Looks like Christmas came early. Friend texted me early this morning and sent me a screenshot of her profile. Has a ton of recent photos, one with me in it. Biography alludes to sex and drugs. I feel extremely stupid. That's their nature I suppose and I have some work to do on myself.
What should I do? I'm supposed to hang out with her and her family today. Natural reaction is to confront but women love drama. I've set myself up pretty well to ghost her. Should I wait until after the holidays for image sake?
sd4c 7y ago
I have a different take on it, after hearing that 70% of girls on Tinder are in a relationship. Tinder, Facebook, Instagram, texting- these are all just porn for women. They get off on attention. The question is, what are they doing/giving back in order to get that attention?
If your woman is meeting up with guys, even "just friends", even for a cup of coffee- dump her.
Ask her about her tinder profile. If she lies to you- dump her.
If she owns up to it, and explains it's just for fun, then it's probably just a fantasy. Not much different from us men imagining plunging into an HB9 from PornHub.
A relationship means you get:
-All of each other's enthusiastic physical sexual attention
-Honesty (if she lies, bail ASAP)
-To be the only person of the opposite sex, who they do "favors" for, or spend time with
This is strong reason for suspicion but not quite enough to convict. See how ashamed or defensive she is about it. Gauge her response for deceptiveness, and go from there
CRAIBaby 7y ago
The amount of endorsed contributors commenting that OP should print out the pics and do some revenge act makes me seriously disappointed.
The tag should be revoked from all of those tbh... seriously wtf?
u/redpillschool (just picked the first mod in the list to see this)
[deleted] 7y ago
Disappear suddenly
flashbang123 7y ago
Sounds like she's not even trying to hide it, she enjoys the rush - the danger of being caught. Don't give her the satisfaction, she has zero respect for you. Give her zero fucks.
I think this was on purpose...that's some cold shit.
[deleted] 7y ago
Also, you shouldn't feel stupid. You held up your side of the deal, she was the philandering slut.
Poptart318 7y ago
If she's asks why are you ignoring her just say "bishhhhhh I swiped left"
plenty_of_eesh 7y ago
Why isn't this higher up?
GarlicSaucePunch 7y ago
because "bishhhhhhhhhh" is cringy.
slurmfactory 7y ago
Ghost hard. Dont give her the drama satisfaction. If she is just getting "likes" like the one comment suggested, you should ghost her for that too. Even tho she's prob cheating. Best thing to do, cut her off completely and dont talk to her at all, itll drive her crazy, if you blow up or get upset it will fuel and satisfy her, then go date lots of other chicks. Definitely bail on the family bullshit.
Edit: REMEMBER, the power of indifference is the ultimate
herewegoagaindammi 7y ago
damn so drama is good for them? wut
is it because it is a form of closure and more arguments for her hamster?
[deleted] 7y ago
Yes.
[deleted] 7y ago
what the fuck guys
anything beyond deleting her from his life is not the right answer. revenge is for children. stop talking to her, find the nearest escape, and block all forms of communication. be a man and walk
if she tries to track you down and trap you in confrontation, say something general like "wasn't feeling it". the last thing you want to do is help her cheat on the next bro by pointing out her grave mistake. you have no reason to invest in making her a better person. she isn't your problem
she wasn't yours, it was just your turn. you got a prime slice of that dumb bitches youth. you avoided marriage and children. you won
now go win again
freeeid 7y ago
This is the best i will ever read.
The__Tren__Train 7y ago
this is like....one of the primary tenants of TRP... I really don't think it gets enough attention.
[deleted] 7y ago
This would be the best advice.
And I want to agree with it, so bad. But bstuansalts advice is just too hilarious. Reminds me of my xpost from here 'divorce, done right'
herewegoagaindammi 7y ago
SpinPlates 7y ago
Well said!
bittr_n_swt 7y ago
Dude.
Ghost her now. Don't wait for after Christmas. Block her on everything. Hard next the bitch.
Fucking hell
[deleted] 7y ago
Perfect time for a Christmas present!.... To himself.
Anyhow OP, this guy is right. Ghost her. Drop all communication.
The ton of pics means its less likely to be fake but if you can find a way to verify its her, do so. If only for this would I delay, if you are absolutely sure? Ghost her.
bsutansalt 7y ago
Your friend gave you the best Christmas gift ever as this is an amazing opportunity in disguise, both for the OP and for men in general as this is a teachable moment!
Have the freakiest, dirtiest hate fuck/sex you can have with her (wrapping it up of course).
Print out the screenshots, bundle them up in a number of boxes, and wrap them as a special present for her and her family to all open at the same time at her family's place.
Pack up her shit and put it in the trunk of your car ahead of time.
Never giving her closure will sting for her the most out of all of this, and walking away cold turkey is one of the best things for you in the long run as ZERO contact is the healthiest approach.
Re this being a teachable moment... Maybe, just maybe, she, her future kids, and those in your social circle will get that you shouldn't solicit sex from others when you're in a relationship. Let HER be the example to others of what NOT to do.
The OP's situation is also a lesson for everyone else as to why it's so important to choose women wisely. That being said, please understand that even if you do everything right that it's still only your turn 9 times out of 10. That's the reality of relationships in the 21st century. Enjoy it while you can, but always keep in the back of your mind things are (likely) only temporary.
Edit: The only caveat is do your due diligence to make sure it's legit. Get your hands on her phone to verify the account is hers so you don't get duped by someone trying to fuck you or her over.
Kalepsis 7y ago
I'm going to go ahead and disagree. Yes, this is a teachable moment, and yes, it was a gift to OP. But the course of action you've suggested sounds more like something a woman does than a man. My advice would be to carry out the "all her shit in the trunk" portion and leave it at that. Just wait til you're there and everyone is busy, tell them you're going to the bathroom or something, dump her shit, and drive away. Never speak to her again.
Revenge is for women and children. Be better than that, OP.
Cunt_Robber 7y ago
Yes. Please verify the account is active and that it is for sure her using it, and not some creep who took her photos to set up a fake account! This could backfire just as horribly. LEAVE NO ROOM FOR PLAUSIBLE DENIABILITY
mordanus 7y ago
OP please do this.
jupc 7y ago
Printing out screen shots? This is woman's behavior. Don't do this.
beachbbqlover 7y ago
No need to send pictures, that's just malicious.
Arcturus_ 7y ago
Girls love drama so let's give advice on how to be a dramatic bitch.
This is terrible advice.
Just ghost her OP.
zboo1h 7y ago
I cannot stress how important #1 on this list is. Do everything.
mr_nate_ 7y ago
Oh Jesus this is a wet dream
herewegoagaindammi 7y ago
How about the other countries? Where should one go to decrease the rate of 9/10?
[deleted] 7y ago
What's with the white knights? If he wants to embarrass her in front of her family for cheating on him, let him do it. It'll be fucking hilarious. If the only reason not to do it is "you don't need revenge", and the reason to do it is "It'll be god damn awesome". It's a clear cut choice.
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crazycattime 7y ago
Seconded. Pinning this is bullshit.
Werkzeug81 7y ago
OP please deliver!!!!!
PM-ME-YOUR-SEXTAPE 7y ago
Oh yes, make let the anger coursethrough you. Make her pay
TheStumblingWolf 7y ago
This is pure evil. I have to be honest. I like it.
Ganaria_Gente 7y ago
i wouldnt say it's evil. it's justice. poetic justice....the best kind!
johnsonsson 7y ago
he shouldn't give a fuck if she gets closure or not. what's best for him, he should ask. and this move certainly makes more trouble and is simply a very childish, hurt gesture.
dont do this OP
bsutansalt 7y ago
It's the holidays, a time for fun and family. Normally I'd say just move one, but this was a gift, even if it means ending the relationship. Gotta look at the silver lining.
More importantly, this is a teachable moment for her and those around her. This benefits society as a whole and I wish more guys would do this sort of thing so women in our society would stop doing this shit and know they risk real consequences if they do. SHAMING for indiscriminate sexual dalliances is a good thing and it's high time we brought it back IMO.
seeing-red- 7y ago
You shame, I'll watch actions but convey a non-judgmental and open-minded attitude. Let's see which works out better.
johnsonsson 7y ago
yeah I give you that. the moment society liberated women from the shaming system, they went totally nuts.
exerciseaway 7y ago
I am sure it's her because her spotify account is linked to it and it's all her favorite bands.
Looking for a drugstore to print these out at the moment!
[deleted] 7y ago
I'd say just give it to dad, maybe an apology that it didn't work out, something he can hang his dignity on.
Werkzeug81 7y ago
Pls Deliver OP ????
cavscout55 7y ago
Stop. Don't. Next her. Revenge isn't the way to handle it. Hard next the bitch and move the fuck on. You're a man, not a teenager in a fucking movie.
vandaalen 7y ago
Update?
[deleted] 7y ago
I have no experience with Tinder. Is there anyway to link a spotify account to it without knowing the spotify password? I don't know.
BusterVadge 7y ago
Don't waste your time printing all of these out. Use your rage and need to do something as energy to write everything down you want to change about your life NOW, and act on it.
niggasfrombohemia 7y ago
Pls do this OP & make an update post once you do so
thebrandedman 7y ago
Comment so I can return for delivery.
Duchenne4089 7y ago
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BusterVadge 7y ago
Dude, she is on Tinder, looking for cock. She doesn't deserve another second of your time, let alone another day.
kittenssavedmylife 7y ago
you are now the ghost of christmas past.
dip.
killm3throwaway 7y ago
Responding late as fuck to let you know how brilliant this comment is lmao
Smigg_e 7y ago
Shell remember you for many a Christmases to come.
BusterVadge 7y ago
I spit out my coffee! Well done!
DysfunctionalControl 7y ago
Underated comment. Lmao.
TomFoo 7y ago
Seriously.
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All_Ads_Deceive 7y ago
Update?
LordThunderbolt 7y ago
Rough anal at the Christmas party, collect your gifts, then ghost her.
[deleted] 7y ago
Dude don't waste one more second on her. Ghost immediately.
[deleted] 7y ago
Ghost
aditas 7y ago
She is not but a plate. Wear protection.
TehJimmyy 7y ago
happy new year
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[deleted] 7y ago
you can add photos from anywhere
flatox 7y ago
You know what to do. No closure. And do it now, don't wait for after christmas.
Thizzlebot 7y ago
I'm usually against hard nexting for various reasons but you need to just bounce the fuck out and not tell her shit. She doesn't respect you and is fucking dudes behind your back. Don't respond.
Surfincloud9 7y ago
Vengeful mother fuckers. Just drop her from your life, you are better than that. Show you are hurt, which does encompass acting like a royal prick, will make her happy
[deleted] 7y ago
This. Your tears, real or imagined by her, will marinade her while she "gets over the relationship". It will give her something to get off on emotionally as she processes this.
What you want to do is give her a black hole of nothing. Make her feel like she is shot into space and floating alone and cold.
That is why I'd ghost and not give her anything to latch onto.
Nergaal 7y ago
Remember, you don't own her it is/was your turn.
johnsonsson 7y ago
i will NEVER understand how cheaters make a tinder account! for christ sake you are showing your face to the whole city saying that you want to branch swing. it is just so fucking stupid, it is impossible to understand. at least have the brain capacitiy to go to a bar where noone knows you
Tamarin24 7y ago
Say together now. Attention!
johnsonsson 7y ago
why not write a poem with a selfie and put it on facebook then, or cry about sexism or wear a miniskirt in the mall? dont you use tinder for this shit.
Tamarin24 7y ago
That's not as fun or dangerous.
NabroleonBonaparte 7y ago
Just text her
"I'm swiping left.." then ghost.
Nothing more, nothing less
Tamarin24 7y ago
No. No reason to say anything at all.
NabroleonBonaparte 7y ago
Yours is the more mature route. Hamstering is amusing to me, I enjoy reading the "after ghosting" txts.
But I think we'd agree on don't be bitter and don't seek any catharsis through her.
RedWinter88 7y ago
Best revenge imo is just to ghost... no response. Never hear from you again.
Igaunija 7y ago
Your friend is a real nigga
MattyAnon Admin 7y ago
Ghost.
For comedy effect tell her you'll see her on Tinder - and wait to hear "I only did this because hamster hamster hamster it's your fault".
But really, you want to just ghost her. One message saying "no thanks it's over" and then no more responses.
Let her think you dumped her because you found better, not because she's trying to.
AWALT - live your life accordingly.
SpinPlates 7y ago
Please ghost her OP. Not a single word to her. No explanation. Just ghost.
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nubfilter 7y ago
I think if minimal effort is involved and the (I agree expected) outcome helps to solidify the lesson then that may not be wasted effort. With me personally lessons are best internalized when I have all the facts - others may be so lucky as to absorb them the easy way but sadly that was never my luck.
RichieFinn 7y ago
Jesus you must be next level bitch if she didnt even attempt to hide the profile
PurpleTurtle12 7y ago
I'd first try to get my hands on her phone to confirm everything. Then get rid of her, don't wait.
TheFirsh 7y ago
What if it's fake, set up by a 3rd party crazy woman to break you up out of jealousy? Otherwise why would she include pictures with you in it?
zboo1h 7y ago
I've got pictures with women in it, and sometimes others ask me who my "girlfriend" is, then I fuck those women. It's not nearly that far of a stretch.
Ninokun 7y ago
this!
nubfilter 7y ago
This should have more visibility... yes, AWALT but it could be the psycho cunt that you nexted for your current GF.
[deleted] 7y ago
Which is more likely?
You may be right, but how many cheating stories have started with some extravagant excuse, which the guy buys, and then trickle truth?
And how many end up being really crazy stories like this?
nubfilter 7y ago
Added reply below mistakenly... tl;dr I agree but it helps learn the lesson.
Uzinero 7y ago
Just hard next. Block her, don't go to her parents house, just move on to the next girl.
lostinyukon 7y ago
Hard next and don't tell her why.
Huffnagle 7y ago
You should attempt to verify that it's legit. There are scammers out there making fake profiles, also it could be someone you know trying to fuck you over. (That said, it's probably legit)
If it's her doing, she's not girlfriend material.
H4RV3YSP3CT3R 7y ago
BRO RUN.
Ghost. Do not even say a fucking word. Scream into a pillow right now and hire a escort. Then go do your fave hobby.
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iwantsomeons 7y ago
too much time wasted
StudntRdyTeachrApear 7y ago
Yea she won't think it's creepy at all
illusiveab 7y ago
While I don't agree with the tactic, you have to admit that it doesn't really matter what she thinks. That shit is over.
[deleted] 7y ago
You might want to read this article. It could be all about her getting an ego boost. Not actually wanting to have sex. Just getting likes.
ecrvnr 7y ago
Regardless, still a valid reason to next her.
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[deleted] 7y ago
I am not defending it. All I am saying is that she might be attention-whoring and not cheating.
But you are right, it is still very bad.
homelessWOOKIE9 7y ago
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^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^0.8800
LockedOnTheRedPill 7y ago
If it walks like a duck... And quacks like a duck.... Hmmmm.
[deleted] 7y ago
For anyone reading:
This is why I say 'why' is a stupid fucking question. OP isn't wrong, but this mental gymanistics are the prime method that women use to manipulate men.
Stay focused
adam_varg 7y ago
Determine if its not fake profile first.
If all pics are from public part of fb or alike and profile sounds like easy lay its likely..