This is about what to do if she dumps you.

The theory. There are three kinds of Nexts.

  • The first, the Soft Next, is a short-term cessation of contact, that various authorities put generally in the range of three to ten days, after which the relationship resumes as if nothing happened. This is to be used when she is acting up. It cannot be done if she is living with you.

  • The second is the Hard Next, which is just a permenent breakup, after which there is no further contact of any kind - and definitely no sexual contact. This is to be used in cases of serious drama or abuse.

  • Third is something BlackDragon calls a Long Soft Next For Temporary Exclusivity, something carried out by the woman, and I'll let him explain in his own words:

LSNFTE – Long Soft Next For Temporary Exclusivity. A common occurrence with Alphas in nonmonogamous relationships where a woman leaves the Alpha, who will not give her monogamy, so she can get a traditional boyfriend or husband who will. The new boyfriend/husband is always an AFC, beta, or Alpha Male 1.0, who eventually either bores her to death, irritates her with too many rules, or cheats on her. The woman then leaves the boyfriend/husband and goes right back to the Alpha, resuming the sexual relationship. LSNFTEs last anywhere from a few weeks to many years.

The practice. Good advice is hard to take. Nexting goes against the grain of a lot of guys. But if she dumps you, go no-contact for at least four months. Cut off all social contact, including social media - don't even "Like" anything on her Facebook. You will be tempted to do something to win her back; do not do it. You will be tempted by oneitis, by scarcity-mentality, and by revenge for the disrespect she showed you in dumping you.

But in contacting her again like a puppy, you would be doing exactly what turns her off in the first place. Ignoring her increases her attraction. BlackDragon reports a coming-back rate of 94%.

In the mean time, see other women, work on yourself.

After 4-6 months, BlackDragon suggests finding out - not through her directly - what her relationship status is. If she is single or has gone back to an old boyfriend, he suggests contacting her in a non-needy, outcome-independent, nonflattering way such as texting her "How's it going?" If, on the other hand, she has a new boyfriend, give it another 4-6 months, because she's probably still in the honeymoon stage and will probably ignore your texts anyway. In the mean time cool your heels until the honeymoon is over or she dumps him.

If she contacts you first, even within the four-month window, take that as possibly - but not neccessarily - an indicator of interest. Find out why she is contacting you. If it's something mundane like getting her jacket back, then just do it businesslike with zero fanfare, and ignore her for another four months. But if she's contacting you because she's bored, you're in. Invite her over and take it from there. If she resists the invitation, wait another four months.

Otherwise, if you don't take this advice, BlackDragon says that if you keep contacting her, you will be permanently in the friendzone.

Digested from http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2014/10/12/important-ignore-breakup/