I was watching one of Coach Red Pill's latest videos, The Beta Chump, and I swear this shit struck me right in the core.
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I legit felt angry after watching this video. And if there's one thing I've learned, it's that if someone says something that pisses you off, they are probably telling the truth.
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After all, you wouldn't get mad about something you know to be false (ie, "My dick is in your ear, bro"), you'd shrug it off without a second thought.
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And as I reflected, I realized just how pathetic I used to be.
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Let me explain.
I was a beta chump. Hadn't had sex in 3+ years.
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And 1 day, I saw this guy who radiated alpha sitting on the sidewalk just relishing the attention that this cougar was giving him.
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In my brain, I was plotting. I was gonna study this man, become like him. Use his masculinity to attract women for myself. Thought maybe his masculinity would rub off on me.
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All that retarded beta shit.
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I approached him, we chatted. We had mutual interests, and we began hanging out for the next year.
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As the year went on, several things happened.
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- I eventually got a car (he didn't have one), and became his free uber.
- I gave him a free place to live. (I hated being alone)
- My sister eventually needed a place to live. So I squeezed her in my tiny apartment (studio) along with me & the alpha.
- The alpha fucks my sister right next to my head on the 1st night. Fearing confrontation, I allow it to happen.
- My sister became an entitled bitch to me, and disregarded every rule I set forth. An apartment that was once spotless place of zen, now had cigarettes, chips, dog shit, and dead cockroaches lining the floor & walls.
- I eventually snapped the fuck out of it & realized my place in the relationship. Realizing that I didn't have the balls to confront them, due to being a fearful scrawny toothpick, I decided to ghost while they went out partying one night. They came back to an empty apartment & an eviction notice. For the next 2 weeks, I received idle threats of all sorts via text.
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Back where I started before all of this, I still hadn't gotten laid, and was tired of being a beta male chump. After a few googles, I found NoFap & The Red Pill. And so, my Red Pill journey began.
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Hindsight is always 20/20. But looking back, I still wanna pimp slap the stupid out of old myself. Just remembering who I used to be still pisses me off.
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I know, this rant was long. I believe introspection is important, and I hope my self examination helps you in some way.
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If you haven't watched Coach Red Pill's video yet, I strongly encourage you to do so.
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No matter where you are in life, you should reflect on who you used to be. Even if only to remind yourself of who you DON'T want to be.
omega_dawg93 5y ago
he invited the guy in. he invited his sister in.
from there, it's his issue to handle of they decide to fuck.
I'm not in the business of monitoring what adults do with their genitals.
his sister let it happen... LET it happen. alpha dude said, "fuck it," and fucked her as alpha types do with making their pleasure #1.
are you the guy that gets mad at your sister for fucking a guy YOU don't approve of? if so, you're doing it wrong.
LordMarkStark 5y ago
Then think about this. He looked up to that guy just because he could talk to girls ok.
Subs like this pathetic sub make me realize how good I have it. He was let down by a flawed role model at a low point in his life when he needed it most.. Imagine how he felt. And all some of you dickheads can do is praise the pussy to the exclusion of everything else. Being able to have sex with willing partners is only one aspect of life. There's plenty of others.
I've always had girlfriends and when I don't and I'm officially single and she's done, I can get laid at the drop of a hat. I can go from zero girls and within 2 weeks have 5 or even 10 on my back. I can go out on the weekend of losing a girl I'm exclusively with and fuck some horny girl with minimal effort. Ok I might take a week or two off to get my head straight but I don't usually miss too much of a beat, depending.
You dumb fucks need to wake the fuck up. Stop reading so much and go and pursue your life and a reasonable purpose in life.
OP should be proud of himself in the end.
GarethBaleWannabe 5y ago
First time, I have heard of a story like this, the way I see this:
neverquitman 5y ago
Its the typical “girls go for jerks” story.
LordMarkStark 5y ago
This chick was out of her mind. She was being an idiot.
GarethBaleWannabe 5y ago
Understood, I am just saying at the end of the day being "just a jerk" shouldn't be the end goal especially one that doesn't seem to have life anything beyond, fucking, smoking there life away and probably netflix and chilling.
TruthSeekingPerson 5y ago
We all make mistakes. I hope you've learned to value yourself. Valuing female affection causes a lot of problems in life. They really don't matter.
Chaddeus_Rex 5y ago
Or theyre trying to sell you something.
civilizedfrog 5y ago
A lion, unlike other big cats, live in an open environment. However, it doesn't let any other male into it's territory. The first thing a lion does after it kills the alpha lion of a pride is to kill all it's cubs. He has to kill the cubs in order to procreate with the lionesses. He doesn't have the time to be a cuckold and allow another lion's offspring survive and leech off resources. He makes the lionesses do all the hunting and is always takes what he wants before the rest of them gets the kill. If they are unable to efficiently make a kill, he steps in and makes sure that he gets the job done. He is not the hardest worker. If you are looking for hardest worker then a donkey would be the most appropriate beast. There is a reaon why lions are called the "King of the Beasts". He demands respect. A king need not be perfect or be the biggest. He needs to be dominant and you can be darn sure that a lion is one.
Goddamnhologram 5y ago
Reminder: do not kill your new girlfriends children
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civilizedfrog 5y ago
Lol. Even better, ignore single moms.
OfficerWade 5y ago
Advice unclear: sent wife to kill girlfriend
SelfUnmadeMan 5y ago
But, but, but... getting cucked by your stepkids would be so humiliating!
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cryptonaut414 5y ago
Damn. TIL lions are nature’s pimps
Imperator_Red 5y ago
There is no male organism in the world that knowingly and voluntarily provides resources to other males' offspring other than white western liberals. So really, we should say that white western liberals are nature's cucks.
SilenceOnTheWire 5y ago
Lions are just the pawns of lionesses. They control them by letting them think they are in charge. This is the crux of female power.
EDIT: Before you downvote, go read Anatomy of Female Power or The Manipulated Man
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swordshab 5y ago
Lmao you must’ve been retarded
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DocZTheRockstar 5y ago
That guys a leech, not an alpha.
NormalAndy 5y ago
I used to be the guy that ended up getting shaken down and stabbed in the guts- 3 weeks in intensive care.
Not now matey. 15 years is a long time. :-)
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painisego 5y ago
The experience will make you stronger. Soon you'll be fucking his sister and making him drive you around.
quora11 5y ago
Hey dude, I just went through your post history and damn, you seem like a cool dude who had a much harder life than me even though were the same age. If I knew you in person I would love to have a beer with you.
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BUT...
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I notice you say this guy does a hundred push ups every morning and just eight days ago you say your homeboy does a hundred push ups every morning.
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Don't tell me you're still friends with this disrespectful piece of shit dude. This guy banged your sister next to you while you allowed both of them to stay in your studio. Fuck no.
D3athN0te101 5y ago
Thanks, bro.
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And no, we're not still friends.
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My homeboy is a different dude. We did the 100 pushups /day challenge a while back. And while I've been slacking off, he's now doing 100 every morning. When we started, we were both maxing 40 reps (if i recall correctly).
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Basically, he's my gym bro (we mostly see each other at the gym. Though, we do hang out occasionally).
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Which reminds me, I gotta do some pushups now...
KeffirLime 5y ago
Society seems to have headed in a direction that encourages avoiding conflict at all costs. Partly due to the hefty influence of the feminine imperative and with it feminine modus operandi. Women will shit talk, bitch and moan about each other and then be lovey and fake as shit face to face without batting an eyelid.
Men of old used to be encouraged to be forthright, have self respect, pride and bring honor to their name. A man disrespecting another man was intolerable. In the west they'd have a shootout, or guys would slug it out. Not that I'd encourage that in modern society, but the principle of confronting disrespect instead of ducking and diving to keep some sort of artificial peace would be far more useful.
Boundaries need to be set and there should be consequences for crossing them. People will naturally test them and if they're allowed to cross them they will continue to do so until they find the limit. No friend or acquaintance who doesn't respect your boundaries is worth having around.
ex_addict_bro 5y ago
Men of today are encouraged to Fortnite
D3athN0te101 5y ago
Underrated comment.
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Needs to be put on a billboard, complete with a side by side of 2 dudes: 1 scrawny, 1 brawny.
WayTooCyber 5y ago
Just to note I spent a couple hours looking at a website involving people who were murdered by gun crime in NY. Pride is one of the leading reasons. Never get into an argument with a stranger unless it's friendly and always maintain a solid frame.
KeffirLime 5y ago
Yeah, I should probably clarify I'm not encouraging people to be blindly antagonist because their ego might take a dent, I'm rather encouraging people to deal with situations rather than avoid them in the hopes they'll sort themselves out, particularly with those close to you.
Discretion is required and different situations will require different approaches, but in almost all circumstances it need not involve escalating or violence.
LordMarkStark 5y ago
I would have beat the crap out of him. First night? Beside your head? If I wasn't strong enough I would have found a large piece of wood and wrapped it in a blanket. Fuck that man. It was keeping you up, is disrespectful. This guy was using you. You taxied him places, gave him a roof. He thought you were a drip. Then he slips it in your sister the first opportunity - and threw caution to the wind in case things became uncomfortable between them.
You were not creative or resourceful enough. You could have got their crap outside much earlier, changed the locks, had a solid talk to them, given them notice sooner. It's bad enough being the fewer in number in a genuinely committed household where the couple can outvote the single, let alone a veritable stranger fucking your sister and shifting the power balance...
Your sister is a slut. Sorry. She would have been kicked out too. It's a home. Not a brothel. And this fucker could have been anyone. That way if she wanted his dick... Yeah fuck it man, let him look after her. She should have known better.
I'm glad you've got more balls now. That this happened to you makes me angry just reading about it.
scissor_me_timbers00 5y ago
Let the hate flow through you
EndTimesRadio 5y ago
Yes and no. Yes, to women. No, to work or to getting certifications/following "the path" of getting up in the morning and grinding your way up the corporate ladder. In that, yes, you do what you're told, you pay your dues, and you back out for a raise elsewhere. Rinse, wash, repeat. None of them mean anything to you.
Irtotallynotrobot 5y ago
Sorry to hear that happened to you. I'm glad you got through it and that you're improving now.
omega_dawg93 5y ago
OP, the alpha dude didn't TAKE anything from your sister; instead she EAGERLY GAVE it up to him.
you mad bc it happened or mad at the disrespect your sister showed in getting pumped on the first night or disrespect of getting pumped in your presence?
either way, all the alpha dude did was alpha.
LordMarkStark 5y ago
None of that stupid shit matters. It was his home, his sister, his life. This guy came in and didn't give a shit about any of it. Doesn't matter how droopy he was to let it happen to him.
There's a difference from being alpha and being a fuckwit.
The op needs only to man up. You wouldn't go in there and high five him for being alpha. If you had any sense you would have kicked his balls in during their sex.
Stuff the pussy it's only one aspect of life. This is about a home and being taken advantage of.
Don't praise the pussy or the way in which you get it, thats just extended pedestaling the pussy. Who cares, it's small bickies compared to the shit he was about to face. And it's his sister I doubt he's jealous. Wake up man, think about it more.
neverquitman 5y ago
I mean he thought the other guy would say to himself “no I wont flirt with his sister, it isn’t right”. “I’ll just ignore her”. That didn’t happen because the guy was just a jerk. Question is, should you stand up to a jerk(he will lose because he’s scrawny) or accept it.
Today its a jerk, tomorrow its what, a bunch of gangsters extorting you and your gf/sister jumping into their car willingly whilst they wait for the money and you know whats gonna happen, they will have fun alright.
If anything, thats sick and toxic people.
Sister and that guy proved that.
omega_dawg93 5y ago
if he was a jerk, the sister would not have received his DNA the first night. let's not vilify the alpha guy for being an alpha... he didn't invite the sister to stay and didn't take her vagina.
the brother gave her a place to stay... she GAVE the alpha a place to unload.
any MAN would stand-up to wrong-doing. you don't whimper or cower because you're small. fuck dat. you might take a whooping, but you need to be a man about yours.
neverquitman 5y ago
Nah thats just jerk behaviour. You could be alpha and not go that route. Its like saying if your friend is alpha, he’ll fuck your mom. No, wait actually your mom will spread her legs for him.
And sounds by it, you’ll let him do it and excuse it on “well he’s an alpha” !
omega_dawg93 5y ago
OP said he was an alpha. don't project his interpretation on me. i'm just going by what he said.
now, how i feel...
i will NEVER... never in a million years get mad, jealous, or upset for a man TAKING what is freely & eagerly being GIVEN to him. idgaf if he's an absolute jerk, asshole, bum, or thug. if a woman is GIVING HERSELF to him, i have no problem with him TAKING what she's giving.
women fuck men for their own reasons & purposes, and as a man, it's not up to me to try and understand why. most times, they don't even know why they're attracted to certain men... they just are. i'm not gonna call the guy a jerk because he got some pussy. whether or not he's an alpha doesn't matter (to me).
LordMarkStark 5y ago
Is this a script you've programmed into the vast chasm in your life/self? Put yourself in that situation. You drove him around gave him free rent and gave him your sister on a silver platter. Then they go and alter further the whole dynamic and peace of your living arrangement. That's what it's about.
I don't care someone got laid, millions of alphas and betas are screwing right know as we type and read. Sex does not only come to alphas. His lifestyle spiralled out of control. He was being used. He gave no money, no true value, he just leached and disrupted the household.
All you can do is celebrate the fact someone got a fuck. Is that projecting? The construct that if any alpha can get laid then there's still hope for your efforts? It's a nice thought but consider where your morals and ethics come from. Is it true abundance or just a design in your mind? Is this just you submitting to his alphaness no matter the price?
True abundance would be to say you know you can fuck any time you want, call up your girlfriend or girls, go get it.... In that case who cares if jerkboy misses out on one root one night. There's more important things. If jerkboy wasn't such a retarded he'd be able to go somewhere else to have a romp. But he was a retarded and deserves no accommodation of those notions.
Please think on that. That guy was a major fuckwit. Yes he had sex but he also did 50 other things once he made that decision.
As an alpha or proclaimed one he deserves your swift retribution and vengeance to how he's fucking up your life.
Most of my friends are alpha types not all. But we're like rabid dogs who keep each other in check. OP needed to check this guy, immediately.
Maybe not during sex if his sister is skittish. But right after even he should have been there.... Finished fucking her? Right because you're finished living here, dickhead. I'm not putting up with this shit, ffs and the place is not even big enough.
Did you not read the part where they literally didn't lift a finger to maintain the household. Get out of here you silly bugger! Lol! That's not alpha being a messy fuck. The guy had serious mental issues doing all that.
Anyone could have slammed her due to the disparity between how alpha and Omega the pair were. It's doesn't take alpha to get snatch but it helps, sure. Wake the fuck up. I bet you're more self respecting than your post implies. You wouldn't tolerate that.
omega_dawg93 5y ago
damn dude. calm da fuck down.
grown adults decided to fuck. that's all.
LordMarkStark 5y ago
In a studio apartment. Nah, that's being wrong. What is it, a dorm?
I'm being perfectly calm. I laid it out fairly reasonably. They didn't just fuck that's the least of what I'm on about. He was living an intolerable home life in his own place because of two others
It's a freaking studio apartment how hard is it to clean and follow simple rules? Two people don't just fuck and you celebrate that... Mofo grow a brain. Pussy or lack thereof has ruined your thought process.
kemchik 5y ago
Sorry dude....I think you are gay. You love that guy so much and you feel jealous of your sister. You definitely think "IT SHOULD BE ME THAT HE FUCKED NOT MY SISTER"
Just admit it dude your bring your sister so the alpha guy wouldn't leave
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archaic-guy 5y ago
Knowing to draw lines is vital for everything in life
jamesbond0512 5y ago
These stories are good to hear. It’s short but packed enough to see what another person has dealt with.
You’ve got a lot to learn. You just started. But trust me, it gets better.
This is like starting a new job. Only you have a lot more to gain than just a promotion. You become a better person and your approach at life becomes more natural.
With all that said. Don’t take the Red Pill as a religion. It’s a pill that you internalize.
Just like most accepted psychological drugs. You take it once then you analyze and fix your weaknesses. If you obsess you’ll just become a nutjob conspiracy theorist. Preaching out bullshit noone cares about.
Only reason I say this is because you sound like the type.
Now get to it.
yung_gravy1 5y ago
I just happened upon CRP’s vids one night about a week back when i was just perusing through youtube for the fuck of it. His vid on the pain of regret vs the pain of failure is a real mover. Highly recommend.
Eldudearino89 5y ago
Holy shit dude. That's some fucked up shit. However, most of this stuff should be learned growing up. At least to me it did. Glad to hear you got your balls back.
Coach Red Pill has mostly pretty good videos. A few views on monogamy is my only issue otherwise fantastic.
folded1000time 5y ago
So many men in today's society are deprived of growing up. Parents have eschewed parenting, it seems.
TheH1ghMan 5y ago
think its more a lot parents today have never actually become grown adults and are thus unable to actually parent a child, they are mere children themselves
neverquitman 5y ago
Parents have decided to live the lives of their kids, it seems. To control every step to avoid harms way but harm will always find a way.
Its “sleeping beauty” story to many kids out there. Parents avoid the dangers but the dangers find its way to its kids.
Eldudearino89 5y ago
Very true. My parents are deaf so even at 5 6 7 years old I got thrown into a lot of situations that most young kids don't get to do, however, it's helped me greatly in life.
Crimson_Medicinal 5y ago
Been reading more nonfiction lately, it was shocking to me how many common sense rules and pieces of advice that I never heard clicked with me. I was a “smart” kid too, i just wasn’t taught anything about life at all.
folded1000time 5y ago
You and me are peas in a pod. Any book recommendations?
D3athN0te101 5y ago
48 Laws of Power.
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If you read nothing else, read this.
Dakstradamus 5y ago
Im curious if others got annoyed by this book as much as I did. It seems to be passed around here quite a bit. In fact, i bought it because of this place...
But I couldn't make it past the first 5 chapters. I feel like the guy just took Machiavellis The Prince and ran with it, giving it a more modern tone.
The message is too self-serving and borderline sociopathic. I get it, people serve a purpose for your own gain, but I dont feel like blackmailing my best friend for his Twix bar because i was hungry at the moment. (Obviously exaggerating but some themes align with that analogy)
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Balderdash79 5y ago
Seconded.
Add to it "Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius.
mvlock 5y ago
Its simple like monkey have their social rules
Alpha fks, no need to worry about puss for his all life
and the beta monkey bring the food and resource and maybe will get something
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woman work like that, we are not BULIDED for marriage its just hoax
woman going from alpha to alpha like its natural
neverquitman 5y ago
What could you have done? Fought him the same day he went after your sister?
The only thing I see is naivety, thinking that other people won’t stab you in the back because he’s “x”.
If anything the whole book about The Prince was about securing yourself so that you won’t be stabbed. In Grappling its the same concept.
The “fucking” is a hard concept to follow and could you say that its not up-to you to decide if your sister wanted to have sex. Just like you can’t decide to control your girlfriend. “Shes not yours” concept applies here, but the trouble is it leads to passivity and betadom, because you know why fight because its needy, desperate so don’t try because you’ll fail 100% from the start. Same thing why guys that are not redpilled/not betas just regular guys who are sexual go chase. They might be falling hard on the ground, their teeth might break but they’ll risk it instead of accepting rejection in their mind.
So whats the best option here?
I want opinions not votes!!
LordMarkStark 5y ago
See my comment elsewhere for my opinion. I take a very dim view of this situation. They ruined his homelife. They don't deserve understanding. They used him essentially then put it all back on him. No decency.
They deserved swift and potent retribution, curbing of behavior, firm boundaries, being kicked out.
Platitudes are not a good idea toward him, sure what could he do maybe, he was weak and recovering from weakness and unable to respond. He needed a can of whoopass but had nothing.
D3athN0te101 5y ago
Looking back, I believe I took the best available option.
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I avoided confrontation, as betas do. But it was not without reason.
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Should the confrontation turn violent, I'd have surely lost.
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This was a man who did 100 1-handed pushups every morning (both hands. 200 total, no breaks), and I was a man losing to his SISTER in an arm wrestling match. And no, my sister doesn't work out.
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My body was deteriorating from lack of sleep & junk food being 90% of my diet. I rarely ate ANYTHING healthy.
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On top of that, I NEVER worked out. When I started my Red Pill journey, I MAXED out at 3 pushups.
Yes, you read that right. 3 (THREE) pushups was ALL I COULD DO.
And I wasn't heavy either. On the contrary, I was 6'0 @ 160lbs.
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I was in no position to fight, and I wasn't by any means physically intimidating. Even if I had confronted him, I certainly wouldn't have yielded favorable results.
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Law #3: Conceal Your Intentions.
Had I allowed any hints that I would be leaving, they would have responded accordingly. Either by stealing my property beforehand, or outright beating me to a pulp & taking everything. By concealing my intent, I was able to yield a favorable result.
I knew that confrontation would at best yield me nothing, and at worst, I'd lose everything. So I played my role as the weaker party, biding my time until the opportunity to make my move presented itself.
LordMarkStark 5y ago
You did alright but ffs, stuff that for a situation. No doubt it naws at you but that guy was a piece of shit. He deserved swift dealing with not time. At least they got what was coming to them. Hopefully she realizes exactly what she did to you and how you feel. You probably did it as best you could in the most timely manner available to you but if only it could have been instant.
Where were you when he was tuning her up? She definitely dropped her pants quick. You knew what he was like, why didn't you put boundaries in place and or take preventative measures? A man whore like that is no place round a girl like your sister especially in your home... Or around anyone's sister.
I've had friends who tried to steal girls i picked up, etc, and I've taken them to task over it. Other times they tried to share their girl with me but it never came off... As a sorry... But they're still pieces of shit. I don't share my girls with buddies especially if they're hard up and leaching.. I'm no charity, neither are you. This mofo was leaching and helping himself to your sister. Next thing you know you're 2-1 down in household democracy.
Sorry that happened. I'm glad you have more self respect now. I would have kicked his balls in during sex. We can go on about the red pill but this is contextual. He took advantage of you and her. Like I said I would have fucked him up the moment I heard them fucking each other.
Learn to make decisions fast. Know what you want before you get it, know what you like and don't like and what you will and will not tolerate. Become creative and resourceful, and have the courage to act when you know you should. You were a coward then but not now. Don't let anyone disrespect you like that. That guy probably couldn't believe his luck
YOU gave it to him. And you could have taken it away from him the moment he crossed the line.
I've been called magnetic by women more than once. This is how I think and is the structure of my core. I wouldn't let anyone get away with that level of disrespect and lack of scruples, especially in my own place. Instead of having people come in to violate your sister, it would be better if all your sisters friends wanted to violate you and preferably with her blessing while she's not in the same room.... I'm also fair but I'm no sucker. You can't avoid some confrontation in life. You need to face things head on if you can. You were exposed here and you turned it around but at considerable cost.
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its4thecatlol 5y ago
What gets lost in TRP is your responsibility towards other people, and this post shows it. I completely empathize with you and support your decisions to improve. The one glaring issue I see is in how you handled this situation. You left two people without anywhere to live, and you didn't even have the balls to tell them that yourself. However much of leeches they were, you committed a social transgression of the highest order by ghostbooting two human beings out of their homes. There are two things I can never give a pass for. One is blatant dickhead shit, like leaving someone homeless in a seemingly unprovoked decision. The second is weakness so pervasive and lack of courage so strong that you cannot fulfill your social obligations to other people. You've gone way past being too beta to get laid into the territory of men too weak to even function as members of society.
LordMarkStark 5y ago
What....? The......? Fuuuuuuck? Mofo they weren't paying, making a mess, if he has a bond you can kiss goodbye to it, and they were pretty rotten people to live with. They have their own responsibility. OP deserved better treatment. They were almost assuredly not on the lease. He owed them nothing. And they disgraced themselves and shirked every decency at every turn.
Wow you're a hard marker. Guy was essentially transient when they met and he continually fell short of the bar so he ruined his chances at something better, nothing is for free or no strings and he met zero obligations to OP. Sister can move in with her parents. He has no obligation to them. Oh, and fuck you, are you trying to shame him or was it social justice?
When he kicked them out he manned up. They were living with him at HIS discretion. So what he didn't want to live with them anymore, that's his choice.
I'm sorry there's some really immature, misguided or major retards on here. Wake up to yourself. I consider you misguided. Think about it. All this happened after the OP realised he made some terrible choices and tried to remedy the situation.
We don't know why he had decided deep down to live with a known sexual predator (he's not an alpha, he's an opportunistic bastard) and then bring his sister on board. Maybe he was manipulated. But he dealt with it in some way. Maybe not the greatest way, but it was dealt with.
Sorry if after some eggs got broken I'm not on your side in this but I refute your claims of obligation. He had to make the omelet right for his own sanity and what he brought upon himself. Handled it alright ultimately.
It just makes me realize unfortunately there's plenty of damaged people on this sub. Much wallowing and then in your post flippantly denying what little agency he had then for a dubious reason. I'm sure those two will cope. OP needed a solution not a panda preservation instict/policy.
However! I do admit this was one solution and it could also have been handled differently if the desire was there which it wasn't via either direct or backchannel communication means about those twos obligations and housekeeping, etc, consideration, and that maybe only maybe there was a small chance those two could reform to become much better housemates. Just that I would not necessarily be concerned about their arrangements after an eviction notice they probably deserved for a variety of reasons.
its4thecatlol 5y ago
He didn't man up. He snuck out of his own house to avoid a conversation with two people he opened to his house to, and stayed somewhere else for 2 whole weeks. He was so afraid to confront them he left his own home. Running away from your own home for 14 days is manning up to you? Are you retarded or do you just act like it on Reddit?
When you bring people into your home place to stay indefinitely, there is an implicit promise that you will not kick them out without forewarning. An eviction notice does not qualify.
90% of you are spergs or dickheads so I'm not surprised this falls on deaf ears. Poor behavior on the part of others and weakness on your personal part does not excuse you from social responsibilities or mannerisms.
From the perspective of those two people, their friend randomly just kicked them out of their homes with no notice. He is threatening legal action and doesn't even answer a text or phone call. There is not even any furniture left to sit on.
There is being an assertive dominant male and then there's being a decent human being. The two do not have to be odds at with each other. Just as a child who misbehaves does not deserve to be beaten, these two people did not deserve this type of treatment. These things have to be handled a certain way. OP is still seen as a complete beta bitch by those two and everyone else who heard the story. There is no victory here. This is avoidance behavior. He escaped the issue until it basically blew over under threat of legal action.
You're a moron if this is how you handle things. You're a social retard if you think it's acceptable by any stretch of the imagination. This is cowardice to the point of absurdity.
D3athN0te101 5y ago
I think you read that wrong, my dude.
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I didn't bunk somewhere else for 2 weeks. They spent 2 weeks sending death threats, before they either got bored of doing so or realized I wasn't gonna text back.
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When I moved, I never went back.
LordMarkStark 5y ago
I never said it wasn't cowardly in a manner. It's his home. Who do you think you are? You don't set the rules and they broke all of them. His own sister was a bitch to him.
He did give them some space, he left a bit then he came back and got rid of them.
Get lost, man. What you propose is not acceptable. These people didn't give a rats arse. He didn't owe them any hospitality after that.
its4thecatlol 5y ago
It doesn't matter you socially retarded moron. Do we beat women or punish them for the way we are? Or dogs that eat off the table? We may mold them and promote the behaviors we wish, but a strong male never punishes beings without the necessary self-control.
You can't just kick people out of your house without warning for things that you never brought up an objection to. That's vindictive. This behavior is inexcusable.
There's TRP and there's morals. Some of you need to read some motherfucking Socrates because you sound dumb beyond belief.
LordMarkStark 5y ago
Haha. Whoa this got heated. Whats socrates got to do with common law anyway? Its a pretty cut and dry case this - you're just misguidedly adding things in that are not applicable at all. That was his living arrangement and his position to decide who came (which he did) and who left) which he did, at any point. They stayed well past their welcome-date - much like you. It's not my desire to argue with you. You said what you said and I don't want to labour the point to death. Direct your anger at him. He did it. I just don't have a problem with it. Good for him. He can kick anyone he likes out the moment he doesn't want to live with them.
I think you're too nice in your life with all these hospitality rules for people not reciprocating but it's easy to insult me on here you big pussy. You're as cowardly as you claim he is. It happened ages ago maybe don't get so worked up.
If you spoke to me like that to my face I'd kick you out too. But by your standard I'm to obey some dubious hospitality law in case you can't find a place to live. Reap what you sew. Now fuck off. You're the real moron and don't tell me you would tolerate that, you wouldn't. Maybe you would give them some more time, fine. But not everyone is like that. What more is one to do, he served them an eviction notice. In such a case I think it's 2 weeks standard world wide, but they must have got pretty butthurt when they got it.
And they didn't respect the place, they told him to shove it when they found out. It's not about the sex, it was a lousy living arrangement. Everyone knew it. Those two were just cunts though.
D3athN0te101 5y ago
Ghostbooting two human beings out of MY home.
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FTFY
daymi 5y ago
After an eviction notice you still have time to find new accomodation, usually.
I know what you mean, though. If he just locked them out it would show low class (in some countries it's even illegal). But he did it the official way and there's an established process for eviction and a deadline that is far in the future, not the same day or anything.
That said, it would have been better to just confront them head-on. But it's not reasonable to expect OP to have the level of development necessary to actively seek confrontation where it is useful yet.
TruthSeekingPerson 5y ago
The only way to deal with narcissists is to go no contact. You don't reason with them. You don't bargain. They're predators. OP did the only thing that made sense. They're lucky he didn't just lock them out.
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