This is doing the rounds of r/videos. I think there are some phenomena worth examining and would like people's comments on the following:
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Besides the cheesy line and less than stellar execution, it has to be said that the guy took a chance. It seems to me his failure triggers (mostly in fellow males) a need to distance themselves from his failure by belittling and mocking the guy.The video made me cringe but on examining why , I felt that on some level I could relate maybe not to ten headbutts but at least to the conflicted feeling of a seeming rejection that was laced with a tenderness that promised better things if I only push a little more...or should I?I feel that the ever increasing fear of failure and social paralysis in males today is a burden we inherit from our own gender and not just the feminist narrative.As males we can understand the guy in the video's failure more than a woman could yet we seem to be first in line to tear him down.
- The consensus seems to be that the girl's pleasant demeanor and giggling, her constant rubbing of his arms and her refusal to bluntly remove herself from the scenario was something that should not have confused the man. He should have known all along that she was just being polite.Now I understand that women may have been doing this historically to avoid any physical backlash that might arise from an abrupt and explicit rejection.But as an expectation from the average male, how reasonable is this?(Similar arguments come up when discussing LMR but this is a slightly exaggerated scenario that might be useful as an example)
[deleted] 11y ago
I love the fact that she was giggling the entire time. You turned him down, ok, your choice. Her giggling is, in my opinion, a way of her getting around this fact. Maybe she thought he was a nice guy, and felt bad turning him down (as most women would, "nice" means next to nothing to most women) and this made that feeling of guilt go away.
"I broke up with him because he doesn't make much money. Didn't tell him that though because I don't want to seem like a bitch." No, woman, your ACTIONS make you a bitch, your attempt to cover up being a bitch just makes you more of a bitch.
ZorbaTHut 11y ago
Whether physical backlash should be expected or not, I've gotta say I just don't understand the logic.
"I am worried that this man will physically assault me if I reject him. Instead, I will confuse him, then embarrass him in front of someone else, then reject him. PROBLEM SOLVED"