TL;DR Quitting porn literally changes your confidence, soul and even appearance, for the better. Something in your physiognomy literally changes and it makes you look and feel alive.
Porn is poison. Coming from someone who recently quit. It changes you inside and out. The benefits to quit are astounding, and seemingly immediate. I’ll try to keep this brief.
Go to University, good party scene, good friends, lots of chicks everywhere. Going into my Sophomore year I’ve had a few good lays and made out with too many chicks to possibly count. Always been alright with chicks and generally can find someone whenever I go out. Get 6s and 7s generally easy, and 8s with some solid game. Sometimes I’d flirt with 9s but it’s been tough to get super far, but I’m getting there.
After contemplation a few weeks ago, I decided to quit porn.
Since I quit, I’m literally a different person. The best way I can put it is that there’s something inside that porn “locks up.” And as cringey as it sounds, I’ll call it my Inner Man. Since quitting, I have a higher and healthier libido. I’m confident everywhere I go.
And I can see it in my eyes too. Before, I looked lifeless almost, and seeing pictures of afterward it seems there’s a spark in there, and a look of smug sexual satisfaction.
I feel more energized. My mission is clearer and I seemingly have more energy for it. I now learned this “look” that comes naturally where I just look at a girl a certain way and I can see her just freeze and start breathing heavy. When I cold approach, I just immediately touch/grab chicks instead of starting with small talk because I’m too confident not too. All these little things are what Mother Nature put inside of me, and seemingly have been repressed until I’ve became enlightened. ALL of my natural animal instincts feel unimpeded, and it’s feels like a drug.
An example was a party I was at a few weeks ago. Generally I’m a reserved guy and I’ll cold approach a girl or two if I’m feeling it, but I’ve naturally been shyer in the past. Nowhere near a wallflower but not exactly the life of the party. Lesser Sigma, if you’re familiar with the concept.
I see a friend (HB 8) and her friends (8 and 7) and I approach. Instead of just saying high I just grab the two hotter ones by the waist and start making fun of them. I stayed and flirted with all of them, meanwhile other chicks are approaching to introduce themselves to me, including an HB9 I’ve been crushing on for some time, all while I have my hands over the two girls. All of this is uncharacteristic of me but ever since I stopped I’ve just been naturally doing this stuff. Eventually I went off with one of the 8s by ourselves where we did stuff for the night before “she thanked me for making her night special” and I walked her home.
Point is, quitting has not only changed how I feel, but even how others perceive me. I feel more alive and energetic and confident. It especially shows in pictures I see of myself.
It’s like the scene in the Matrix where Neo is back to life and seeing the green code. I’m not your obnoxious youth pastor saying “quit because it’s evil,” but definitely try to do it. The results have been amazing for me.
After all, TRP is all about bettering yourself, something I try to do everyday. I encourage those out there who do it to quit, and see if you feel similar to how I did.
I wonder if anyone out there has similar experiences or any other Eureka moments..?
MrFiles 5y ago
I'm with you my man, been back on the nofap journey for about 7 days and no stranger to it.
About a year or two ago is when I dove nose first into nofap and really committed to it which is what I'm doing again now
And just reading these post and being off the stuff for a week I'm already being to remember how I felt and how I'm beginning to feel that was again.
You become more animal is tic and you don't have to do anything special with women. You are a man with balls, it's in your DNA to get it.
Lucky-Mustard 5y ago
I did no fap for 3 months ,nothing changed. All i can say is porn is bad but fapping from time to time it's fine.
Obediah_Stane 5y ago
Quit porn and fapping cold turkey a week ago. I'm more assertive, confident, cocky, social, motivated, etc. Girls are reacting to me more positively. I feel better too, less of a half-dead robot and more of a young stud. I vowed to myself I wouldn't rub one off until after I break my dry spell. Keeping to it has been rough, but it forces you to learn discipline. Mind over matter.
ThePreviousGod 5y ago
If you are struggling with quitting then read this book: https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/
Just read it, don’t half-ass it, read the whole thing and thank me later.
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HonoluluLion 5y ago
Or you can just watch porn and live the same way you would without it....
gbdoragnic 5y ago
Quitting porn has seem to benefit your life greatly ,
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> My mission is clearer and I seemingly have more energy for it. I now learned this “look” that comes naturally where I just look at a girl a certain way and I can see her just freeze and start breathing heavy. When I cold approach, I just immediately touch/grab chicks instead of starting with small talk because I’m too confident not too.
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I never had this experience, my experience with porn weren't negative at all , I enjoyed it and discovering my sexuality , I talked to women about porn too. One reason I stop looking at porn and masturbating was because I enjoyed women much more and they wanted sex and good sex, if I masturbated I couldn't get off or stay hard, and they wouldn't give me a second chance(one night stand girls).
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After a while I never looked back because it was boring, I naturally grew out of it, Porn has never hurt me, or by relationships with women , the criticism of porn is so often gynocentric by saying it creates unrealistic standards.
I'm not a special snow flake either, I jacked off 5 times a day, but being with a women was so much emotionally better, this wasn't because I was good person or respected women, it was because I naturally wanted women, if porn could truly make me happy I would still watch it.
pridebrah 5y ago
lol. Your overall point is good, but come on, man.
ikeurbantraut 5y ago
I’m not saying every second of the day with anyone I see. I mean when I’m in a party setting and I’m receiving small IOIs already. Fancy way of saying Eye Fucking game has gone from totally nonexistent to decent
WeightsNCheatDates 5y ago
I am 100% on board with everything you said. I have been on and off porn since my preteens. About day 3 is when I can feel the extra confidence and increased libido, but after day 7 I’m a fucking witty king.
Jacking off tricks your brain into thinking you’re reproducing, so you don’t have that same drive to go get your dick wet.
I love no fap.
Frich3 5y ago
did no fap for 3 months.. its a very powerful and exhilerating feeling especially when you look forward to the weekend to meet new people. gives you a shit load of confidence and I honestly believe people can smell it on you
rpbanker 5y ago
I did nofap for 38 days, and I agree. People can smell it on you.
ikeurbantraut 5y ago
I swear to God after sex there is this “smell” that women just subconsciously get and they give you the crazy-sexy eyes for up to 2 weeks
noone_00 5y ago
is nofab meaning no masturbation?
animaSPW 5y ago
Nofap*.
Yeah that's it, there's a subreddit for it too
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ikeurbantraut 5y ago
So you had a similar thing happen? And is there a big dog between nofap and noporn. I feel like you still would be healthy if it was just without porn, right?
Frich3 5y ago
Yup. You’re basically tricking your body into thinking you are reproducing when you jack off. More accomplished feeling when you actually go get ass.
desi-gooner 5y ago
I think what no fap argues is that the act of masturbation itself creates a sense of reproducing. By this logic, porn is just a means to the end. The psychological addiction is created because of an imbalance of the hormone responsible for that feeling of "reproducing". It can be said that Porn is a cayalyst to that addiction. Porn is not "bad" bad.
MrCongeniality1 5y ago
Porn is definitely worse because it is addictive. I found that I was turning to porn out of craving when I wasn't really horny at all.
However, I'm not sure that frequent masturbation without porn is a huge improvement. YourBrainOnPorn argues that porn consumption has filled your head with enough fantasy that you will still be exercising the same neurological "rut" that causes your craving.
There is some science to suggest that frequent ejaculation lowers androgen receptors, the things that actually use your testosterone to make you male.
When I first started lifting heavily, I found that I just wanted sleep and didn't have much desire for porn or masturbation, but I don't recall what the frequency ended up being.
If you find yourself wanting to masturbate, consider a cold shower and hitting the weights so you are tired enough to just fall asleep at night.
yahIDGAF 5y ago
I'm the exact opposite. After a heavy lifting session all I want to do is pound.
MrCongeniality1 5y ago
Does your desire to pound equate to your desire to masturbate? For me, there's a lot of difference.
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Just go nofap dude. Quitting porn fixes your mental state yes, but quitting masturbation altogether skyrockets your energy. And as you have no means to orgasm other than fucking, its a great incentive to push you to have sex.
moltenw 5y ago
Only problem is - you can't focus.
Literally - I stopped my 35~ day streak because it was interfering with my work.
Whenever I get a hard on, I can't think straight, and it sucks. I guess going into a cold shower anytime it comes up is an option...
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İts not because nofap its because your mind is highly sexualised
Nicolas0631 5y ago
True but the fastest way is sometime to ensure you don't have sexual desire at that moment anymore so you can focus on the task at hand.
moltenw 5y ago
And how can I use this info to my benefit?
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red_matrix 5y ago
Porn reprograms your mind, look up neuroplasticity and porn induced erectile dysfunction. I think chronic porn use is the real reason why we have so many soy boys, not actual 'soy'. When virtual reality starts to gain traction, I think we'll see major changes in culture and men disappearing completely from the dating market. That's how powerful and addictive this stuff is, and it's getting better every year.
HonoluluLion 5y ago
Which is a good thing for the men who want sex and relationships, and a good thing for the men who don't want to be bothered with sex or relationships
vomit_romney 5y ago
Porn is toxic if it is fucking with you in any way, and most of us know when it fucks with us (comparable to the feeling of drinking too much). I've definitely had the limp dick after too much fap during the wife's shark week and suddenly she's game, caught me off guard.
I'm convinced that if you're watching porn that contains a subject that you are in any way ashamed of getting hard to, or contains any level of action that you are intimidated by (HBness of star(s), level of kink or how far out that fetish of yours is), you're entering the fap zone from an unconscious scarcity mentality. As in, if the scene were real life and you were present and naked - Could you perform? If you're limp, that porn is too far out of your realm and you're probably not healthier for beating off to it, so fucking avoid it.
I have a plate in another city that sends me picture sets regularly. She's doing what good sales-people do and trying to stay top of mind, But I don't consider in porn even though I've relieved myself to it - She asks what I want, I tell her, and she delivers. It is not outside my mental point of origin and I can surely imagine myself there and taking charge. There's a spectrum here I think.
JackNapier368 5y ago
Agreed. Porn is nothing more then watching a girl you want to bang by another guy. It's like digital cockholdry
HonoluluLion 5y ago
Except you don't have feelings for her and You don't want to bang every porn star in real life lol
JackNapier368 5y ago
You wouldn't? I've heard they have to keep themselfs pretty clean
yammyha 5y ago
have you guys ever notice if you fap 1-3 times a day, after all the dopamine hits, you're essentially emotionally drained or life feel's lifeless lol? I notice I become emotionally more sensitive and tired.
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The positivity of no fap on pr0n keeps you in check of having more control. In essence, you feel more powerful. The feeling of having testosterone overflowing out of my eye socket encourages me to create funny witty interactions with women while visualizing the wildest thoughts in the back of my mind is quite mindf*cking
Dhahill 5y ago
Ok, so you don't watch porn, but do you still jack off? If so, what do you jack off to?
wendysNO1wcheese 5y ago
I've never been one to watch porn all the time. At least compared to my friends. One guy use to bring blank cds to my friend's house who had a cable modem. He'd just download porn all night so he could burn it onto the cds to bring home. Haha, oh man. Funny, they never had any girlfriends until they were in their 20s. These were not hideous guys either. They had their porn, why go after a real girl right? Too scary. Too risky. They might get rejected. Porn won't reject you though. I think that was probably their mindset.
I've always had girlfriends or was talking to girls I wanted to fuck since 9th grade. I remember back in the day, in my early teens when pornography wasn't as ubiquitous as today...I think the first pornographic image I saw took 5 minutes to load onto the screen, haha. Image mind you, not video. I had a great imagination anyway.
I stopped altogether almost 5 years ago. There is a possibility that because of that I've taken more risk in approaching and initiating flirtatious conversation with women. Ultimately leading to sex with some.
"No Porn" is not a meme. It's vitally important and like the man says above, porn is poison. It's really took a toll on our culture. Help to fix it by fixing you.
lush312 5y ago
It's been about 70 days since I started no fap and although I'm no way near cold approaching women, I have noticed an increase in confidence/energy when I interact with people on a day to day basis while I'm at the gym or going out. I feel healthier and happier to be honest, and I'm so glad after countless times telling myself I was going to quit, I finally did it.. and I'm never going back.
Viralimpulse 5y ago
How do you know you have confidence and but not cold approach women? That sounds like ego talk tbh
lush312 5y ago
Oh confidence in terms of just speaking to people throughout my various activities. I was even less confident back then. Being confident enough to cold approach is still something I'm working on ????
GardenofBeden 5y ago
I hear you man, and wholeheartedly agree except for this one instance.
When you get to a place of spinning enough plates to have options for sex most days of the week, sometimes beating your meat into submission is the more attractive option.
I’d recommend giving yourself a pass once or twice a month but no more down the road.
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mallardcove Endorsed Contributor 5y ago
I am one of I guess the very few men on this planet who has never bothered with porn. The best way to avoid something is to never get involved. But for most men that is long gone.
SpiritStatic 5y ago
That's great. I stayed away from it until I was almost 21, and only watched it because I felt like I was the weird one for not partaking. One of my worst "follower" moments.
It's like my spirit was trying to guide me away from it the whole time, but I ultimately decided to dive in anyway.
otszx 5y ago
Yea, that's smoking for me. Never tried it so no addiction to break. Watched porn for 9 years though and never before discovering trp even thought it could be harmful.
Went cold turkey on it.
Vikingcel 5y ago
I was introduced to porn when I was very young. When no boy I knew was into girls, I had porn. When the boys started getting into girls, I had porn. By the time I figured out an actual girl would be better than porn, I was already way behind.
I was such a pretty boy when young, all I cared about was chess, rock climbing and hitting eachother with sticks pretending to be knights. In retrospective a lot of girls were actually into me. Once the daughter of my moms friend wanted to sleep over and when we were alone at bedtime, she confessed she wanted to try sex. We were like 10 years old and by that time I was already so weened onto porn that I was deeply insecure about my dick size so nothing happened.
Fuck porn.
StopGaming1234 5y ago
What the actual fuck? At 10 years I didn't even know what the internet was.
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You shouldn't feel bad about not having sex at the age of 10. I repeat what the actualy fuck.
Vikingcel 5y ago
I do feel bad about it. If I went through with it I would have experience => confidence => wouldn't be so behind later in my life => not an incel at 20
StopGaming1234 5y ago
No matter what anyone says, sex at the age of 10 is beyond fucked. Your logic is flawed, since the "experience" (or whatever you call it) you would have gotten is not valuable.
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Like I said, don't feel bad about it. It's better that it didn't happen in the long run. Don't blame your current state on this single scenario.
ThrowingRandomThings 5y ago
Imagine being insecure about your dick size at 10 years old. Thats probably not even an uncommon thing; scary.
ReformSociety 5y ago
Uh imagine even considering sex at 10 years old...? That's 5th grade. Elementary school. I wanted to play kickball and play Runescape tf
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joeR40 5y ago
Porn gives you cheap/nowork gratification. A little porn is fine, but if you're squeezing the sausage to Brandi Love more than 2-3 times a week then that's too much.
burnyr 5y ago
Bruh more like 2-3 times daily.
Thatbiengsaid 5y ago
Im saying its Brandi Love be respectful lol
chadjugo 5y ago
Lmao why the downvotes
Its not easy finding a hot older chick with a nice 6 pack IRL
much more fucking one
ReformSociety 5y ago
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brandi\_Love
Lol who did this
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EL_Miore 5y ago
Suppression of animalistic sexual urges is a mayhem in and of itself, in ways of its presentation, and also of its lasting linger. It is the transmutation of sexual energy that revitalizes the body, strengthening the blood barrier and the heart's core, and thus the mind and soul.
"Transmutation, not presumptuous denial, is indeed the weapon of the master" - The Kybalion.
LOLCanadianNeighbor 5y ago
Can confirm, I tried this for a month about 2 years ago. I had to watch myself because I was more aggressive/assertive. People at work saw a difference; some asked if everything was ok. Before that I was a bit of a pushover. I did this for a month when TRP had a group 30 day challenge thread where you did one thing new every day that was posed.
I used to every day before work. When I stopped I found I had a lot more motivation in the mornings. Before I would try very hard to make it through the morning.
ziriguidumm 5y ago
Did you continue fapping even without porn?
ikeurbantraut 5y ago
Only during times when I know I’m not approaching women. IE some weekdays
newbornredditor 5y ago
Did a nofap for about 5.5 months. I think I damaged my prostate but also experienced definite change in the way I approached everyone.
slifer3 5y ago
howd u damage ur prostate lol
newbornredditor 5y ago
By exercising it less, or close to none for about half a year. No fap, no cheat, just depression meds and constantly angry wife motivated me. If you ask me, I wouldn't do it again. Angry fap better than no fap
slifer3 5y ago
wait what did ur angry wife motivate u to do?
newbornredditor 5y ago
She motivated me to hold my nut for that long.
slifer3 5y ago
what was her reason wanting you to do nofap?
newbornredditor 5y ago
You're getting into details way too deep. No, it was just my own personal anger, she did not deserve my nut anymore.
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Your_Coke_Dealer 5y ago
Yeah, porn is cheap gratification which makes you lazy and complacent sexually. But your title is still NoFap clickbait. Not whacking off to porn won’t give you fucking superpowers, it’s just something to be avoided in excess so you don’t get used to instant gratification
MurkyArtichoke 5y ago
So, is this about only porn in general, or masturbation aswell? Are you referring to the "nofap-feeling" or the fact that porn as a media is poisoning you? I've read a lot about people's experiences with nofap and it sounds a lot like you described, so i'm curious what you mean exactly. Like, usually before i go out, or if i have a date planned, i'll want to masturbate, because i will last a lot longer in bed if there's a potential f-close coming up. I don't want to go into sex knowing i will explode after 5 seconds, that's a sure way to lower your SMV. Masturbating without porn is.. well let's be honest it's boring as hell. I'll admit that i'm watching way too much porn, and i really need to cut down or cut it off completely. It's time-consuming and leaves you with unrealistic expectations of the opposite sex. But how do you juggle masturbation and no porn?
Andrew54321 5y ago
5s? Uh no. My first nut after a dry spell usually takes longer due to the fact that I want to savour the sensation. Similar to the end of a 3 day fast as in you will never taste food like that again until after the next 3 day fast. You will never have that level of pleasure until after the next dry spell.
I’ve been toying how voluntary celibacy impacts my plates and so far mixed results. I am looking for studies that document a consistent increase in testosterone production (and thus levels) when the frequency of an orgasmic experience is every two weeks. If I don’t find one by year’s end I will just test the theory myself Q1 2019.
ikeurbantraut 5y ago
Just porn, at least for now
clavabot 5y ago
10 mins after I busy a fat nut, this pops up ????.
Signs from the universe Amen
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avtarius 5y ago
some guidance here https://www.gq.com/story/shimiken-japanese-porn-star-interview
iamthelogos 5y ago
Great article.
Shimiken, with his roaring libido, may be playing the part of proxy wingman to an entire generation of men
Japan is a canary in the coal mine - they're the 2nd most porned up country - so other countries will follow simillar patterns as porn consumption rises.
"the reality is that porn is mostly a shitty place filled with shitty people. I'd just like to be a light among the shit."
Becoming a man is optional - without rites of passage and voluntary hardship - it's too easy to just acquiesce and follow the crowd into passive vices that rob you of a coherent identity.
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odin1111 5y ago
this link is an extreme example of listen to what they DO rather than what they SAY.
BurntYams 5y ago
OP, you mean “quit watching porn” as in continuing to beat my meat like it owes me money just not to porn, or by “quitting porn” you mean to stop jerkin off entirely?
randomTATRP 5y ago
don't be autistic, it means quit watching porn. jacking off once a week is fine, and in my case even encouraged
MrFiles 5y ago
"Don't be autistic"
Damn I'm dieing, gonna use that in the future
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punkrockfishboy 5y ago
I would recommend limiting masturbation to 1-3 times per week. (without porn), preferably on a day you aren't approaching chicks. It's good to rub one out, but not to go overboard where you lose your motivation to talk to women.
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ZeppKfw 5y ago
it gets hard to skip a day when you start watching
punkrockfishboy 5y ago
So for me, I've been smoking weed I have just been looking at instagram photos. I'm not seeing a naked body when I am on instagram, but I am enjoying the beauty of the women and end up fantasizing about making out and fapping to the fantasy to fucking her. Instagram, Facebook pics of women aren't as different from porn if used this way. What's weird is when I'm high on weed when alone in my home, I'm more motivated to look at girls, masturbate and sleep. <- This is where my brain's dopamine receptors are messed up and I'm addicted to the behavior above.
The next morning, I feel like shit. Have some regrets. Feeling weak. And even feeling like a defeatist. (Mainly stems from me still recovering from inceldom).
My advice for people trying to get off the porn and/or fapping addiction and to leave the inceldom:
Be persistent with different girls. Go out and talk to them. If you creeped her out, evaluate your behavior, and correct it the next time.
If you want to eventually get laid and possibly have a girlfriend you will want to avoid MGTOW content. MGTOW has some good concepts, like "Have respect for yourself", and "Don't put a girl on a pedestal", but parts of it are too cynical about reality. The truth is, most incels who complain on the internet don't go out and put the effort. I'm willing to bet they haven't been rejected from 100 girls talking to them in person. I realized that some incels go MGTOW to protect themselves from the emotional pain rejection gives. Just suck it up and embrace rejection until it no longer affects you.
Focus on other activities, and go out to meet people on meetup.com. A social life is healthy vs being a shut in. Plus, you never know how interactions go. Don't go out with any expectation of meeting a girl. Take it slow.
If you're looks are not good enough, fix your looks. Work hard. Save money. Get surgery. No questions asked.
Remember, being an incel is only the default of a human. Some guys successfully get laid at 19, others at 27. Stop caring about age and live in the moment.
All of this is indeed easier said than done. Best of luck to everyone.
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avtarius 5y ago
tbh porn does stifle your ability to manage interactions and expectations with women.
If I encounter any virgin worth saving, I’d just invite that guy to a proper party to show him what the world really can be.
Ansec 5y ago
It doesn't give you superpowers, but it does force you to talk to women. If you're not being sexually satisfied by yourself you'll look for others to help you out.
It also makes you feel better. It gives you the sense of accomplishment because you don't have the guilt of just beating off.
Not sure if this is true but I heard it increases testosterone too. Your body notices you're not having sex so it gives you a boost to go do it.
I've also found sex to be more enjoyable when on nofap. If you're a smoker or drink caffeine, it's like taking a few days off and then taking a hit. The orgasms are much more powerful because you lowered your tolerance for the dopamine hit.
Definitely worth doing imo. It's hard at first though. Some nights you'll be really horny and it's really hard to resist beating off.