The meat of this post has been put together from some of my older comments, so some of it might be familiar

But first, why you shouldn’t care.

So let me get this straight. You’re here on TRP looking for information about women and sex. You’ve read the sidebar. We’ve talked about things like spinning plates and keep soft harems. You aren’t emptying your wallet for anyone. You know better than to hunt unicorns and you certainly will never get married. Right?

So then why do you act like it’s gross when women go slutting around? It’s a soft harem and they are fuck buddies. They aren’t guarded by eunuchs in a hard haram or society enforced (mostly) monogamy by an army of slut shamers. You really don’t think they have other dick? Some of them have boyfriends. They fuck. Some of them have other fuck buddies. They fuck. Some of them are even married. Sometimes they fuck—maybe. They don’t even have to be raging sluts to have the occasional other dick in them and in relative proximity to when your dick is in them.

So are you really this worried about other dicks?

No one is asking you to clean up the cream pie after her bull fucks her properly. Or maybe they are. That’s your choice. No one is asking you to lower some standards. If you want her clean and fresh, that sounds reasonable. But if you are worried about other semen being in contact with her, I have some bad news. It’s been on those lips you kiss. It’s been on those hands that you hold. It’s been in that snatch that you want to smash. Guarding her is a dangerous game. Making her your one special sweetie won’t change anything that has happened or will happen.

Unless you want to be voluntarily celibate in this modern world, you just need to come to terms with it. Sorry, sparky, you aren’t the only cock and balls in this here town. As long as it doesn’t affect you, what does it matter?

Ok but you still care.

If you’re not supposed to care, why should I share this with you? Remember, we study female behavior. Anything that reveals their behavior is useful, if you are in an LTR/married or not.

Signs and divinations. Things to watch for:

These are things that I have personally witnessed or have heard about first hand.

Self-Healing dead bedroom

If a dead or very sleepy bedroom suddenly turns into a scene out of Caligula for no apparently reason it isn’t because the "she really does want your D" fairy descended from Heaven and put a spell on her. Yeah, no. She wants another D but is using you as a masturbation toy while she thinks about the other guy. The upside for her is that it is useful practice being a slut, so she wouldn't disappoint him. The upside for you is you can now use her as the fuck pony you’ve always wanted but she always slowed you down. She told you she likes to make love, not fuck. Ever heard that? Well now she wants to gag on your cock and spray semen out her nose because she choked on it. She’s working on that gag reflex for that other guy. Enjoy it while you can because it’s going to end.

A woman’s sexual receptiveness should peak within one month to three months of you starting to fuck. She will have gained enough confidence and safety in your fucking that she’s going to start letting her freak out. And every human on this planet has some sort of freak in them. A few things can accelerate this—such as age, circumstances of meeting, whether you can actually escalate properly (fag), etc. If you get past that window (give or take), then you are not excitement, you have become comfort. And comfort will grind away to complacency and ever declining sex.

The Pregnancy Test Fairy

If you see a magical eruption of used pregnancy tests and their packaging, often carelessly tossed on top of the trash bin, despite not participating in sex with this woman in months, then someone is worried they are pregnant. I've heard of this one so many times in many variations from so many men it makes my gut turn, but here was my favorite instance: when asked about it, she says, “my period has been irregular lately and taking the test tricks it back on schedule." That or she's a whore that is worried the foreign semen injections might have consequences. If she has used a pregnancy test, she had sex with someone. Period. Or no period.

Be Prepared!

If a box of condoms falls out of her purse, she has plans. I’ve experienced this a couple times and have heard it a lot from others. The conversation goes like this: I say, “Uh, we don't use condoms." And she responds, “Oh, just in case we do." No. What she means is “just in case I do.”

I didn’t know there was other things people could do.

If she goes from bring a homebody with hobbies and comfort behaviors to spending long nights out with friends you have never met, then she’s looking for something new—and that could very well mean new dick. Legal Cohabiting Female (LCF) went so far as to find a sex-hookup group and claimed it was just a coffee club where they talked about literature. No, you stupid twat, I know the group’s founder personally. We spit-roasted one of the group members together once. LCF was probably a little confused why she never had any luck in the group, which was hilarious because she wasn't just trying to cheat on me, but the guy she was fucking on the side already. I never told her I knew. I never told him shit about shit.

Plates and side-ass aside, if you are in a relationship and they want to go do something with other people that would be something she should want to do with you, then you aren’t in a relationship. You are home base. She’ll touch you from time to time to feel comfort, but that’s the peak of your value to her. If you aren’t leading her to do wonderful things, things that you want to do and she will want to do, then she will drift off to find someone else that will.

No, really, this is a great taco. Just look at how they grated the cheese!

If she obsessively explains details that seem mostly irrelevant, she has some other details that you won’t like. I have a lot of examples of this, but here is my absolute favorite, since I think it illustrates my final point the best. I watched this cuckold (literally) drama from the outside, courtesy of LCF, who was also amazed at how far this went. She had a friend, some pasty white mick (not racist, I’m half mick), that was married to an asian BB, though he wasn't particularly good at the wallet providing duties. She was fucking a giant black guy on the side for years. Dude, she has exclusively dated large black men her whole life and suddenly she wants to marry you? Wake the fuck up.

Sure as shit, she gets pregnant and there is no mistaking the father for the kid. Despite half the universe knowing she's a cheating whore, including neighbors, family and friends, she just can't tell her husband.

So instead she goes on a gas lighting campaign that would make 1900s London look pitch-black. So far it has worked, but I doubt there is another man out there that has put up with as much "daddy this, daddy that, daddies little boy, daddy daddy daddy!" shit as he has. Every opportunity to explain how he’s daddy, she drives it off a cliff.

He’s got to be the only asian in the world with an IQ under 100. They have two other kids and he still doesn’t see it. Or he has a serious fetish and he is in heaven now. Either way, you want to be this guy?

Let’s fill the “passport” with “stamps”

If she announces vacations to places she has never mentioned before and she wants to go alone, she has plans. "Atlanta? You fucking hate the south, why the hell do you want to go there?" Answer: penis. That was my experience, but I’ve seen the other side. Me: “You told me you never wanted to come back to California because you hated it so much.” Her: “We don’t have to leave the hotel room” Yes, she was cheating.

Time for an oil change

If she makes a medical appointments without any apparent medical reason and any explanation, something needs tending. I’ve seen this one pretty far and wide as well, when women go on whoring rampages, they need often need some medical backup. I can list off dozens of women (including LCF) that I was fucking and/or were fucking around behind someone's back that went to an obgyn not just for various birth control, but for things like antibiotics to deal with recurring UTIs caused by frequent sex and of course a fan favorite—Valtrex. This is so they can keep their sores in check while they plan to suckle on cocks for hours on end. I had one mistress that would pop a Macrobid down the gullet after sex , because if she didn't she would get a UTI from me (we were pretty dirty little piggies). Imagine my surprise and the joy in my heart when I found bottle of it in LCF's drug cabinet.

OPSEC

If she suddenly hides her dealings on her phone, she has something new happening. Some women do this all the time anyway, so don't over read it. It is change that sends the signal. That’s really the most important point of all of these. Change is your flag. If you can’t explain it in easy, simple terms, then something is up.

Secret (Crotch) Squirrel?

So, really, what's the problem here? Are women super secret penis spies that live undiscovered in a shadowy fuck-whore world that is completely hidden from us? Or are men just fucking retarded? Men are just fucking retarded. If she is cheating on you, she's already been caught; it's willful ignorance that keeps the relationship afloat. The vaginal machines and their powers of oneitus conspire with the Male Ennui Hamster that wants nothing more than to not lift a finger to keep a female in his pen. They blind men to slutty behavior even when she's screaming Please Break Up With Me while walking funny from the three-holing she took from some other guy a couple hours ago.

Like I said from the start, it shouldn’t matter, but if it does matter—you’re a retard. The signs are everywhere. This is why we need to stay on top of our shit at all times. It isn’t just to get women, it isn’t just to keep with women, but it’s to be able to dispose of them too. Stay fit, stay alert and stay in your frame—you’ll have one cheating whore out the door ricky tick and a new one in the door just as fast.

Ok, maybe there is a time you should care.

As a practical matter, there can be a problem dick.

It’s the one that knocked her up when you expect it to be your kid. This is when your frame must be unassailable. It’s ok to want kids. It’s ok to find the right woman to have kids. It’s not ok for her to accept semen donations from others during this process. Make it painfully clear that the kids will be tested and that you will not care for another’s child. If they can’t accept this, then they are not the right candidate. If you have any doubts about your ability to follow through, then you are signing yourself up for something terrible. Maybe not yet then?

If a woman wants a child with you, she should be spending her time with you. You really want a mother that travels the world on business or goes clubbing for fun? Paternity shouldn’t be an issue because she shouldn’t be doing anything that could call it into question.

For the record, with my last kid not only did LCF cut out her old lifestyle, but so did I. I went six months without outside ass and got myself tested multiple times. I was not interested in giving a pregnant mother of my child a disease. Further, LCF and I started spending a lot of time together, whereas before we would barely see each other except for household business. It’s true that with the other kids, this didn’t happen, but in my more sober, level-headed years it made a lot more sense. While I advocate chasing ass six ways to Sunday, I also advocate proper parenting, if you choose to parent.

A proper female parent, the mother, shouldn’t be even close to checking any boxes in my previous section. Ok, the pregnancy test makes sense, right? Other than that, she should not be spending time away, she should not be going on vacations, she should not be hiding her doings and she definitely doesn’t need condoms. Again, if a woman does want to do these things, that’s A-OK. She is fuck material, not mother material.

And even if you have on appearances a well put together mother, still test the kid.

I’m not telling you how to have a relationship

That’s up to you. Even in the last bit about having kids, there are a lot of different ways to do it. I caution against one thing I see a lot: using Red Pill methods for Blue Pill goals. I have no illusions that LCF could go back to being a rutting slag, but my goal wasn’t to stop that. It was to make a great kid. Be realistic about what you are doing. Turning her into a mother won’t magically turn her into your one special unicorn that will love you forever. She is still just a woman. AWALT.

I’m also not going to tell you what to do with a cheating whore. Does it really matter to you? Does dumping her gain you more than not dumping her? Can she be demoted to plate? React based on your objective reality. If she is just a vortex of emotional bullshit and your cash, does that sound like something you should summarily remove from your life? If so, then you have your answer—pull the fucking trigger.

One of the biggest dangers to your life is hoping that somehow bad situations will resolve over time. Time doesn’t fix shit. You fix shit. So fix this.