This is a weird post, and honestly it's done a bit tongue in cheek. But legitimately, sometimes I get a bit anxious about the fact that my LTR is going so well. It feels like it's wrong. RP has taught me that shit will hit the fan eventually.
My girlfriend just never, ever, creates drama. She never complains about anything, she's never upset, or moody, or "too tired". We have argued once, and it wasn't rly an argument, I just scolded her over some dumb shit.
She casually gave me her phone password maybe a month after we met. Never changed it. I use her phone for a lot of stuff since mine is shit, she's got notifications on home screen and doesn't use snapchat. She has my face plastered on all her social media. She tells me how she loves me so much every day, compliments me. She proudly introduced me to all of her family, I'm talking 40 people. Her childhood friends. And always brings up, "I have X friend, she rly wants to meet you".
I try to fuck with her sometimes, use some very subtle dread. But she doesn't bite. That's the weird part, she's got a super solid frame, she trusts me so much I can't hurt her without going nuclear. She never shit tests. And when she gives me a comfort test, I can't do anything but give her the answer she needs, because she deserves it.
It's pretty cool, but RP doesn't actually address this situation so much. I know I'm supposed to keep doing whatever I'm doing, but according to RP, it'll go wrong at some point anyway.
Droogas 6y ago
Hard next, no contact
wheresMYsteakAt 6y ago
Yup, chicks got more red flags then a skin head ralley.
Retstortion 6y ago
Fucking lol
Dio_Brando_Joestar 6y ago
lol
Narcissist456 6y ago
Lmfao!
KBeer01 6y ago
I keep coming back to this comment, holy shit rofl!
StickguyMB 6y ago
Hehe
Incaahhh 6y ago
RP is semi-based on the concept of AWALT. Obviously there will be some outliers. Seems like you got one, grats.
room_303 6y ago
She's probably taken 100 dicks and wants to appear pure and settle.
lololmissme 6y ago
This. I have seen girls like this because they're too ashamed of their past and they're trying to settle with someone, who they'll obviously show their best to.
OP you should think if she's trying to "trap" you into a relationship in order to settle with her?
The only question I have is her past? Whats her n-count? a lot of girls become like that after having their slutty years
Incaahhh 6y ago
Yeah no
SuperCrazy07 6y ago
You want things to stop going well?
Buy her an engagement ring, move in together, send her flowers everyday while you profess your undying love, and constantly ask if she's cheating on you.
11-Eleven-11 6y ago
Basically this. Dont get comfortable and keep doing what you're doing until shit really does hit the fan, if that happens.
Erthiros 6y ago
I couldn't have put it better myself
[deleted] 6y ago
Pure gold sir.
yesbuthereswhy 6y ago
As a married man I want to laugh but my wife is right next to me and she might ask why so low key I’m enjoying this.
BLVKEY 6y ago
Exhibit A
chasebandz01 6y ago
cuuuuuckadoodledo!!!!
ATrashMan 6y ago
reminds me of the "biiiiiiitcccch" sketch from key n peele
Huskimbo9 6y ago
Thats deep
VasiliyZaitzev 6y ago
Bring her down to TRP Labs. We would like to study her, take DNA samples, and possibly replicate her for the broader market.....
JensenMse 6y ago
Kudos to you brother. Same shit happened to me with my previous LTR, basically she was perfection...or so I thought. That's until I fell into a period of depression and the dynamic shifted a total 180.
Don't let my words bring you down. I failed her only coz I allowed her to see me in my weakened state. Don't let the same thing happen to you. She sees you as her God, keep it that way all the time.
totallyAlphaguy 6y ago
Your SMV must be significantly higher than her (even just in her mind) + traditional upbringing.
TempleOfIron 6y ago
She's in chameleon mode. Come back to this in 6 months and tell me its the same.
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NofapFrance 6y ago
this, be realistic, enjoy your time/turn with her, and live life bro.
Jsieijejeieokkd 6y ago
Marry her, have kids, that’s the way these things go.
After the second, watch your back. Keep TRP in mind, eventually you’ll need it.
Results may vary, enjoy the ride.
analand 6y ago
Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rave at close of day; Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
redd_reality 6y ago
You're a fucking idiot op.
What you have here is a situation where you're needy, insecure and sabotaging your perfectly good and healthy relationship.
Believe me, if you want your relationship to crumble, keep fucking around and you will certainly get what you wish for, and all by your own hand.
Or, be a fucking man and recognize what you have in your life and use that calmness to add the stress of other challenges to it. Start a business, get a degree, take up challenging or dangerous hobbies etc.
ColmM36 6y ago
AWALT of course but some women are better than others AWALT, but SWABTO
[deleted] 6y ago
As long as you keep doing what you are doing, don't sweat it. It sounds like she is "fuck yeah" about you and when that's the case, they will act exactly how you've described it.
jclaytonc 6y ago
Sounds to me that she is in your frame and she thinks your SMV is higher than hers. Keep it that way. Remember, though, there are no unicorns. If you slip, she will reach for the next branch just like the rest.
SKRockies 6y ago
I literally ended my last relationship because I realised how much better I was than the girl I was with, all she had going for her was looks which she let go of once we started dating, she couldn't believe I "didn't love her anymore" it was weird because in the span of a week or so I lost all attraction to her and breaking up with an ltr of over a year felt like nothing
needoptionsnow 5y ago
I just did the same thing. Ended a 4 year LTR. It's been two months now, and honestly, I feel great about my decision. I have a small sense of uncertainty (probably oneitis shit but I have been working on this by hanging out and hitting on more woman). There are no unicorns and the world is just so much more exciting if you strive to see it for what it actually is.
g4casting 6y ago
To be fair my girl was like that at first. But I opened her to a lot of things, and she became much more interesting. She had no hobbies when I met her. Now she's rly into interior decoration and customisation, and photography. I introduced her to both, suggested we build her desk instead of buying it, and got her to buy a DSLR instead of a stupid compact camera. I would probably introduce her to more things if we lived together.
pretty_bread 6y ago
Yeah some girls depend on their looks and thats about it, they are uninteresting and boring to hangout with, plate status.
Austinisfullgohome 6y ago
???? If you want to be happy for the rest of your life????
????Never make a pretty woman your wife????
UncleChido 6y ago
But I love pretty women.
yokohamalrasheid 5y ago
You think you do, you like the idea. You just don't know the reality.
chasebandz01 6y ago
have a threesome with her and one of her friends. nut inside her friend. she what she does then :^)
g4casting 6y ago
Could have happened earlier in the relationship. We talked about it, the friend was attracted to me, we previously had sex while she was in the same room etc. Then we went on a small trip and she was invited. We got cold feet. I didn't want any feelings hurt, and I saw she was not so sure anymore. Better that way I think
Dio_Brando_Joestar 6y ago
yeah i'm on the same boat. it's weird.
Forcetobereckonedwit 6y ago
Ditto...I just keep frame, keep RP in my mind, toss in faint dread every ten days or so and the magic keeps growing. I am savoring every single moment. Meanwhile, I keep in mind the knowledge that Chad is waiting and AWALT is buying him a beer.
jeantomic 6y ago
Do not . Get . Married. Or you will Lose this Balance
StickguyMB 6y ago
We are all gonna steal her from you now, just sayin
forever_alpha 6y ago
If you don’t stop being insecure (I mean this is insecurity par excellence) you will create a bad time for both of you soon.
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h4nkz 6y ago
Just enjoy it while it lasts and keep doing what you are doing. Also every LTR will eventually change after about 1 year when the honeymoon phase ends
Forcetobereckonedwit 6y ago
Maintain. Enjoy. Prepare.
DiscordantMonk 6y ago
I'm in the same position man! Just keep doing what you're doing and enjoy it!!!
[deleted] 6y ago
What’s your question?
whereTheBoysKeepItG 6y ago
His question is should he just keep doing what he’s doing or does he need to actively do something else to make sure his relationship stays solid. He asks this because most questions here are about how to fix problems with women. His problem is that he oddly doesn’t have any problems.
whereTheBoysKeepItG 6y ago
Man you better wife this girl for real. You got it made. Trp is all facts, but you see right in front of you is an even bigger fact. You’re living like with a good girl. Don’t fuck it up.
Hottosmart 6y ago
He cheated on her multiple times already.
whereTheBoysKeepItG 6y ago
What do you mean by cheated
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
You find the notion of getting married desirable? You see it as an end-goal of sorts?
11-Eleven-11 6y ago
A good chunk of rp guys do. Its only natural for a man to want to start a family.
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
That is not a significant reason. Men have many naturally bluepill tendencies, that doesn't mean they're good ideas.
Cmon, you didn't think of that first?
LeDolceVita 6y ago
Get a life dude
11-Eleven-11 6y ago
I never said it was good idea only that many rp men want to marry ;).
Me personally, the only reason I would marry a woman is to have children. Other than that though the cons are... well you know.
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
Honestly, if a guy really wants kids, I think a long term, BUT TEMPORARY, marriage is a fine idea. I think children should be raised by both parents and in as psychologically-healthy an atmosphere as possible.
There're just so many reasons not to try to keep it going forever. One reason I haven't mentioned in this thread is that at a certain age, you lose your libido to the point that having a woman around becomes much less practical. You wanna fuck them, and that's what they're best used for. Anything else would be better accomplished with male buddies.
But once you no longer want that, what then? I understand the notion of companionship but is it good to have companionship all day everyday? At that point your wife becomes your mother in all intents and purposes. You don't fuck her but she helps you get things done and looks after you.
I don't find that desirable and I'm trying to figure out if it's because there's something wrong with me, there's something wrong with people who feel that way, or if neither are as significant as they seem to me and it just really is a preference thing.
GallantSoul 6y ago
Who hurt you?
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
It's the other way around, son. You need a mommy in your life. I don't because I love myself. I just want other men to love themselves too.
LateralThinker13 6y ago
Spoken like somebody who doesn't value housekeeping, extended families, having a companion in your retirement, and growing old with someone.
There's more to RP than just getting laid. You do yourself a disservice.
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
Ok. I think I haven't stated my opinions clear enough and that's my fault.
My views are very nuanced as I try extremely hard to ignore the conditioning I've experienced throughout my life as well as the impulses I feel due to my ego. I know I can likely never rid myself of them completely but here goes:
So this seems like a really weak point. Maybe you felt the need to supplement the other points you've made but this is a very empty concept. It's worth keeping somebody around you at all times, sharing a bathroom, sharing a bed, and agreeing to not fuck any other women just so the chores get done? That doesn't make any sense to me and, in and of itself, seems to be indicative that your position is weak.
Ahh. You truly got me here. I think extended family is awesome. Mine was as a kid. I loved it. Loved seeing my cousins, my favorite aunts and uncles (there are many), etc.
But if you seen enough of my posts you'll know that I concede that if you wanna have kids, you SHOULD definitely be married. I believe that's the best environment for children to be raised in. That doesn't mean you should stay married forever, in my opinion of course.
This part I don't agree with. Aside from sex, everything in that vein would be much better supplied by a male friend. Also, why does your companion need to be a woman that spends their life right fucking next to you?
I understand that this is all very subjective. I wouldn't deign to try to tell you what makes you happy.
But I hypothesize that there are many men, like you, who have learned to appreciate all the other peripheral shit that comes along with finding a sexual partner. Men wanna fuck. So we get into relationships with women because that means we have a semi-permanent option for sex most of the time.
I think men like the idea that they don't have to go out, approach women, put their emotions on the line... They like that they don't have to figure out what to wear or put effort into shaving well or making sure you look as good as possible in the hopes of attracting a woman. So when they find one, they learn to love all the aspects of being in a relationship because it takes the pressure off them. They don't have to hunt now, they have the meat at home. And they become complacent.
And if you take the hypothetical guy out of my example and sit him down in front of you he'll tell you, "Sure, I love my wife. I love being in a relationship. It's not all about sex, we enjoy each other's company." I just think that most of the time men come to this conclusion because they've become accustomed to the peripheral circumstances of the actual, desired circumstance - which is to have sex whenever you want it.
It's a very powerful drive and men will endure much to obtain and retain it. Even convincing themselves that they actually enjoy having the same person, right there in your face, forever.
LateralThinker13 6y ago
Marriage isn't for everyone, and not every guy wants an LTR, I get that. Not even arguing or criticizing it.
But when I wrap my arms around my wife, I feel at peace in ways no bro, hunting buddy, or best male friend can give me. Maybe that'll last; I hope so. But if it doesn't, it doesn't. I'm going to plan for success but prepare for failure, as the saying goes.
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
How old are you?
BorisJohnson4PM 6y ago
OP if it’s going great, congrats!! You’ve got to remember, if she starts fucking things up and things start to slide, get out of there fast. These are red flags BECAUSE we know AWALT, not because these things are inherently bad. She could be the only unicorn on the planet but it seems unlikely, but if you’re enjoying yourself and she doesn’t fuck with your gains, then crack on. Just keep vigilant.
supersuperniceguy 6y ago
Bro I think she's secretly a dude
yenvalmar 6y ago
get her pregnant, you are ready for the next level. it will go wrong eventually.
Whisper Moderator 6y ago
Submissive.
Tiberiusaurus 6y ago
This.
Find the right kind of truly naturally submissive woman and this what you get. It’s amazing.
If it falls apart it’ll probably be because you fucked it up by not maintaining frame. Women like that become lost and confused if you break frame for even a second. But as long as you maintain frame, you have the perfect mate.
If you’re confident in yourself marry her.
g4casting 6y ago
Yes I realize that. She wrote me letters as a side gift for my birthday, with different themes. In one of these she basically says she admires me for my intelligence, my confidence, my willpower. She sees me as some kind of failproof dude who gets everything right and who's capable of anything. Whatever comes up she always tells me that I'll be fine, if anyone can do it it's me.
It's set me to a high standard and I love it. It gives me that extra motivation when I feel like slipping, because I don't wanna fail that image she has of me. I know that as soon as I get too comfortable, I will tarnish that picture forever.
LateralThinker13 6y ago
Sounds like you found an RPW. Keep being a good Captain, and she sounds like a keeper. There are indeed outliers (I married one).
ramfex21 6y ago
Just remember that she is in love with her ideal version of you. Eventually she will AWALT and see that you are just a man (although probably a good one) . And as we all know, women don’t want just a man, they want the perfect man, which none of us are. Keep doing what you are doing but just realise that is impossible to stay that way long term. If it does she is an alien
DillonDockery 6y ago
How old are you and how old is she? How did you meet?
recursoinominado 6y ago
Looks like a great relationship to me. If you don't learn to be happy, you are going to sabotage everything. Most people need drama as they are identified with some role (usually as the victim). Don't. Fuck. This. Up.
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
Why? If he doesn't fuck it up he'll be stuck with the same vagina until he dies. That's an abhorrent prospect.
Hottosmart 6y ago
Here comes out the true nature of men. All men want more pussy, different pussies, hence all men will cheat eventually.
g4casting 6y ago
I actually cheated on her, many times. It was always a one time thing, no further texting, not even a second round. I wouldn't ever cheat on my girlfriend by having regular side chicks. That's just too fucked up for me. It is too much lying and involvment. So I am left with ONS. And a few months ago, I analyzed the situation. I barely have any memories of those encounters. I forgot their exact faces, the sound of their voice, how I felt in that moment. I did it to feel validated, to be a player. I don't need their love, I don't need their pussy. I get that from my girlfriend. I realized the reason I cheated on her was very shallow, and didn't fulfill me in any way. On the contrary. Sometimes I wish I didn't, because she's been so good to me. Sometimes I just wanna say it and be done with it. I know it doesn't work like that. Anyway, I haven't seen anyone else in the last 3 months. I kind of tried a couple times with some drunk girls who were responsive, but I'm glad it didn't work out.
It doesn't bother me to give her commitment anymore, as long as it feels worth it.
recursoinominado 6y ago
Why do you need to be a player? Don't fall in this trap, nothing wrong with being faithful and monogamous. I guarantee you that if you don't lie, you are going to feel a lot better just for that. Go be happy, if she fuck up eventually, it is on her, don't be a dick because of the possibility of others fucking up.
Hottosmart 6y ago
The true nature of men comes out.
All men will eventually cheat, even if their partner is a loyal saint.
You are a cheater. AMALT.
Tell her the truth and let her find a better man.
recursoinominado 6y ago
Wtf is your problem? Don't reduce his gf to "a vagina". Not everyone in life wants to fuck everything that moves. You guys in here need to know wtf do you want from life, you want pussy or you want to be happy?
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
You're putting women on a pedestal they don't belong on.
Men do. As long as they're attractive. I know you've been mentally beaten into submission by society but that doesn't mean it's right.
Ugh. You're what's wrong with men. You think you need a woman there all the time to make you happy.
I find your mentality literally repulsive.
recursoinominado 6y ago
Ok, dude, good luck with this mindset.
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
You're brainwashed by society. You think you need a woman to be truly happy. That sucks and it means you don't love yourself enough.
recursoinominado 6y ago
Dude, are you OK? Do you need a hug?
blancstare 6y ago
Different strokes for different folks.
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
Sure, but it seems counter to the fundamental philosophy to TRP.
StraightWhiteMaleLOL 6y ago
I view TRP as a framework for how intergender relations work, based on evolutionary biology and psychology. You can choose to act on things as you wish. Some prefer monogamous LTR's and some prefer playing the field.
g4casting 6y ago
Thank you. That's exactly how I see it. It's a tool.
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
Maybe I'm not being specific or clear enough. So in the sense that men in our society (women too) are taught many misconceptions about romance, sex, dating, attraction, etc. and then come here and figure out that they need to unlearn a bunch of stuff because the practical applications of these misconceptions are generally proven to be bullshit. I just feel that the expectation and desire to find a woman to settle down with for the rest of your life and to be faithful to is another one of those misconceptions.
If you desire a wife, I hypothesize that means you are not emotionally self reliant and that you believe, at least on some level, that you need to have a woman filling that role in your life to achieve the level of contentment/fulfillment you're striving towards.
I think you should enjoy women exactly as much as you want. Because it's almost completely about sex. And when you reach the age where that's not longer a priority, don't continue to participate in intimate relationships with women anymore. As they haven't much to offer you if you don't wanna fuck all the time anymore.
StraightWhiteMaleLOL 6y ago
What about men who want to start a family? The nuclear family is the building block of modern Western civilization.
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
Yes. I conceded in another post that it's important to raise children with both parents present and in an as emotionally healthy environment as possible.
I'm not actually against marriage, per se. But plan on divorcing someday. Maybe plan isn't the best word. Expect. Expect to get divorced one day and I, personally, recommend having a little fun on the side occasionally. And it's very important to always be extremely careful not to EVER get caught. In my experience it's helped me with resentment from feeling stuck with someone. And a sexy little freak on the side who loves to be choked, have her hair pulled, and calls you daddy; every few months or whatever, can go a long fucking way to mitigate feelings of being trapped and sexually bored.
You get bored of fucking your girl after a while, but spending a weekend or an all-nighter just mercilessly smashing a sexy freak will even make your girl at home seem new (a little bit) the next time you push up in it.
Hottosmart 6y ago
The true nature of men reveals. All men will cheat eventually for newer, younger vagina.
AMALT.
apollosapien 6y ago
You've found a girl that respects you. Keep being you.
wataDs 6y ago
Rp tends to speak in definites, "awalt" is prime example. Its important to remember while reading that everything is undertone "statistical most". Whatever youre doing, keep at
UncleChido 6y ago
“She’s not yours, it’s just your turn”
Enjoy it while it lasts. And stop looking for drama.
Ubergeeek 6y ago
Sounds like my wife most of the time.
It's great but don't get complacent.
freedominlight2 6y ago
Still honeymooning.
GREYnRED 6y ago
How old is the relationship? Are you sure she's really what you've written or is it a projection onto reality. It kinda sounded like she's becoming oneitis. Just relax and enjoy the moment man.
g4casting 6y ago
A year. No, she really is that way. I mean, she's been that way since she's fallen in love. She was more distant and cold the first ~2 months.
PreOrgasmGroanLness 6y ago
She could be a submissive woman on INTJ/INFJ personality speectrum, which are the more rational women out there. They just don't give drama, can be often more rational than your male friends, often are quite aware of their own AWALT early in their life. Contrary to popular TRP belief, their rational & somewhat masculine mind that takes interest in sciences doesn't necessarily make them any less attractive, be it personality wise or looks wise, not at all. They will still like girly things like puppies, they'll still look like a woman and they'll still
likelove sex.There is no catch as long as you keep to TRP.
saltyafrican 6y ago
My current girlfriend has the exact same personality. I even went through her search history (web, FB, IG) a few times randomly and absolutely nothing suspicious- not even a curious look at another guy's profile.
Don't change who you are and just keep up what you're doing. After more time as you get to know her, you may feel obligated to let your guard down a little but this will change who you are as a person so refrain from this. This happened to me and now I am using TRP to dig myself out of this mess.
Goal10der 6y ago
share your experience about how it became a mess and the state its in now?
quicklogaccount 6y ago
I feel your pain man. In probably the most ironic and inadequate usage of the line, ever.
Dramatic and moody behaviors are characteristic of one major personality trait called neuroticism, and women score a lot higher than men in that one, although we all score on it unless we're psychos. In a couple months I came to believe that my girlfriend had men scores on that one, or maybe scored less than myself. And it freaked me out, naturally.
The first impressions I got from her were unsurprising for RPilled folks, although a good bit of them came from confirmation biases. She made some shit tests, required a strong frame, and had crazy levels of abundance. Point blank I assumed her low neuroticism was rooted on confidence provided by abundance, so I assumed I was dealing with a ticking bomb and decided to thread carefully, shield myself as I could.
After a while I realized that shielded behavior was putting a strain on me. It took me some time but I switched to "fuck it, I'm not stupid anymore and I can take whatever punch she throws". This mindset eased the relationship for me and I started to freak out less. At this point, funny enough, I could notice some shit about her. She's not lower in neuroticism than I am, nor lower then men in general. Instead, she tries to portray herself in the fashion she finds attractive in men, she remains shut about her weaknesses instead of using them to gather sympathy, she plays dread and tries to raise it when she believes I'm "out of the line". But her frame is weak, her insecurity shows and she reacts, MAINLY when her "dread" fails.
Basically, she's an intelligent woman trying to play the game she believes is the winning game, assuming that'll earn her the bigger prizes. And since she still believes men's game is the winning game, it becomes noticeable that there are remains of naivety on her. Dumb women won't ever have the idea, and experienced women realize they're wrong.
Something I realized I need to do after RP is being rational, almost scientific, if I plan to have a relationship. AWALT, if I have any suspicion and look for confirmations, I WILL find circumstantial evidence for it. So I'm trying to ease myself by developing a habit of also looking into evidence that falsifies my hypothesis.
*I made a habit of being skeptical about my impressions. AWALT and she can't be different, so whatever woman crap I become suspicious about, I'll confirm it if I try. So instead I'm looking into making a habit of falsifying my sus
Andgelyo 6y ago
Damn, once in a while, I can dream of something like this. If this is truly real, hold on it to it. You sound like you got yourself a really good girl. Obviously still keep an eye out. So many of us have been chewed up to the point of ingraining AWALT in our hearts. Hope this works out for you man.
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
I hate that many of the guys who come here share your opinion. It's indicative that you're inherently bluepill. Why would you want to remain with the same girl forever?
You need to learn to love yourself more and become MUCH more emotionally self-reliant.
Andgelyo 6y ago
Huh? I’ve been banging girls on tinder left and right recently. My first girl cheated on me, if we are getting deep here.
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
But you find the notion of finding a unicorn appealing. Why?
You believe in true love? Unconditional love?
Andgelyo 6y ago
I actually don’t dipshit. I just hope it works for him. Read my post history of you’ll find out that I was raised red pill.
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
So which of these statements you wrote is horseshit, then?
One has to be.
Andgelyo 6y ago
“Once in a while”.....in a while....in a while. Relax asshole, it’s reddit.
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
Your feelings are so hurt and you're telling me to relax as you lose your own frame while dealing with a stranger on the internet. That's interesting. I suppose you feel foolish for having contradicted yourself so egregiously.
Either way your comments are contradictory and emphasizing "once in a while" is completely immaterial to that contradiction.
blancstare 6y ago
You must have a pencil up your ass, because you're trolling hard.
Andgelyo 6y ago
Lmao he’s probably some virgin mad that the OP actually got a quality girl
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
Make a point if you can.
Andgelyo 6y ago
Oh god you’re one of those guys lmao say what you want my nigga. All I meant was that I hope it works out for him. I also meant it feels nice to not have to watch your back every once in a while. You could argue with me for hours, I don’t give a shit to be honest. At the end of the day I’m gettin pussy while you’re here getting mad at me for a comment.
Kenny_Twenty 6y ago
Are you aware that you're projecting your anger onto me. You should do yourself a favor and look at the way we addressed each other and tell me who's mad.
You should learn how to be honest with yourself. It's maybe the most valuable skill associated with self improvement.
btrpb 6y ago
She is a man ????
Hottosmart 6y ago
Can't be a man. He cheated on her multiple times.
explorer93 6y ago
That my friend, is called a keeper
TheLoneProspector 6y ago
I had one like this. I blew it up. Could get her back but I doubt it. It is so weird meeting a normal, stable girl.
deville05 6y ago
She is pulling the greatest heist of all time. Be in love, be kind to each other and have a great time. But never let your guard down.
[deleted] 6y ago
Good for you, sounds like you have a good thing going and glad you're happy.
Maybe it will never happen, and maybe it will, but if things fall apart, just remember AWALT and use the knowledge you've gained here to forge ahead, uncompromisingly.
Cheers.
_Ulan_ 6y ago
When you do feel down, and you will, don't rely on her or expose your concerns to her. I as well as many acquaintances have lost a precious partner by thinking "If I supported her for all this time, she can support me for this one time".
Make sure you still have a black corner in your head that she doesn't know, a separate hobby, something that she is not allowed in.
Don't loose outcome independence, you can always walk out and it wouldn't affect you the least.
You have been a year with her, the old saying says "before 3 years, it's a romantic comedy". So brace for impact in two years !
g4casting 6y ago
I don't hide my concerns to her. It's too shitty to be in a relationship and not be able to talk about emotions with your partner. However I make sure to NEVER go on and on about it. Like I say what I'm feeling sometimes, we talk about it a bit, then case closed. People, not only women HATE whiners. If someone is always complaining and whining, you start getting rly annoyed with them and I'm well aware of it. The only "real" problem I have is long streaks of poor sleep. And she always asks me if I slept well. At this point I just told her to stop asking me this.
hawkeaglejesus 6y ago
I consider following RP akin to wearing your seatbelt. I've been driving for a long time and have never been in an accident. Does that mean it'll never happen? Just because everything has been going well so far doesn't mean it can't change at a moment's notice. And it may be 100% due to factors that you have no control over.
So the question is, do you stop wearing your seatbelt because everything is fine? Or do you ingrain that behavior so deeply that you barely ever even have to think about it?
Maybe it'll take 5 years or 10 years or never, but either way, I'd rather make my own well being a priority.
HannibalBacara 6y ago
Great analogy.
A thing to remember is that when we say AWALT we're talking about a overwhelming majority, not literally every single woman.
There obviously will be exceptions. But like you said, if you've ingrained yourself to always wear your seatbelt (TRP), the fallout of a possible crash will be less severe.
themormonchurch 6y ago
> RP has taught me that shit will hit the fan eventually
someone may have taught you that, but it wasn't RP
RP is designed to make LTRs work
module_process 6y ago
Is she at the same SMV as you, or lower? Regardless, it sounds like you're doing it right. Keep your frame and keep working to improve your SMV. She might not bite on the dread, but she notices, or at least (at this point) doesn't think she can branch off into something better...if so, she'd probably already be shit-testing.
g4casting 6y ago
She's far more attractive than I am. I'm really, really fit, but I have an average to below average face. She's a hb7.5 small blonde with a big ass and a great style. However I'm much more intelligent, experienced, and "cooler" than her. She has discovered a lot of things with me, and it was always a dynamic where I was leading her and getting her out of her comfort zone. She sees me as higher value for sure.
LateralThinker13 6y ago
If she's wise, she'll realize your SMV is going up while hers is slowly decreasing, and cherishing you now while she's still on parity.
Hottosmart 6y ago
Who earns more?
beermagnate 6y ago
No way a girl who acts like that is hot. Really ask yourself how high is her value.
Tiberiusaurus 6y ago
He said she’s a 7..5. You can find girls who are under an 8 like this. 8 and up though you are right.
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whereTheBoysKeepItG 6y ago
Why does he need to do anything differently when what he’s doing right now is clearly working?
empatheticapathetic 6y ago
She's an escort bro
Prodigalrockstar 6y ago
You’re being Dennised
Forcetobereckonedwit 6y ago
NOOoooooooooooooo..........