Summary: Women have nearly all of the advantages when it comes to the sex and relationship game. They never have to buy drinks for themselves, and casual sex is there for the taking any time they feel like it. But even knowing how easy the sex and relationships game is for women, ask yourself "Would you really rather be a woman?" You hesitate, don't you? The answer isn't yes, despite how much you'd love to have sex on tap. Because deep down, we know that even though women rule the sex and relationships game, they're still just women.
Imagine the life of a woman. It’s Friday night, 8:00. You touch up your make-up from work, straighten your hair a little bit, throw on a dress and some heels, text one of your friends, then get an Uber to meet her at one of your favorite bars. You grab your tiny clutch purse that matches your dress on the way out, but there’s not enough room in it for your wallet, not like that matters, because you never have to buy your own drinks. You and your friend spend most of the night at the bar letting guys who want to fuck you buy you drinks and flirt with you. If it’s been a week or two or so since your last hook-up, you’re feeling kind of horny, so when a guy who’s really fun and cute tries his luck, you find your friend and tell her you’re leaving with him so she doesn’t worry.
You go out like this every weekend, sometimes with her, sometimes with a different friend. You haven’t bought yourself a drink in over a year. And any time you’re horny, you can usually find someone decent for a hook up. Your friends do the same. You usually go out in pairs, maybe sometimes a group of three, but since all of you do this, there’s not really any judgment, except you might giggle if one of your friends hooks up with a really weird guy. As you’re getting ready tonight, you get a text from some guy at work or school who likes you but just won’t take the hint. You roll your eyes. You could probably have a boyfriend if you want, but you definitely don’t want him, and haven’t gotten any good relationship prospects lately. But just because you haven’t found a good guy yet, there’s no reason to go without sex while you’re looking.
A lot of Red Pill readers think about the above, and it makes them angry. Women have the advantage when it comes to sex and relationships. A woman who’s not ugly can leave home without her wallet, and guys who want to have sex with her will buy her drinks all night long. If she’s in the mood, she can have casual sex. The manosphere rage-porn myth about how guys are using her for sex and she can’t find a relationship isn’t actually true. She also has guys who want to date her more seriously. Even some of the hot guys she hooks up with. But she’s the one who’s having fun and doesn’t want to settle down.
When she does settle down, marriage can be a temporary thing for her, because divorce isn’t as big of a financial hit for her as it would be for her husband. She doesn’t necessarily plan on getting divorced later. But she can enter into a marriage knowing that the option is always there if she needs it, and that she’ll be okay, whatever happens.
When it comes to the sex and relationship game, women have the power and advantages. Men don’t. And this makes a lot of men angry. Because when you struggle to find sex, to get dates, to find relationships, and to be successful and happy in your relationships, the sex and relationship game becomes extremely important to you. It consumes you. You start to get crazy ideas about how the entire world favors women and how men have it bad and about how hopeless the world is for men, all because women get free drinks, effortless casual sex, and cheaper divorces.
But ask your self this: Even knowing how easy women have it when it comes to casual sex and relationships, would you seriously rather be a woman?
Very few men would actually wish to be a woman. We just get jaded. When you’re not having sex and you’re having a hard time finding dates and relationships, the sex and relationship game starts to seem like the most important thing in the world, and the fact that women have it easy and have all kinds of unfair advantages when it comes to that game becomes the most infuriating thing ever. But the sex and relationship game isn’t actually that important.
When a woman in her 20s shows up at my company for a job interview, the first thing all of us who meet with her (all men) think is that any minute, this woman is going to get married. Her boyfriend will propose and she’s going to disappear for a few months to plan a wedding, get married, and have a honeymoon. And after that (or if she’s already married when she interviews), she’s going to get pregnant. Maybe her pregnancy will require bedrest toward the end. Then she’ll have a baby and be on maternity leave. Then she’ll come back, but she’ll constantly be taking off work to do stuff for her kid and need special hours and special treatment. Not to mention, insurance costs for a woman of child bearing age are through the roof. Couple this with the fact that women are usually less willing to undertake new tasks, learn new skills, come early, stay late, and are usually more difficult to work with – and the under the table rule is that unless she’s really spectacular, we don’t hire women under 40. Nobody says it out loud, but it’s just a given. Women may have the advantage in the casual sex and relationship game, but women suck in the workforce.
When women show up at my BJJ gym, nobody wants to roll with them. They whine when things hurt instead of just tapping like a normal person. When your hands get caught in their hair that they refuse to tie back for some reason, or you end up touching their boobs when you’re grappling, they complain. They’re not even there to learn the martial art anyway. Somebody just told them that all men are rapists, so they’re there to learn self defense techniques. They’ve never actually been raped, mind you, but they know it’s just a matter of time before some man tries to rape them. When learning self defense turns out to be hard work and doesn’t come easily, they all quit. Once in awhile, a good one sticks it out and becomes one of the boys, but she’s a rare gem.
Think back to the girlfriends you’ve had over the years. What were their hobbies? I mean besides listening to music, watching TV, and maybe reading books. Are you having a hard time answering? Didn’t you date these women for months, maybe years? And you can’t even name their hobbies? Don’t worry. It’s not you. It’s them. Most women don’t have actual hobbies. What a woman does for fun is go out. After work, she contacts friends, and she goes somewhere and eats food and drinks alcohol. Maybe listens to music. She doesn’t need hobbies. Her life is complete as long as she has enough money to pay rent and go out to meet guys for sex and relationships. If a woman does have a hobby, most likely, that’s because one of her previous boyfriends had the hobby and she got into it because of him. Women are defined by the men they can attract and the men they’ve dated. Otherwise, they’re mostly an empty shell. Yes, yes, not all women, all the time. But enough women, enough of the time.
When it comes to the sex and relationships game, yes, women have all of the power and advantages, and yes, that’s aggravating. But when it comes to life, women aren’t taken that seriously. Not by anybody that matters, anyway. If you listen to internet liberals and the media, it sounds like women are taking over the world, but if you actually pay attention, most women aren’t taken that seriously in the real world.
Yes, women never have to buy themselves drinks and can have all of the casual sex they want. But would you really rather be a woman, or are you better off as a man?
Life can be hard, unfair, and can kick you right in the balls, but as a man, you have a lot more potential to succeed at life than the overwhelming majority of women. First, you need to ditch the anger. Second, you need to de-prioritize the sex and relationships game (I'm not saying don't try to have sex - just don't obsess over it like a weirdo. Take some time off from complaining about the sex game on the internet.) And third, you need to embrace life’s challenges and grow. If you belong to one of those internet communities where time is wasted complaining about women instead of improving yourself as a man, it’s time to fix that, quit wallowing in self-pity, and realize that no matter how much causal sex they’re having and you’re not, nobody would rather be a woman.