I'm dating a girl who has religiously documented every club/bar/party she's been to in the past 6 years on instagram. It's a little sad to see how youthful she looked then compared to how she looks now. But what's especially upsetting is the number of random guys in her photos. I spent the past 6 years building a business, buying a house, traveling, and bodybuilding. She spent it destroying her liver and hooking up with frat boys. Make me feel quite a bit of contempt, to be honest.
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effyouasshole 5y ago
You should rather be disgusted by your own poor choice of a girlfriend. Also, be glad that she didn't delete it all and pretend like it never happened.
If you really are as successful as you're implying, finding a better woman to spend your time with should be easy. Start worrying about yourself, not what some silly party girls are out there doing.
Rubbish27 5y ago
Exactly, she might be fun but she isn't wife material for a man of OP's caliber.
bsutansalt 5y ago
On one hand, yes.
On the other hand there are no good girls anymore. They're unicorns and are snapped up so fast, or made a part of a Chad's defacto harem they functionality don't exist. The latter of which is the reality of living in an age of unchecked hypergamy.
flml 5y ago
There might unconscious jealousy involved on OPs side, as the fact doesn’t leave him indifferent, but with a feeling contempt, i.e. “I worked so hard while she had the capacities to ride the carousel”. It will pay out. Keep going!!
bestsparkyalive 5y ago
Nice answer !
[deleted] 5y ago
Great answer. Consider your self lucky
downvotesanimals 5y ago
Adding to that... why is this guy obsessing over his girlfriend's instagram account?
HurricaneHugues 5y ago
You gotta check the Hoe Facts. Instagram is a social resume. It's important to explore her profile to see who she really is.
babybopp 5y ago
A girl with many Instagram selfies and sexual or provocative pics has also numerous naked pictures of herself that she doesnt mind "sharing" if they are not selfies then there is LTR chance material. Instagram accounts are mirror indicative and narrate a girls life to the tee. I took a girl to a movie and she took no less than ten selfies. I never called her back. If she looks for validation from strangers online and doesnt seek yours, dont bother ...
dtyler86 5y ago
Yeah I don’t want to be a dick and agree that you have shitty taste in women, but the girls that do nothing to invest in themselves aren’t worth my time in shouldn’t be worth yours. Most of the really hot girls that I know aren’t worth looking at while having to listen to the nonsensical bullshit they talk about. I lift, run two of my own very interesting businesses and have a large social circle of friends, even the attractive girls that I attract I’m afraid to put my dick in because of the ridiculous past and have no interest in listening to a word that comes out of their mouth. I tend to date sevens and eights that are beyond 10 interesting because here in South Florida the tens don’t do shit to contribute to their lives or anyone else’s. It’s all about social media, Sunday fun day, avocado toast in making sure the world knows every second about it
SteveStJohn 5y ago
So true. smh
unorthodoxcowboy 5y ago
Give it time. Her wake up call isn’t scheduled for another 4 years.
dtyler86 5y ago
Yep. She transfers the power when her ass sags, the first wrinkle and grey hairs arrive at around 27. Then she’s going to start the baby fever/engagement pressure now that she knows you’ve got the upper hand as you should
ryantheman2 5y ago
Wake up call as “the Wall”
unorthodoxcowboy 5y ago
She’ll be asking the universal question, poor thing.
FuneralWithAnR 5y ago
"Winter is coming"
Wolvesontheloose 5y ago
You know nothing John betamale
markinsinz7 5y ago
Dude their all hoes literally all of them. Yeah u can break up with his chick and try to get a new gf or fuckin plate this chick and get more plates using her via preselection
If u really want a long long term ltr go for 19 year Olds I know it' seems creepy but that's the last best age these days even tho they prolly fucked like 3-4 guys by end of high school
COORDOORS 5y ago
classic.
btw what’s her IG?
Acrimont 5y ago
@yourmother )
nofilmynofucky 5y ago
Lol why are you dating a girl who's plate material at best
RedSkeller 5y ago
Funny thing is you can usually learn a lot from their social media and pictures. They usually keep up their trophy pictures of the frat boy they fucked a couple times, the modest clothing they wore for GNO, every experience thoroughly documented, the transition from being a teenager and having interests to going into full blown slut and the freshman 15 they gained. Honestly if you can't stomach, it's for good reason.
NightwingTRP 5y ago
Your disgust is a reflection of yourself. My LTR does not have this problem. Why? Because I screened well. Perhaps you shouldn't be having an LTR when you're clearly not ready for one.
oytrp 5y ago
Social media obsession is a red flag.
Dump or demote
Peter_B_Long 5y ago
Red pilled guys will not feel disgusted at their LTR's social media because the smart ones don't become exclusive to those types of girls. With a girl like that, at best, just a plate.
Complaining about your LTR is really just your own fault for committing to someone you didn't vet properly.
4thAndLong 5y ago
She's not yours. It's just your turn.
Acrimont 5y ago
This is the only post that matters. If you can get your dick wet, who cares? )
Weltenbaum 5y ago
Next
1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v 5y ago
Don't be sad, be glad... use this energy to get yourself a youthful plate, ons, fwb, or whatever...
hb8only 5y ago
I love to look on 30+ fb and see how they were looking 10 years ago - instant lose of interest...
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Ricklogical 5y ago
Sounds like solid plate material. How old are you? Don't settle for something like this.
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All the dudes in her photos? Doesn't mean she fucked them all, but some of them for sure.
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She looked way better or she just looked youthful? Some women age fantastically well into 50's and many, the vast majority do not.
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If you are that kind of shallow, better focus on the type that hasn't spent too much time partying and takes care of herself nonstop. Those women are becoming much more common.
no_turning_back_rp 5y ago
One thing my wife has going for her... At almost 40, she could pass for 32. Most girls I see on tinder seem to look 5-10 years older than actual age. Too much sun, alcohol, and shitty food. Edit- and smoking.
blister333 5y ago
Ugh bro I went to New Orleans last year. That place is the Mecca for girls who ate and drank their way through college yet need even more gluttony. Tons of flab and all of them were much younger than they looked.
babybopp 5y ago
You forgot huge ass tattoos, plastic surgeries and ear gauges that they will regret once they hit mid 30
BurningOrangeHeaven 5y ago
Ear gauges look so shitty I'll never understand the appeal. Automatic no if i see that.
criveros 5y ago
Tattoos are cool tho
no_turning_back_rp 5y ago
I for one don't mind the tattoos - my wife has 9 or 10 (though none are large). But yeah, you can't really take that stuff back (easily).
babybopp 5y ago
I didnt say you... believe me when i say that she regrets them. She is forced to accept them and you might not mind them, but every day she looks at herself in the mirror she asks herself "what was i thinking!?" It is like being forced to wear the same clothes every single day and you cant remove them. Girls who put large tattoos end up rueing the day they did.
no_turning_back_rp 5y ago
I feel ya. I know for sure of two she wants gone, the rest... I wouldn't be surprised.
Myself, I've got 4 tats currently planned.
FwoGiZ 5y ago
Why did you even looked into that shit? What were you hoping to find other than that kinda shit lol
Does her past matter much?
Oh wait... don't tell me you are looking for a unicorn!?!!
Just bang her while it last then move on bud...!
DirtyVegas69 5y ago
Then dump her
a_crapybara 5y ago
This is what happens when you treat a whore like a princess lol
Saberinbed 5y ago
You locked down a hoe. Congrats. But then again, who isnt a hoe these days? Assume every women you’ve dated has done this type of shit either way.
Your best bet is to either stop giving a shit, because all women rode the cock carousal in their early-mid 20s, or find a more youthful girl and plate this current one.
I’m 22 and i know a lot of girls my age who actively fuck dudes in their early 30s. You can do it if your smv is high enough.
Taco_Truck_Aficionad 5y ago
Next
KinkysMT 5y ago
One of my plate is the same. When I was with her she would take videos of me with her and post in her stories. Every weekend there is a new guy in her stories lol.
Now I know why she does it.
She is also very insecure about her body and always looking for validation.
She even has a sign on her mirror with written "target = 40kg".
But she is a cool girl to hang out.
babybopp 5y ago
You are her plate OP
Forcetobereckonedwit 5y ago
BAM! In 4 words.
lazydogg9 5y ago
... Also disgusted by your choice of LTR
SmamelessMe 5y ago
The only question you have to ask yourself, does her current behavior suggest she is going to be a good partner for you? Everything else is just rationalization behind the answer to that question.
Are you ok with her being promiscuous before she met you? Is she a responsible person. Is she growing up to be a responsible person. Is she healthy? What do you see your future with her to look like?
Just to make this perfectly clear. I am telling you the questions you need to answer to yourself truthfully. I am not trying to, or even can, answer them for you.
She might be the perfect young lady who just wanted to spend a few extra youthful years, before taking on the challenge of adulthood, and you are simply jealous because you've made a different decisions so as how to spend your youth.
But at the same time she might just found a beta boy entrepreneur who will pay for her shoes and alcohol.
There is no way for me to know. Don't lean on external validation of internet strangers to determine who is or is not good person to have in your life.
Rian_Stone 5y ago
Not really, then again, I made sure that my version of an instagram album was full of tons of adventures.
Good job with your house though. I got one, AND had pictures of me with chicks from all over the world, managed to slip a few workouts in even.
I wonder if you truly think the issue is her past, and not yours?
TheBigHorse420 5y ago
Cough AWALT
Chad1738 5y ago
This smells of scarcity mentality....dump the slut and go find girls in their "youthful" stage. There is plenty of abundance available for you to be feeling "disgust" and "contempt" towards the girl you chose to be with. Get rid of those negative things from your life.
The__Tren__Train 5y ago
lol.. who cares? she's a plate.
keep her around until you find something better
Classy_Amir 5y ago
Don't listen to people here who say why you went through it. You should've done this a little sooner. But better late than never.
You can do as you wish here. Either plate her or slowly disappear, Or don't. But I'd definitely do the first. I'd disappear like a ghost!
a_nus 5y ago
Party girls are a no-no for LTRs.
Matthewbim11 5y ago
Why were you social media stalking her in the first place.
Bedtimeshine 5y ago
You say all these about yourself. You look good, your well traveled, you’ve built a business... yet here you are committing to an Instagram girl...
wobbleelbbow 5y ago
The error in this is to think she have fucked those guys in pictures. Quite often they are just usual orbiters where they buy them stuff and hang out but do not even get to the first base. Either way, the younger they are, less chance of them having more than 5 hookups in their life time. But you will never know, you can not know and only can guesstimate the amount of guys she fucked or "fooled around".
Every guy, before investing anything into a girl (time or money) should/must check her social media (if she has it, because some girls rarely post anything and just use social media as a magazine to read). It can show their promiscuity level sometimes and you can guess how she will act in a relationship. Maybe a long shot but worth to take your time to look at it because most sluts don't hide anything. They boast. And they boast a lot.
freew33zy 5y ago
Like others said, dump. Giving clear signs she's not LTR worthy. I'm not sure what about her even brought value to you in the first place?
RylanBlackwood 5y ago
Is there anything valuable about her ?
kayfab 5y ago
This is why i don<t have a girl and i just have fun.... women can<t be trusted bro
DaftOdyssey 5y ago
Next her if it bothers you so much lol Next time get one that satisfies your qualifications
HurricaneHugues 5y ago
Why are you with a reformed pary girl/slut? That's my question. You can't undo her past, and you shouldnt undo your feelings about it. How about you commit to a chick who's beverage of choice isn't a stranger's cum?
wegettocomeback 5y ago
You missed the red flags, bro.
These are things you need to look for before giving a girl exclusivity.
SharpestMarbel 5y ago
Is this a troll post? She sounds like the perfect cock-carousel whore and you sound like the studious beta nerd.
TheRedPillMonkey 5y ago
Girls like that swing from my dick, not from my arm.
You did a bad job vetting. Demote to a plate and stop wasting time. You're not disgusted she did it, you're disgusted you're dating her.
cypherx1 5y ago
Several red flags here:
Her frequent posts is a sign of a need for attention = insecurity. Expect that nothing you do will ever be sufficient for her.
I'm willing to be your smv is much higher than hers, you just haven't realized it yet.
Plate her but don't date her.
TheGatesOfValhalla 5y ago
She's not your girl, it is just your turn.
Forcetobereckonedwit 5y ago
Sounds like you're with the wrong chick. "Garbage in, garbage out"
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You've worked hard at "good shit in". Don't waste it on a "garbage in" chick.
salezman12 5y ago
Why are you digging into her social media history? That’s what women do.
ENTPunisher 5y ago
It's also what smart men do.
salezman12 5y ago
Why do I care about the social media shenanigans of a plate? Who cares?
ENTPunisher 5y ago
OP is dating this girl, which means it isn't a plate but an LTR.
shadowq8 5y ago
What is your business ?
imtheoneimmortal 5y ago
Why you should be sad at how others people live their life?