tl;dr Delete numbers after you get rejected.
I once met up with a chick at a party. I had seen her a few times before at social settings before, she's friendly with me, we haven't fucked yet, but I was planning on closing that night.
The chick and I were having fun. She shit tested me in front of her friends, but I returned those serves masterfully without breaking a sweat, making everyone laugh including the chick herself.
Booze was kicking in, she was getting touchy and needy with me, and she couldn't stop grinding me while we danced.
"I'm taking you home," I whispered in her ear. But I guess I fucked up here. Without even looking at me she walks away yelling like a possessed hag: "MY FRIEND IS TAKING ME HOME!" I knew which friend she referred to, the helplessly friendzoned beta with a limp handshake, The Her Designated Driver. God fucking dammit, I thought. Oh well, time to order a Lyft home for myself.
On the car ride home I deleted and blocked her number and Facebook. The next day, a mutual friend of that chick texts me. It turns out she "felt horrible" about me, wanted to text me, saw that I blocked her, and is "freaking out" that she offended me.
"I don't care for that bitch, bro," I replied to him. "And you can tell her I said that." So that was that.
Key points:
- The reason doesn't matter. She doesn't fuck me? Fine, I'll move on. Good salespeople don't badger uninterested customers with "Why not?" Instead, they just continue working on other prospects. It didn't matter why this chick rejected me that night. The only thing that mattered to me was not wasting more of my time and effort.
- No girl is worth more than two attempts. If she says no to my "wanna get drinks this Thursday?", then I either never initiate again or a week later invite her over to my place. I always try to escalate if the girl is giving me a token polite rejection. But two attempts max in a two - four week period. If she fails both, then...
- Delete and block bitches on the regular. Keep your mental real estate clean and focused for yourself. You don't want to fall into the trap of 'What if she reaches out to me later down the line? What if I text her again later and it works?' Trust me bro, that window of opportunity is as small as a kpop teen's cunthole. I'd rather keep my brain frame on me, not on a bitch who doesn't want to bang.
- Try, fail, repeat. Eat what you kill. Stay hungry, be active.
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second edit after reading comments
Am I butthurt? Sure I am. It hurts getting rejected. I don't know where you alfa alfa mofos buy your emotion-depleting creatine, but I still have feelings.
Am I expressing my butthurt-ness by deleting and blocking? Shrug, maybe, I don't care. Who gives a shit about a bitch who rejected me? I'm forcing myself to not care by delete block.
Shouldn't I just keep her in my contacts and maybe later I get another chance? Naw. I want to fuck on my preferred timeline, not the bitch's. I probably get laid less this way but so be it. And also I probably I have a better chance with a new girl I just met rather than someone I met months ago. Additionally I prefer to challenge myself to actively avoiding hoes who want rebound dick. I am not rebound dick. Board man may get paid more than me, but I am Fred Vanvleet Fuck You Three dick.
I don't delete and block every girl who rejects me. Only the ones who I know I will be weak towards later down the line. I hate the idea they are enjoying the beta attention I give them when I'm drunk texting them at midnight.
Eliminate the what if and kill the beta orbiting. I buried the lead. This is my point. If you know you will be weak, cut it off.
ImAlmostCooler 4y ago
One of my favorite posts on here.
Feelings can be unavoidable and they’re real as a bitch. Do whatever you need to do to to stay leveled.
LightSkinKen 4y ago
If y’all could see the block list. Lol.
red_matrix 4y ago
You just went from hero to zero.
Why block her? You won her over, and her friends - you did everything right. She likely didn't want to look like a slut in front of her friends and go home with you. Rather than blocking you should've removed attention and let her come to you. You likely insulted her with the block, and she will tell her friends (any chance you had with them is now gone) about that, and they will all look down on you as a butthurt beta.
jon_murdoch 4y ago
Go on and block. But... have in mind that this is something you need to improve. Ideally, you simply don't care. If you're gonna care later and drunk text her and ask "why god why" than you better block her. Work on it to get to the point where you simply dgaf and you ghost her because you worried about your business and not about this random chick cause you know you can get another one in five minutes
Monsterkillaaa 4y ago
I relate to that, experienced it. Lately, after rejection, I implied to her that I might not be reachable on social media, she reacted instantly like "what ? Are you provoking me ? You want to fight ?" I replied it was a joke (the same way she denied her attraction towards me by saying she was "joking" more like "playing" with me), but she still got my number if she wants to keep contact (implying "well I tried, now I'm leaving you alone but hey you can still call me and we can be friends") allowing me to friendzone her before she does so. Now every time I see her (because yes we have a lot of friends in common so I keep seeing her in social events) I just don't push anything I'll wait until she comes and talk to me but I keep on prospecting and build relationships with serious women, eventually she comes with a beta friend or her "designated driver" like you said, and shows extreme confidence (probably over the fact that this guy is following her anywhere anytime whenever she asks him), nice demonstration of female power over men when it comes to relationships aboundance. I like to play, I don't flee the battle, I ignore her the same ways she ignore me and I keep initiating and developing serious relations with others in front of her, so she can see I can get that "social" aboundance too and that her being intimate with others in front of me doesn't bothers me. It's a game ! She shows she's hard to get, and I get it, she's beautiful, she's got so many option. I'm showing her she can't hurt me because I've got options too and now that she labeled herself as "not an option" for me. Let's not try to change that. It's fine, all girls like to play hard to get (even ugly ones lol) but we all want to be loved. If she's not an option then I can allow myself to do what I wouldn't allow myself if she was still a serious option (like flirting with other girls in front of her, will probably trigger her if she was really interested at first,so lets verify that) She was the first I was interested in, she knows it, she liked it, played along, now that's it's over, we should try to make her miss that rewarding feeling of being the first, by giving the attention I was giving her to someone else, Let's try to make her want to be an option again, and not just an option, the first option, THE BEST option. That's what we all want, be perceived as the best option. Guys thinks that the moment you show her she's your first interest, the game is over, like now she has the power to decide if this is gonna be a relationship or not, or in your case : sex or not. That's why so many guys get friendzoned, they play and forfet before they concludes. The way you act by blocking her all around is showing your anger like a spoiled brat who didn't get what he wanted for chrismas, Like you expected a xbox, you get playing cards, but you'd rather burn the cards and claim your xbox elsewhere, no, you got to work to get your xbox, and it starts by learning to play with cards first. the fact that you call her a bitch that isn't worth your time, just because that one night she said she was going home with a friend put the light on the problem : you want sex and you want it fast, you're needy. Women despises neediness and if you consider flirting to be a lot of effort and time maybe it's because you don't have the right motivation. I advice you to use her as a crash test, she already told you no (in your head but to me it feels like shes got remorse) you have nothing to lose, play with her like she played with you. There is people to play with and people to be serious with, you just need to act accordingly towards those you're interested in. Eventually one day she'll be tired to play and you'll get the chance to reject her but I think it's better to stop the fight, focus on happiness, seize the moment.
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PS: I've been unfriended by women overtime, whose I was actively flirting with and they were trying to get with me at the time but I didn't get the "signals" then (too young, too shy and very low selfesteem), it took me years to realize how some women have difficulties to express their attraction towards guys, all that because they don't want to be labeled as sluts. There are doors that have shut forever because I acted with some girls the same way that bitch act with you, and i felt very sad when I realized they were really into me and I wasn't bold enough to just kiss her an seal the deal.
UnbreakableButts 4y ago
Sounds like you're butthurt.
papunigga031 4y ago
I'd say use your best judgment on the impression you made with her.
If she's likely to contact you, keep her as a contact for a little while. Like most things, this isn't a matter of black and white.
MurkyArtichoke 4y ago
While i generally agree with some parts of this, especially nexting after giving her a few chances, most of this just comes off as you are being waaaay to stuck on being "the prize". You can't just block people left and right because they refuse to fuck you that night.
You literally say this in your post, but then you only made one attempt with the girl before blocking her. You said you've been with her in social settings before, but this seems like the first time you made a move on her. The girl likely didn't want to have sex that night for various reasons. Remember slut-shaming, if this was a big party then she might not have wanted people to see that she's a slut. You should have escalated, getting her alone, kissing her etc, BEFORE you ask her to go home with you. These are basic TRP principles. Since she tried to reach out to you next day it could very well be that she actually likes you, and wanted to see you in a different setting than a drunken party. When she saw you blocked her she probably started to think she did/said something terrible to you while drunk. Honestly it's pretty shitty to block her like that and then telling your friend to tell her "i don't care for that bitch". You have most likely just cockblocked yourself.
Also, I really hate how so many people that posts here tries to come across as the most alpha fucking shit ever in the way they look at things. For me that's not what TRP is about. You can just tell that this whole post is written with such arrogance and over-confidence.
Blocking people is fine, under the right circumstances. For example, i had one girl i couldn't let go, and who i developed a form of oneitis for, and in the end i just had to delete her from snapchat, instagram etc, because i couldn't stop eating her breadcrumbs. Even though it was clear she was only using me for attention. Other girls I've dated who rejected me, I still have them on social media, but that's because i don't feel any need to text them. If they want to reach out to me sometime, why not, that's a free lay.
inevitableworkout 4y ago
Nah, no need to blocking anyone really. I usually just add an "N" after the contact name, so each time I receive/am about to send a message I just remember myself this bitch is Next'd. If by any chance they ever get to see the "N" after their name I just tell them I do this to every number on my new SIM chip
UsernameIWontRegret 4y ago
How tf does this have over 230 upvotes?
You were way too forward with that line, remember you’re supposed to make it her idea.
You blocked her? I can get deleting her number. It makes the “who’s this” that much more impactful to her. But don’t block. That was she knows you’ve seen her attempts to contact you, and you have willfully ignored them.
Learn your lessons and move on, your beta is showing.
HurricaneHugues 4y ago
I think the blocking is unnecessary as it shows an extreme reaction on your part, but deleting numbers I do all the time. Let them text if they want, just ignore it. Unless she starts harrassing you and starts calling you names, then u block.
TwentyEighteen 4y ago
You talked about passing shit tests.. well you failed that one lol
yamseveryday 4y ago
I like a lot of this post, but I wouldn't regularly block girls. To use the sales analogy, the salesman isn't mad that someone didn't buy their product today, and they wouldn't turn their nose up if they reconsidered. Instead I like the soft next, if they make the effort to reach out or show some investment then maybe I'll consider making some time for them.
Wildside1911 4y ago
I definitely agree. I just fucked a chick that took 2 weeks to get back to me. Literally if you show that you are not truly invested and just live your life, they will wonder why is it you haven't bothered with trying to continue talking to them... and boom.
omegalot 4y ago
I agree, there is no need to get emotional about it. I've learned to cultivate relationships and avoid deleting/blocking people, who knows down the line she might be worth something more than a fuck.
Laika_give_a_fuck 4y ago
I like to just unfollow them on Facebook, that way I don't see their posts. I'm a freelancer and sometimes these failed dates bring me clients.
a7000-a 4y ago
Exactly. Chicks like this will often swing around when they're bored or done w/ the current guy.
Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
I don't want them to circle back to me when it's convenient for them. I want to fuck when I want to fuck. Probably I get less this way but so be it.
EvolvedVirus 4y ago
Soft NEXT is best, BUTTTT do NOT be anyone's backup plan. DO NOT be a BACKUP dancer.
A hot girl texted me 2 weeks later after a bad date... 2 weeks of silence. She then takes me out, apologizes, says how badly she treated me etc. (but she's lying because she may have gotten rejected by another guy during this time and decided to go back to me).
Had a lot of sex with her, over the course of some weeks, then dumped her ass. You think I forgot that I was your backup plan? Bitch please. I was just doing this out of boredom. Pump and dump. Pump and dump such disrespectful bitches.
When you treat people badly, you get treated badly. When you make a bad choice and act like people will wait around for your highness, you suffer the consequences.
Don't ever LTR a girl who has picked you as a 2nd or 3rd choice. Stop forgiving them for their red flags. Make them know how terrible persons they've become.
HurricaneHugues 4y ago
"Had a lot of sex with her, over the course of some weeks, then dumped her ass. You think I forgot that I was your backup plan? Bitch please."
It's not like u won or had the upper hand. She still got to fuck you on her terms at a time that was convenient to her and not you. You played right into her hand, even if u think u "showed her" by ditching her later. If you don't want to be anyone's 2nd option, just don't. She reaches out 2-3 weeks later? It's too late, that's a ghost. Don't be a puppet for pussy.
EvolvedVirus 4y ago
Girls want long-term relationships. She fell in love later, she wanted marriage, kids, me to move in. She basically proposed to me, without kneeling on one knee. What happened I thought I was "just a backup plan"?
It was a horrific breakup. The worst one ever.
And I got a ton of sex out of it, but I always kept in mind her horrible issues, horrible morals, and her princess syndrome. She got what she absolutely earned. She earned the breakup.
She also did confess one time that she had kept repeating this pattern of treating people badly. She knows she's a problem, but you can't change some bad habits. Yes she was definitely crazy.
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setsuna0 4y ago
What if you were the one making them wait around? I was basically taking my time to see this girl who I was talking to. And she posted on snap she was with someone. But I'm SURE if I hit her up she'd still want to fuck..Should I even bother at this point? In fact I think her posting that guy was for me to see.
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I agree with the 2 strikes and you’re out, but blocking can be seen as an emotional response. I would suggest just ghosting her. I only delete a chicks number if she’s on my mind afterwards. True abundance is “Alright, whatever.”
stoicbotanist 4y ago
I definitely think blocking is an emotional response, or even denial. It wouldn't be unusual for someone to block a bitch because he doesn't want to see the rejection is his inbox.
-ThePathIsTheGoal- 4y ago
Good insight. And it’s a great exercise to objectively monitor yourself. If she’s lingering around and promoting feels, she needs to be blocked. The goal would be to get to that point of just soft nexting and not caring.
Like a true salesman, if they come back around wanting to fuck, great! If not, also great!
JohnnySixguns 4y ago
Agree, EXCEPT in his case he’s admitting he blocks when he knows if she starts texting him it becomes really hard for him to just ghost her.
By blocking he avoids the temptation of turning into a beta the instant she sucks him back into her orbit.
You both have the same idea, the only difference is he’s saying in some cases he doesn’t have the willpower to hold frame, so in those instances, he chooses to block so that he ALWAYS maintains frame.
herpaderpadont 4y ago
I only have one chick blocked on social media...because she definitely has BPD and she lost her gawd damned mind on my wall when I disagreed with her.
Other than that...If I get rejected, I don't cry about it. They can watch my life if they want to. That whole "Wehh...if she doesn't want to fuck me...fine...I'll block her....that'll show her..."
That seems like a hissy fit.
HurricaneHugues 4y ago
The truth is you keep them on your social media to leave the door open for something in the future. That's a lack of abundance. If your boss fired u from work, would he let u keep your building access card? I don't think so. Learn to let ppl go. If she's bot interested in you irl, there is no need for u to know what's going on in her life or vice versa. Just move on. There are other women on this planet.
KekistanRefugee 4y ago
For real though, just mute them on any social media platform you frequent and you’re good. They’re still not blocked but you don’t have to see their shit.
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I agree. Don’t show an emotional response. Just ghost.
EstKarl 4y ago
I usually just unfriend on FB (I don't use other social media). Is that too emotional?
HurricaneHugues 4y ago
No not at all. What's the point of keeping them on FB if they don't want to hang irl or escalating gets shut down. She's not fucking you, and she's definitely not your friend.
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No, i think thats the right choice. I do the same thing. I unfriend to let them know I am no longer interested but I also don’t want to burn any bridges.
[deleted] 4y ago
As a guy, I get it. Nothing wrong with that.
In girl world, you are essentially setting fire to the bridge by deleting them. It's not destroyed but it's kind of a "yeah fuck you too" thing.
golgynat0r 4y ago
It is. Says a lot about being butthurt.
EstKarl 4y ago
I have a very straightforward mindset. Facebook's main goal is to keep in touch with people. If I write to someone and he/she doesn't answer in 1 week then that's an automatic unfriending from me. I have 1100 FB friends so I don't see a point in keeping people who don't even respond to me.
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But if it shows that I am "butthurt" then I might as well keep them as FB friends. I literally don't care and see myself as a very pragmatic person. I just didn't know how it looks like from a girl's viewpoint.
BrownGummyBear 4y ago
Delete them if they don’t know anyone else in your social circle? That way even if she thinks you’re butthurt for unfriending her , who gives a fuck if she can’t tell this to anyone in your circle. If she knows people in your social circle then just mute
Uesugi1989 4y ago
It is, you are butthurt as fuck. You should show that you don't care and you show that by doing absolutely nothing. If you were friends before on Facebook or Instagram, continue to be. If you weren't, don't add/follow her
HurricaneHugues 4y ago
No point in giving her opportunity to snoop into your life. She loses that privilege when she doesn't show interest in you. That's like letting an employee you fired keep his building keycard. There is no necessity for her to be on your social media.
throwawaytrpguy 4y ago
But of your arguments are sound and I'm confused as to which is actually the right way
fsweger 4y ago
I dealt with this same scenario yesterday, no reason to close doors when she might hit you up in the future. I reckon other people in this sub wouldn’t approach a chick they wouldn’t be down with anyway, so why cut off any opportunity for them to hit you up in the future? Don’t count on it happening but happy surprises happen ya never know
HurricaneHugues 4y ago
"I dealt with this same scenario yesterday, no reason to close doors when she might hit you up in the future."
You're wrong. There is. Have some self respect. Leaving the door open shows your lack of abundance. Learn to move on from people who don't see value in you. She had her chance and she missed it
Cheddar_Curtain 4y ago
I don't block anybody unless they're legit harassing me. It just comes across as butthurt. Let that iMessage come through and let it say delivered on her phone. Doesn't mean you have to respond to it.
Hock3yGrump 4y ago
You should see the irony in this with simply being on Reddit. Some folks can't resist the message and can't resist replying. Getting caught up in replying can cause more damage than leaving the situation in limbo. Eventually, doing all the 'other' things that are taught here, can help a guy get out of this.
Cheddar_Curtain 4y ago
Agreed. Sometimes the best response is no response. Especially if it's on the level of negativity or other bratty ass behaviors. If she comes across polite and chill yeah I'll probably respond. Come at me with some fuck shit over text and nah I'm good. Only dwell in the positive realm, don't lower yourself to people's levels. Women are inherently catty and bratty, don't be like them. Hold frame always.
Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
soft next is ideal. but sometimes i know I'm too weak or rather I know I will be weak. Easier and dumber solution to delete block.
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Environmental Planning: Cater your environment to promote your behavioral goals. Your solution is not a dumb one. Just like keeping unhealthy food in your home would be stupid if you 're trying to restrict yourself to healthy foods, keeping yourself exposed to the social media profiles/phone numbers of women you know you shouldn't/don't want to talk to is stupid.
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Delete and block is a great way to make sure you stay focused with no mental energy needed on your end to maintain that focus because you just removed the distracting element.
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Other commenters are correct in that it could signal your feelings were hurt, but provided this girl does not have the power to damage your reputation if shes someone you're no longer interested in this interpretation on her end doesn't matter.
lookoutitscaleb 4y ago
I think blocking is good for those that need it.
Not necessary though.
Like all RP ideologies.
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hobeezus 4y ago
Nuance is one of the most important things one can learn.
Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
That's one of my weaknesses.
just_sauce 4y ago
If you're too weak or you'll break, you haven't really understood abundance, but you've let your ego talk you into feeling as though you have.
Abundance isn't about showing the world that pussy is easy to come by, abundance is about you knowing for yourself that it is and acting accordingly.
Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
abundance mentality is easier with actual abundance
just_sauce 4y ago
Abundance is only available if you have the mentality.
Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
You're basically summing up The Secret. Tell starving kids to have mentality of being well fed. You can't have proper attitude unless you have some results.
Hock3yGrump 4y ago
Try getting it elsewhere then. Abundance is Abundance, period. Someone who is obsessed with learning to play the guitar, for example, doesn't need "results" with girls. The abundance mindset transfers to all areas regardless of the activity.
/u/just_sauce is 100% on this. Your ego has started a fire and you are putting out the flames with pussy. Your mindset is on the path, but cleanse your ego with some other activity, because there will never be enough pussy for your ego.
This is one reason why "GO LIFT" is pushed so much. It is a win, win type of activity to work on your abundance.
Last, there is NOTHING wrong with wanting to fuck on your schedule, just know that you will need to keep a handful of girls plated for this (not blocked ;)
thewrecker8 4y ago
It's not about emotion depleting creatine (I do like that line btw). But by making a big deal out of not caring shows you're caring to begin with. Look at it from this perspective:
Let's say you see a dude in a public setting (pick one) and for the sake of being personable and social, you decide to strike up a conversation. There's a handful of possible outcomes. You guys become best bros. You chat a bit and part ways. Or he's an anti social basement dweller who has no social skills. But if you wind up not being best bros, do you give a fuck? No. Because you're not attaching any value to him or the encounter. In your case, you did. You assigned a value to her or her pussy. If you were just gaming with the IDGAF attitude, you wouldn't have cared any more than the lack of bromance that didn't develop with the transition dude you were talking to in our scenario.
You swung and missed, imagine if baseball players got all bummed out when they strike out. It's part of the game, some days you knock it out of the park. Others it's like you never played a day in your life. By recognizing that and realizing if you strike out with hottie #1, hottie #2-100 are still out there you don't care another pitch is coming and you'll swing at that and keep on playing the game.
Czncer 4y ago
I agree with the main principle of just moving on, but blocking someone is just petty.
You’re essentially saying “what you’re posting online upsets me so much that I can’t stand to see it anymore.”
In 7 years of using social media the only reason I’ve blocked accounts is if they’re spam.
Synthetic_Citizen 4y ago
It was basically a big shit test to see how much control she has over your emotions, also she wanted to look good to her beta by pretending she has no desire to go home with you when she really wanted to. In my book you passed, I would do the same but next time don't take it so hard, they will all have their games to play, expect it and when it happens chuckle at it.
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RetardRussian 4y ago
Lmao you said something super creepy to a girl and got buttmad that she didn't want to be put in a vulnerable situation with you after that. Good fucking bait dude. There is no way this isn't satire. This whole post was hard to read but this line made me laugh out loud
>"I'm taking you home," I whispered in her ear.
11-Eleven-11 4y ago
So a drunk girl reacted poorly to you whispering in her ear that you were taking her home tonight without proper escalation? Shocker.
And your reaction is to be butthurt and block her when the lay is still available.
This is stupid.
Standgrounding 4y ago
"Without proper escalation" bitch please she was grinding on him!
11-Eleven-11 4y ago
Big deal. Sluts grind on strange dudes at the club all the time. Did he make out with her? Did he get her alone in a quiet part of the club to talk? He didn't escalate past grinding.
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pewozorre 4y ago
Uh kiss her? Then take her home
11-Eleven-11 4y ago
Fine. Counter point:
Don't tell a drunk chick you are taking her home. Thats creepy as shit. Girls don't like creepy (duh). When girls are drunk their guard is all the way up for creeps because they don't want to get 'raped' or actually raped. And what you did was creepy. It doesn't matter how far into escalation you were.
If she wants to go home with you she will give you that oppurtunity. If she doesn't then you have to get her number and set something up during the week.
Unless her hand is literally on your jock or her tongue is down your throat don't say shit like that. And if that were the case you wouldn't even have to.
Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
That's actually a fucking good point.
WillemDabro 4y ago
Spoken language is crude. Body language is the truth. Pay attention to the eyes and the thighs.
lobstergenocide 4y ago
Gotta say I’m a little uncomfortable that an 11 year old is trying to pick up girls at parties
Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
so you know a lot about 11 year old boys
lookoutitscaleb 4y ago
High level response.
We all have something to learn from this man gents.
Auvergnat 4y ago
Yep. Unknowingly, OP is giving everyone here a great lesson.
TRP goes at length about keeping composure, staying unreactive, amused mastery, etc. A lot of big words but here it is in flesh: the exact behaviour that you want to avoid - never get butthurt, and if you do, hide it the best you can.
Hayekr 4y ago
We learned that he doesn't handle criticism or rejection well; at all. The delete and block was a defense mechanism that triggered.....a disproportionate response to the offense committed. He missed a golden opportunity when she reached out after feeling horrible.
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There's a push/pull method at work. He succeeded on the push, and then forgot about the pull and pushed again lol.
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That_Deaf_Guy 4y ago
Fuck providing a counterpoint, your whole credibility just went out the window.
Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
trying to earn credibility on reddit is like graduating valedictorian at a special needs school. congratulations you're the smartest retard.
That_Deaf_Guy 4y ago
If that's the case, why did you put time into making this post?
Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
Because I want to share my experiences and insights, and see what other men think, try to learn. Also I enjoy taking a hot steamy dump on non contributing comments.
Captain_Quick 4y ago
No advice at all is more useful than bad advice.
Hedser91 4y ago
Blocking her is a way of showing you actually care, why would you do that if you dont care for her anymore, bro? You obviously care because you go and do the extra effort. I get that you remove her number to prevent yourself from a weak moment in the future. Blocking is just signalling though.
Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
Signaling. True. But Im also forcing myself to not care and to move on.
boolDozer 4y ago
Blocking is only signalling if you're doing it to elicit a response. Right? If you block so that you can clear your mind and not have crazy bitches DM'ing you then by all means block away my friend.
The kicker is that you can't ever unblock. As soon as you unblock, then you're signalling.
I prefer a soft-next/ignore, but do what works for you.
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Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
exactly brother. what the fuck am i, an account manager at an ad agency? a lonely grandfather desperately trying to connect with his grandkids?
hope you get back on your feet soon. journaling every day may help. or even moving. check my post history, i wrote about it.
haxewep24 4y ago
I don't like the approach of burning bridges. You can delete her number if you don't need her, but she may hit you up in the future and that's when she invested a bit and can start the game.
bright-morningstar 4y ago
You know you could've defect your feeling of hurt(which I'm not judging) or the stupidity of her action by remembering that "women act childisly all the time and it is not personal" and putting on the Real RP attitude of "that's the way thing are and I accept it and work according to it" and make a new action according to that which will make her get back at you for sex later on. Of course in this case prioritization of value is needed. I mean what is your priority? Sex or good bonding, relationship, friendship? If it is the former, it is best to expect everything and be prepared and not give into the feelings.
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russian_nigger 4y ago
haha my friend does this like clockwork. i always laugh at him when he says he blocked some bitch. funny thing is they always end up finding him through some other means to ask why the fuck he blocked them etc. calling from friends' phone number or instagrams.. i personally rarely block, i just ghost and delete, but its funny that you do that too.
KewlThanks 4y ago
damn OP is a stone cold bastard
pacjax 4y ago
hell nah I aint blocking girls. they always come crying back or hit u up later, and u look mad butthurt doing it 1 day after a soft rejection lmao. no matter the outcome id put my chode on that she lost attraction for you after u did that even if u still fuck.
https://youtu.be/S8jJyWLrvzE
edit: damn and u called her a bitch like a butthurt little beta who lost his oneitis
Mr7FootCock 4y ago
Letting yourself get stringed along by a womans bullshit is the first step onto the road of cuckoldry. If you respect yourself, you act as OP did
GandMeChattri 4y ago
I'm not sure whether I've ever disagreed with someone more than the OP and this post.
Your own salesman pitch...
What if the customer returns tomorrow after changing their mind? You think I won't sell them my product cause I'm butt hurt? Course not. I'm gonna amplify and increase my price by 5% and sell it.
Reality? Next time you could have plowed both holes cause she felt bad.
You fucked up.
That's not a problem. We all fuck up.
But you're still aggressive about it.
Shame.
Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
Point taken.
I'm only aggressive about it because I know I will try again. And I know she will enjoy the effort and attention. But I hated that idea of trying to game her later. Just not worth the patience and discipline.
TwentyEighteen 4y ago
You didn’t have to try to game her more. You could have withdrawn attention from that point on and she’d come to you
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SeasonedRP 4y ago
In general I think it is a good idea to delete numbers and social media ties after being rejected. Far too many guys can't accept it and think there is a glimmer of hope, and get tempted to text after some time passes or they see on social media what the girl is doing.
Blocking depends on the situation and the individual. If a girl is pestering you, definitely block. If you find that it instills discipline and imparts an "I am the prize" mindset, by all means block. It also keeps a girl who has no intention of having sex with you from keeping you around for validation. For myself, I only block if a girl is pestering me, but I typically delete numbers and social media ties to girls I don't want to think about going forward.
8380atgmaildotcom 4y ago
You guys are such losers debating semantics
Bitch had a chance and she lost it. I am the prize
Chadster113 4y ago
Delete, Block, and Ghost is mostly used when you're still hung up on.
Andgelyo 4y ago
I do this every time I sense a chick ain’t feeling me.
They are expendable and so are we. Do. Not. Waste. Your. Time.
Date went wrong? Number and text messages deleted.
Replying an hour late? Deleted.
Saying she just wants to be friends? Ignored.
A good chunk of them, will probably be texting you back since you are displaying higher value by not being needy. Keep it moving, my guys.
foomasters 4y ago
An hour late? Why the fuck are you so glued to your phone in the first place?
You send a text, she either responds or doesn't. You send a reminder in about a day or two depending on your rulebook and move on if she still doesn't text back. That's how it's supposed to be done IMO.
couchmonkee 4y ago
The fact that you blocked means you dropped frame and actually cared. Not very Red Pill bro
6d656c6c6f 4y ago
blocking someone is to stop annoying and not read their shit, not because I am affected
EdmondDaunts 4y ago
There’s a phenomenon in life that the older you get it becomes more apparent. And it is core to TRP.
Life is transactional.
It’s easy to say and evangelise. But actually letting it into your core and digesting it can be an eyeopener.
Take what you can but have an eye on time scale investment. Always balance near term with long term. Because long term is where you actually win.
So if deleting someone right away works for you do it. But test it as well. See how it affects your long term strategy
textualintercourse 4y ago
And texting? Three texts max without a response. If you have sent three texts with no reply? You only respond if texted back after. If there is no response, move on.
Frich3 4y ago
Deleting is one thing. Blocking is another. I understand the message and agree. I’ve been there before and was so quick to block. But don’t block em. Who knows. Maybe she will come back around. They always do. Next time I would just delete the number and act like it never happened. If she hits you up again, be ready to hit it. But blocking seems a bit over the top.
Capi9800 4y ago
It kinda sounds like you were butthurt by her rejecting you and you had to block her number for this reason. If you hadnt blocked her,wouldnt it have looked like you didnt care much about the situation?
blasted_biscuits 4y ago
I think she threw another shit test at you but you do you.
Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
rejection = shit test? I guess. But I'm not looking to mess with a girl who rejects just as a shit test.
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I personally don't block girls cos I find that it sends the wrong message - that I care enough to do so. I know established red pill wisdom suggests doing so, but I just change their contact info to 'ignore', and then proceed to do just that when they try to contact me.
but hey - whatever works for you, ya know? Def agree re not giving mental real estate up to a hoe that's a non-starter tho.
CainPrice 4y ago
I keep every girl's number. I never text them. I just have their numbers stored. That way, when I get a text from a girl I know, I can make a decision at that time to ignore, respond for real, or deliberately respond "Who's this" just to fuck with her.
HurricaneHugues 4y ago
What's the point? Imagine firing an employee and lettong them keep a building access keycard. That's the dumbest shit ever. Learn to just move on and stop betting on old horses. Move on man. She's not interested? Too fucking bad for her, she missed her chance.
CainPrice 4y ago
Don't underestimate the goldmine that former plates can be.
Every girl you're having casual sex with is looking for a boyfriend. She's going on dates, fucking other guys if the dates go well, hooking up with you after her dates if the dates are lame. But eventually she finds a guy she wants to try the boyfriend thing with. When she finds that guy, she breaks things off with you (sometimes after making a last-ditch attempt to get you to be her boyfriend), along with any other casual guys she's fucking.
If you're cool about it, then when her relationship ends in a few months, she'll remember how good the sex was and how easy you were to hook up with and how cool you were about the casual thing and how cool you were when it ended, and she'll hit you up to pick up where you left off.
HurricaneHugues 4y ago
That's not what we're talking about here
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Cha_Cha_cho 4y ago
eh, bad attempt. should've hinted than being so direct. Also, she was up for a second chance, should've gone for it. Things could've gone differently if you didn't act so immature and block her
wholewheatdirtydog 4y ago
One time I jacked off. Then I realised I can get off without a woman. Now if I don't get the girl or whatever I just jack off.
This is my interpretation of abundance
SemperPrimus 4y ago
what exactly is the purpose of blocking?
majani 4y ago
Personally I had to block all the women I had fucked in my beta days. They kept reaching out to me all with the intention of having me spend money on them. Tried to hold an alpha frame, but the end result was relentless shit testing because they knew me for years as the guy who made it rain on them. Just had to block them in the end to prevent a relapse into beta provider strategies with women.
b44rt 4y ago
It only signals that his feeling were hurt and he needed her to know it. Confirmed again by "and you can tell her that".
Extremely needy and thus beta.
gabeangelo 4y ago
You know every alpha has his weak and reactive moment once in a while, do you?
kcchiefs0927 4y ago
He immediately failed her shit test of “but my friend is taking me home”
“Tell her she can come too”. Would be my response.
There are clever ways to get out of that, I’m sure you or others on here could think of something better.
EvolvedVirus 4y ago
The right move was to smile and chuckle and say "have a safe ride home."
She just didn't want to be seen going home with the guy resulting in gossip.
The wrong move but super entertaining to yourself is to reply: "hah, you're not a whore. message received. Got it!"
herpaderpadont 4y ago
Well...number one her friend was a dude.
I wouldn't have said "I am taking you home..." I would have just said..."Let's get out of here..." Doesn't have to be home, but you do need to separate...maybe go somewhere quieter.
"I can't my friend is taking me home..."
"Cool, maybe some other time then..." Then you leave...go find a chick who does want to go...try to do it right in front of her too.
boolDozer 4y ago
Ahh, I was gonna say he should have said:
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kcchiefs0927 4y ago
Ah I misread that.
Yeah would’ve been awkward if I said that and her friend was a dude....
I think your response handles the situation well
lookoutitscaleb 4y ago
Fuck that he can come and watch!
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lobstergenocide 4y ago
Nah dude saying it about the dude would make it funny as fuck.
“Your friend can come too.”
“My friends a dude.”
“Then we’re in for a wild night”
kcchiefs0927 4y ago
Excellent point. See this is why it’s important to read this sub and expand upon uncomfortable situations.
Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
Surprise surprise I still have feelings and get hurt when rejected.
If I did, I would have texted her myself.
I'm needy by being cold and aloof. Gotcha.
EvolvedVirus 4y ago
You definitely were going to get laid by her if you hadn't self-sabotaged.
BUT, the way she hurt you, would you WANT to have sex with such a gossip-paranoid whore? You had more respect for yourself than that. That's dignity.
fistinggirls4free 4y ago
Agreed. You’re not showing her you’re hurt, you’re showing her she doesn’t matter.
I delete after every rejection, quite frankly I don’t give a fuck if they think I’m hurt. She doesn’t matter anymore.
judethedude 4y ago
I appreciate your vulnerability and honesty. It's definitely true that rejection hurts even if we don't show it. You've invested in this girl (not much obviously but some) and when she acts retarded it sucks, definitely not getting a return on your investment.
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b44rt 4y ago
Implementing TRP like some robot is not the way.
just_sauce 4y ago
There's a place and time for stoicism. That place is almost everywhere, and that time is almost always.
If you have to feel it, you won't consistently do it. TRP absolutely requires consistency, and as such, you've got to learn who's in charge of your emotions, which is you and only you, and that's a very stoic idea.
There's no way you can truly be successful with TRP without being stoic. Sure you can get laid once in awhile, maybe as often as you'd like, but without that discipline you're missing out on the greater good it can do for you as a man.
Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
That's what the fuck Im saying
SemperPrimus 4y ago
Neediness can most definitely be expressed by coldness, hostility, anger ect. Just look up "nice guys" on youtube
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SemperPrimus 4y ago
I would say true non-neediness is indifference. If you are by nature a pleasant person then you should be pleasant to the girl. Once you start going outside of your normal personality when talking to a girl (be it too nice or not nice enough) that essentially signals that she had some kind of an affect on you and your frame.
But thats just MO
textualintercourse 4y ago
Downvotes?
Fuck you all. I'll take real honesty than bullshit cock/UFC/Joe Rogan fake muscle.
This guy is legit real and owns it, and you fake fucks pile on. Pussies.
MilkMoney111 4y ago
Don’t pay attention to upvotes and downvotes too much. There’s always a gem you can find for yourself.
The same argument of: you’re butthurt and she knows it is easily flipped by saying: why do you care what she thinks? Block, don’t block. Who cares. Do what’s best for you.
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Environmental Planning: Cater your environment to promote your behavioral goals. This has the benefit of encouraging your ideal behavior without mental exertion on your end. Instead, creating an environment that encourages your ideal behavior allows you to execute that behavior effortlessly. Just like keeping unhealthy food in your home would be stupid if you 're trying to restrict yourself to healthy foods, keeping yourself exposed to the social media profiles/phone numbers of women you know you shouldn't/don't want to talk to is stupid.
Delete and block is a great way to make sure he stays focused with no mental energy needed on his end to maintain that focus because he removed the distracting element.
Other commenters are correct in that it could signal his feelings were hurt, but provided this girl does not have the power to damage his reputation if shes someone he's no longer interested in this interpretation on her end doesn't matter.
dragdj 4y ago
Purpose is to show her that you are vulnerable to rejection. Beta move if you ask me
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orangekeyster 4y ago
I think his point is to eliminate the what if. I was this way about my ex. Always curious about when she'd text me what she'd say. However, by blocking her, that is now out of my mound and can focus on whatever I need to focus.
Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
Yeah I think I buried the lead here.
SemperPrimus 4y ago
I agree. I did this as well. Last resort of getting over my oneitis ex gf. This is coming from oneitis and scarcity mentality. But to do it a a rando girl you just met the other night? that's butthurt.
orangekeyster 4y ago
I see both sides. Want's to keep his head clear of any BS instead of getting texts from her apologizing and all the other female BS that comes with it. Chalk it up as a loss and move onto the next one.
Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
The point is to fuck. I don't care how I look to a girl who rejected me.
EPArt 4y ago
To be fair I agree with this she will think whatever her hamster wants to think one way or another. In certain situations you may never see her again or she might get strangled to death by her tinder date tomorrow who cares what if she thinks your beta. Some here think that every move you make has to follow the way of the alpha, pretty sure thats not in the side bar.
SemperPrimus 4y ago
Well blocking her wont make you fuck.
lobstergenocide 4y ago
Plus now you ain’t gonna fuck none of her friends either
Shieldless_One 4y ago
You failed her shit test and overreacted emotionally. You can soft next and ignore but blocking her on everything just screams you are butthurt.
acidaus 4y ago
By blocking her and being butt hurt it shows low value because you allowed her to get under your skin. Correct response is to pull back completely let her chase you and if she comes back make sure she sucks a whole lotta dick to make it up to you
Dukkas 4y ago
Block? No way that’s the equivalent of a toddler storming off in a temper tantrum because he wasn’t allowed to have extra dessert.
If you really really want to feel like you’re in control here, mute her on social media.
Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
no brah i deleted all sosh, use a flip phone, learned how to send ravens.
Casanova-Quinn 4y ago
No need to block girls unless they're acting crazy. If you act cool after a rejection some girls will actually become interested because you didn't act like a needy bitch. You miss out on these rebound girls if you block them. Don't cockblock yourself, like you did in this story.
Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
I challenge myself by actively avoiding bitches who want rebound dick. Sure I probably get laid less this way.
Transport127 4y ago
That’s a beta move. Why would I care if she is interested or not after she rejected me? That’s like putting her on a pedestal. What I always do is block them and delete their number and move on and forget them
Casanova-Quinn 4y ago
It’s a beta move to get some rebound pussy? Ok then lol.
It’s not putting her on a pedestal, you shouldn’t be waiting around for her to come back. If she doesn’t rebound that’s fine. But I don’t see the point in stopping her if she tries to.
Transport127 4y ago
If you have an abundance mentality, you wouldn’t care about rebound pussy. There are a lot girls out there, she is not the only one. I get to decide when to have sex with her, not the other way around.
f33 4y ago
This sub has really changed for the worse
renfsu 4y ago
What I do is when I get a girls number, I don't save her as a contact. If she's an fwb or plate then I'll add her name, any girl less than that I recognize by her area code. When she fks up, delete the message thread. No way to convince yourself to double text since you don't have her number anymore.
HurricaneHugues 4y ago
Lmao I'm the exact same way. I don't even save names anymore on my phone. They're all so fickle and so replaceable. Much less fucks to give when u don't even have the contact saved.
Royalocean09 4y ago
"a kpop teen's cunthole" damn
mseand 4y ago
"I'm taking you home" isn't how you ask a girl to go back to your place...
You fucked up the pull yourself
theherosmyth 4y ago
Him: I'm gonna fuck your booty tonight
Her: what? No.... How dare you
Him: fucking bitch! How dare you! Block
uptimex 4y ago
I like the points you wrote, but why you hard next them, you can just soft next them. I mean, don't you think that being offended by a girl is kind of a beta behaviour. I mean "delete" them but blocking is kind if a victim behaviour, if you understand what I mean.
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reborn-phoenix 4y ago
Never block. This is why; happened just two weeks ago. One year ago I met a hot Tinder girl, we made out but nothing happened, she ran home, I couldn’t f close. I tried to arrange second date and she kept dodging, I said well it is over and deleted her number and forgot about her.
2 weeks ago I see a whatsapp message from an unknown number “hi, do you remember me”. I don’t mention anything about what happened a year ago and tell her yeah come over I’ll cook a dinner. She comes over and I fuck her, no questions asked, everything’s cool.
So don’t be bitchy and block number, it is a girl trait. But definitely delete her number.
someonesopinion6969 4y ago
this is exactly why you shouldn't just outright block someone, for all you know they could be going through some absolute shit and eventually they will come around, whilst blocking and deleting cuts that chance off all together
UpOnCloud9 4y ago
Did you have to respond with "who's this?" And have to state why you lost her number etc
reborn-phoenix 4y ago
No, I thought about looking cool and ask who r u, but I saw her photo on whatsapp and recognized her, I decided to be nice, told her yeah I recognized you, how is that X thing going? X being what she told me a year ago. I decided go this way to make her feel comfortable for reaching out and ignoring the time passing. She knew that I deleted her number because whatsapp profile picture is not visible after that.
FaustoLG 4y ago
That's right, block them and delete them... They are not worth the effort after all.
Putuz 4y ago
Sometimes they call back after 6 months begging to suck your dick and it is useful to remember her name.
SuperCrazy07 4y ago
You have girls you’ve never fucked contact you 6 months after a public rejection begging to suck your dick?
I think OP acted butthurt with his “tell the bitch no” (or whatever it was) line, but the general strategy of clearing out rude and uninterested women to pursue more enthusiastic ones is a good one IMO.
monsieurhire2 4y ago
Hmmmm...
Yeah, I have run this experiment. I would say that while you have the right idea, that it's a little extreme. I would be better just direct your energy and attention elsewhere without blocking them outright.
You don't want to appear butthurt.
Also, as someone else pointed out, you don't actually have to make plans with them, ever, even if they show interest.
I personally agree with the whole "red-hot or not" prospect. If she isn't dripping wet for you on first meeting, you should be suspicious of a sudden change of heart, because it might be that she asked around about you, and then decided that you met her beta bux criteria, and she's willing to tolerate or accept the whole package, as opposed to you, yourself alone.
Also, she may have actually been interested in you, but you escalated too quickly and she freaked out, backed off, but now is conflicted: torn between lust and not wanting to appear to be a slut. Perhaps she has already been pumped and dumped a few times, and is trying to avoid making that mistake again.
red_matrix 4y ago
This was my take as well, she probably didn't want to look like a slut in front of her friends.
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gabeangelo 4y ago
Seems more like a defense mechanism to deal with the shame of having fucked up and not owning it than some actual advice.
Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
Fair. Provide actual advice here then.
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huggyblossom 4y ago
Act like it's investment - you bought with hope the peer will skyrocket and it went record low, however you keep the investment with hope for better future.
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No reason to block her, delete her and etc. - mute notification in all social media so that you are not bothered by her posts if you shared such information, keep her phone and IF she calls act as an Investor - oh so nice of you to call back, my place at X o'clock and if she starts to flake or rejects THEN you thank her for her call and tell politely this won't work that way, you mistaken me with some other kind of man and if she is with any interest to see you she will have the ball in her court to initiate with counter offer - if she doesn't, well we all have made bad investments.
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This is what I learned past few years - you show interest, make investment in time and effort and if the investment works both parties are with benefits, if it doesn't - well the investment field is huge, so you continue investing and getting better at it.
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BobbyPeru 4y ago
You had some good points in the posts, but your blocking action wasn’t one of them.
You would have been better of ghosting for a few days.
Also, When you told your buddy to tell her, you gave her the satisfaction that you were completely butthurt, and she’ll probably tell all her friends your are emotional like a woman.
topmatrixgun 4y ago
I just delete their number. And by chance, the girl calls again, I can't recognize the number and pick up saying "Hello, who's this?". It just makes them mad. Hahaha.
foomasters 4y ago
I can't fathom how this post got so many up votes. Is this what TRP has been reduced to?
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Sir_Distic 4y ago
Reduced to? Red Pill has always been about outcome independence, among other things. So if OP wants to block women who reject him why does it bother you? How long have you been here that you say "Is this what TRP has been reduced to?" And what are you contributing to make it a better place for men?
MurkyArtichoke 4y ago
This post got 300 upvotes. This post reeks of arrogance, overconfidence and just plain butthurt. If he didn’t write this post he would be contributing more to the sub, because most of what he writes is just wrong. It’s a genuine problem how posts are perceived here and on /asktrp.
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MentalBeat 4y ago
Can someone really tell when you've blocked their number? I've always understood it to be that your phone just won't ring when a blocked number calls, or show you the message when they try to text you.
OneTrueQ 4y ago
Nice short story. Good lesson. We gotta clear the slate regularly.
Bear-With-Bit 4y ago
I like that. Sometimes I find myself drooling over girls on my fb. Not exactly a good thing.
OneTrueQ 4y ago
Yeah that’s no good. But honestly none of us can claim perfection with that.
daniellederek 4y ago
Would not block. She would have pursued you and gone above and beyond to get what she couldn't have easily had before.
I'm talking everything would be on the table from bathroom BJ ATM and 3 way play on any given Wednesday to make it up to you
AUTOHAWK23 4y ago
Nice touch