers who aren't serious.

Lol says the guy who quit less than a month ago

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What is this?

On both porn and masturbation they wreck the dopamine receptors. The more one indulges in either the less pleasure one derives from life in general and it paves way for depression among other ills.

Hope and despair are one and the same. The greater the height of pleasure the greater the height of pain.

Porn is fine, addiction is not but porn didn't ruin/effect me, I grew out of it because it became boring after I started getting laid regularly, it just felt like a waste.

Porn will not destroy you, in fact most girls I dated we would watch porn together, one girl even downloaded bible black.

So, you mean masturbating only with your thoughts?

I found increased focus, attention and presence after quitting. The biggest realization for me a couple weeks in is seeing what "triggered" looking at porn.

Difficult task? Welp, better beat it first.

Horny? Let's fix that.

Bored? Let's see some titties.

A while after quitting, I had no other choice but to start the task, actually engage in sex with another human, or let myself be bored in a constructive way.

I've always struggled to understand posts on this subject. Just stop watching it, it's not that hard.

Masturbation is actually good for keeping your pipes working down there if you know what I mean. If you haven't had sex in 2 weeks, it's a good idea to jerk off just to keep things working properly. But more than once a week and you're ruining yourself. You're right that porn is even worse. The psychological effects it has on a person is just terrible. The only single benefit it could have is if you're looking to last longer in bed - porn desensitizes you to sex and makes it less enjoyable, and then you'll be able to "last longer" because it doesn't feel as good. Not worth it to me

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Does your own intimate videos count as "porn" (i.e. an amateur video taken from your phone as you fuck a plate)?

I've also managed to quit porn, I've tried to quit for over a year but finally succeeded. This mainly because I was working so hard for a student side-project over a period of 3 weeks and was too exhausted to watch porn when I got home. I've currently gone around 40 days as of now.

Porn is like any addiction, you need to replace bad habits with new better habits.

Good for you man. I can count with my right hand how many times I watched porn last year. Spent much more time chasing, less being beta-tized

I did the same but I used the fact that it's used as a weapon against whites by Jews

Quitting porn forever seems very extreme. Everything in moderation. I watch porn maybe, MAYBE once every two months and it's usually something that I find somewhat kinky/erotic (older ladies getting fucked, say in their 50s or early 60s). Or even just 'normal' young hot girls. It's good to fantasize. I don't see an issue.

Now, blowing a load to porn every day is of course bad for you. Once every month or so? Not that bad at all, maybe even beneficial.

Don't be fooled into thinking if you visualize porn when you masturbate that it's just on its death knell and will eventually fade. When you associate orgasm with thinking about those images, you are strengthening those neural pathways. I don't condone masturbation because even if you are "creating" you own scenarios in your head, they are often very porn-like anyways, so there is little difference.

While I have watched some hardcore porn in the past, my preferred method of masturbation was always to fantasies in my head. I haven't watched porn in forever (haven't counted) but once in a while to fuel my mental images I pull up old nudes girls have sent me. Thoughts?

I'm having a similar problem. I was able to kick porn for about a month, but I came back to it.

Unfortunately, it's too easily accessed. Almost all social media I go to, I just have to type in certain keywords and it's right in front of me. Whenever I'm in the mood, my mind almost instantly directs me to seek it out because of how easy it is.

I'm gay too, so almost every gay related site I go to has something related to porn. It's rather ubiquitous in the gay scene, unfortunately. I was even on a gay news site (which I barely browse, mind you) and they had an article about some poor Korean actor who had masturbation videos leaked.

I'm a sexual guy (I'm Scorpio and my general astrology is rather sexual too, if you believe in it), so erotic stuff doesn't necessarily bother me unless it's done tastefully an not blatantly. But I've been rather desensitized to porn and I hate how I nearly automatically think about it whenever I'm in the mood.

I have never thought about the disconnecting porn from masturbation - it seems like the alpha omega to stop watching porn.

Thank you for the great post buddy!

Thanks for the honest post OP. I'm thinking about making the jump myself. Your story is helpful.

It's awesome that you've shown discipline and achieved a goal that's helped you progress. This is what we're all about.

At the same time, I watch and masturbate to porn and my sex life is amazing. I have two plates whom I'm very attracted to and fucking like animals, and am moving in on a couple more. An old ex is also trying to get together to catch up.

I watch porn with girls and share it with them as well.

I'm not saying any of this to discredit your progress. I guess you could say that drinking is an issue for some people, but not for others. So is gambling, food, even social media. A vice is a matter of the persons internal constitution and its relationship to the external object.

I have different vices. Porn hasn't been one of them. But I didn't make much progress until I tackled my vices.

I'm not jacked, I'm not balling, I'm not tremendously popular. But I accepted myself and have stopped trying to impress women. It's made a huge difference.

I'm glad you tackled yours, OP. Cheers to you. If any of you feel like OP does, it could likely help you to follow suit. If that's not it, keep looking inward until you identify yours.

Noporn is life changing. Nofap is unhealthy. I'm glad you were able to differentiate the two, OP.

Guys, I strongly suggest you form healthy masturbation habits along with quitting porn. Take it from someone who did nofap for months and completely lost his sex drive after a few weeks. People on the nofap sub will call this "flatline" but it's really just a lowered sex drive due to a lack of release. If you don't have any kind of release you're going to lose your sex drive and become extremely irritable and depressed, especially if your T levels are sufficient.

Masturbation is completely healthy, masturbation to pornography is not. Know the difference. Or just put yourself through months of unnecessary stress and see for yourself.

I haven't jacked off in 94 days now. Although I do peek sometimes. But don't jack off. Feels good bro. The problem though is that it's a LDR so I don't have her to give me blowjobs or for sex. There's only so much phone/skype can do

I needed to read this. Thanks.

I just yesterday used LeechBlock to block every porn site I could think of, put a password on that, made a setting where I couldn't ever configure it again (which is a mistake - you should be able to ADD sites to that block list whenever), and so your post comes at literally the perfect time for me because this feels like a hard battle to win.

Cheers.

Although as everyone said,3 weeks are not enough time to say you quitted porn,i must say that your overall advice IS solid as fuck.

Quitting masturbation AND porn,especially if you don't have someone,is not only hard,by counterproductive.Think about it:

Your last orgasms was with Porn.You now went 1 month without orgasmisng and not watching porn.Your brain is hanging in the notion that you can only orgasms when porn is present.

Of course this is a bit far fetched.

I,myself,give you guys the same advice.If this is your first time trying to quit Porn,start with eliminating just that.Keep masturbating/fucking as you previously did. Then if you want to try the NoFap thing,go ahead(which is nothing more than sexual energy manipulation).

*One personal experince,is that if i masturbate(with NO sex) every 3rd or 4th day i can maintain high energy,withouy the dumb after orgasming.Try it.

I've gone the no fap route for months. It just made me angry. I mean really angry. I'd wake up in the morning, feel angry, and spend the day feeling angry. I don't know what the positive benefits are supposed to be.

Why is porn bad for someone who is actively dating or in a happy relationship?

Sometimes I rather rub one out than have the "get away from me feeling" after sex. I lose interest in whoever I finish having sex with for the next 20 minutes.

Just saying, Im not quitting. :)

To each their own...some people like porn, there is nothing wrong with it. Im sure soon we will be hearing about his moral superiority he has achieved through only having sex in the missionary position and ONLY to create children.

What "dirty thoughts" are you talking about? I get dirty thoughts all the time regardless of whether I watch porn or not. You're supposed to be horny, it's normal.

Pornography addiction is something hard to talk about for most guys. It's seen as an acceptable behavior in most social circles and is often written off as a harmless behavior that 'all guys do.'

It's also one of the most harmful habits for a man to indulge in. It rewires your brain and completely fucks your ability to build healthy intimate relationships.

That shit is poison.

I always had a hard time maintaning erections...

Alright fuck it you convinced me

Didn't read every comment yet but what are your thoughts on say jackin it to social media? Lots of girls I know constantly post some seriously sexy shit, so I guess its kind of like porn but just really softcore?

Porn targets the dopamine pathway same as nicotine and drugs. You get that feel good urge and within minutes it's gone. It's a crazy imbalance. I've cut down on porn as well. Noticed that I've become more social, charming and outgoing.

Please note it's extreme difficult to go cold turkey. What you should be doing are baby steps. Slowly and gradually cut it out. One less porn video a week one and less masturbation session. It's much easier that way. Don't cold turkey you'll relapse hard. Set longer term goals and stick to it.

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Porn hasn't effected me in this way since I was a teenager; fake, disgusting - even worse are dating site asking questions about sex and they always include bondage, pain, and abuse as a preference. Some people are going to have their kinks but when it's the majority of women, and most men get off on really twisted pornography - to me that seems more like stress of civilization driving us to seek an outlet for neurosis, than a natural outlet for sexual energy and curiosity. Rare where the couple is physically attractive and look like they are enjoying themselves in a mentally healthy fashion. America's pornography is all about fake tits and larger than life dicks while the whole thing plays out as an overly developed stage performance to compensate for a decreasing sensitivity, Japanese is rape, fat unattractive guys gang banging - sex is seen as a painful thing that must be forced upon. As if porn becomes a projection of how men are treated in their professional and personal lives, while women's sexual preferences are based upon the amount of hedonism she is allowed to get away with by society, like a drug addict who must keep increasing the potency to overcome tolerance.

I would like to also add that, for men having trouble reaching orgasm from penetrative sex, start using a FleshLight to masturbate.

For those that don't have trouble reaching orgasm right now I would caution you that if you keep masturbating with your hands (with or without lube), the sensory nerves in your penis will eventually get used to your grip pressure and you may run into trouble orgasming later on.

I believe that this is a problem many older men have but few talk about it because it's sort of a taboo topic.

I also feel that circumcision contributes to this problem as well. I believe non-circumcised penises retain their sensation better than circumcised penises. Non-cut penises have a protective cover over the most sensitive part (right below the head on the underside), which prevents stimulation of the nerves. However I have never heard anyone talk about this. Or of any studies done about it. Which is weird, because it seems like a common sense kind of thing.

Lot of comments here have not read through, wondered if there was any support for the fap? I mean we have no fap etc, and the constant post like these that claim how bad it is... But is it really that bad?

For example what if you had mastered the fap achieving both a mental release as well as a physical one. Most people get the only the physical release. While you are improving your self, making money, spitting your game etc. I have been in shitty LTR'S where yes I hate to admit it, the sex was dull and a good fap would do the trick after they left... Is a good wank really so bad?