Huh. BRO. Bro. bRo. Brrroospehinaaa.. drama queen alert. Leave! ABORT! ABORT!

Good shit bro don't let that sweater wearing troglodyte steal yo girl. At least you did something instead of letting it happen.

You lost your cool before even letting her know you weren't happy with what she was doing. If she's a good person, she'll understand that you're not comfortable with the situation and she will apologize and stop. You never gave her that chance. So you're the ass in this situation, underreacting and then overreacting.

This is Gay. The first time she tells you she loves you is after she hit on some other guy. Picked a winner

Good luck

went through all this over and over for years until i found TRP.

hard next this girl into oblivion and swallow the pill nigga.

An EC brought this thread to my attention saying that it was misflaired (LTR, should have been Blue Pill Example). His comment was probably a cute way of saying "hey, this post is shit and should be removed".

I agree.

However, while OP certainly didn't react properly, I'm going to leave it up because there's some good discussion going in the comments.

Check it out.

TLDR, dump that bitch you faggot. That’s disrespect beyond levels of recovery. I would’ve lost my shit.

Don’t speak to her again after that. She gave you the ultimate level of disrespect might as well have made out with him in front of you.

Only 8 months and she claims she's cut everyone out for you? She isn't a girlfriend just an ltr right? Bust her down to a plate and when it comes time for her to break, let her break. Invest no emotion in her, she did this with you standing right there; Imagine what she would do if you weren't.

As for did you overreact, yeah you kinda did but I wouldn't say you did horribly. The A response would have been you realizing she has been demoted and to go start hitting on other girls.

she told me she loves me (plus all that other gaslighting)

What she says, vs

heavy eye contact… she was lightly running her fingertips up his stomach/torso.

What she does. Especially the touching.

Instead of getting pissy and physical, this should amuse you. You're the prize, remember? She doesn't want to be exclusive anymore? Fuck yeah, you get to go fuck the other girls who want a turn. Don't get angry that she disrespected you, recognize that she chose to do it and adjust your actions accordingly. Why she did it is unimportant, only the fact that she did.

You don't control her choices or actions, but you do control your response to and tolerance of them.

Calmly tell her "Hey. My girlfriend doesn't flirt with other dudes." Then revert your behavior back to FWB mode, or whatever you want to do.

Frame is king.

It is. And yours crumbled.

You lost frame but its fine just ghost the hoe for good..and when she comes around which she will at some point tell her you just want sex and nothing else!!

Shes loopy bruv, anyway if you had frame you should have played that bitch by doggying her then should have told her to fuck off after that.

I enjoy BPE posts, so that I can learn what NOT to do.

Great lesson, OP.

Nah man, you didn't do anything wrong.

Seems like you guys need to sit down and hash things out if anything. There were obviously some pent up feelings on her end. And I wouldn't blame you if that didn't interest you at all and you dipped for good, because I would. I don't take that shit.

That night was the 1st time she told me she loves me.

She uses the "I love you" as an 'escape jail for free' card. Pure example of a women that cannot love. Purely manipulative words to prevent you from dumping.

proclaiming she "doesn't remember" and "doesn't know what she did."

This stuff tells a lot. Apparently she can excuse herself from any behavior by simply "forgetting". What a bs.

Please keep us updates on your decision. The way you describe the scene with her getting wet from that other dude you only have the option to demote or dump.

You did it wrong. You should have let her get away with it then cut her off with no explanation.

This happened to me years ago. I caught my girlfriend at the time eyefucking a guy. I dropped her off that night. Blocked her in my phone and moved on with life.

thats not frame at all my man. if anything you played into her hands by acting emotional, like someone who doesn't have other options. The moment she started flirting you should have quietly and calmly finished your drink, told all your boys goodbye, and hell even introduced yourself to her new fuckbuddy before leaving. She's his problem now.

P.S she has no respect for you if she openly flirts with you inches away. Move on

You have won that battle, but the war is still not over.

You did a pretty decent job at handling yourself and keeping your woman in line and letting her know the boundaries. As for the "posse", their behavior is typical of most un-confident men. They lack the self-sufficiency to handle conflict on their own, hence their need to have others back them up against one other guy.

But for the long term, this incident is a bad sign that your gf is not exactly the loyal type. If she is going to humiliate you in public, she will most certainly try again. Now I am not sure what your history is with her, but this is my judgement based off of what you said only in this post.

My advice would be to keep rolling with this momentum. You won that round and clearly have the upper hand. With the momentum, you should end the relationship as soon as possible. Time is a valuable resource. The time you spend with her could be time spent on meeting other girls, studying, etc.

Point 1: Your girlfriend is a whore. I cannot even fathom dating a girl that would run her hands up another guy’s stomach and tell him to feed her in front of me.

Point 2: Obviously in a sane society grabbing your girlfriend’s arm and yelling at her after she behaved like a slut in front of you would not be a big deal, but we no longer live in that society. This is a good way to get yourself arrested in 2018. Should’ve taken out your phone and deleted her number in front of her face, then walked out of the bar.

You lost the second you lost your temper. If you gotta put hands on someone to keep them with you then you lose. You didn't hold frame because you shouldn't have given a shit if she went with the other dude, instead you should have looked for someone worth your time. You got a scarcity mentality.

Girl isn't as invested as you are. Spin the plate and move on.

"when this guy comes up and starts macking on her. He strolls up like, "Sorry I think you dropped something... my jaw."

Whatever..."

Whatever?!! It was at this very moment you should look at the guy with big smile and friendly say "she's mine." At this point, your girl can like this and you win, or your girl can dislike this and she is the one looking slutty, you win too and dodge a bullet by leaving her

It's a woman's job to redirect flirtatious advances just like it's your job to sock a guy if he disrespects her/becomes pushy.

She didn't do her part, in fact she took it to very disrespectful level. You did fine by setting up your boundaries.

Don't promote her past plate.

I understand what everyone is saying but this is not a situation to walk away from. If this is a gf, ltr or any girl for that matter, walking away during a situation like this makes you a massive bitch. That's not dread game, it's refusing to stand your ground and running from confrontation. All I hear is everyone advocating being a cuck. OP walks away and his gf is gonna be fucking someone else all night. Where's your own self respect?

OP did not respond appropriately. In those situations you have to have the confidence to calmly but assertively tell this dude to fuck off, then deal with the woman in the same manner. What kind of boundaries have you set over the course of your relationship? The bitch in the scenario is definitely a girl I'd promptly leave afterwards, she has no respect for you, not even plate status worthy. BUT, you are a man, act like one. If someone tries to steal your watch, you don't walk away saying take it I'll just buy a better one. Stand up for yourself without the over emotional response.

Sounds like an abusive and unproductive and negative relationship for both parties, you and your girl. work on yourself dude. You should not be in a relationship with anyone until you fix your shit. Get your anger in check and sort yourself out.

Lmao what? None of this is holding frame. You allow yourself to feel miserable over some girl who doesn't care about you as much as you care about her.

You didn't hold frame pal, you lost your shit and you look like an abusive ass in public too. Jeeze us.

Putting hands on her is a loss of frame, as others have said. Next slide

At one point, he's holding out this peppermint candy to her, asking, "You want it?" My girl says: "Feed it to me." While looking him dead in the eyes. There was no mistake: it was seductive af. I also noticed she was lightly running her fingertips up his stomach/torso.

Immediate downgrade to plate status, never to return.

At this point, I grab her HARD by the forearm, yank her over to the side, and say, "Do NOT fucking disrespect me like that. Ever."

Mate guarding; never a good thing and in this case you nearly got your ass beaten. No observer knows or cares what the woman did to provoke it.

Best option would be to walk away and leave the venue, then refuse to speak to her for days if at all.

Frame is king.

Which you displayed none of here.

Your actions and reactions were completely dictated by this women.

Standing out in the rain? Really? Let the clown soak herself- get your ass out of the rain and get a cup of coffee. Seriously. Priorities.

You're not her boyfriend- you're her bitch.

LOL these guys responding are faggots, like all redpillers iam just here for the LOLS

Someone who has zero frame talking about how frame is king.

About twenty better ways you could have handled that situation. Sidebar beckons

You grabbed her by the forearm and yanked her hard? That’s assault, if you are having trouble with women have a look at your own behaviour first. NEVER touch a woman like that.

At this point, I grab her HARD by the forearm

At that point you clasp him on the shoulder "you got this bro, she's totally into you, and I know for a FACT she's single" and then bounce. Instead you just went full retard, never go full retard.

That’s not the type of disrespect you can correct bro. You’re only option is to walk.

Everyone here is pointing out how the bitch disrespected you. I bet it was obvious she was with you, you can correct me if I am wrong but I bet it was obvious. Thus, he disrespected you also.

You may have lost your cool a bit - oh well - most people would.

Good for you standing up for yourself and not backing down with this guy and his posse. That's pretty rare, nowadays actually.

I say no plate, no nothing. Move on entirely. Cut all contact immediately. As said by another comment, that is the ultimate ego crusher. Any girl who'd be in a LTR with you, for 8 months, and do that openly in front of you ... seriously ... run. Don't look back, just run.

the disrespect from your girl smh!

What are you talking about Frame is king. You lost frame, hard. Grabbing her by the forearm, trying to shit talk the guys sweater screams insecurity. Drop this chick your with, she obviously doesn't respect you, and giving her an ultimatum after she already did this to you screams you have no power. Powerful people don't need to give ultimatums.

Go back to the drawing board about how you act and who you are, because what you were doing with this chick clearly didn't work too well.

Why did she disrespect you in the first place? Ltr? she doesn't sound deserving of one.

Dude, it's biology. Your ltr is an unnatural thing; you can't blame her for her nature. You fucked up.

7.5/10 handling of the situation. The whole point of her behavior was to see how it breaks your character, and it did for a bit, although you ended it in your favor.

10/10 behavior would be to lol, wink at her, then walk away without ever responding to any of her calls/messages again. Ghosting a girl who fucked up on a bad note will melt their ego for centuries to come.

She did disrespect you- badly...

It will happen again in the future. And she will blame you for things like, "do you know how much I have given up for you?" She will make you feel like a bad dude or whatever,

I am sorry man, but she's a leecher... she's desperate and needy. She's afraid to let you go. If I were in your place, and this woman did this to me right in from of my face... a switch goes, "off." We are done.

She told another man in a gay sweater to "feed that mint to you?" Seductively? Ultimate disrespect.

I wouldn't even plate her, fuuuuuuuck that get some one else immediately. This is why I posted a note the other day that even when you are in a LTR you need to be pinging other girls regularly so you can smash another chick immediately after you break up with this girl... because guess what? If you leave her now, it won't be 2 hours before she can have another man in her bed.

Don't let her play you like this. Sorry man, this sucks but she's not high value... she lacks confidence, conviction and purpose- and it's your fault not being enough of a leader to inspire this in her.

Get back to basics.

Mate guarding never works. I would have pulled her aside to let her know I leaving because her behavior was an embarrassment and beneath me. I’d say something like “you are into that dude, I get it it. You should stay. If your night goes as he has planned you should send me a video of him face fucking you a little later.” See you around. Then I would attempt to quietly leave then ignore her for a week.

You did the best you could though you shouldn't have grabbed her especially in front of other people. You should have thought of some way to deflect the situation if possible.

She was testing to see what she could get away with and see how beta you are. You handled it well by not tolerating her BS.

Any woman worth LTR status knows how to deflect flirting. It’s not impossible for her to tell a guy to buzz off. If you’ve been rejected by a woman before you know this.

People are giving OP shit for mateguarding but honestly what’s the difference between letting her know how it is then and there and “being calm about it” if anything righteous (non violent) anger gets the point across to a woman. And if you’re “calm about it” she’ll just think she can say “sorry” then go do it again.

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IMO, you went a little far, but good on you for having the balls to make your displeasure with her behaviour known.

So mate guarding is never the answer? Any girl who hits 5 shots of vodka will flirt. Even the unicorniest of girls. So what do you do? Do you control how much she drinks? If she drinks too much oops lost a good one? Genuinely wondering if mate guarding is really never the answer.

By freaking out like a panicked monkey you conveyed a message that you’re not sure you could easily get another girl to instantly replace her if she disappeared or dropped dead tomorrow, which should be your default state. Too emotional. Too needy. Weak frame. 1/10. Get more options and stop caring so much.

To be clear this is an example of not holding frame and the girl saying I love you after fucking up is emotional manipulation 101. Hope op wakes up before he gets cucked further.

If this is the first time this kind of thing happened (especially if she's young), maybe she got carried away by the attention, and just needed a reminder that you don't tolerate this shit. Or maybe she really was interested in the guy. Or maybe she was testing you. Still, if she's giving him eyes and touching him in front of you, then she's probably not worth your time. From her tone afterword, she already resents you and it's just a matter of time before she moves on (or gives you another reason to leave her).

That said, you blew your cool and overreacted. There's no reason to get physical, except complete loss of frame. If you can't AA/AM your way out of this situation, then just STFU or leave. Besides, grabbing her gives Chad a chance to white knight you and just makes your friends uncomfortable. Frame is not always about words and actions, but simply removing yourself from situation and biding your time.

As for the argument in the rain... whatever. You're pissed, she's defensive. Pulling out the "I Love You" card is not only manipulative, but IMO, too late -- shit's already happened. Plate her or drop her.

Demote to plate status. You can go down the ladder, but never back up. Imagine what she does when you aren't around. You realize that if she is willing to do this in front of you, she is probably fucking other guys. Demote to plate, and she can never become ltr material again. You can go down a notch, but once they fuck up like that, you can never go back up. I believe the order is, one night stand, fwb, plate, relationship. You were in a relationship, it may not have been committed, but you were if it went eight months. So, you demote her, and she never gets the chance to be relationship material again. She showed you her true colors, and that was only the stuff when you were standing right in front of her. Again, imagine what would have happened had he approached her and you weren't there. I guarantee he would have touched the puss.

With very little context it's hard to say. If you are super controlling and have isolated her from her friends and anyone except for you, then you have a problem and she was testing you and the relationship and completely misjudged how you would react.

If you're both freely in a give and take relationship that is monogamous and mutually respectful, then what she did was just wrong and she deserved what she got. That smacks of extreme manipulation and you should move on.

Unfortunately I think you looked weak in her eyes and every male there.

Seems like she's looking for another branch to swing to....

Start hitting up other women.

You don't owe women anything. Cut it off anytime you feel like it.

Also, I think you did overreact. I would have just walked away, and been done with the girl for the most part. I'm not investing any more emotion than I need to, when the girl clearly doesn't respect me.

At this point, I grab her HARD by the forearm, yank her over to the side, and say, "Do NOT fucking disrespect me like that. Ever." "Do you want me to walk on you?" etc.

Wrong! That could have ended with you getting your ass kicked and landing in jail. Don't grab her. Tap her shoulder and motion her over to the side to talk calmly. Talk down to her a little bit. Not too much. But don't grab or yank or yell.

She seems pretty immature dude, or in real need of attention...

Way too emotional. You need her more than she needs you, and you look out of control. Key is to be powerful but in control. Also, leave her. Why tf you with a girl who disrespects you like that. Get one that’ll tell the guy to piss off.

"My b*tch flirt with an entertainer, he can have her" - Royce da 5'9"; Mode II

If your chick is doing that shit right in front of you, she definitely isn't worth having around. I'd have left and deleted all contact.

Whatever relationship you had with her is over and has been for a while judging by her behavior. You need to come to terms with that and next her quick . For the sake of all parties involved .

Straight up mad disrespect man, she better plead for the keep, otherwise hard next

Guys will tell you that you lost frame and shit, which you did, but you walked away and showed her that you thought that your relationship was ''special'' which is why she broke into tears and got hysterical upon realizing that. Neither of you confessed love in 8 months. It's good to be redpill but if you want a ltr you need to sprinkle some love spice. Don't expect a girl to be head over heels for you if you don't make things ''special''and you just treat her like a plate.