3-4-5? Which is it? And that took you a decade? Are you old or just weak? Probably both old man, which is why you think my gains are steroids engaged.

To be fair, she had already decided to break up with you, the last parts were her inventing reasons to justify it. You didn't do anything wrong, you just had different fundamental values. Nothing wrong with that, it's all part of the ebb and flow of life.

We should discourage defining relationships as "failed" when they end. It's usually for the best.

"A woman will try to turn you into what you are not and leave you for who you used to be."

It's good to see you kept rocking and cut your losses with her.

I wish I had learned what you did,as young as you did!

30 years of misery you just saved yourself!

Be happy brother, you won!

We Russian ... we drink ... but balance it well

Life expectancy for men in Russia: 55-65

Ok

Nothing to be upset over. You two had different priorities. I guess all that other shit she suddenly started bitching about was her looking for more excuses to break up other than the drinking/kids thing.

Good ok you for sticking to being you. Drinking is a big part of you, so you would have more than likely been pretty unhappy in the long run.

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Bro, a thousand props to you for maintaining alpha.

Wish my family was awesome and Russian... my dad was alpha like Barney Fife.

Well you honestly played it fucking well. The only reason your girl left you was because you turned out to be unbreakable and she wanted a provider cuck. She'll be back for some more good dicking in the future, enjoy the easy plate.

Remember that women have their needs and if hers aren't met (ludicrous as they are) she might look for them elsewhere. Even if they are impossible needs. She'll just cock carousel through life looking for that special man who doesn't exist.

Don't be surprised if she ends up with a guy just like you one day and this time she takes it and sticks around. Happened to me. You were new stuff to her and she wasn't experienced with a free soul. She'll be much more lenient to her next boyfriend.

She doesn't care about drinking.

She found someone who (she thinks is) better.

Thought for sure this was going to be a story of you changing for her and her losing respect for you because of it.

Left turn.

Props kid.

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You handled it the way you should've. Some people simply aren't compatible in the long term and it sounds like you both handled it pretty well. (Maybe not though I wasn't there) You both wanted different things and you could not find a way to reconcile so you went your separate ways. As it should be.

She'll be back when she realizes your value. If you had changed, she'd have left and never looked back, because you would have lost value.

Basically women will never truly submit to you or be yours, no matter how high your SMV is. She's a whore and if she doesn't get what she wants she'll leave you.

jesus get a grip man, you sound like you think you're jesus incarnate.

This sounds, possibly, like a case where the guy failed to achieve a good alpha beta mix. Or to put it another way, not enough comfort.

Or she wanted to control you and left when she failed. So, you dodged a bullet.

She's trying to make you her beta. This nagging and telling you what to do is part of the beta-nization process. Read the book Practical Female Psychology: For the Practical Man by Joseph South.

Also search this post review of the book "The Beta-ization process: Stages of female manipulation and levels of attraction from "Practical Female Psychology"

I'm Russian

I heard a story once about a guy trying to close a business deal with some Russians. The final step in the process involved some alcohol, and some sort of game called bear goes into the woods.

According to the story, first they put a shot of vodka into a glass and topped it up with beer. Down the hatch. So far so good.

After increasing the amount of vodka each time, glass after glass, pretty soon it was a solid glass of vodka, if this story is true. One of the Russians says, bear is now in the wood and wants to come home.

Then they went backwards.

Supposedly the guy woke up the next morning and asked if they got the contract. The answer was yes.

I don't know if that story is true but alcohol is definitely a great truth serum for some people.

You dodged a major bullet with that. That's the biggest lesson I took from TRP- you live your own life for yourself, and deign to take others along for the ride. Not like the conductor of a train takes on passengers, but like a mighty fucking Lord of Eagles showing the Ringbearer (heh, don't get engaged or married though, protip) the world.

If they bite you, shake them off. Don't value the relationship more than you value yourself. I'm happy for you that the relationship ended, but plain old stubbornness and waiting it out isn't the best way to end relationships, because that gives your partner all the time in the world to make your life miserable. With your experience, you now know to end future ones on your own initiative, and how to move on.

Shit i spent everyday with my last gf and "we didn't spend enough time together"...smfh

You lost me at your "show of value". Pfft.

You might have a drinking problem to be fair.

I know we are hardcore here guys but live a little. If ALL you do is throw some pops down occasionally but keep your shit tight then I see no problem.

I can't tell people how to live their life, but congrats for keeping frame. Chicks come and go

You stood your ground and didn't compromise on certain things that make you who you are, just to satisfy a woman. I guarantee if you budged on these things, she would have started criticizing how you dress, what you eat, how much you work out, etc. she would then lose respect for you. I don't know from personal experience, but I have read countless stories about things like this happening.

Lots of folks telling you how great you did losing the woman.

I will give you a slightly different opinion.

If you read 'The path of the superior man', you will see that woman's job is to protect your superior state. If she sees you falling apart, she will feel anxiety and express it.

Drinking to excess (if I understand the Russian program), severely limits your health in later years. She (rightly) understands that means higher chances of possible early death and disadvantage to her and any children.

"Baby when you're not with me I feel sad, and when you're with me I feel happy"

Every woman I've been with has expressed this and is very normal to how women feel. They don't like being alone. They don't like being away from their lover. They'd rather be together and fighting/bored than be away.

You stood your ground and I commend you for it, but I'd have seen her anxieties as comfort tests and addressed accordingly.

"You have to stop drinking because I hate it"

"I am very aware of and care for my health"

"You don't spend time with me" (twice a week we had sleepovers, and a whole day and night is dedicated to us doing things together. Clearly she doesn't value my time) "Baby when you're not with me I feel sad, and when you're with me I feel happy"

"That just shows how much you love me baby. I'm glad to hear it"

"you started commenting on my flaws, and it's bothering me"

Alright. I made this mistake and lost a plate or two. The best thing to do is specify precise changes she should make instead of pointing out flaws.

This post seems a little hypocritical to me. Here you are saying that you want someone that "challenges you and doesn't bore you" but as soon as she brings up these points then she's all of the sudden wrong or a bad person or something.

"Baby, you know that drinking hurts your body, and I want you to be strong". "All this drinking will hurt your ability to produce healthy babies" (RED ALERT lol).

Listen you can't be mad at a fish being a fish. OF COURSE, she's thinking about children. She's a fucking girl. Now if you never envision having children or a future with this girl then yeah, it's something that should prick your ears once you heard it.

"A woman will try to turn you into what you are not and leave you for who you used to be."

Yeah that's true, but I think girls can sometimes see ways to make us better alphas. It's up to us to decide what is a good idea to change about ourselves and what's bad. Her asking you to stop drinking isn't a bad thing per se. It's just something you don't want to stop doing. Which is fine that's your prerogative and it seems like you have a career with advancements and everything all figured out.

"You don't spend time with me" (twice a week we had sleepovers, and a whole day and night is dedicated to us doing things together. Clearly she doesn't value my time)

AWALT. What I do is, if I feel like hanging out then I'll hang out with her. I don't regulate it to "only two days or week or anything". If I genuinely want to hang out with her for seven nights, then I do it. (That never happens)

All my comments are from a standpoint and assumption that you like LTRs and don't mind being in them. You're the captain of the ship, but you have to remember that you do have a first mate you have to look out for.

If you're just a guy on a paddleboat and want a companion from time to time and don't care who the hell is on the boat then so be it.

Good on you bro, your attitude is a good one, except for one thing, there is no 'one' girl for you, at least not yet, as you'll discover in the years to come .. you seem to have a strong tendency to oneitis, which should be reconsidered

Amyway, If one day you do meet a girl who you get on really well with, take your time, there's no rush

it's all about the journey, not the destination --- sounds to me OP like you're hoping to 'lock in' a girl, which is a mistake. You won't have to try when you meet the right girl/s.

Never forget Briffaults Law, and imho, Unless you're having kids together, she's not 'yours', it's just your turn. Play the game well and she'll stick around, play poorly and she wont. A lot of your success here depends on how well you understand 'the rules' ... get reading OP, keep on reinforcing your RP knowledge

Is drinking top excess alpha? I have been asking myself that recently and similarly rely on your mentality - i'm russian it's what we do. I deserve it I work hard. etc

I'm Irish/ Scottish / Australian but I don't really think working a full week constitutes a real challenge. Am I being a pussy saying I deserve to drink I beat the week.

Lol she thought you were all talk no follow through till you stood your ground. Even through those first few months she felt like this. Congrats bud. You make being single seem better than not.

All her reasons are just bs she made up to give herself a reason. She probably got bored of you. You sound very straight forward, women don't always want straight forward when it comes to love. If you don't give her some drama she will create her own. She needs to feel a whole set of emotions, not just stability and happiness. You can't just act like a robot all the time. She already lost interest in you. This laying down the rules is silly. It's not a business partnership, you don't say "my time is precious", she should be able to deduce that on her own. Women are very intuitive, you don't need to say much. Saying "my time is precious" comes off as lame, like you need to say it for people to believe it. Do you think Elon Musk needs to say his time is precious? No everybody fuckin knows his time is precious.

Way to maintain your frame. It sucks having to let your oxytocin dealer go but it is necessary to maintain the life you want to live.

You guys seem to think you have it all which sounds so arrogant female nature doesnt care about your rules or job and who you are what men have to have is options she should be well aware of this and she sensed you had none which turned off the tingles dont brag about being alpha because if you were you wouldnt be here posting so much info on a chick but the attidude you have will lead to more failed ltr because you think there is a blueprint or playbook against hypergamy and female nature,it insnt the only thing you can do is be ready and PREPARED to exit when she changes her mindset thats the reason you GOTTA have OPTIONS.

To be honest seems like she was quite great overall, and might i say, wife material. Maybe you made a bad choice, but only time will tell