[Editorial note: this post to r/AskMen by u/Product_of_80s today is so classic and perfect that it deserves to be reposted. Just to be clear I DID NOT WRITE THIS so stop trying to give me "advice" about it. This is not a "question". It is a blue pill example I am cross posting from reddit.]
I was with my ex for 7 years she’s 36 and I miss her all the time. I look at other women and they all seem like downgrades in comparison to my ex. She was perfect, great ass, great boobs slim waist, nice face. Everything about her physically was great, the internal not so much since she cheated on me and was manipulative and abusive at times. But part of me still wants her and I am extremely jealous of the guy she cheated on me with as he is now with her in a relationship. Whilst I can’t find anyone or am attracted to anyone. It’s been 8 months and I just feel stuck fantasizing about her and what she’s doing and how I am never going to be with a woman as hot as her ever again in my life.
The guy is completely different to me and I perceive him as far better looking than me and physically fitter than me. I feel she cheated because he was the better option. Also, I feel it’s hard to be attracted to only one type of woman and this is primarily where the issue lies is that I feel so attracted to her and no one else does it for me.
Update: To all the idiots stating I’m shallow and how I treated her like a piece of ass you're dead wrong. I was abused by this woman. I was rejected sexually and still respected her and loved her. I tried to communicate with her around our sex issues and how we could move forward but she always made it about herself and how she didn’t like being touched and stuff. If she did fall out of love with me which others are saying then why did she just not leave me? All through our relationship she kept saying to me I deserved better and stuff as she knew she treated me like shit but I always overlooked this and supported her. Yeah, I am in no way perfect but what I’m trying to say is I loved this woman--abuse and all. That’s all I’m saying so maybe read up on trauma bonding before insulting me or calling me a simp boy.
idontdesireusername 1mo ago
??? imagine HIS sperm inside her.. still want her??? once a cheater, always a cheater wake up - she is 36 - old hag. be happy that you get rid of her for cheap and find 26
Gilles 1mo ago
Is this a troll post? Literally everything is answered by the side bar
Testme 1mo ago
It's flaired Blue Pill example. This is not a "question".
Lone_Ranger 1 1mo ago
OP - do you not see what is going on here?
The guy in the post is a cuckold. He is literally fixated on his ex because she fucked (and is still fucking) another man. If she had not cheated, he would not be obsessed with her. It's not her he's in love with, its the feeling of being disrespected in the most intimate and profound way possible.
Do you really not know this? Do you not know what a cuckold is?
The media use the term incorrectly. They use it for a guy that 'puts up' with a wife that is unfaithful. That is not what a cuckold is. A cuckold ONLY loves women that cheap on him, because the only thing that gets his cock stiff is the the thought of his wife fucking another man.
Does that help?
Testme 1mo ago
This is not a "question". It's just a blue pill example I copied from reddit because I thought it was pretty exemplary.
Lone_Ranger 1 1mo ago
I don't think 'exemplary' means what you think it means.
exemplary. adjective. ex·em·pla·ry ig-ˈzem-plə-rē : deserving to be imitated : commendable. exemplary behaviour.
Testme 1mo ago
That is only one definition. It can also mean "2. Serving as a model. 3. Serving as an illustration; typical." Direct quote from Webster's Dictionary.
OPStolen 1mo ago
My ex did the same thing. Started answering dudes while we were on dates, would always say I was trying to check her phone If I looked anywhere near it and say “you wouldn’t want to see my messages”. I called my mom (my dad is dead and I have no friends) and my mom tells me “if she’s a hoe, treat her like a hoe, go find someone to talk to”.
But, internal beta me wanted to be a good guy and I straight up told her “if you’re cheating it’s fine, as long as you’re in MY bed at the end of the night”. All of the weak ass beta ways I tried to regain her interest are ALWAYS in my head. I have the tools now to keep women interested and ignore or make jokes if they try to brag about having options or hint they might be cheating. But, I still think about her at some point because I say to myself “She did the same thing, she taught me how to handle this”
I get how people get to this stage. I wish there was an easy way out of it. It sucks.
Wyrm 1mo ago
Yes, but how did you get out of it? Therapy, dating better women?
OPStolen 1mo ago
She filed a restraining order and I finally had to talk to other women