We've been fucking since May. She's one of 3 currently. Text convo included. I haven't responded to anything else. Looks like she came crawling back though...
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Kanvaslaw 6y ago
I lost it at shake n bake
crashgang 6y ago
Hahaha stop showing off, you’ve already handled the ultimatum.
AfterC 6y ago
lmao "shake and bake"
imtheoneimmortal 6y ago
what's this a usa slang?
never heard before
pascuccired 6y ago
It's something that our dear President Abraham Lincoln used to say.
Scuzzin 6y ago
"If you don't chew big red then fuck you"
kick6 6y ago
It’s form a movie with actor Will Farrell
aShiftyLad 6y ago
go watch Talledega Nights: Legend of ricky Bobby. youll understand. its just a phrase.
Hammer_Tit 6y ago
Shake and bake is actually a breading you put on raw meat. Throw the meat in the bag with the breading, shake it, then bake it.
Also from a movie!
Toxik6 6y ago
Please tell us about the phone call
imtheoneimmortal 6y ago
just resume could be interesting
ishyman 6y ago
I got slapped in the face ( assault ) cause this petite El Salvador girl thought I was leading her on lol
FromTheCaveIntoLight 6y ago
One of the best posts I’ve seen in a while. This is ow it’s done!
SirKolbath 6y ago
Wait, you're fucking Vicky, too?
Martysteiner 6y ago
Hold on, you are fucking Vicky too?
Wolvesontheloose 6y ago
I married her last night!
iknowthewhey 6y ago
Damn, hahaha it's like every girl has the exact same script. She probably rehearsed this w her friends before sending it to you. You handled it well, didn't enter her frame and stayed in yours. Although eventually she is going to push harder for monogamy and you are going to have to let her go. This response only works for so long for girls with any amount of self-respect. She wants monogamy and she's gonna get it from someone that isn't you eventually.
dulkemaru51 6y ago
It's not self-respect but simply her innate need for comfort.
rebuildingMyself 6y ago
This is why I never let a woman get away with talking about important shit via text. I always assume she lawyered up with two of her best friends and they are right next to her crafting replies for her like a president talking to another president. No, sweetheart, woman up and say it to my face.
kick6 6y ago
I like referring to this as “lawyering up”
getinthevan315 6y ago
I also like “woman up”
zboo1h 6y ago
It's not like that, it literally is that. Bitches have no creativity. They all send the same "Hey there :)" first message. No fucking personality. No fucking humanity. No fucking creativity. Just holes and problems.
I'll take the holes, you can keep the problems.
Keep doing what you're doing OP.
iknowthewhey 6y ago
Anger phase I see. Some girls are actually pleasant to be around at times and will treat you like a king.
zboo1h 6y ago
If you're not angry you're not paying attention my dude.
pridebrah 6y ago
Been there. Some of me is probably still there to a degree, but it ain't that bad. Guys are pretty similar too. That's just humans in a nutshell. Try not to be mad at the system, just adapt accordingly to win and try to laugh about all of it more. We're all dead in the end anyway, might as well laugh about it all.
CainPrice 6y ago
I swear, I've had this same fucking conversation, just in slightly different words.
"You've been leading me on and manipulating me!"
"We had a mutual understanding that this was casual."
"But you're so nice to me and we talk. I mean really talk about things. And the way we cuddle. Don't pretend that this doesn't mean something!"
"You're supposed to like the people you have sex with. Doesn't mean we're getting married."
"lolhaha i don't want to get married! I just want to be exclusive!"
"Message heard. I'll stop talking and cuddling."
mrrooftops 6y ago
It's their vocalized internal narrative projecting onto another. She's basically talking to herself.
TerminallyChill94 6y ago
???? stealing "don't let the door hit you on the way back in". Dudes wild
mismm 6y ago
Her awareness of the situation and nonetheless her inability to exit the situation is quite amusing. She is completely right but yet the tingles and the hamster just won't let her let go.
asCii88 6y ago
I wonder what phone talk is she talking about and what did you say there?
Caper67 6y ago
The phone conversation was the day before her ultimatum, it happened on Saturday.
I was out Friday at a local pub for wing night with a girl who I grew up with who was home for a weekend visit that I didn't see in 6 months ( actually platonic ) and one of her friends were out and saw us together and ran back to tell her that I was with someone else. She called me on Saturday and brought it up. Instead of saying she was just a friend and explaining myself I just calmly reminded her that I was single and that from day 1 Ive been honest with her and never strung her along. Which I didn't. She was 100% aware of our dynamic and she was as fine with it on day one as I was. The whole speel she talks about in regards to emotional manipulation and someday maybe being able to give her love is dillusion on her part and nothing I've ever in anyway said or proclaimed.
Then the next morning I recieved that text.
IncognitoMaster91 6y ago
Mmmmm....shake & bake (priceless)
asCii88 6y ago
OP delivered. Have my thumbs up.
ethical_pa 6y ago
OP delivered: he'll give her a thumb alright
clausternn 6y ago
What do you mean you have been honest with her and never strung her along?
Like, what are some examples of what you said or how you've otherwise accomplished that?
Caper67 6y ago
After the 3rd time we slept together she asked about what we were / a title and I explained to her that I enjoy the time we spend together but I'm not looking for anything exclusive or long term. She told me she was on the same page because she got out of a LTR 6 months prior and was also not looking to jump back in.
clausternn 6y ago
Good stuff man, keep it up
ethical_pa 6y ago
Ya, that's a big piece missing... This is obviously not the full picture.
kankouillotte 6y ago
this shit is all useless humblebrag until we know what happened on the phone, and if op called, or answered the call
BurningOrangeHeaven 6y ago
Yeah thats the actual turning point of the conversation.
asCii88 6y ago
So what did you say?
BurningOrangeHeaven 6y ago
Im not the OP o.o......
asCii88 6y ago
Haha. Oops.
blysol 6y ago
It's actually quite clear what was said in that discussion
t_jones730 6y ago
Yeah, you can figure it out from context. Essentially, he put his foot down and told her he’s been transparent about what he wants and her emotional roller coaster isn’t going to change that.
He maintained his current status, where he wears the pants.
asCii88 6y ago
Alright. But that doesn't say who called, for how long was he explaining, how much he went into her frame. So I wonder, did he have the same tone and attitude as that of his two written responses or was he much more apologetic?
1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v 6y ago
He would not have apologized. He would have only made it clear that he was always honest and upfront with her about the relationship.
In fact, he probably convinced her to apologize, since it was her who was trying to change things.
wheresMYsteakAt 6y ago
I loved the shake and bake response
twdziki 6y ago
If someone needs to tell others "I'm a good person", they probably aren't.
Aesthetic_God__ 6y ago
Good job John. Keep it that way.
IrishGoodbye4 6y ago
“I’m not getting what I want, which is a thing we’ve never agreed upon that I would get. So, therefore, my friends convinced me that you’re manipulating poor lil me.”
Yeah you handled it great, obviously. Look at what happened after you handled the shit test. Good shit OP. She wants you waaay more now.
imtheoneimmortal 6y ago
so after 10km of text just say some random generator catch phrase
IrishGoodbye4 6y ago
Lolol. He was cryptic. Bitches love cryptic.
imtheoneimmortal 6y ago
so if i answer: 01100100 01101001 01100011 01101011
a girl she will love it
wobbleelbbow 6y ago
Since it is a humble brag/circlejerk which became quite often on this sub, I'll bite - why don't you guys bragging here about your multiple plates and posting such "field reports" post their pictures once in a while?
I mean, you can black out their eyes or entire faces, but just show us their bodies.
pridebrah 6y ago
I like this idea.
JaspersChest 6y ago
Shake and bake....Well done!!!! 10/10 points for this sick ass mofo
bluechipmonk 6y ago
what does shake n bake mean tho?
Toxik6 6y ago
It’s a funny line from a movie. In the movie he says it as if it’s a “so there” or catch phrase
benmarvin 6y ago
It's a brand of bread crumbs made by Kraft since the 60s. As a catch phrase it was popularized by the move Talladega Nights.
thomas_ja 6y ago
Its also a hella easy method to make low quality meth
fullyincorruptible 6y ago
Shake and Bake
capecodchips 6y ago
Wondering the same thing
vitamann 6y ago
That's the whole idea, just spit out something that will send her spinning. I like to say "right foot in, right foot out" or "low tide, high tide", whatever she replies with, you don't reply.
buddboy 6y ago
so is she, that's the point!
?
2comment 6y ago
Sounds about 100 degrees below spit n roast.
chazthundergut 6y ago
Beautiful, champ!
omega_dawg93 6y ago
lmmfao. OP said, "mmmm... shake & bake!!" oh shit. lol.
abundance mentality.
not giving a fuck.
staying cool, calm, & collected.
about OP... he read the sidebar.
6ThornmailRammus 6y ago
Love how she instantly goes to "immature fucking retard"
allcity28 6y ago
You sir are a legend!
Werewolf35b 6y ago
I don't know what shake and bake means but somehow it was still funny lol.
She's just being drama.
There's a whole soap opera being played out in her little female bird brain.
Dudes like ....so what. Lol.
Well done
never_as_big_as_pump 6y ago
Holy shit. I thought you’re retard for replying like that and that you completely lost her.
How’s that possible? What goes through their mind? And why did she change her mind?
Still swallowing the pill, so I dont quite get all the things just yet.
Good fucking shit OP, ending left me drop a jaw.
DeusVictor 6y ago
They called and talked on the phone so he must have said something that kept her in his frame since she probably already gave up on him but he kept her by working frame on her.
systemshock869 6y ago
Why would he be a retard for being blunt? She is trying to reneg the deal. Even if she doesn't come back he held his boundary and won't be backing down on it. Sounds like a win either way. If your only goal is getting access to pussy and keeping it around at all costs you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of being a doormat.
She changed her mind because she was just a child threatening to run away from home if she didn't get to eat cookies for dinner. I did the same thing when I was 8. If she actually meant what she said and wasn't a slave to her urges then she would have followed through. End of story.
never_as_big_as_pump 6y ago
Thanks for explanation! I get it now.
jebemtvoju 6y ago
it doesn't matter what you say as long as it shows a lack of interest, i.e. it shows that you don't need to explain yourself to her because you've got options. She's going to overthink and make wildly far fetched explanations as to what you meant regardless of what you say and going to get it wrong anyway. In the end the overthinking is an investment on her part and that will most of the time make her more attached. Saying nonsensical shit to her serious three paragraph essay will just sent her hamster into overdrive and she'll spend all night thinking about what the fuck you meant. So she games herself for you and you didn't even have to think enough to make a marginally appropriate reply.
markinsinz7 6y ago
Very helpful explanation thanks, gotta say tho with all the options a girl has these days via tinder insta and what not. I just don't get how they are in this position itself. Like literally a line of chads are her wanting. Granted all they want is to fuck her but still she has the attention of many men. And the guy she is thinking about is just like the rest of Chads. I personally believe they have multiple fuck buddies and do this with each of em till they get this best SMV fuckbuddy into a relationship
never_as_big_as_pump 6y ago
Thank you.
+nice name ????
Cmdrj-nice 6y ago
Good lad you sir are a legend. Remember boys we hold the keys to commitment, dont let any hoe strong arm you into giving her commitment
trpSenator 6y ago
Ouch... Well you're at a huge crossroad. I don't know ANYTHING about you, so I'll just go off my personal outlook and how I'd handle it -- personally.
I'd either decide if I'm that into her and consider slowing down, or cut her loose. She's at the point where she CLEARLY wants you, thinks about you, loves you, day dreams about you... For all intents and purposes she's ripe and ready and she wants you.
If you keep leading her on, it's just kind of mean. I mean, if I were in my 20s I'd do it because, fuck it, free sex, but you already are running 2 other chicks... Three is quite a lifestyle crowd so you can afford to cut one lose for her own good.
Realistically, what's going to happen is she's going to want you more and more, until she just drops off anyways. Women eventually want commitment because their clock is ticking and they don't have time to wait around when it's buzzing. So it's really up to you.
I'm not going to judge you, because it's whatever you want. But these sort of situations deal with much larger and nuanced life points. Like, if you're just trying to have fun and not really care about anyone... Taking it at your pace and doing as you please... Definitely do you. But then later you start thinking about bigger picture things through meditation, and how you are as a man in the world, and how you either create value or destroy it with your precense. Like I said, in my 20s I'd definitely be okay with destroying a little value in the world for some hedonistic pleasures, but personally I'm past that stage now where pussy is just pussy, and women are abundant so I have no need to drag them along. All it would be doing is causing a hamster a little frustration.
DadOnDabs 6y ago
Lmao
oytrp 6y ago
A+
This is what abundance looks like.
04712244664 6y ago
Yeah boi! You earned my upvote
Now feel fucking proud mouthfucker
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nahlolol 6y ago
Why would he cut her loose? He enjoys spending his time with her. If she goes bat shit crazy, sure but ultimately wall texts of "where is this going" "what are we" "I want more" "it's all or nothing" happen. He handled it correctly.
It's her job to prove she is wife material and it doesn't happen by giving someone an ultimatum.
False hope? Projecting... Fair? She knows exactly what he is willing to provide and she excepted this.
WoodWizzy87 6y ago
If she had wanted to control some of the power dynamic, she shouldn’t have banged him so easily without commitment. Any girl worth a grain of salt with good values knows to not give up the goods so easily
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Metalgear222 6y ago
You clearly don't understand what happened here. She pushed for what she wanted and was denied. Nothing changes for OP here BECAUSE he held frame. He gets sex on tap as a good plate should be for. You don't break plates cause they try for commitment. That's what they're supposed to do. Plates pushing for commitment means you're on top of your game. Keep killing it OP
nahlolol 6y ago
She is not misinterpreting anything
0kool74 6y ago
She knows the deal. You're not looking for anything more than sex. if she sin't down with that any longer, then she can go find her a beta bux while screwing a Chad on the side.
WoodWizzy87 6y ago
She’s gotten to the point where she knows she getting used for sex and wants you to be her BF. But she agreed to casual dating and casual sex without commitment and now she’s trying to reneg on the deal.
What a time to be alive for any guy that can hold frame and be upfront
BuckNekkid18 6y ago
Laughed hard af when I read "Mmm shake n bake".
nicholson- 6y ago
As long as you have been honest from the start and made your intentions to never want to be involved in anything more than having sex, you are completely in the right. However, its not really fun or appreciated to play with peoples emotions if you are lieing to her suggesting you will LTR her. However, you haven't said you have done that, so I can't blame you for anything you have shown. I don't know how people can be such emotionally dulled down robots, but hey, that's me I guess. I personally would just end it with this girl out of feeling sorry for her. Maybe I have yet to swallow the pill in that case, what is the end game here? To play with emotions and manipulate people? If that is what TRP is, i'm not game.
My point is this girl clearly is not going to shift on her "feelings"... so why keep a dog alive when it clearly needs to be put down? Put her out of her misery and move on to another plate would be my thing personally. You gain nothing from keeping this girl in your selection at this point. Its gone too far. For your own benefit if anything.
blysol 6y ago
You know of a single chick without 3+ beta orbiters constantly strung along?
danp64 6y ago
He’s not playing with her whatsoever, I would assume OP made his intentions clear from the beginning. TRP isn’t about manipulation it’s about self improvement and positive masculinity.
Thunderfin 6y ago
I personally don't think his texts show "positive masculinity", but to each their own. More what a fifteen year old guy would say then a 20 or 30 year old RP man.
nicholson- 6y ago
You said it best
Saberinbed 6y ago
Fuck outa here you know how hard girls play with guys?
pridebrah 6y ago
And we're above that.
nicholson- 6y ago
Yes I agree but not to someone who doesn't deserve it if so, my morals are too high for my own self, i'm not a nihilist like some guys here, i have my own moral system to do with my own conscience, no one else. But it seems that OP made his intentions clear so there is no issue.
DeusVictor 6y ago
Someone’s in the anger phase get over it buddy girls play hard and? That’s the way they are they can’t change so why whine about it and act bitter if we can just improve ourselves and win at their own game.
Saberinbed 6y ago
I’m not angry. I just don’t care about a girls feelings because they will do the same shit tenfolds back to you in a heartbeat. This dude was trying to whiteknight.
nicholson- 6y ago
"Whiteknight" - So that term is used even when its not appropriate now then? News to me. I am not shaming OP's responses, they are the best response towards someone who has already been told countless times that exclusivity is off the cards. I'm only against manipulation and emotional game playing. Whether it be a man or a woman. Girls have nothing to do with my response.
jebemtvoju 6y ago
as opposed to what, gaming women rationally?
nicholson- 6y ago
emotional game playing is not the issue, we need to play our emotions to excite ourselves, have desires, needs and what not. That was not my point, my point is to know when to put a dog down and be merciful when its run its cause. What would i physically gain from keeping a girl who has foolishly let herself become involved in myself by her own silly merit? I gain nothing from it, situations like this and spinning plates run their course, thats why they are plates and not LTRS.
jebemtvoju 6y ago
if regular sex isn't something you consider to be a gain then you're not only in the wrong sub but also in violation of rule zero
nicholson- 6y ago
What meaningful gain would I get out of fucking someone i know for a fact i am stringing along emotionally to the point where there feelings on an LTR won't change. I don't know about you, but i'm not a psycho. And you completely twisted what i said to suit your own agenda and beliefs.
jebemtvoju 6y ago
the fucking
[deleted] 6y ago
Can you share her nudes ?
Adadya 6y ago
For masturtific purposes.
[deleted] 6y ago
I definitely would fap to it under certain conditions
jebemtvoju 6y ago
there's a ton of porn of the internet. Are you here because you need a ego reaffirming masturbatory backstory to your porn?
[deleted] 6y ago
Yes actually- porn is boring without a backstory to it
jebemtvoju 6y ago
you're treating what I've said like a shit test but you should maybe consider how desparate it sounds to beg for some random slut's who's being banged by some other dude nudes
TheRiseAndFall 6y ago
This fucking guy. Thanks for the lols.
[deleted] 6y ago
I guarantee it’a nothing but a testament that someone is willing to give her attention, and since women seek attention, this is a compliment and she should feel flattered
jebemtvoju 6y ago
I was talking about you though I didn't mention her feelings once
[deleted] 6y ago
That doesn’t bother me in the slightest and as long I get my nut im good
jebemtvoju 6y ago
okay keep jerking off to other people's success then
[deleted] 6y ago
I never said I didn’t have success- I just said I like background stories and porn lol
sixseven89 6y ago
Mmm shake n bake
TheTrenTrannyTrain 6y ago
As TRP as it gets. Good job.
boy_named_su 6y ago
Do you want to be exclusive with her?
Does she know your deal-breakers for exclusivity?
Morphs_ 6y ago
How often do you see her? Seems like you've been spending a tad too much time with her in the past so she caught feelings.
El_Serpiente_Roja 6y ago
Lmao that last one
Scuzzin 6y ago
Savage
Thunderfin 6y ago
From one guy to another: you're a douche. Could've just replied to her long rant with an "Okay" or anything to that effect to get your point across, but by texting what you did, I can tell you're a immature guy who thinks he's the shit. Tormenting women with your bro-talk is neither cool nor alpha. Posting this on askTRP to seek external validation is neither cool nor alpha. Holding your own frame in a mature way and not having to gloat about it is.
Have fun with your "plates".
MisterDSTP 6y ago
Damn! Found vicky!
RossDDMarshalls 6y ago
Dude, you're mental if you think "Okay" is anywhere near the same level as "Mmmmm Shake n bake". This guy is the shit. I wouldn't be surprised if you're just miffed about not thinking of using the phrase yourself. Shake n bake bruh.
Thunderfin 6y ago
It's not at the same level, but I personally found the "shake n bake" comment unnecessary, part of an obnoxious attitude. "Okay" or something similar would've accomplished the same thing. I see where you're coming from, though. We'll agree to disagree.
RossDDMarshalls 6y ago
In all seriousness though, a slightly obnoxious response is better than a simple "okay". Both responses are similar, but the bizarreness of "mmmmm shake n bake" probably put a confused smile on the girl's face. At the very least it threw her off, as that's not a typical response. Being goofy and unpredictable is a lot more endearing than being blunt.
In this situation, what you would call mature I would call boring.
sadddboi 6y ago
Thanks for saying this. As a girl who randomly found this sub... you're a dick dude. If you're not down for her just say ok and go on with your life? You seem unbelievably entitled.
clausternn 6y ago
Whelp, you're in for a wild ride.
Caper67 6y ago
If you read the texts and post you'd know I was never "down for her" since day 1. She knew it, agreed and claimed to be on the same page.
Men aren't vending machines that you put sex tokins into until a relationship falls out.
sadddboi 6y ago
Not saying men are vending machines... but that girl is only human and it’s possible that over the course of fucking since May that she developed feelings for you. Doesn’t mean you’re obligated to date her but your response was immature.
nahlolol 6y ago
She falsely accused him of manipulating her emotionally. But that's totally 100% OK and his immature response to her childishness is wrong? It was the correct response to someone trying to manipulate him into believing he was playing with her.
Her last text to him was that he was honest with her from the start and it wasn't right to change the dynamic of the relationship by an ultimatum.
She failed to get what she wanted by trying to manipulate reality and it back fired.
Thunderfin 6y ago
Yeah. It's unfortunate that this was how you were introduced to the sub, since this is not at all what TRP is about.
clausternn 6y ago
Are you kidding? This stuff is at the very heart of TRP.