3% conversion rate is shit. I should be closer to 10% if you spend more than a few minutes on them.

Yes i think you need to do cold approach. Let me explain, girls are emotional this is obvious. Therefore they don’t usually have the rationale to approach you. Unless they’re a hot “bar” rat that goes out often and is very comfortable there. Going out during the day to events is very important, not just random pickup at the mall though it can be valuable. Most guys don’t know how to do it. It’s a skill you should use to help you get better at what I’d say is warm game, or some kind of social value game where you know people around you.

As many have already pointed out in here, thanks for the honesty especially with numbers etc. Those are the realistic numbers if you only approach girls who are atleast considered "cute".

I think the things that you are saying will be the reality for most of the guys doing cold approach.

That's all I have to say after around 12 years of cold approach. Fun, but not useful.

I'd say it was useful. Because you had fun and got various experiences. Also you are probably a lot more skilled socially now than you were 12 years ago. Social skills and courage helps you in every sector of life. The time was not wasted.

This is literally the definition of cope:

I'm not going to give a random woman the opportunity to reject me, she does not deserve that right. First I need to see she is worth it, and than I will take my chance. No more freebies for the opposite sex.

aka "I can't get rejected if I reject you first!11!!!"

If after 12 YEARS of cold approaching you haven't mustered enough game to have better hit rates, you're not as "chad" as you think you are. This is the #1 problem with our sub: people who think they reached their potential and are just better than everyone else now.

You're not who you think you are. And if my comment offends (not disagree, but offends) anyone reading, then you're one of those people too.

done thousands of apporaches and got hundreds of numbers, dated hundreds of girls, I had tens of ONS

Respect the honesty there.

There is no method better than cold approach when it comes to learning how to seduce a woman. Cold approach affords a consistent high number of interactions which allows for the fastest growth. Once one can successfully do cold approach, they also earn a certain unwavering confidence. Even if one's cold approach skills wane, they will always know that, with some time, pain, and effort, they can be successful with woman. It is also worth pointing out that many, if not a large majority, of male hobbies have few woman that mutually engage. This leads to a situation where most men only have opportunity to engage with woman through mutual friends or cold approach.

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You are 35 years old and you have done legit pickup for 12 years. I can imagine your advice makes sense for someone like you. That being said, those that are younger and without so much experience should probably still do cold approach pickup, at least to the extent that they know they can succeed in it.

I know I am going to get roasted for saying this but I find cold approaching to be a waste of time. If you're chasing tail then you really haven't grasped fully what TRP means. I've found that when I stopped chasing tail and focused on myself, things just lined up naturally. Start working out, chasing money and achievements and the women will somehow manage to "show up".

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Just my two cents and what has worked for me not work for everyone.

cold approach is awesome, been doing it 5 years, i love the whole thing.

I've done thousands of approaches, slept with around 40 women, who have increasingly gotten hotter and hotter as i've gotten more confident.

admittedly the first thousand approaches were very unsuccessful but i've gotten exponentially better results over time.

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now it's just so fucking easy lol, not draining at all, barely feels like effort and it's so much fun. Cold approaching is like breathing to me.

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but ultimately the best thing about cold approach for me is my love of the game, like i just legit love chatting up women.

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Thing with me is i've always been an extrovert, even when i had no game the kind of guy at a party who is one of the loudest and always want to be centre of attention so cold approach just meshes with my personality so well. It's not a chore to me.

All comes down to what you need.

If you need pussy? Start spin plate. If you need social skill, start making friends.

If you need to be calm approach girls, do cold approach.

Problem is it is difficult to evaluate what you need. Because objectively self evaluation is hard.

Overall, do a variety of difficult things will quickly show your overall skill bell curve. And if you add time/resources into the play, generally working out come out highest ROI, and making friends also comes out high because it net you social proof and networks to make more money.

When you have physique and money, 80% of trout is easy access, as man, you need to be above average to begin to able to pick what you want. You might start seeing a market value etc and invest less time/energy to get pussy.

Once you have enough experience, you would get few LTR, and eventually realized pussy just pussy, but a good cigar is a smoke. Pussy is never worth it.

Get gym time, friendship, business, and live the fucking life you want, don’t ever over invest in pussy, FFS spend money fly to Germany FKK club, is legal there. Spend few month in that if you are that thirsty.

Overly obsessed with something with low return is as stupid to put money into a shit car and try to make it F1 race machine: No matter how you polish a sandal it will not turn to a high quality boots.

One thing at time, and pick high ROI activity. Pay attention to your own health and find your own life purpose.

Finally, if you learn your entire life how to live, might start learning how to die when you turn 30.....

memento mori

I used to do cold approach, had a decent success rate. But it’s just so draining.

Now I just wait for her to give some kind of indicator like she double takes, or when I sense she’s looking at me and look at her she looks away, things like that. The warm approach.

Warm approach is much more natural than cold approach and it’s actually based on something.

Cold approach is a lifestyle.

Warm approach > cold approach.

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I think cold approaching should be used specifically for practicing your 'initiating conversation skills', preferably with men. We all know having a vibrant social circle of men that actually go out and do exciting things is not only more fun but actually results in more pussy. We all need more male friends, whether or not we admit it.

Practice approaching men. Guys seem so damn 'warm' to approaches its actually amazing. Like we're all friends and are happy for another man to join our group if he doesn't seem like a murderer or weirdo.

A fun way to approach some guys is just to walk up with your phone out on tinder/bumble and ask the guys if they have a minute and tell them to think of a message to send to the girls. It's actually funny as fuck, especially if you lift and actually get more than a pathetic 5 matches a day. When you show them your phone with like 20 new matches they will be amazed "wow tinder actually works for you?" and instantly you have that pre-selection kind of vibe where they know you are high smv.

Any type of girls that are more open than others? I’m probably gonna sound like a weirdo but I workout I’m in good physical shape at 5’10...and I’m very much into voluptuous/thicker women. But I pussy out in day gaming them because I think they’ll react the same as more athletic/what-most-of-society-considers-attractive kind of women..which in my experience is pretty cold (I do acknowledge that this is possibly my fault though because maybe i approach the wrong way). Any advice?

Honesly 3% is low. Its not really because you have done 1000s of approach that you are doing it well.. your vibe might be off.

OP men willingly believe what they wish.

That's my feeling with people being so fast to agree with you. Cold approach is tough and most people try to avoid it.

If someone is all day out cold approaching , drinking alcohol and taking drugs when is in a sensitive age and has to take care of his career- then yes it's wrong.

I personally allow myself to cold approach thots one day a week just for sport. It is fun and I see it like recreational activity.

It has't harmed my career - on the contrary.

I am saying it a lot of time before and some guys get upset.

I say: Cold approach is insane!!!

Now if you have fun it is ok! But I don't think this the case for many guys here.

You say you have fun doing it and then list all the things that aren’t fun.

The thing that most stands out is that you don’t want to give a random woman the right to reject you. That sounds like the male equivalent of when a woman says “he used me for sex.” Don’t do it if you don’t enjoy it.

It sounds like you’ve already arrived at this conclusion.

I think most guys, especially younger ones, should do it at least until they are confident talking with strangers.

Do you want to have fun? Worth it

That's the entire point of cold approach.

You want something meaningful then you have to do shit meaningfully. Seems like you discovered that regardless but this post is useless.

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Is cold calling worth it? Picking up the phone and just start dialling has zero opportunity loss.

If anything it is just the ego not being able to handle rejections. However once the ego has been desensitised to doing it, it becomes second nature and you get better over time.

Cold approach is no different from cold calling in the sales/business world. Cold approaching is just a small piece of the bigger pie.

Women just want to feel sold to what you’re offering whether in seduction or whatever aspect of selling. Cold approaching is just a method of selling. (Think door to door sales)

If you want to get the bread, you have to get better at doing the cold touches, with a sense of dedication, eagerness and passion.

It's been several months since I've come across a post that I like from this sub. Thanks!

It’s not a numbers game. My conversion rate is 1/10. Your skill is simply not high enough

Good insights based on real life grinding and experience!

I am from Eastern Europe. Cold approching girls is HARD here, because of slut shaming etc. Some girls say that even if they really like the guy they don't wanna be perceived as "too easy". I cold approached in the US and Western Europe and it's breeze compared to my country. I live in a city with population around 300k and I don't cold approach that often anymore. Also I am naturally aloof and kinda mysterious and that attracts girls, but it is hard to play that card when you approach because you are in a weaker position and have to be a dancing monkey in a way.

p.s. I dress well, am tall, athletic blah blah

How could approaching and conversing with people not be useful. You are constantly exercising your social skills, learning and experiencing new things, as well as potentially leaving your comfort zone. Very valuable in my opinion. As for not getting laid from it, it’s obviously not gonna have the highest conversion rate, but there are probably other things you can do like lift and make money that will help.

When you’re cold approaching I don’t think you should go in with the mindset of trying to impress. The I’m the prize mindset is what you want. A little bit hard when you’re talking to someone with no reason to care about you, but you should take an interest in them. Try to learn something about them and life, this will make the cold approach more interesting, make you more interesting, you can potentially learn something, and it serves as vetting.

I realize you have a lot of experience with it, but from my experience it can be extremely valuable. It’s also nice to just have the ability to talk to the hot girl sitting in Starbucks when before you would just walk away and think about her for the rest of the day.

Oh another Italian brother like me

You lost me at "my conversion is 3%". How the hell can I read an article from someone who tracks his conversion rate like whaaat ?

I think doing a few cold approaches is worthwhile as a method to develop a thicker skin and beat the fear of failure out of you. If you're naturally an anxious person, it can be good for you for that reason.

But yeah, if you're using it as your primary method of picking up, you're totally missing the point. If you're outgoing, have a social life and are reasonably high value, opportunities will start to present themselves.

I noticed this years ago, not that i'm any good at cold approach but you are going to find it 300x easier going to meet people at places where you actually want to go

well yeah, that's obvious bucko

-3% of rate success for what? Fucking of the total approached?

-"smart, interesting and with personality"

Now, I’m tired. When I see a woman, I don’t want to spend energy on her just because she’s not beautiful. Most of the times it’s not worth it. There is such a low probability that she is smart, interesting and with a personality. Even when she is giving IOIs, there is a good chance she just wants attention. She has friends that are going to cockblock, she will ghost and disappear at once for reasons not dependent on you. And while trying to get her can be fun in itself, after a while it’s not fun anymore.

I’m only 23 and I already feel this. I used to take a buddy of mine out approaching sometimes or even did it on my own when I was 19, 20 just to get out of my shell a bit more. I was an ugly little sperg at the time, but alas I had begun the process to cultivate a personality. Ultimately, that’s why I did it; I never got laid by cold approach alone but it certainly was a novel form of fun at the time. I’d probably have a higher chance of success now as I’ve made drastic changes in my appearance since, but every time the thought crosses my head I just tell my itself it’s not worth it and immediately shift my attention as I have more valuable uses for my time than playing flaky girl games. Approaching ended up just a phase for me, my hay day came when I had two LTRs at once and that was enough dread for me to burn through most of my sexual bucket list items for a while. Sex ultimately just ended up being another busted nut; it’s the same orgasm of dopamine in the brain as DIYing it, and the novelty has died for me. It simply isn’t worth the effort when I can be working on my craft or doing something good that isn’t related to sex.

That said, my priorities have simply shifted. I’d rather focus on the kind of lifestyle I want, not chasing another high. In that case, that is for me to figure out an avenue to find bisexual girls. My upbringing has always had me interested in the arts, and has left me with as a dandy archetype; I have hooked up with some some bi girls who have compared me to a lesbian. (Projecting her bisexuality onto me.) If it weren’t for my outspoken attitude and conservative viewpoints, you’d think I was a liberal art student. Hopefully with all these lockdowns they’ll either get lifted eventually or I can find an outlet where these types of dandy girls congregate, as that is the audience I want.

Cold approach isn't about the pussy.

Cold approach is supposed to change you. Sounds like it worked. I've noticed a similar change in myself. Your advice on where to meet women is spot on. Do interesting things with interesting people.

Trust me, when italian girls are out of the country they open their legs to anyone

Cold approach is a waste of time if you’re on your purpose. ‘Cold’ Approach women in overlapping social circles that might know of you. Get social proof up and use that. Cold approach when you absolutely have to say something to a girl, but don’t expect an outcome. You will have a higher positive interaction rate, which is all that really matters anyway.

Please read what goodlookingloser says about cold-approach. You can get your conversion up to 10% or even more. It is just that your conversion suffers from "taking numbers". You should set the date immediately if a girl shows interest in you. Either go for "instant date" if she is free or set the date's time for a little bit later this or the next day if she is not.

" First I need to see she is worth it, and then I will take my chance. No more freebies for the opposite sex. "Yeah, right. You shouldn't do cold-approach to get laid. You should do it to chose women who are worthy. You are basically testing/screening them by approaching. Instead of trying to get laid. The latter will make your frame weak AF which is the main reason why guys have low conversions from cold-approach and most PUA suck. Alphas don't chase sex. They test girls to see if they are worthy of some dicking.

This " And while trying to get her can be fun in itself, after a while it's not fun anymore. " is your problem. Don't try to get her, it is the same as actually entering HER frame. Test. Screen. Choose.

With a 10% conversion rate, you can get a new girl every day as long as you are willing to spend 1-2 hours to do 10 approaches or more. It would take you literally a week to get enough plates to have sexual life better than 99% of men. Well, that being the case, even 3% is enough to achieve that in 2 months. Most guys can't do it in their whole life. So, in a sense, cold-approach is a cheat code.

Cold approach isn't limited to bars and clubs.

Cold approach is talking to the cute girl walking near you in the mall.

Cold approach is started a conversation with the pretty woman at the store with you.

It's flirting with the checkout clerk cus you think she's got the goods.

Malls, book stores, and especially school are all good places to cold approach.

You're right about one thing: Hobbies and Social circles are great ways to meet women. Going to a CO-ED hobby (my go to is poetry) and then dominating that hobby will get the women interested in you and you will have the pick of the litter.

Do things you enjoy doing and talk to the women that also enjoy those things. And as you're on your way to enjoy those things talk to the women on their own way to places.

I have a question. Did you come to this realization after 12 years?

If not, what kept you going? What is different now compared to the time when you had let's say 800 cold approaches?

I see it in the comments here, but it really depends on what 'cold approach' means for a guy.

If it's literally going out to pick-up, scoping at the mall to just go up and talk to women then yes that isn't optimal.

That's a gue waste of time, and can be creepy and weird.

I make my approaches organic and natural. I don't make it in aim to 'cold approach', 'get that number', blah blah.

I have quick, fun flirty conversations. I took all the 'game', 'sex', 'trying to pick up' stuff out of it a while back.

I have a brief conversation, and by the very end I actually have to remind myself to get a number.

Shared interests are great. I study, so college is a gold-mine. Gym can not be bad. I'm getting back into spoken word poetry once restrictions lift fully.

Those send of a good vibe that you're not there just to pick up. Think about it, guys coming up to you randomly in the mall or whatever is just creepy. Their is no context.

As a 33 year old man's very refreshing to hear someone my age talking about this. Isn't it incredible how time flies by feels like all the young man last year but really it was over a decade ago.

I can say that women are like NPCs because they are very similar to each other in a lot of ways maybe it's my subjective view but it feels like there are more differences between men than women.

I think you may also be right to say this not worth it I had a lot more success with tinder and online dating than I did with cold approach. And as you say the sort of people you meet on cold approach will ditch you in a heartbeat for reasons that are not even to do with you that is one of the reasons genuine connection is important. It does seem like this cold approach idea is something that was drawn out of the world prior to smartphones and that these other ways of meeting people are denigrated on the basis that they are somehow cheating.

I would agree that cold approach is like doing it on hard mode and if you can succeed at it you've done something that is remarkable in that very few men actually take the trouble to be good at it. It's not really worth it for me and I feel that would make a much better connection with women I get to know in other circumstances.

Totally agree that sex is overrated as you say. But if you haven't had it before and then it is very important to pursue it. I do recommend any inexperienced guy they go out there and try and make something happen with their relationships with the opposite sex. Unless they're gay in which case I wouldn't be able to advise.

Planning to restart cold approach at big malls in the next few weeks when I have weekends off. I can understand your sentiment after years in the game.

However as a young 22 year old still establishing himself for me there is still plenty thrill in new kills. But I can see why you'd be burnt out by your 30's.

Once established and grown I dont plan to be chasing tail at malls lmao.

I disagree. If I didnt start to cold approach in the last year I wouldnt of had a GF for 6 months nor a FWB with a girl visiting from Germany.

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I would still be on sites like RSVP/eharmony paying to message girls and hoping that they either look like their photos/arent socially awkward or are attracted to me. I would probably get 1 date a month if I was lucky when I did online dating. I think a few rejections from cold approach is worth it in my opinion. It is also fantastic practice on how to behave around a woman for when you do meet a good woman.

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I feel like ive grown my social skills significantly in the past 2 years not just from cold approach but putting myself out there more and more. We have recently just lifted lockdowns where I am, when I went back to the gym I spent nearly an half a hour just talking to everyone coming back (people were coming up to me) 5 years ago I doubt anyone at my gym would of known I was alive as I never spoke and just blended into the background any chance I could.

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I do respect that you did put down a number of 3%. I would say that is fairly accurate. 1 in 20 is fairly reasonable imo (anyone that says they get more are either really lucky, have been doing this forever or are just have a natural charm or charisma to them)

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Meeting women by social circles is obviously the best way but a lot of us have really limited social circles. I have 0 females in my social circle other than my friends wife. Its easier said than done to get invited into another groups circle. You are essentially having to charm a group of people rather than just the one.

Sex is not overrated.. and this is coming from someone who frequently gets it..

Wtf is wrong with you??

It’s a young mans game, you’re about out of your prime.

Suppose you never do let alone learn cold approach and solely do online dating consistently.

Now suppose the opportunity arises for a so-called 'warm approach', for example in your dance or improv class, at work, university, etc. Such a warm-approach opportunity is pretty rare for most lads unless you consistenly do activities with lot of females involved (so this automatically excludes most engineering / tech / finance university degrees / jobs, martial arts classes, the gym for most ppl, and obviously / studtying working on your own) .

Now you have two problems before doing the warm approach:

1) You have more approach anxiety that you would have if you practised cold approach, which decreases the probability of approaching.

2) You don't know how to open, show premise, qualify, escalate, close, etc. The whole game procedure is oblivious to you. You haven't internalised it.

Hence your probability of actually closing the warm approach will also be significantly lower than had you done cold approach regularly.

Yeah, I stopped with the one night stands years ago, because I really felt like I was giving my energy away for free. Now, if I get IOI and I really thing she's more than just a wet hole I might decide to engage, but really I've reached an N count high enough that empty sex is just bland. I also don't give two shits about looks. I've been with 10's and I've been with 3's. You wanna know the difference? The 3s are genuinely into it, and want it. The 10s know their 10s, and are always judging, and looking for a reason to branch swing. The 10s are looking to be the next piece of eye candy for a pro sports player, or a rockstar, or whatever. They're drapery, not much different from a nice set of curtains, or a really nice necktie, and they know it. Me, I'll take the three, and have a hell of a lot more fun, and when she starts to nag, and get on my nerves I just show her the door, and go find another one.

Its funny cause guys assume there is game.There is no such thing as game, you just talk to a girl if she likes you whatever you do dont matter much, she decided that she likes you, if she doesn’t like you still whatever you do dont matter she wont.All we do is try.

Agreed 100%, but until someone has learned all this they should continue to cold approach.

I feel like OP is just trying to flex his stats and a bunch of betas on this sub are up voting this post because they’re too scared to cold approach (which means talking to any random women, at morning, day or night; at the mall or library; IT DOESNT EXCLUSIVELY MEANS PICKING UP BAR HOES).

How the fuck is this post so upvoted? OP doesn’t even knows the definition of cold approach, he thinks cold approach is a term exclusively used for picking up bar/club sluts. He then claims to have reliable stats about cold approach in general (which is bullshit because different guys in different parts of the world cold approaching girls who are not bar sluts will have VERY different results).

OP is then a retard and calls talking to random women outside of clubs/bars “organic” (THIS IS ALSO COLD APPROACH BUT OUTSIDE PARTYING DERP). OP is actually arguing against pursuing bar/club sluts; something which is pretty common knowledge here. This post provided no new insight

“There is no game because it’s real life” What about inner game?

"I'm not going to give a random woman the opportunity to reject me, she does not deserve that right. First I need to see she is worth it, and than I will take my chance."

Why the fuck do you care so much about getting rejected? You saw a beautiful woman and got rejected, big deal. You clearly care too much about what others think of you

I have more or less the same experience as you. I'm also Italian, but I have to say that abroad in other countries where I lived for multiple years cold approach gives much better results and potential for for LTRs too.

I think here in Italy social circle game works way better.

Se passi da Firenze fai un fischio haha

because here everybody is catholic and slut shaming is huge.

Which is ironic because sleeping around is equally shameful and lowers your value overall. A traditional high value woman wouldn't look at you twice.

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Now, I'm tired. When I see a woman, I don't want to spend energy on her just because she's beautiful.

You're lying to yourself now. We both know you would never go after an ugly woman. No one does. Intelligence and integrity are both irrelevant if the woman isn't attractive.

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search for pussy

What else is there?

A conversion rate of 3%. Hmm.

Cold approaching is fun but tricky. Just this year, before corona I had started to perfect my approaches, here are some notes if they are any useful

1) Redefine 'Cold Approach'

The Cold Approach just means getting a totally new lead. It doesn't necessarily mean getting it immediately. It can take days, weeks, months to get the lead. What matters is that prior the cold approach you were total strangers with no acquaintances in common. It's a rookie mistake to try too hard to get her number in the first interaction. Why?

2) Put yourself in her shoes

How does it feel when you're walking down the street, minding your own business, and a salesman comes up to you trying to sell you something? Just as you see him coming you already have the 'No thank you' at hand. You don't even know what he's selling but you already declined him.

This is how girls feel when you cold approach them. Women feel when you're selling yourself to them. And if they aren't looking to buy. They won't even listen to the first word you have to say.

Then when are women willing to buy / listen to you? At parties, bars, clubs, weddings...But Cold Approaching isn't about that, cold approaching it's about talking to the girl in the subway, or the bus stop. I agree. The problem is that in they are too focused on their daily hamster routines. Most of them aren't willing to buy when you meet them at the bus stop. Why? Because they know they just have to wait to the weekend to get some dick. They aren't in hurry to buy.

So, solution? Don't sell yourself to them. Plain and simple. Just be there, regularly, become familiar to them. Make small talk, BUT don't ask for her number in the first interaction, wait until the second or third. If you don't ever see her again, well too bad, it's just pussy and you see a lot of it every day.

E.g. Just two weeks before the lockdown started I joined a Muay Thai gym. I get off work an hour before training begins so I decided to hang out in the bus stop outside the gym. On the first day an 8/10 sitting on the bench alone. All I asked was "What bus are you waiting for?" to get the chit chat started and eventually her bus arrived and she left.

Second day, I had to do some errands so I went directly to the gym. Third day she was there, but catched her just as she got in the bus. We exchanged smiles.

Next week, I see her again. We chit chat. No moves made. In the third week, I ask for her number, I casually invite her to a show. And I got myself a new plate.

TL;DR Approaching a girl for the first time and expecting to get her phone number right away is perceived as needy. Patience is the answer. Plan your interactions.

TLDR;

OP considers "Cold Approach" picking up women at clubs and bars. He thinks that approaching women at yoga and impro class is "organic" and not cold approach (facepalm)

When he actually approached women during the day "I had some success in day game, but mostly in the evening in pubs and discos." he would still approach bar sluts.

"It's way better to study the kind of demographic you want to get, and search for pussy by hobbies and social circles. The girls are SO much better in term of personality" well no shit OP! You're telling me that the cute chicks at the library or archery class have more personality and brains than the intoxiceated CC ridden sluts from bars and clubs? MINDBLOWN

It's about abundance mentality.

Cold approaches mean you can always generate more leads, whether it be friends, girls, or whatever.

If you limit yourself to "social circle game" or waiting for girls to come to you because you bench 200 or learned to do a backflip 360 ollie, then you are going to be necessitous to some degree because you lack confidence in the ability to generate options out of nothing.

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cold approaching is really weird. i dont see it as showing confidence or whatever you guys try to do with it. if shes not giving you signals to approach, you are a fuckin weirdo unless you have a really good reason.

Most males in human history got their lay, partner, wife whatever through 'cold approach' technically. Its just that when you do it deliberately and in high volume it takes away the magic. Its not that cold approach doesnt work: of course it does. Its pure math. Wether you do it to get laid or to find a wife, the solution is always in numbers.

The problem is finding out there really isnt anything "more" than this. Just numbers and a repetitive, predictable outcome.

Damn, with dedication like that you’d absolutely kill it in Network Marketing

After a while cold approach should be natural. You see what you want and you go for it regardless if it’s a library, gym, etc. “What’s your name? I’m John Doe, are you single?... here’s my number” boom that simple. It’s always exhilarating and never gets old, just don’t be a creep, just got for it. It takes literally 20 seconds and it will have you feeling on top of the world when successful.