Summary: modern-day men don't have a well-built family, and thus, feeling like orphans, seek that familial nurturing they lack in the women they want to pick up, making them feel the need to put them in a pedestal, or going the oneitis route.
Disclaimer: I just realized a bad wording on my part. Whenever you read "lacking familial nurturing" here, also bear in mind things like daddy issues and mommy issues.
Body: after one year of going to parties and picking up girls every weekend, I started wondering why that didn't feel that great or awesome anymore.
I thought of when I was very beta, pedestalized women and had oneitis, and how they felt like huge prizes when I finally picked them up.
Then I wondered, why the need for pedestalizing?
After talking to a girl who was feeling she was missing her ex-bf from almost two years ago, I realized that what she actually missed was talking to her father. She didn't miss the cock, she was missing familial nurturing.
My generation is full of people with screwed families.
Thinking like orphans, feeling like orphans, behaving like orphans.
The majority of Reddit's readerbase is probably like that, with no solid foundations of familial nurturing, absent fathers or mothers and such.
The presence of a father figure inspires a person to improve oneself, plan for the future and be strong to endure hardships.
The presence of a mother figure teaches a person to nurture its own feelings, and when the child is completely raised it doesn't need the mother anymore -- it can 'mother' other beings instead.
These guys who pedestalize women, always chasing oneities, are orphans, most of them. Even if not by the literal meaning of the word, but they still have absent family figures, what in turn leaves them without familial nurturing.
And what do they do?
They start seeking that familial nurturing they don't have in other people. In the people they're into, most often. That's what drives them to always pedestalize.
Most of them are even trying to put their girls in the place of the mother they miss.
That's the whole core engine of the daddy issues girl. She misses familial nurturing and seeks it in cocks.
I also thought about my friends who have well-built families. They are often seen as natural alphas, abundance mentality guys who have good LTRs and don't pedestalize like betas. Apparently just having a family is enough to learn most of this stuff naturally.
Lessons Learned:
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People need a feeling of familial nurturing to be strong for life;
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Betas pedestalize because they lack or miss familial nurturing in their lives;
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People suck at their relationships because their familiar foundations are shit;
- Modern-day men are thinking, feeling and behaving like orphans. Realizing that, and realizing what they lack in their lives is an essential step to improving themselves and their sexual strategy;
aherne18 8y ago
Well, in my case it's only triggered when someone I like doesn't APPEAR to be a whore. From that moment, I invest in her until I discover she IS in fact a whore (just doesn't look like one).
NeoreactionSafe 8y ago
The Blue Pill is designed to destroy the family and it's a success.
Having grown up in a different generation (I'm 55) I know that we were loved within a family back then and I grew up in a neighborhood around other kids that all played together.
It was a kind of blessed existence.
I see my younger relatives and how much more difficult it is for them because both my brothers were divorced, so all their kids are now from broken homes.
The entire system of human relations is collapsing.
Red Pill is mostly about accepting how bad things are and adapting to it.
We don't live in an ideal world.
The biggest loss in today's Blue Pill world is the loss of masculine polarity.
Androgyny is tragic. (beta)
[deleted] 8y ago
They even killed that phrase "broken home." It's single parent family. Don't want people to feel there is something negative about it.
NeoreactionSafe 8y ago
Let's make up some Blue Pill "spin":
Freedom Enhanced Household
Pro-Community Child Raising
...you can think up other nonsense.
Language can assist the brainwashing process.
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NeoreactionSafe 8y ago
The whole thing is a massive consciousness suppression operation.
After WWII it was understood that wars using Nuclear Weapons would create too much destruction so there was a shift and all wars since then have been through Game within the Blue Pill.
The logic today is that most war is against the spirit itself... kill the spirit (using the Blue Pill) and you kill the people.
Depopulation is the ultimate goal.... reduction to under half a billion people if the Georgia Guidestones turn out as prophetic.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Georgia_Guidestones
ScannerSloppy 8y ago
Androgyny is tragic, for sure! When David Bowie died, it reminded me of a chef I used to work with. He was grouchy but funny, a rock & roller, but also socially conservative. Anyway, someone once asked him his opinion of David Bowie. Without blinking, he said, "Everything bad comes from David Bowie. David Bowie invented AIDS!"
NeoreactionSafe 8y ago
The funny thing is that David Bowie did homosexual acts but later decided he hated it. So here is this guy pushing homosexuality who actually wouldn't want it for himself.
It's all part of the designed collapse of Western civilization.
The brainwashing is so heavy and (to me) completely obvious, but most people have no clue at all.
Nuclear Weapons made wars difficult to wage... so they invented the modern Blue Pill to destroy people in a new way.
ScannerSloppy 8y ago
David Bowie was up to his lightning bolt painted eyeball in The Agenda. His work is full of Kabbalistic symbolism, if you know what to look for.
NeoreactionSafe 8y ago
Same with the Grateful Dead.
They were all into the idea of breaking people down to their fundamental parts and reconnecting them as something different.
We should respect them for their Game awareness just as we respect the globalists who create the Blue Pill brainwashing.
However...
Being a follower only makes you a slave, so learn what they do (their Game) but don't be a slave to it.
ScannerSloppy 8y ago
Darby and Pat were kicked out of a Scientology-run charter school for "brainwashing" other students. In other words, they figured out all the rhetorical tricks and Neuro-Linguistic Programming that Scientology used on them, and used it on their peers.
NeoreactionSafe 8y ago
We teach Game here so we spread knowledge.
Lucifer learned Game then turned to the dark side by trying to horde it for material gain... as long as we see the "light" and spread the "light" we do no harm.
Lucifer was the bright student and the name means "light", but he fell from grace.
One only goes dark when they misuse the "light".
Sluskarn 8y ago
The causal factor of most problems in this world is parental abandonment. Wether it's physical, mental or spiritual your parents weren't there for you in the capacity you require to grow as a healthy adult.
ScannerSloppy 8y ago
Remember all the crocodile tears Trayvon Martin's parents cried for him on TV (right after they got a copyright for the phrase "Justice for Trayvon")? His parents were unfaithful to each other and abandoned him. No matter how much the left doesn't want to hear this, the difference between an African-American and a thug nigger is paternal investment.
[deleted] 8y ago
It is fortuitous that you posted this now. Today I was thinking about how my issues of overinvesting in women I'm with and attachment anxiety probably started when I was a kid. While I love my mom, she was often mentally unavailable to me growing up. She had addiction issues that contributed to the breakup of our family and there were days where she would disappear completely. I vaguely remember being a 4 year old crying for my mom that wasnt there and having to have other adults explain to me what was going on with her.
As I grew up I've had trouble forming secure connections with women. I would get needy and insecure real quick out of fear of abandonment. It was a feeling that I wasn't good enough to keep them around, just as how I felt at fault because my mom was unhappy.
[deleted] 8y ago
I identify with this. Had a mom that was in and out of inpatient treatment for eating disorders and depression (probably BPD). Generally a crazy person, but she's aged out of it a good bit. She would disappear to binge eat and come home and tell me she almost killed herself (I was 12) and that I needed to talk to her (tried to make me codependent).
I was 30 before I had my head on straight and mostly got over this shit. I'm still angry a bit and she and I both know that I hold the ultimate card in the relationship because I've seen her literally bat shit insane in the past.
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[deleted] 8y ago
And the red pill is finally here to educate men as to the true nature of women. To understand you in ways you will never be able to understand yourself, because the truth of it is too horrible for even you to accept.
Women being called upon for anything? Oh please bitch. It's men who are being called upon. To grow the fuck up and stop failing the shit tests from feminism. What's your slut walk for? Why to let us all know that you're all sluts, and you need to be controlled. The combination of all your power coming front loaded while you never have wisdom until you're so old nobody wants you anymore is disastrous.
Idiot men freed you. But you only have power when you're young and dumb. And you completely fail to realize that with power comes responsibility. And you'll never understand what that means.
Best if we just put you back under control. Everyone, you included, would be happier.
But since society is utterly beyond fucked I'll just do my own thing. And hey? It's awesome. Twenty year old girls stay twenty forever.
[deleted] 8y ago
WTF does this have to do with anything?