Check this list of warning / green / red flags:

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3kgbn7/the_lengthy_red_flags_warning_flags_green_flags/

• low partner count
• does anything I say in bed/sexually eager
• traditionally feminine
• clearly puts in effort when she is coming to see me (legs/pussy shaved, no sweatpants, etc)
• doesn't rely on me for everything, as in she has friends of her own too. that clingy shit drives me nuts.

This was a nice green flag to me, when she texted me this:

"I really like you so I don't care what we do, as long as I can see you."

Very refreshing attitude these days.

For me the biggest one is that she has real, substantive adult hobbies. Too many girls just laze around, checking social media until it's time to go out. They have nothing interesting to talk about. Show me a girl who hikes, dances paints, or any other thing that requires discipline and initiative

Grew up with parents who are still together (who she still lives with), has siblings, no debt & spends wisely.

Talking about attitude,

Relaxed, open, willing. Capable of doing but unable to independently decide which things should be done.

mentality,

Enjoys following your lead, has no problem saying she wants a family, is intelligent but demure about it

how they act,

Shy, interested, feminine, cuddly / attached after sex - this is a great predictor of past partner count.

things they do

Initiative to cook, clean, bring something for the house, make coffee at your place in the morning, etc.

Traveled several hours to the university every day, took her a long time to become a dentist and she did part time work as a promo girl meanwhile.

That kind of grinding is good test of character

Red flag: is from a western country
Green flag: is not from a western country

Wife was a virgin at 17. I took it.

Cooks healthy for herself.

Self-dependent

Has interesting hobbies

Uses a gym

Not a "Free Spirit" (Codeword for high partner count)

Educated with an "Adult" job. I don't want the district attorney, but I don't want the cashier at Burger King either.

My green lights:

Outdoor hobbies

Plays Sports

Has an education

Works a full time job doesn't need to be glamorous but it shows that she has an understanding of value over a PT waitress which gets coin thrown at her.

Has an actual interest in trying new things and learning.

Has good banter a bonus if she is actually funny.

Keeps toned and in shape.

Gets along well with her parents without being still attached at the navel.

Can admit mistakes, laugh at herself even. Sure signs of maturity and healthy mental state.

Most important to me is a sweet disposition, and sexiness (for a VERY select few, meaning me).

Major bonus if she can cook well, and actually has hobbies. I have a fetish for creative women.

Honesty Trust and Respect are important too, as in any relationship.

We're talking long-term stuff here. For a fun weekend, she needs a hot bod and is sexually uninhibited.

• She has a mind of her own, but within moderation. This means that she understands your point and contributes her own opinions on the matter, but is neither fully agreeable nor antagonistic.

• She understands what being feminine is about and why it is important. She understands the importance of maintaining her appearance. She can't be described as a "ratchet" girl (huge red flag for LTRs, but fun for the short term).

• She isn't taken aback by splitting the bill. This is critical, as the majority of women who I've encountered as wanting to be 'traditional' end up primarily being overly entitled princesses. The odds are not in your favor that the girl knows what it means to be traditional, and chances are, she will insist that you cover the meal. Do not.

• She has a positive relationship with her father. You are heavily gambling if she has no father (or even no male role model) or if she hates her father.

• She isn't fat. Not all women are fat by choice, but the odds are good that the majority of them are. What this usually indicates is a lack of self-control. These women tend to be bitter, lazy and entitled. Avoid at all costs.

A lot of high standards in this thread.

For those describing the women, have you actually met ANYONE with all of these qualities?

Offered to drive/pick me up from a job interview when there was no on site parking.

Gratitude. Genuine gratitude is sexier than tits.

Hits the gym regularly and has the body to prove that she's serious about it and not just one of those 'tards that walks on the treadmill in her make-up and hoop earrings waiting for guys to talk to her.

Knows how to cook - healthy, and takes pride in it and enjoys doing it. It's not enough to just know how to cook. If a woman does not beam with pride at the very thought of nourishing another human with something she created from her own hands and mind, then she's shit mother and shit wife material.

Not involved or only barely involved on social media. If she can't go an entire 3-5 hour first date without pulling out her cell phone to check something, she's done. You can't disqualify someone just for having a facebook profile they use to keep in touch with a few friends, kind of like e-mail, but somebody who's an active and regular facebook user? Fuck that.

Has her own hobbies that she's actually into and not just doing for appearances or to meet guys.

Low partner count. Zero sex outside of a committed monogamous relationship. That one time in college she fucked a random to see if she liked casual sex is one time too many.

Doesn't get drunk, even when there's an open bar or you're buying. I know this one's obvious, but the sheer lack of restraint in young women today is just plain shocking. If the drinks are free, women nowadays go hog wild. It's not just the drunkenness that's annoying. Women who drink a lot will be very fat, very soon.

No or very subtle makeup. Dresses feminine but not whorish.

No drugs, no smoking. This goes along with eating healthy and not drinking too much. Women who do this shit just don't take care of themselves. It demonstrates stupidity as well as a lack of discipline and restraint.

No cosmetic surgery. No tattoos. The body is a temple. You don't fuck it up with elective modifications.

Employed. With a real job. Women who can't hold real jobs have something wrong with them.

I'm going to quote Doc Love, because he nailed it on the basics:

The three major Female Trait qualities that men should be aware of and look for in a long term mate are: Integrity, made up of Loyalty, Trust, and Honesty; Giving; and Flexibility.

Once you apply those, a lot of other traits just fall into place.

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Girl let me know she had HPV before the first time we had sex and was real torn up over it. I took a week or so to think about it and consult my doctor, but I always appreciated her honesty and the fact that she was willing torisk letting me reject her in order to share the truth. Ended up LTRing her.

Manners. Everything from chewing with mouth closed, to saying "Bless you" after a sneeze, to being on time or communicating prior to being late A polite woman tends to be a considerate one and it transcends to many things in the course of a relationship.

• Zero sexual partners.

• Similar political beliefs.

• Feminine. Dresses somewhat conservatively in public and isn't shrewish. Doesn't visit pubs or clubs and doesn't get drunk. No tattoos, no piercings (normal earrings are acceptable). Rarely swears and respects people when they're talking no matter the quality of their dialogue.

• Strong bond with her immediate family, particularly her father.

• Naturally coloured hair.

• Hygienic and tidy. Clean hair and teeth, good breath, shaved body hair.

• Cooks for you.

• Into fitness.

• Has her own hobbies.

• low/no past partner count

• knows the difference between feminism and equality

• same fitness level as you but still feminine

• knows the value of a man cave. This has profound implications as all men need their personal space.

• is independent. Has her own friends and her own way of living. Higher education as well, and is able to carry on conversations. But is able to share her life with you as you share yours.

• is willing to do things with you and for you. A relationship is not about 50/50. It is about 100/100.

• as high a sex drive as me.

Basically is able to keep up with me and my lifestyle.

ITT: How to spot Unicorns

After reading most of these 'Green flags', I think I've found a keeper.

Thorough responses to texts. The kind of text that has multiple sentences with relevant and useful information.

Also, being on time to meet up with me.

Is supportive of you and your goals. Also if you mention that your broke and she doesn't run to the door or start acting different.