In today's era of participation trophies, its become taboo to feel anything other than unconditional love for yourself.
Fats are told they are beautiful at any size. Inner city minorities are told they are acting white if they study hard and want to get ahead. Celibates are told there is a princess waiting at the end of the rainbow. Keep paddling!
That last part is kinda true. Women do wait on the other side of the wall but they are overweight and plunged more than a 35 year old toilet in an army barrack by then.
Since you were born, you have been indoctrinated with Just Be Yourself to make you weak. To make you fail. To make you docile and more controllable.
Uncle Cad gives you permission to hate whatever about yourself doenst work. Your physique, education, social life, or career. Change it. Dont listen to any family, friend, or coworker who thinks if he cant change, you cant either. Let him love his loser life. You are throwing off the shackles and allowing yourself to hate something about yourself
Hate gives you energy. It is fuel for change. Dont bury it, embrace it and change in ways you never dreamed possible
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silent_dominant 3y ago
Do you need to feel bad about who you are? No
Do you need to feel a constant urge to improve yourself? Abso-fucking-lutely
Proto_Sigma 3y ago
I can feel your anger. It makes you stronger, gives you focus.
therealsuH 3y ago
Hate that you're not drowning in pussy?
Game.
Hate that you're a weak ass little pussy?
Lift.
Hate that you have no social outlets?
Socialize.
Hate that your life isn't at the level you want?
Grind.
Obediah_Stane 3y ago
Exactly. The hate you have for certain personal attributes or failures will push you to fix them and succeed. Hatred is good if used correctly.
Self-honest 3y ago
The only way I was able to successfully quit smoking once and for all was when I allowed myself to hate myself for continuing smoking. Then I had the overwhelming desire to stop.
The only way I was able to lose a significant amount of weight and build a significant amount of muscle was when I allowed myself to hate myself for being a disgusting fatty. Only then was I driven to change so I would stop hating myself every day.
The only way I became disciplined enough to pay off all of my debt and begin building my bank account well above break even was when I allowed myself to hate myself for getting into financial trouble and having my freedom to say “fuck you” compromised. Only then was I able to say “fuck you” to myself until I was able to say “fuck you” to anyone I want to.
The hated is motivational. Discipline must follow suit. Now I love myself for all that I have accomplished and if I slip in any area, the hate comes right back to correct my fuck up.
RedPill115 3y ago
It's fine if it works.
The danger is you grow to hate yourself, then it doesn't work, now you're still smoking but also hating yourself. Or hating yourself gets you off smoking but hurts you in another way - like job interviews are a lot about confidence and liking yourself.
bmw1999m3 3y ago
What's ironic is that all the people who are told to love themselves despite being fat, lazy, degenerate, etc. actually hate themselves deep down and always will. Have any of you ever seen a truly happy blue-haired SJW landwhale... no. They engage in decadence and debauchery and get their cheap thrills through intoxication and social reinforcement, but misery and a self-hating victim-mindset is their way of life. It's the rare few who practice discipline and delayed gratification who become truly fulfilled and achieve much in life.
Self-honest 3y ago
They continue the self destructive behaviors as a way of ignoring the feeling of hatred building up inside.
Accepting it allows you to engage in healthy ways of removing the negative feelings.
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Jeromd 3y ago
It's also why PC culture has escalated so badly. I dare say half of it nowadays is a complete post hoc fallacy. For example if you're critical of a woman, not because you hate women but because she made a genuine mistake, you're a virgin misogynist. People, from any background and/or gender, refuse to look at themselves if something goes wrong, and become a better person.
Everyone wants to believe there is nothing hateable about them nowadays, to keep their happy facade on social media, live a lie and die secretively unhappy and unfulfilled.
Johnfeb94 3y ago
You posted something I agree with ;)
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YoU Do NoT KNoW ThE POWa Of ThE DaRK SiDEE
Nevesj98G 3y ago
This is why i still think , after struggling a lot with depression and overcoming it, that self-esteem doesnt exist. You need to have a very well defined concept of self IMAGE/CONCEPT to move forward in life, but there is not 1 rreason to think always highly of yourself. If something goes wrong, if you dont feel like you are where you wish to be, its normal that you hate that little bit of yourself, listen to it more instead of beating yourself about it.
SKRedPill 3y ago
Self esteem is like medicine to a sick patient. When you are healthy you neither have disease nor need medicine.
I see a lot of self esteem issues coming up now amongst a lot of people, and celebrities get a lot of mileage from flaunting their mental illnesses, but self esteem is not the real problem. The problem is your mind isn't healthy to begin with. All ideas of yourself are smaller than you. When you don't have a sick self to start with why would you need self esteem so much?
After that any self esteem or belief just works as a major confidence booster, but even the most powerful motivation boost doesn't compare to the moments when you are truly in a zone - those are moments where you are alive on a whole other level.
Took me a long time to figure it out, but true happiness is when you don't desperately need happiness. It is freedom from happiness.
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mr_falcohn 3y ago
Ummm... this post is not it buddy. Try again... “Hate” is never the answer... you can have hunger/motivation to change any situation WITHOUT having hate in your heart. Misleading to the youth my guy! But I’m pretty sure you mean well. Stay blessed my brozay.
SouthDakotaCornbread 3y ago
Why is hate never the answer? Why can't you hate that you're fat since it's disgusting and gross and almost always means you're gluttonous and lazy?
Why aren't you allowed to hate objectively bad things about yourself? What's wrong with "having hate in your heart" (whatever that means) about being fat or anything else that you don't like that's objectively bad?
Can you hate a pedophile that rapes kids? Why not? Hate is an emotion reserved for the most despicable things in life. Everyone feels it, even you.
it-is-on 3y ago
Hate isn't the opposite of love, indifference is. You shouldn't hate the negatives but love the positives.
As a smoker, hating cigeretts never helps, they still occupy your thoughts and you never stop the habit.
What you need to do is love being healthy and stop thinking about the bad: the eating and the lazyness. Be indifferent, because hate is as much of an addicting emotion as love. Red pill should know that. It's the reason we like being called assholes and girls that voice their hate towards us are the ones that want to fuck us the most.
mr_falcohn 3y ago
My guy! Woke as a MF’er you hit it right on the nail, hating something only amplifies it’s reality to you... you literally become what you hate. Hating something doesn’t eradicate it from your life it consumes you. In other words accepting you’re a piece of shit (if you are) logically coming up with a plan to over come it and staying on track changes your life.. but being an emotion beta buck about “hating” a situation only brings you deeper into the rabbit hole..
Glad I read this comment btw... good shit kid I feel for the other dude, but I understand... I wish him well
SouthDakotaCornbread 3y ago
I disagree. Even if any of that were true it still doesn’t answer the question of what’s wrong with hating bad shit. Are you indifferent to the pedophile that rapes your daughter?